posted Wed, 12/20/2017 - 22:22
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I erased this post and want to thank you guys for being here for me. I take responsibility for everything that happened. I was using and we dont treat people like there number 1 when were using. We almost broke up. Well we did break up like 5 times cause i couldnt wrap my head around it. I pushed her away enough to find attention elsewhere. Now im focused on myself and staying clean. The girl has always had my back through jail and alot. She can only take so much. We are back together. She gave me another chance to show her shes number 1. It may sound weird to some of you but i love her. I can only imagine how she fealt when herion came before her. I was the cheater.
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I have been there bro. Opiate my drug of choice. I am now over 10 years clean. If you wanna chat with someone that has walked in your shoes don't hesitate to message me.
good for you Strange... that's quite the accomplishment ... ;-)
basskiller89It only makes us stronger brother
A surreal kind of quote always stuck with me that I use to this day
"Enjoy the pain while it lasts"
You should check out the depression/anxiety group sometime Bro.... we deal with other issues as well.
Keep your head up, keep the faith & keep being the man you know to be... Best of Luck my friend!!! Hit me up anytime you need someone brother :-)
I wish you nothing but success bro. It is on you now to make it happen.
Thanks. You have seen alot of my ups and downs along my yrs here and always been thourough bro. Thanks.
Many people have beaten coke and meth addictions, but there are very few success stories when it comes to heroin. It is by far the toughest drug to permanently kick and you will have to dig deep to stay clean. Anyone who chooses to fuck with opioids has a tiger by the tail.
My personal advice::::: get rid of every single friend you have who currently fucks with that shit and surround yourself with different people---- even if it means moving away. Cut off all means of contact with anyone who could possibly supply you with it and throw your phone away...and go get a new one. Most people who fall into opioid abuse stop short of that and most all of them go back---sooner or later.
That sounds harsh, but those are FACTS.
Absolute truth right there! Its sad but true.. i heard from a well educated drug counselor that 90+% of people that mess with heavy opiates end up on for life( methadone, suboxone ect...) or just keep using till they die..less than 10% make it....thats a sobering fact. Ive been wrapped up with opiates for over 15 years and with the help.of a maintanance med i have been clean for almost 1 year now.... its a day by day struggle. But im at a good place now. Yesterday my wife had surgery and i haf to go pick up her pain pills at the pharmacy..I had ZERO desire to sneak a handful of em....years ago i might a took everyone and replaced em with generic tylenols or something else..i truly was ruthless in my addiction and im thankful i am no longer in that place...
Congratulations brother.... the info your heard is correct & the relapse usually occurs in the first year or two, but most that relapse do so within the 10 years. They feel they’ve accomplished something & let that guard down & end up hit. I will never return to hang with certain family & friends as long as they’re using no matter how long I’ve been clean.
Are you still taking the maintenance med & if so what plans do you have to kick it?
Keep your head up bro & Good luck ... it’s worth it!
Those are some steep odds to beat.....glad you made it out dude! Wish you all the best in staying clean
Thanks for the positive comment....my only vice now is training heavy and anabolic use....much bettrr trade off....
Yeah got that brother but training too hard leads to injury and then the devil is looking you in the face and down the same road. Be careful.
I had an surgery from an injury 10 months ago and was was “only” taking Vicodin. Thought nothing of it. Month later woke up to police pulling me out of the car cuz I died in my sleep from what was supposed to b heroin. Stayed clean for a month and woke up on a stretcher... happened again. 3000$ of narcan. I was supposed to start off making 70,000$ a year after finishing my physics degree with a free ride cuz I had a 4.6 gpa. Decided living out of a suitcase in Baltimore sounded better. Genius right. That’s the armit of the states if u didn’t know. I wish u guys luck and be daref avoiding injury cuz the repercussions go beyond loosing ur gains. It’s morbid but it’s gonna cost our loved ones a lot of money to buy us big SOBs a bigger coffin. Staying away from dope and coke is totally possible and is probable if u do the right things. It’s more than getting out of where u live it’s getting out of ur head cuz that follows u everywhere. It’s actually simple if u think of it this way. The only thing u have to change is everything. Sorry if I’m blunt but I know I have to hear this kinda shit for me to change and I’m hoping I can reach someone that needs it. That’s my .02
I hope you can get the help and support you need bro. Stay safe
I’m doing what I gotta do. I had a year before that and a few 6 months goes before that. Hope u all find something that works for u. Best of luck to u all
I've been clean from drugs for 17 years bro. It's possible. Just get your mind straight and the rest will follow. Good luck
I’ve never done it but I’ve had 3 friends die from it I grew up with in the past year
Yeah man ive had alot of friends die cause its phentynal now and not heroin. I live in a state where its a high rate of heroin addiction.
