serious dating advice need help
Whats everyone's take on your girlfriend telling you a month or so into dating that she wants you to meet one of her very best friends. To find out that they, who hes a guy, had two fuck sessions together before we met. And their just going to stay friends because they don't want to lose that. And then the guy has the nerve to say that my girlfriend looks like a dick and theirs no attractiveness what so ever between them. So I tell her about my steroid use and not to tell anyone first person that finds out is that other dude will call him Dirt. So Dirt reenforces that there is nothing going on, this coming from a guy we go out with bec gf wants us to go see him. So he goes to bars and just trys to pick up every piece of ass he could find. Im trying to tell this girl he used you and played the friend card. Fuck him, sorry im pissed im mad and a little jealous dont blow me off to chill with him or if I want to go out dont invite his ass. And please stop feeling so sorry for his ass hes DIRT. So this has been going on for six months and im making a move to meet up with a girl who could potential be someone I want to date. Shes(the gf) going to go have guy night with them this weekend? Why is she going its guy night, apparently shes a honorary dick. So im meeting a new girl that night? Bad move good move? What should I make out of this? Thanks yall. 
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Chaz32621Lol o yah haha
and remember.foreplay.is.optional ...... hangon
bigwillyDONT TAKE THIS THE RONG WAY. I don't mean to say this is you. I used to know a guy that would allways play the poor me iv been treated so bad by women, boo who who ! I just cant believe she would treat me like that. and do you know ? ............ this guy got more poontang then any one iv ever met, chicks ate it up.
Chaz32621Lol na man not taking it wrong haha. I just hate hurting feelings especially once I involve my heart and the word love into everything it hurts so bad to see change but that maybe what I need
bigwillyYa know what young blood......your a true ronantic son. When ya do find a chick like your self youll have a magic thing dog.
What everyone is saying here is dead on. Leave her. It will happen regardless. Do you want that to be on her terms or yours?
I've been in that situation, with the same type of girl. Do you honestly love her, or does the rejection make you want her more ?
And on the nights when she's having guy night. What are you doing? You're probably checking your phone, seeing if she's checked your texts. It's not healthy brother. I've been right in those shoes. Walk now while you can hold your head high. If she's that way now, you'll never get what you want out of the situation. Just drop her. Sometimes the best thing we can do is conduct ourselves like the emotionless men they say we're supposed to be. But with that comes self respect. Try and make sure you keep yours when that relationship goes to pieces
Bro the more I read this the more I think you need to dump that chick tonight! She is playing your ass for the fool and it will never go anywhere. No chick is that hot to have to deal with that kind of shit. Ive seen that too many times and the nicer you are to a chick like that the shittier she will treat you. Dump her ass tonight. Then come back and report. My guess is that she doesn't even look at you as an exclusive boyfriend. And when you dump her she will be like. Uh ok, were we even that serious? Could be wrong bro but do it. DUMP HER ASS! She doesn't respect you. The sooner you do it the better you'll feel. Honestly bro, guys that act like pussies around girls get shit on, and you my friend are getting shit on something fierce.
Call me old fashioned but about 90% of that crosses a line. Use to be that when a woman is with a man shes lives her whole life to let the wolrd know shes taken... and vice versa, man to woman. Shit i had a hair dresser that offered me a shoulder rub and i turned her down. Said that id never do anything with a woman i couldnt do in front of my girlfriend. Coincidentally that made her want to fuck me but thats beside the point.
Loyalty and fidelity is a lifestyle, not something you show when its necessary.
That says it all!
AnonYou're one of the good ones, nice to see y'all still exist ;) guys (and girls) are so quick to cheat and lie these days, almost like its socially acceptable..
This ain't old fashioned, this id say is how it should be. I'm exactly like this.
Chaz32621No not old fashion thats what everyone says, I don't still hangout with my past girlfriends or even talk to them nor the ones I fucked.
Chaz32621Is it bad that I tell her I love her and she dosnt say it back and I ask why and her response is because I don't just throw it around. What does that mean I don't throw it around neither only to you to let u know how I feel.
o-O why are you dating her... srs question.. everything you've said is bad... you know the answer to your question.. but there is something in you causing you to continue with this woman knowing that
Chaz32621I don't know man I just can't figure it out, its like how I felt about the first girl I dated that was so hard to get passed I dated 2 other girls before this one, its like she's got a spell on me or somthing
My first thought on this ^.... if someone asks why you're dating someone and the initial response is "i dont know" then it might be time to leave the relationship. Also, remember (like alayna said above) you are a young, good looking guy. If you're caught in a gal's spell make sure she is caught in your spell too... there are plenty of good ladies out there! Just look at the ladies on here ;)
Chaz32621Good point at one time I knew, until this other guy started playing such a big roll in our relationship. Now it feels like I'm dating her and him.
bigwillyAhhhhhhhh the old spell. Hand in there young blood.
