How do you know it's time
So my 13 year old son has brought up the topic of steroids a few times in the past few weeks or so. The first time was after one of his wrestling meets. He came to me after the meet and was like dad. That kid on the other team has to be on steroids. Do you see how built he is and he was crazy strong. My whole team thinks he is. Mind you these are 13 year old boys. I laughed it off and told him no way that kid was on steroids. That he prolly works out a lot. I will admitt, the kid was built like a brick shit house. But I can't believe he would be on steroids. Not at 13 years old. So a few days pass and he comes to me about the rock. Again questioning me about steroids. He was asking if the rock took steroids. I explained to him that it's very difficult to obtain that kind of muscle mass naturally and at his age so it could be possible, but I didn't know for sure. Again about a week later he asked me about steroids again. He asked if I ever did steroids or if I ever would because I am always at the gym. I told him no that I just enjoy working out.
So after all the rambling, my question is this. When is appropriate to tell your child you have done steroids? I feel like total shit for lieing to him. We are very close and thats one thing I have always distilled in my children. Honesty. I don't believe he knows I do take steroids. I am extremely cautious with my gear. But I kinda feel like he keeps bringing it up because he knows something? Advice??
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He may be asking because he suspects you are using some, or he may have even found your stash. I would be honest and tell him why kids his age don't need it.
I've always been honest with my kids about my past drug use. I tell them what I've learned, my mistakes, and what I wish I'd have done differently. My kids have no interest in drugs or drinking. (16 and 13 year olds)
I think if you told him about steroids. How it's unnecessary, at his age. The long term damage it could do. And, how it still requires hard work and diet you'll remove the mystique over the drug. Sharing your experience will give you credibility.
If i was my boy, who obviously wants to get big, I'd offer to help him with his diet and training. If, after he's 25, he still thinks he wants to do steroids you'll be there to guide him. Odds are, as he matures, that choice will not be taken.
Think this is the perfect answer. Glad my son is young and won't have to deal with this subject for a long time
This is a great answer. I agree completely. It keeps the father son bond in tact.
Start him young and with your training and guidance you could turn him into the next Arnold.
You never know bro. I'm hoping he takes after me and has my height and build. I was always afraid to start him lifting to young tho. Always heard it could stunt growth if they started to young. I don't know if there is any truth to It or not.
he's 13 and lives in your house. Tell him that if you catch him doing anything, you'll wring his neck.
( be firm.). . I was in here over a year before I even thought about using them. I read and read and read.( research).
When he hits his 20's there is no way your going to have control over him. But thats 7 years - of which you can school him. Be honest and tell him what you did.. You lie and he'll catch you and you dont want that. Get him eating more and working out more. There is nothing (IMO)_about taking him to GNC and buying protein powder and creatine and all that OTC stuff to start.. and he'll grow.. which is what he wants to do anyway..
I don't think he is bringing it up because he wants to do it. I'm beginning to think a lot of it is coming from kids he goes to school with and wrestles with. I am trying to teach him all I know about lifting, eating good and stuff like that. Trying to show him the right way to do things. It's hard work trying to get kids to understand the importance of compound exercises and form. All he cares about is what he can bench right now smh lol
Imho, I wouldn't tell him about your use, that will confirm that it's ok. He's way too young to even know about the topic, but now that he does.Educate him about the affects negative/positive, let him know why athletes take them ect. You don't want to give him too much personal info YET, who knows how it may come back to bite you. My mother always said "there is a time and place, for everything." Now isn't the time imo. Hide your shit and cya, he's at the experimental stage, don't want him to hurt himself. Godspeed!
double edged sword here, esspecially if he looks up to you. you tell him you've done it and, depending on his current outlook and peer influences, he may try to do it or PH's behind your back. the other kid is prolly on PH's, since they're so easily obtained online and most parents don't know wtf they are.
I don't think he would try anything behind my back. He is definitely not a kid that falls into peer pressure. I do know kids in his school talk about steroids. He hasn't mentioned anything about PH's tho. It could be possible that kid on the wrestling team was on something. I've never seen a kid his age have a build like that. I hate the fact kids have such easy access to stuff like PH's. They have no clue how bad they are fucking themselves up. Sad really. Your right about the double edge sword tho.
Very true half the kids on my sons wrestling team are doing PH from what my son has told me it's important that he knows that a PH is one of the worst things he could use
Couldn't agree more brother. I hope if he ever thought about doing anything of the sort he would come to me about it. Which is why I'm conflicted on telling him. If I tell him about these things he maybe more apt to come to about them. I'm a firm believer knowledge is power. If him knowing about it will stop him from messing with it or he can stop someone else from messing with it. It would be worth it.
My big man (he's 15) found out last year on his own the kids been lifting consistently for 2 years now and can tell what can be acquired naturally and what can't so I had to sit down with him and explain to him that there is no negative effects when you're of the right age and take precautions his response was "dad I watched bigger faster stronger I'm pretty educated on this topic as well" and he's mature enough to know it's something to be kept between us
My boy is just now getting into hitting the weights. I have kept him from any serious lifting up to this point. I didn't want it to effect his growth. He has always been very active. He has played football since he was 6 and started wrestling a few years ago. I can see us having the steroid conversation some day. I just think it's to soon. But it Maybe sooner than I think...
Well you fuck up by lying it kills your credibility with him. But that can be fixed because everyone lies. For the future with your kids it is helpful to say "what I do is my business I will tell you what I want you to when i am ready, and I believe you are mature enough to comprehend my motives and reason etc." Or you tell him the truth.
Steroids aren't what is important here credibility for when he needs you is. We all get caught off guard so I would say I lied because i was not ready to tell you and you are not entitled to know all of my business but I am entitled to yours. Sounds like a double standard well it is, but until he pays for his living and yours as well as provides for you and him that is how the rules work. I believe if my choices hurt and harm my family then I owe them and account and reparations, other wise not so much. We all have our own way of parenting not saying mine is right or wrong it just works for me. Also my kids have grown up without a sense of entitlement to everything in life but they have always been provided for so has not to go without love, affection, and discipline.
That's my biggest issue bro. I feel bad for lieing to him about it. I believe he is mature enough to understand everything. I just don't think 13 is the right age to be talking to him about steroids. There will come a day when I will tell him and I will admitt I lied to him. I believe he will understand why I choose to do so. Until then I feel it's safer that him and my other children no nothing about what I do. I appreciate the input
I think once they leave the nest, it's appropriate to have conversations about our choices and activities. I won't tell my kids about my wild drinking nights at too young of an age either. I don't see it as lying to them. It's about giving them the information they need to make the most educated choices in life. When they're grown, we'll have adult conversations. When I catch them slipping, I might use a story from my past as an example for reasons why they shouldn't do things.
Honesty is very important to instill in our children. To me, it's not a two way street though. My job is to provide, protect, and educate. By whatever means necessary.
My daughter asked me if I would ever lie to her. I told her no. Her response was " the Easter bunny, Santa clause, the tooth fairy!"