posted Sat, 09/07/2013 - 15:52
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Sex
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Without it our species would cease to exist
With it our lives can be a roller coaster
There is a saying
##"Women need romance in order to have sex Men need sex in order to have romance"
If this is true how do we balance it?
Question; Is sex better with or without love?
Is great sex possible without any emotional connection whatsoever and what exactly constitutes GREAT sex?
Is sex very important to you in a relationship?
Would you stay in a relationship with someone even if you weren't sexually fulfilled?
Just how important is sex in the integrity and sustainability of a relationship
Just how important is sex to you....
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You should post more often when yr drinkin hehe yr honesty its so awesome!
ive been with the same girl for 6 years, we have our ups and downs, we go through patches of having a lot then patches where we don't atall, when we do it is great, I do how ever have massive urges to go out and sleep with new, fresh girls, I have never cheated on my misses but think about it sometimes, its weird because I know I can do what ever I want with my misses, but still have these urges (especially on cycle) theres just something about the naughtiness and doing the wrong thing that makes me want to. but yes I would still stay with my misses without sex, because she is still her and I love her.
Hmmm so that makes me wonder do all men think like that after 6 years?
I think about having sex with almost every hot girl I see! I just don't act on it cause I'm married, lol. I'm just wired that way and I think most men are. I believe women do it as well but just not to the extent that guys do. Maybe I'm totally off base with this I dunno...
Well i saw a super delicious hot guy at the gym yest and i took note of my first thoughts and if was not about bangin him it was about kissin him....kissin his mouth, his face, his stomach and basically stopped there bec then the thought pops in my head "i wonder what he kisses like"see for me if a guy sucks at kissin there will be no sex ... i dont think men care so much about kissing
same here, if u cant kiss got to goo :-0
Yeah we don't give a shit, lol... ;)
UGH women do! i cannot tell you how many guys kiss horribly...i actually had a guy move toward me to kiss me and his tongue was sticking outta his mouth i was like wtf! another put all his saliva in my mouth, was fuckin gross...lets not even talk about the lizard kissers or the lap doggers....
personally nothing is more of a turn on than kissing i think i have sensors in my mouth or something lol i gotta look that up medically one of these days
LMAO!
I kid! I kid! Obviously if you totally suck at kissing that would be a turn off but it's not the first thing we think about. Or I don't at least
Ya know i've had men tell me that they were thinkin about havin sex with me from when they first met me....even when we were talkin about some mundane subject like weather or something like a family member dying lol it astonishes me bec i dont pick up on it bec logically i think the guy is actually paying attention to what im sayin
We're good at it because we've practiced all our life! It's true, we can talk about your dead family member and have a deep conversation and still think about bending your ass over and tappin dat ass, LMAO
LMAO! see this is why i love men!
LOL.. Men are dogs but at least I'm honest about it ;)
haha well i appreciate yr honesty and that of the other men too...this helps give insight to what men really think...its sucks to have to try and figure it out with my girl friends cause then its all conjecture
Sure thing! We're simple creatures really that only require three things
FEED ME. FUCK ME. SHUT THE FUCK UP
;)
See i always say men are so simple and easy to please!
And for the record men like to talk too so much that i've had to say STFU lol you'd be surprised by how many
LMAO! That doesn't surprise me. Nobody like a yapper
average guy thinks about sex every 40 seconds...
And that's just average, lol!
kissing certainly is important and if you completely suck at kissing then you are right the chances of having sex are drastically reduced... lol
Drastically like zero!
i can't stand the guys who slobber.. ugh.. I know girls that kiss better than most of the guys i know ..
ummm so you kiss girls too??
valhallas besti can see where this is going from a mile away..=p
I have kissed girls .. and i d have to say they kiss much better .. it is more important to us ..
hmmmm i haven't maybe i should.....
first kisses are important!!! no tounge!!!
valhallas bestdude tongue is the best part they love it when you grab their hair and pull their head back and kiss their neck they will melt in front of you
maybe if your drunk at a club trying to fk a random it is.sounds like you watch to much porn hahahahaha
valhallas bestwell if watching porn was a crime id probably get the death sentence hahahahah but fo real son you canlearn a thing or two by watching porn,study, take notes!
