posted Thu, 09/12/2013 - 07:35
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Ok so everybody tells me i'm too picky blah, blah, blah. I obviously do not see it that way I see it as i'm looking for specific things and i'm usually willing to give most men that i'm attracted to a chance...having said that I met a guy on POF yest (keep in mind the yest part as you read on) he gave me his # I text him last night at 9, he CALLS me back at 7:30 this morning...I don't answer because i'm still sleeping...he texts me a half hour later...I text back and tell him i'm getting ready for work and that i'll text him later...he then proceeds to call me again at 10 AM, which I work in an office (as per my pic) with 10 other ppl in the same office, so I can't talk, btw I already told him I can't talk at work, so he says he understands...then he proceeds to call me again at 11 AM, this time I accidently answer the phone bec I was in the middle of texting HIM back, at which time I begin to get really weirded out...
ugh so is it me? or is he fucking nuts!!! am I just tooo picky? or is this behavior too aggressive?
he also works for the DEA, and we all know how I just looooove the government and their 3 letter agencies.
Advice please
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AnonI met a woman at a "bar & grill" and she bought me something to eat for some reason. We talked, exchanged numbers and she called me about 30 minutes after I left wanting to have sex, so i went to her house and we had sex. we were together for about 7 years.
Every situation is different and only you know how you feel.
but did she call you "Precious"
Sounds like he's stuck in the 70's, a 70's porn movie that is...
Have you seen a picture of him? Is he wearing an unbuttoned, wide collared, polyester shirt with gold chains... wait, I just described myself...
Disregard.
lmfao!! god if he were dressed like that and i emailed him then i deserve to be. called precious over and over again lol
wait what? he called you precious? thats husband material.
EX husband material!!
AnonNo... I was trying to tear her sheets up and she said... "Lets just fuck all night long!" Well, i fell asleep and that didn't happen.
I always repeated that back to her for 7 years and she just give me a smirk. Too bad she went 'cuckoo for cocoa puffs'
lol omg thats funny
juice12345678Do him a solid and have sex with him....he's probably just stressed out
damn i wish i would have thought of that first :-0
I'm with grrrrl he has no sense of boundaries.. Shit like that becomes annoying really fast so I say run and run fast.. before this guy ends up at your front door (If he's DEA that is quite possible to already have your addy if he wants it).. You're not being picky in this case however I don't know your history to call you picky or not over all =p
Also he sounds very desperate and wtf is he doing at these hours? Does he really even work LOL!! Shit he sounds like a 15 year old calling you every other hour.. poor guy.. Wait I just read he called you precious the first day.. nope I was gonna be nice but you know what fuck that this is way to creepy and he should know better... Continue running this will be good cardio for you imo..
omg i laughed my ass off!!! yah i guess i could sprint
If you can still hear "precious!" you clearly aren't running fast enough.. gotta keep the heart rate up ya know.
on a side note using the word precious.. there's just something incredibly gay about that word.. even if it's used towards a woman it's just.. gay
If you guys ever get coffee or something.. while he's inevitably attempting to roofy your drink.. take that opportunity to spike his with aromasin... wait no letro... fuckit use both
I just want to add.. I have a few really amazing friends who'd I'd say are a little awkward around women especially ones they like.. So I understand some guys have a difficult time interacting with women and I try to coach them about these sorta things and I guess I'd say I'm always kinda rooting for the underdog in these situations.. But if I found out they were calling a woman like this I'd slap the shit out of them.. Imo it has red flags all over it.. there is a sliiiiight chance he's just very excited but typically men can control or hide their excitement so we don't look like complete idiots
Run! And maybe change your number. What is POF?
Plenty of Fish .. free online dating site..
Okay, now i know what POF is, thanks.
Okay, now i know what POF is, thanks.
valhallas bestaggression with no tenderness, what a faggot, fuck that guy... He definitely doesn't deserve a lady like you aha =p lol and what you doing on pof my boys str8 slaying girls on that sight, u need that christianmingle.co haha or sugardaddy.co lmfao jkin
Lmfao.
omg christianmingle lol all the men wld be going to hell after meeting me for their dirty thoughts alone!!
I have heard that men just use that site to hook up...i'm usually good at discerning those guys and cut them loose immediately...their dead give away is 2 minutes after meeting them their askin for me to text them pics....