Time to move dude.... seriously, get as far away from anyone and everyone that uses! They will only try to drag you down with them. I wish you well man and I'm pulling for you!!
I have read all the posts here. Some good, caring advice. I have my own 2c worth, but it's not important - so what's happening now, bro?
Whats happening now is im clean. The girl and i fought and fought and now we are over it. Alot of things i posted i thought were true. The only thing i know to be true is i treated this girl bad and used alot. So i made a decision to treat her better and myself by staying clean and focusing on doing the right thing wich in turn lets me treat her better.
Good to hear mate. Yeah - when we aren't in a good place mentally - sometimes our thoughts are our own worst enemy. If you can see where you went wrong and she is prepared to stay with you, then there's two people dealing with your issues..that's a good thing. Start from now - past can't be unwritten - but the future is written by you....
Yeah she is. Shes standing by me again. We have alot of hope. I dont think either one of us will takes this lightly. I got to let it go and she has let it go and we gave each other a new beginging and its been great. Ive been really ☺ thanks
Hey brother just checking in on ya & letting ya know in your in my prayers!!
So i didnt go to jail. My po was pretty cool about the whole situation. I asked him for help and he pointed me in the right direction. Im looking at going to a recovery house.
Bro, I’m seriously thankful to hear that. You’re in my prayers homie!!
I feel what your going thru bro.....while i was serving 14 months for taking the charge for my "girl" i ended up meeting face to face one of the guys she was screwing. Some random dude gets moved in my cell and starts tellin stories from the outside how he was with this "chic", at this hotel blah blah blah. Not to mention i get to hear all the details of how they were gettin down too......if you havnt got my drift dude was smashing my girl a week before and the odds that he ends up as my cellmate?!! WtF!. And while im eating 2 second degree felonys for her ass?? Long story short that dude checked in to PC after i told him what the deal was......and that was only 4 months into my sentance.....made for the hardest time i had to do...but after i got out i was with her for a while but i couldnt forgive her and left her. My life has been better ever since......if you decide to use over some woman your only hurting yourself. Be good to yourself and the right one will come along when you least expect it...at least thats been my experience. Keep your head up man. Being inside is no way to live...
Dam thats some crazy shit. Wtf. The truth always seems to come to the surface one way or another. Im glad your doing better brother.
C'mon brother. I know you have been here. Check in and let us know how you are doing.
Wsup. Going through it. Depressed. I let this girl get to me and i picked up and used. Now i might go back to jail. I fcked up my cycle again cause i was like 7 weeks into sus and deca cycle. Im staying in a hotel. I have to see my po tomorrow. Im a mess. I was on the phone with this girl and shes telling me she loves me nothing happened. She never cheated or sent a picture to anyone and that she wants to see me and i was falling into it cause i love her. Than this morning she hits me up and sais i thought about it we been through to much together i dont want to see you good luck on your journey. Wtf is wrong with this bitch. Fckn my head up real good for no reason. I told her to leave me the fck alone. I dont know pale im just trying to lose all controle and go on a huge run and catch new charges and end up in jail for a few yrs. if im on here tomorrow night im headed in the right direction. Ill be going into a recovery house and trying to start my life over and go back to meetings and dig in deep. She fcked my head up but made me want better for myself. Get my life together and get a bad ass bitch that got my back. I know i put her through shit with my using and jail and pushed her away and didnt make her feel wanted. I need to be better for me first.
A man is not measured by his mistakes, but rather by his recoveries. You got to forget about mistakes or you focus on them & feel like just giving up since you already screwed up. You got to focus on fixing you & being the man you want to be, the man you are! You have to listen bro... I’ve been right where your at. There is still hope man & it’s in you. I’m here man if you need me & I absolutely mean that!!
Thanks man. Thank you for real. Im going to do what i need to do and get my shit together. If i was doing what i was supposed to be doing maybe she wouldnt have fealt the need to do it. I need to learn from this so my next girl doesnt feel the same way.
