while sex is fun I dont put that much into it, if we are having it great, if we are not i got two hands that probably work better then she does so it dont really matter. one way or another im gonna get mine.

OH Sweetie....where to begin.... Sex better with or without love? When you are in love you need to have SEX and also make LOVE! But to everyone their own..... I have learned that Sometimes a girls needs a good hair pulling ass slapping sweaty sex fest. Next day she might just want to be romanced swooped off her feet, licked from head to toe, made loved to and then made breakfast in bed! Then there is the occasional go down on me and make me scream in a different language! So now on to men...we are simple creatures. Make me Cum treat me like a king and be a naughty girl and you are good to go! But on a cliff note give me a sexy, sweet smelling , tanned little body, girl who knows how to use her hips and throw her in a reverse cowgirl! Bam that's SEX! Damn I am PUMPED for NFL Sunday!

Is sex better with or without love? Sometimes.
Is love better with or without sex?

I think sex, selfless sex, is very important for the bonding of a deep, and emotionally close relationship.

I don't think a touching relationship would survive if the physical closeness stopped. There might be health or physical issues that force sex to stop. But I think it can endure as long as the physical closeness does not stop (cuddling, touching).

This is an awesome post. I would like to comment specifically on the emboldened part.

VenuS and myself have an agreement, an understanding, that as long as we keep the cycle going everything works out. She keeps fucking me, and i stay sweet on her. The trouble starts whenever the cycle breaks or we go too many days without sex or sweetness. I dont feel like being nice even if it means i can get in her pants, feels cheap to me. And she doesnt feel like having sex with me because i havent been sweet to her. So which one of us is responsible for restarting the cycle? Its tough but we do trade off. Sometimes she just bites the bullet and fucks me randomly and that will get it going. Sometimes i have to think about her in terms of missing her physically which makes me feel lonely and remorseful, which in turn causes me to act sweet. Ill do something spontaneously romantic like clean the kitchen or bring flowers (believe it or not she appreciates either) or write her a love note that she finds later.

The obvious solution is to keep it going all the time. She even gives me head when shes on her period and its too heavy for shower sex. Thats a great woman. She understands that as long as she keeps me well fucked i am a perfect gentleman. Semen is like hate-juice. If it builds up, everybody is going to have a shitty day. Her job is to keep it from building up. Simple science.

Sex is the primary driving force behind the behaviour of all living things. All other needs (food, water, shelter, etc.) are in place to facilitate surviving long enough to pass on genetic material, and ensure the perpetuation of the species. The species, not the individual component, is what is important in nature. From this perspective, almost every action is ultimately linked to sexuality. Only humans are capable of conduct totally unconnected to sexuality. Some of these actions can be construed as positive (literacy, technology etc...) while others are definitely negative (humans inability to manintain harmony within the paramters of nature): nevertheless, few aspects of human behaviour are not sexually motivated and the idea that we are somehow "evolved" does not exempt us from natures primary purpose.

Now making love, that is a uniquely fascinating aspect found only in humans and with that comes a profound connection not found in other species. The connectiveness and unity that we alone share comes with a price for when that fails, falls short or is taken away the negative effects are as equally profound.

Sex for me is more of a release thing, I love it in a relationship as its basically on tap.
It's good at breaking down inhibitions in a new relationship aswell.

I find the best way to connect with a women sexually is to lead them into a fall sense of security. Let them think you are kind hearted gentle soul, then once the mood is set and the last glass of wine drank, BOOM!!! Start jumping around losing your shit, going off like Mike Tyson at a 98' press conference " AIN'T NOBODY IN HERE CAN FUCK WITH THIS, THIS IS THE ULTIMATE, ILL FUCK YOU TILL YOU LOVE ME F@GGIT"

Tried and tested method ill have you know

i have tried both, and way better when u have feeling for the person. even the ones u keep having sex or going back with and technically ur not "dating", u some way or another have feeling for that person. otherwise it would lose its magic, u dont get adrenal or a rush when ur not attracted to the person, ur just trying to get the job done and leave, which happens but thats bad sex. now the romance part is kinda of hard to comment on, i dont think i need sex to be romantic, I know that women like guys who are more aggressive, hint why nice guys finish last, there fore I try to become more aggressive. tried being a nice guy, doesnt work. I find that being straight forward works for me, u cant beat around the bushes, also i find that falling for a girl or doing too much for her before getting in the bed room will label u as a try hard or a nice guy, or a push over, all bad labels IMO.

Just being more aggressive, not giving too much too soon all the time, and giving a girl a challenge will almost always win over a guy who would pour his heart out or try something extra then look like a try hard or even desperate.

men are not as bad as women think, guys can develop feelings for girls before having sex with them (if they stay w/ em anyways). Most men try to find the role that women find attractive and play it (because of ego) , unfortuantly that role is the aggressive guy who will do little for u and will just want to try to get as far as he can on the first date. because guys who do that distinguish themselves , and look as if they dont care about the girl, they make it look as if they have other options (girls to choose from) and women find a desirable man (aka a player or a puller) attractive. They also appear to have more confidence then that guy who is trying to do things for u and is not getting any thing back in return ( aka sex ), they call those guys nice guys. and as i mentioned before guys can have sex w/ the girl with or with out feeling, not sure if women can do the same