A friend of mine found his second wife on eharmony - they've been together for 5 years now...
I guess this could be a case of "you get what you pay for"
a few of my friends did eharmony and they didnt like it....you can basically meet assholes every where lol so i'd rather meet one for free haha
valhallas bestis that what gives it away.... damn... maybe the others are just more patient, never heard of someone meeting true love on a internet dating site thoug, my cousin met a guy on christianmingle and they got married, and the guy was the biggest d-bag, like king of the fkin d-bags, destroyed her life... morale of the story internet dating sites are just for fun... lol finding love is rough out there these days...
LOSER get rid of him he has no understanding of boundaries and or what is considerate.. he's probably their mail room boy
LOL well I haven't text him back at all...so maybe if I just don't text or call he'll get the message
BigBmajBut just take a look at what you do to men. You posted a question an hour ago and people are tripping over each other to give you advice.
And when you post a picture .... Forget about it.
It's all your fault.
Well I don't think any are tripping over each other since they all live in different states lol nonetheless I'm always thankful and flattered believe me.
Sounds like a "Keeper' alright.
'KEEP HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE'.
Next thing you'll know he'll be spray painting Happy 1st Week Anniversary on the hood/back window of your car.
Nutballs like this deserve to be alone.
Stay Safe, Lady Alayna
Lmao
lmao I know I can see it all now...ugh
thank you
You're welcome ;)
Looks like he found his future wife ;)
oh god lol
He is being needy and pushy, he is being creepy, but...
Be honest with him, he undoubtedly is nervous, and doing everything wrong.
If he is different in the future and gives you your space, and you do connect, you'll have a great "how did we meet" story.
If not, be brutally honest and tell him why you are not interested.
If you are not honest, he'll continue to make the same mistake... save him and other girls the aggravation.
you are so nice Greg..
ok so if i'm gonna be honest how will I say it "dude you're fucking freaking me out" should I put an exclamation point after it or a smiley face??? help me out here lol
put both.
Tell him this online thing is nerve wracking enough without him being in "stalker mode" :-)
Then set a time/date where it would be alright to call you.
also he referred to me as "precious" wasn't that that creepy movie
LMFAO!!!!!!!
LOL sorry I just imagined golem from lord of the rings calling you his "precious"
Seriously I feel for you. Sounds like he is extremely lonely and thinks you look good. Not sure what I'd do if it were me with a girl but I'm nice and usually give everyone the time of day
well how do you think I felt when I woke up and saw that he called me at 7:30 AM and then text too and said "good morning precious" I was like huh?!?! I couldn't even see straight yet but that shit woke me right up!
Yea. That's a little early in the day to be starting up. And a little early on with talking for a goodmorning "place compliment here" text
well this is why I asked the men for their advice bec sometimes my friends are like Alayna you're too tough on guys but i'm not! I think women make too many excuses where men just call a spade a spade
look.. you are here.. which means you must have some balls.. call a spade a spade.. don't question yourself just do it girrrrrl
well I think after 25 men or so have told me to RUN i'm gonna go with that lol so I don't want him calling me again....actually I just looked at my texts and before the third phone call he text me and said "answer your phone" but he never gave me time to respond to the text so idk i can allow for being over zealous, but seriously i'm not like a damn super model lol i'm just normal!
OK ok ALL of you are on the same page....so I don't know if I will use the honest approach bec then he'll say i'm sorry i'll give you your space but then I won't believe that he'll be different in the future...so i'm gonna go with the suggestion of telling him I'm back with my ex...but how did I get back with my ex overnight??? can someone answer that....idk how someone gets to be 43 and acts like that ugh I didn't see it as controlling at first but I do now....so tks....btw he asked why I didn't like the government so I thought maybe if I told him the truth i'd scare the fuck outta him and then he'd delete me???
If you tell him youre back with your ex, he'll have no choice but to accept hat. If he doesnt, who cares. Life is too short to spend with the wrong 1.
ok so how do I tell him i'm back with my ex in less than 24 hours??? lol doesn't that sound lame?
"This may come as a surprise but im back with my ex, its also a surprise to me but we both had feelings for each other that we were trying to ignore. Im sorry but you and I wont work because Im a 1 man kind of women, but I do wish you the best."