posted Thu, 09/12/2013 - 07:35
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Ok so everybody tells me i'm too picky blah, blah, blah. I obviously do not see it that way I see it as i'm looking for specific things and i'm usually willing to give most men that i'm attracted to a chance...having said that I met a guy on POF yest (keep in mind the yest part as you read on) he gave me his # I text him last night at 9, he CALLS me back at 7:30 this morning...I don't answer because i'm still sleeping...he texts me a half hour later...I text back and tell him i'm getting ready for work and that i'll text him later...he then proceeds to call me again at 10 AM, which I work in an office (as per my pic) with 10 other ppl in the same office, so I can't talk, btw I already told him I can't talk at work, so he says he understands...then he proceeds to call me again at 11 AM, this time I accidently answer the phone bec I was in the middle of texting HIM back, at which time I begin to get really weirded out...
ugh so is it me? or is he fucking nuts!!! am I just tooo picky? or is this behavior too aggressive?
he also works for the DEA, and we all know how I just looooove the government and their 3 letter agencies.
Advice please
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Dont touch him with your best friends hand!
What he is already showing is a serious case of issues! Namely obsessiveness and possesiveness. More than likely he will have some other issues namely INSECURITY!
Wide berth and ship ahoy!
Next please......is the approach Id take!
Stage 5 Clinger! I'd expect from the sounds of being possessive he will be your own personal shadow. OR if you give him that one chance and it doesn't work out he will be that lost puppy that follows your everywhere. Look at it this way all the work you've done to yourself and any #@*% you've been through does it equal that? When in doubt it means it won't work out.
Hmmm i like that " when in doubt it wont work out"
"he also works for the DEA"
Think its settled doll!
New pof boy or eroids!
You decide!
Gator
lol ill go with Eroids ;0)
Anon"Dont buy a Ford because my friend bought a ford and they are crappy". this sentence was actually part of a powerpoint, in my psychology class! This is actually a defective way of thinking and if you want the scientific explanation of this you will have to send me some money because It will take a while to find it.
I don't know why everyone seems to have a black or white, wrong or right perspective but its an inaccurate way of thinking.
"I see life-not as "black-white" or "all-or-nothing", but as a complex sliding-scale of varying shades & subtleties."
While dating sites are frequented by all species, to say that its all bad or all good is nonsense. It just is what it is. What would Socrates say about this?
He among you is the wisest who, like Socrates, knows that his wisdom is really worth nothing at all. That the wisest of you men is he who like Socrates has learned that with respect to wisdom, he is truly worthless.
"The shoe-maker knows how to make shoes, but it does not follow from that that he also knows how to mend kettles and pots; that is what a tinker knows how to do. Just as a ploughman knows how to make the earth fruitful, a huntsman how to call a fox, a statesman how to govern men and an admiral how to wage war at sea, the doctor how to set broken bones, the scientist how to discover medicines and invent theories or bombs, and the businessman how to make money. All these tradesmen or professionals are prey to the foolishness of the artisans Socrates questioned -- i.e. of presuming that, because they know one thing, they also know other things that they do not know. That is "The Fallacy of the Artisans", and why philosophy seeks and requires humility (or, self-knowledge)."
You wanna offer a simple opinion on the matter like is done below. Not everyone is as they appear, you are correct and we can all stand to learn more. With that in mind, are you familiar with the fable of the scorpion and the frog?
AnonTrue... but for her sake I hope she finds a good guy. there has to be at least one good guy on pof doesn't there?
Yes there could be, but the people I know who've used it aren't in that category. I know that only says something about the people I know. Realistically it could be possible, but with the sites that are mostly known for NSA encounters the odds are fairly low. Match and Eharmony would be more likely than POF, adultfriendfinder, kellymadison, craigslist, etc. I'm looking out for her also with the site switch idea. Match and Eharmony require everyone to take a survey/quiz/test to match personalities. The others I listed are just age, body type, and some pictures, mostly.
AnonI know a lot of people who can manipulate a survey.