yes they are .. the can determine the rest of the night
I would say all men think like that from the start ...
from the start and then??? so you think after 6 years they dont think about straying? or women too for that matter?
nah, ive only had these thoughts for the past year or so, I don't act on them, if I didn't love her I would leave her and then do it, I think its the same for both men and woman, I think its a self esteem and confidence thing not just a lust thing, as in you know your partner loves you and you just have this feeling of wanting to be wanted by the opposite sex I geuss if that makes sense, also im engaged to be married with her, and its just well.. im 29 years old and im going to be with the same woman for ever?? what if she leaves me and then im the old creepy guy in the back of the club that girls think are a perv?? lol maybe I just want some fun before that hahaha I don't know!!
haha well it will be a LONG time before yr the old creepy guy so i wouldn't worry about that....
so these periods in your relationship you describe where you dont have sex for a while...how long is this period of time? and is it a mutual thing or is it bec she's not interested in sex at that time
bingo!! she has a low sex drive sometimes, I have gone 4 months before with none!! month and a half stints are regular, then boom it can be crazy where I cant keep up for two weeks then it dries up again!!! lol it aint mutual I want it every single day !! hahahaha like she went interstate for a month recently for work, when she got back we doe it like 30 times in 7 days, then boom it dried up and now its like twice in the last 4 weeks lol
That sucks bro!
ok so then its safe to say that yr ok with that bec yr marrying her....now let me ask you this and btw these are questions i really want answered bec i avoid marriage like the plague....back to question.....so r u ok with this for the rest of yr life?
depends if you coming to visit me in oz bhahaha!! but seriously im %95 sure that I will be ok with it, shes a good girl and that's why I proposed, sex isn't everthing, shes there for me no matter what, so for that I stay loyal, and I know she does aswell, with the sex if theres no bond in the relationship theres no bond in the bedroom, sometimes I kink it up a bit, try make things interesting, like handcuffs etc, or maybe while cooking tea with her pull out the spachelor and spank her with it, then pick her up and take her on the kitchen table haha, you know mix it up and keep it fresh, but in the dry spells it does get frustrating, but im not marrying her for the sex, it is an effort sometimes but its a two way street it about compromise and loyalty, it is hard but that's what I chose I geuss, I live day to day I forget yesterday and don't think of tomorrow, so who knows what can happen!
This is true i need to really wrap my mind around that belief ...not to project into the future just stay present...but my mind seems to always drip that way then i scare myself outta a long term relationship...even writing long term gave me the creeps lol
good thing i have a kid already
I wouldn't be.... Lol
i believe most women will stay, not me, but most....men wont necessarily leave they will cheat....i mean married men anyway....idk i think men are less ballsy about leaving a relationship...i know so many men who aren't having sex and they're subsequently not happy yet they dont leave bec their wife is a good women or whatever other reason...
most women will just concede that sex isnt that important...they blanket it under "men are dogs"
I'm gonna have to agree with you on this one
hahahaha your a tripper mate!!! my mate on the other hand, his whole relationship revolves around it!!! dead set its pathetic, I cant stand it, hes always pressuring his girl all the time and evertying hes says or does to her is sex!!! and he will be nasty to her if don't get it, and will go cheat!! hes done it many times, and simply tell her the next day it because she didn't put out and its her fault, and she still stays with him, ten years they've been together and it been the same since day 1
I can't say anything. I hound mine all the time. I don't mistreat her or anything but she knows I get a little cranky if I don't get my medicine, LOLLL
Speaking of not getting my medicine, that bitch is already asleep :-/
everyone thinks about having sex with someone else whether or not they admit it is another thing .. straying.. fantasizing .. you telling me that when you got married or in a relationship that you suddenly went blind and you dont see other people ? it is the natural course of things to look.. doesn't mean that people will act on it..
I agree..
honestly i was monogamous for 8 years and in that time i didn't....i have not been in a relationship long enough since then to get bored...which i think is part of the reason i wont get married again bec i've become cynical or realistic whichever and think most ppl get bored after a while