She's not that into you... well she doesn't sound like the type to be into one guy in general... she can go out to guys night but her main guy is uninvited.. she is fooling around with dirt or one of his buddies.. you could catch her with dirt's dick in her and she would still tell you it's not how it looks.. that's how these types are.. you can blame dirt all you want but who do you think is running the show here? sounds like your friends and family see shes bad.. a bunch of juicers from eroids see shes bad.. might be time to take anyone's advice.. just pick one.. no one is going to tell you to stick with that thing.. you've got the new girl waiting to date you.. why stick around in such a toxic environment
Wow you go Om! god damn well said!
Chaz32621So fucking true that was an epic post sir
fk that just keep her on the side go out with the boys to the club and have fun with other girls it will help supress your feelings, yolo
Kick her to curb buddy. Life is short. And ur wasting your time w that one.
Chaz32621This new girl has really become something that may turn out great
Brother that sounds like you are trying to convince yourself...if she was is what you say the disloyal one would be in the rear view mirror by now. Don't underestimate the ego that we all have, it can drive us to pine after the one that doesn't show that they want us completely. It goes back to all that self worth shit etc
Chaz32621So true come Saturday when we hangout other then at the gym we will see
You don't need that in your life mate. It's only been a few months, imagine a year of the stress, paranoia and jealousy.. bin that girl, use the anger in the gym and get swollen! Seriously just reading this makes me wonder why you've put up with it for so long! Trust Growmore!
bigwillydog you didn't need to do this you knew what you should have done.
its no if they rooted bro not only would i dump id smash his face in for obviosly talking to her and dissig you bro fk that bro.......move along next.......lol
Chaz32621Lol
Bro, I can write a long msg about this and share my experiences. I'll keep it short. Leave her, she ain't worth it. What good does a fuckbuddy is for a girl as a "friend only" when she has a boy friend.
what you are feeling is absolutely normal. You dont need to feel this way. Let tht ****** go. I have so much fucking hate for such women. Keeping her fuckbuddy in her life and the fucking nerve to have him when you two are out.
leave her, throw her out.
BigBmajDude there are so many fucking women out there. I've been dating for a short time now and I can't believe how good it is. Make an account on a dating site and just sit back and let it happen. I was able to schedule 5 dates last week, some were good, some not so good. And some are willing to have sex the first time you meet, those are the ones to run from. Oh and I promise they will all tell you that they NEVER do that on a first date.
If I knew being single would be this interesting I would have jumped into it long ago.
Good luck and have fun. No point being around someone who bothers you.
Drop that chick quick.
If you don't have the balls to do it, at least get the balls to pull Dirt aside and tell him that his relationship with your woman is over no calls, no text, no emails, no nothing and if he's not up for that, then you are going to have to take that as a major form of disrespect. You tell him that if he tells your woman about this little talk then you will also consider that an act of disrespect. Let him know that of you feel disrespected then you will make it a point to disrespect his teeth on a curb, and the you will disrespect his mothers teeth on a curb and then You will disrespect his sisters teeth on a curb and maybe even his grandma's dentures on a curb. Let him know that you are serious by stabbing him in a non lethal spot with a medium sized knife and walk away. That should solve your problem. If not, do what you can to keep your promises.
Hope that helps, all my love, no homo
Ed.
hahaha lol good shit bro
aylmejorSounds like a whore. I'd just step away. Especially if she's about that going out lifestyle.. Only leads to trouble.
Agreed!!!!
Run the fuck away.. that guy is going to make that relationship hell and that girl is really stupid and really manipulative.. not worth it at all.. I wouldn't even wait to dump her
Chaz32621For sure manipulative my mom and friends see it too.
I have a friend who was in your shoes about a month ago.. I'm afraid to go into detail.. it would just make you paranoid.. walk away and don't look back.. I mean that
ditch the girl ... the one who is friends with dirt... not because she is friends with Dirt, any girl can have friends as long as they understand the what the score is. the gf is looking for the next best thing and sorry honey you are an interim bf... go get with someone who respects you and respects your request to keep their mouth shut and it looks like you've found something potentially better go for it
What she said! Another tip if you want in the future for a woman to respect you fully than never ever settle for being the upset passive hurt person!!! If you don't respect your self to not be treated this way no one else will.
Now if you are into swinging and you have an agreed upon this thing fine at least you are not conflicted. A woman will never respect an on the fence indecisive man. No she doesn't care about your feelings so don't even play that card with her. If she is into being the dick of the boy's club then just tell her she is a little too manly for you and you don't swing that way.
Oh yeah stop telling people about your personal life until you trust them. I don't trust anyone enough to tell them everything.
bingo
Chaz32621Thanks
part of me wants this so bad but I can't if she's not for it either
run nothing good comes from that obviously she likes him and respects his opinion and one day his opinion might cost you. been there done this my opinion is give her the ultimatum him or you then youll know just how much she cares. hope it works out.
Chaz32621Im making a move soon. It will show how much she cares but im afraid ill be the one that loses this. I just have that gut feeling.
if you lose it she wasn't worth it bro and by the sounds of it your more into her then shes into you or you wouldn't be over thinking this like you are....
I don't get that shit. Seriously. If I was him, id be up to no good.
Chaz32621Your 100 percent right lol I would too haha
If you like drama and unhealthy relationships, by all means stay and make a go of it. If not, RUN.
Chaz32621Yah you see it too hu? Lol its getting bad dosnt help shes manipulative.