Charles cooley (Looking glass self) states that
I am
What I think
You think I am.
People can have skewed views of themselves. someone can be walking around the office bathing in the idea that everyone sees him as someone important, when just the opposite is true. In fact they are laughing at this person for being a dumbass.
I know you mean well, I really do and dont take this personally because it happens every day. Many people confuse experiences, beliefs, etc. with facts. There are also those who had had a small amount of education on a topic and quickly think they are an expert. I have studied under three different psychologist and one was a practicing clinical psychologist. It always amazed me that when I asked certain questions I was told about how little they really know. I have also learned how little I know, as a matter of fact I dont know anything. I'm always thankful when I encounter someone who is willing to explain the facts to me and for this I am grateful. Thank You very much Sir for enlightening me in this matter.
Give them a vote if you find it helpful.PermalinkI agree it wouldn't be hard to manipulate a survey. The old adage of "I know nothing," bugs the hell out of me. I understand the saying entirely. Its not difficult to make out what is trying to be said. What bugs me is how everyone uses the phrase. I've heard it so many damn times, it seems like people just say it to come off as profound. I'm sure you weren't doing that, but I'd bet you've had a similar thought.
My director last week tried bullying me in front of 2 men that were doing work in my office; the one man said he wanted to punch my director in the face and both men agreed my director was an asshole, but he thought he was making himself look cool, and tough and important, and superior to me in front of the other men.
All we need is a name and address
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oh god you have no idea how I wld love to have you beat the fuck outta him!!
He may just come up missing....
Lol
lol mwah ;)
Aw thanks for lookin out for me ;0>
btw i deleted my profile on pof im gonna just trust if im meant to meet someone i will the old fashioned way!
AnonThe old fashioned way ?? Does that mean have your father sell you for some cattle and an acre of farm land ?? LOLOL or did you not mean that old fashioned ;)
AnonYou just reminded me of something. My brother believes it is the brides father who should foot the bill for the wedding, caterers, everything. My niece had a wedding bigger than late middleton's (metaphorically speaking) and it cost him out the ass I took my gf to the wedding and she said it was the biggest wedding she had ever been to.
My dad is dead now so he can't sell me anymore but he sure tried lol jk
im not so do tell
The Scorpion and the Frog
A scorpion and a frog meet on the bank of a stream and the
scorpion asks the frog to carry him across on its back. The
frog asks, "How do I know you won't sting me?" The scorpion
says, "Because if I do, I will die too."
The frog is satisfied, and they set out, but in midstream,
the scorpion stings the frog. The frog feels the onset of
paralysis and starts to sink, knowing they both will drown,
but has just enough time to gasp "Why?"
Replies the scorpion: "Its my nature..."
This is why i prefer not to date scorpios!!
ya know (long pause) i really should have dated Socrates...but since im so fuckin picky i passed because he didnt work out and wore a freakin dress! and look where that got me now!! i could have been Mrs. fuckin Alayna Socrates and famous but no i want a man with muscles! smh
AnonDont you think there has to be at least one good person on a dating site every now and then? They cant all be bad can they?
www.sugardaddyforme.com/
omg that is so wrong in every way lmao!
AnonI know a woman who was hot as hell and met someone from there, he relocated her and everything. She's happy. He took her daughters, grandchildren all of them.
hmmm im not lookin for a daddy thats creepy...id rather be single then sell my soul for money
AnonYou wouldn't discriminate against a guy who had money though would you? I met a woman who wanted to be my sugar momma, she wasn't bad looking and lived in a gated community but she was going to lie about what i did in my occupation. It weird-ed me out and I stopped having anything to do with her, not because she had money but because she talked to me very stern and I didn't like that. A lot of it was an act anyway, I think she had a lot of credit instead of money. Usually people with money dont want you to know they have it
I dont discriminate against anyone for any reason to be honest...i take ppl at face value and let their actions define them....i have however met hundreds of guys with money it never impressed me....however i have been in love a time or two with men who were well to do but one had a drinking,problem and the other a coke problem both were traders on wall street.