Dude I’m here for you cause I care! You got to either stop blaming yourself while all the while beating yourself up & feeling bad for yourself, or accept the blame like a man & therefore handle your emotions like a man... oooor you can say it is what it is & move forward with a positive attitude a learn from the mistakes that you have made. Regardless of your decision, or takes one relapse to end up back behind bars for a long while or worse... end up in the grave!! Bro you do have family that needs you & needs you to reach way down a grab that man on the inside & take control. I believe with everything in me that you can walk away from this & walk away from the relapse & never ever use again!!
Yes so true. Although i dont know whats going to happen i believe in you and that maybe i can walk away from this and never pick back up again. I had nine yrs clean ghrough narcotics any. I relapsed 4 yrs ago over the same shit a girl cheated and we were engaged. Now almost the same thing. God is trying to show me something i need to listen to what that is. I know i cant hear him if im using.
That’s exactly right bro! You’re not alone man & you’re not the only one who has been where you’re at & everyone before you had the same opportunity that you have today.... 1...use & pay the consequences. Drugs will take you further than you want to go, keep you longer than you want to stay & cost you more than you ever wanted to pay!!
2... made up their mind to learn from their relapse & the trigger behind it & move on clean & find a better life.
If you decide to stay clean from now on, you will look back one day possibly beside of a beautiful wife & kids & you will thank yourself brother!!
You should be my eroids sponsor!! Lol. For real. Im start hitting you up on hear talk to you bout things if you dont mind.
I’m a counselor bro for drug/alcohol, marriage & etc... I have real life experiences that I feel has qualified me.... no one can as they know or relate unless they have really been there. I was seeing a mental health dr at the VA hospital that couldn’t speak English & had never seen one of combat & had never served one day in any military. I went off on them one day & they finally saw my point & gave me a real dude that actually knew what I was saying cause he’d been there & done that. It makes a difference when someone has been where your at & I have honestly been where your at. Dude hit me up anytime & I will always do my best to help you!!
Thanks
I know you are hurting brother but you have to snap out of this man. It is a woman and there are thousands more out there waiting. It didn't work, just like how many other women before her. You self destructing only punishes you bro, not her, not anyone else. Please, pull yourself back together, for you.
Thanks. I feel ashamed of myself even posting shit like this. It makes me feel less of a man. It is what it is though. I need to pull myself together and stop beating myself up. Ive been on here over the last few years saying the same shit and you guys have been pulling me up and giving me hope and you dont even really know me. Im in your guys debt. Thank you.
We all have issues brother. Every single one of us. And when one of us falls we all reach down to lift our brothers up.
X2... please brother listen
You’re still clean, right bro??
You now have a 6 month anabolic window for break up gains. Eat big, train hard, sleep well and pin responsibility.
Well done for not being a beta and forgiving her.
Just move on from it mate, its not worth getting in trouble over it and the fact she cheated means you weren't meant to be.
As they say plenty more fish in the sea, find a nice loyal one.
Clean up away from drugs and stay out of jail.
Good luck.
That ass clown was definitely no friend bro! Shit happens man. I had a chick cheat on me while I was in Korea for a tour of duty. The fucked up part is that I flew her to Korea and proposed to her and she accepted. A few weeks after she went back to the states things seemed off between us. She wouldn’t answer her phone sometimes but would call me back later with a lame excuse for why she didn’t answer before. Sometimes I would call late at night on weekend and she would talk in low tones in the bathroom and the excuse was she was partying with her gay friends and they were asleep now and she didn’t want to wake them. I knew better than that. Finally I got her to admit she was cheating. It sucked cuz I couldn’t understand why she agreed to marry me and took the ring then turned around and cheated. Luckily it wasn’t anybody I knew because who knows what I would have done back then. When I got home I got my ring back and we went our separate ways. I found a good one not long after that and I married her. My point is shit happens bro. Most of us have had some kind of shitty relationship experience. Better it happened before you got tied into this chick or had kids with her. Fuck em both brother. Plenty of decent chicks still out there looking for a good dude and there are plenty of us that know what friendship means.
Leave.... disappear. completely. Let the silence speak for you.
RustyhookerShitty deal but youre not in court losing half your house and paying alimony.