P.s. i cant imagine you being with a women who is stern anyway...that would be like driving a beetle
If he is blowing your phone up non stop that early on its a sign of insecurity and signs of being possessive.
Judging by your pics I figure you can have about any guy you want so I would relax. Being patient is tough but its worth the wait.
Aww thank you
Its hard to say really. People have many reasons for turning to those sites, I have my own. I have noticed whats pretty common is a lack of people skills. He might not be crazy, he could just be bad with social interaction. And the reality here is, have you seen your pictures? I'd be trying pretty hard to get there too! My real issue, might sound paranoid, is the DEA part. What email do you use for what online accounts? What computer are you using for what accounts? Are you changing your IP? Are the pictures on POF comparable enough to track you to this site? Overall, go with your gut I guess. You can't blame him for wanting a piece
so r u suggesting I should give him a chance?
AnonQuite frankly Im a little shocked this is still being discussed. The fact that you are still talking about this guy might be an inbdicator you were more interested in him than you initially thought. Perhaps you should just go on a date.
well ppl bring it up i'm not gonna be rude and if you read my post he called me last week and I asked for advice as to how to handle that...so NO I am not more interested than I ever thought...if I were I wld have just answered his call and I wouldn't need anyone's advice lol
If the DEA part isn't an issue, as you seem to like it, then yes. I know I'd be chasing you at a full sprint. I suppose I should also ask what your "intent" is listed as.
No I didn't like that he worked for the DEA and I know that wld have been an issue bec i'm very anti government and certain branches of it I hate more ...but I was willing to just see what he was like...I know everyone that works in government isn't bad....
What is your "intent" listed as on POF? That could make a difference in his actions.
to have a relationship...god I wld never say I wanted to get married lol maybe he thought I was his wife already that's why he called me precious ;-\
That sounds creepy. I've only really heard that said by older men to their niece/daughter. What's his age bracket? He's an authority figure. He could have a dom side.
http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=&imgrefurl=http%3A%2F%2Fpinside.com%...
LMFAO!! that's exactly what I imagined in that creepy voice
Lose him then. He's trying too hard. I thought you were going for no attachments. If you were looking for a simple NSA, I get trying to get in touch quickly, again your pics. If its a potential relationship then he should have some patience.
if I wanted NSA I have a line waiting for that lol believe me I would not subject myself to POF...for the record I hid my profile...the next guy I met was a cop from a nearby town...who when I asked my cousin if he knew him he text me yup he's married! I was like wtf? done! idk how ppl love dating sites I just don't...
My wife is cool with things though. So I don't need the girly attack that is probably brewing in your head right now. Thank you.
I'm sure. I wasn't looking for you lol, but good call. We love dating sites for NSA...I'm married. POF, adultfriendfinder, kellymadison, craigslist, aren't really the best idea for actual dating. Eharmony or match might be what you need. Shit the founder of Match's girlfriend(at the time) met her husband there.
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Nah I don't judge ppl....ppl have their own lives and their own way of making things work and keeping it together...but I didn't know that pof had that reputation...maybe that's why the guys are always fucking asking for more pics and more pics I guess they're really asking for the naked ones! well possibly i'll try match idk right now i'm a little dating site pooped out lol
Those are more reputable for actual dating. I got turned on to POF by a couple guys who try to fuck everything they can. Naturally, I signed up. lol, of course that's why they want pics. "Hey man, what do you think of this bitch?" That's what we do with the pictures you send us on those sites. Don't lose hope, just lose that site. I know what I look for. Its also easy to say I want a relationship, hit it, and all of a sudden I'm confused and things are complicated/moving/feeling fast/strange. I met mine randomly at a store. Got hit with a bolt of lightning and time stood still. Maybe something similar will happen to you.
yah that's kinda what i'm thinkin...I figure he'll be working out on the bench next to me or something lol
but seriously thanks for the honesty and heads up about that site I appreciate it very much