posted Sat, 09/07/2013 - 15:52
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Sex
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Without it our species would cease to exist
With it our lives can be a roller coaster
There is a saying
##"Women need romance in order to have sex Men need sex in order to have romance"
If this is true how do we balance it?
Question; Is sex better with or without love?
Is great sex possible without any emotional connection whatsoever and what exactly constitutes GREAT sex?
Is sex very important to you in a relationship?
Would you stay in a relationship with someone even if you weren't sexually fulfilled?
Just how important is sex in the integrity and sustainability of a relationship
Just how important is sex to you....
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lol , i just texted you a pic of my dick ....sorry bro , its just what i do , guess i am a dick lmfao
You should refer to my dick pic topic...
Im starting to understand why they call you flash ;-0
too funny
thanks bro , pm that cycle update we get it tweeked for ya
Yea I got tht much
I initially didn't think tht but when he wrote what he did I realized its all fun here so I kinda did mess it up :| apologizes everyone.
I know a few arranged marriage couples.. surprisingly theyre much better off than most couples.. I honestly think if youre willing to try you can screw anyone good.. just take the time to figure out what they want.. I only actually met one women I couldnt enjoy because honestly she was really damn loose.. to the point I almost started laughing during.. no idea what she stuck up there to ruin such a good thing
seriously you cant make this
Shit up! Lol lol
Omg lmfao!
like throwing a hot dog down a hallway loose?
No lmao.. you could just tell itd been stretched a lot.. besides almost laughing I was really disgusted..
Hopefully, for her sake, the damage isn't permanent and it goes back to its natural shape, when she stops whoring around for 6 months.
A dick cannot do that..... I am positive my arm could have fit.. she prlly had too much time on her hands
You mean her hands had to much time in her P.
Sex is just that; sex. some people have to be in love, some people are addicted to it. I'll be honest and not sugar coat this like some of you guys and your posts
I don't need to be in love to have sex; shit I don't even have to like the person. If she is hot I go by looks and not use my big head. I have limitations though;. I will not sleep with my friends girlfriends or wives as that is karma I do not need coming back to me. I also do not sleep with underage girls either, 16 will get you 20 where I'm from. Sex is completely natural and it's a "instinct" thing. We humans are not the only ones that have sex for pleasure. Monkey's and also dolphins have casual sex all the time. Can casual sex make you happy? If someone says it doesn't they are full of shit or they are lying. Sex is a release of dopamine; endorphins; and prolactin that makes you feel good so the more sex you have the happier you are. If I truly love someone then sex comes naturally from this but do I need to have sex in the relationship? Absolutely. Do I need to have sex all the time in that relationship? No. Can I have casual sex for the rest of my life? Yes. The need to sleep with multiple women comes from our ancestors as a way of "spreading" our seed to make sure our lineage lives on. Not all species of animals choose a mate for life. The ones that do are less likely to have a lot of predators. I put science into my thoughts on this. Great sex is more physical in my opinion. You can't have the best sex of your life with someone you are not attracted to.
wow i love yr honesty...btw prob wanna avoid girls under the age of 18...
i agree with much of what you said, except continuous casual sex has got to get old...there is something to be said for a real connection and im not necessarily defining it as love either.... im not certain either that humans can be mates for life either unless we were to die young...some ppl pull that off and are genuinely happy for 60 years, most just tolerate the situation ...i agree there is something scientific but science doesn't explain the soul and thats where connection comes from...i think if most ppl hooked up with a skilled lover they could get off but again getting off only goes so far at some point it just feels empty.....
No doubt about the empty phase. When I was younger (under 27) casual sex was the only thing I could see doing; every relationship was a disaster; Every date was expensive and could have been a 50/50 (50/50 meaning there was another date; sex; or a waste of time) And any girl under 21 for me is not gonna happen I'm not into that father figure type shit lol. I believe science and psychology can explain a lot of what you are describing. Most of girls lives they are lead to believe in their "knight in shining armor" or their "prince" to sweep them off their feet. They are taught to cook, clean, and be responsible with the toys that are made exclusively for them. Boys are given building blocks; sports toys, tonka trucks, e.t.c to teach them to be rugged, tough, e.t.c. Now depending on background you are taught about sex. Some are taught from their parents, some school, and some from the streets (friends or playboys) You then become a product of your environment with your views on sex and relationships. Since I grew up in my Italian- canadian french neighborhood our views on sex was so relaxed it was like nothing. Take a look at Europe. Nude beaches everywhere; they play porn on cable tv there like it was another sitcom. If you go to Sicily or Sardinia they have Saturday morning variety shows for kids that are so provocative it would be blasted here in the states. I'm talking full nudity of the hottest women and it fit right into the programming. I loved going there as a kid to visit relatives. My wife is 14 years younger then me and she told me when she was in high school the norm was all about friends with benefits. She told me that's the only relationships you found in high school and college in her generation; which shows me what the new mentality is towards a lot of things.
bigwillyand also i couldn't imagine doing the things i do with my wife with a strange women. lol
I'm not sure how popular this post will be, but I don't think sex should be involved at all, without a serious relationship, preferably marriage. It's the most intimate thing that is done between two people and if love and relationship is taken out of it, then we are cheaper for it. I've been married for over 20 years and the sex is better than it has ever been. There is a love and a trust that is there, because we are loyal and committed to one another. I think sex is a vital part of a relationship and should not be cheapened by casual sex. I've never met anyone who has a lot of casual sex that is truly happy. Just my .02.
Very cool answer. I have to agree. Casual sex is a letdown. Its excitement is perpetuated by a desire for acceptance and youthful inexperience. The depth of the relationship is what feeds the intensity.
I don't think you need to be in love to have great sex and be connected.....but being in love definitely intensifies the experience....I mean honestly most of us adults were not in love with every person we slept with the very first time we slept with them....unless of course ur a very orthodox religious person...
casual sex i dont do but there is nothing better in life than picking up a hot primo quality girl at the club and going back with her for one night only, then in the morning its like wtf did we do that wasnt normal but it was killa...then on the drive home you stop and wash your dick at the gas station.......hahahaha
obviously you're a religious man and I respect that
I am religious, but my main point was that sex between two people is special and shouldn't be treated lightly.
I agree. The only catch for me is that I want to be sexually compatible with the woman Im with and ya dont know til ya know. But I dont rush.
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I think "sexually compatibility" is mostly a myth. If you really put in the time to get to know someone and love, care about them, then you are usually sexually compatible, because of the emotional connection. If it's not good sex at first, you can both learn to make it good. I'm glad that you wait to get to know someone. I guess it's how you value sex and relationships.
I can assure you sexual compatibility is not a myth! you can love someone and def not be sexually attracted or compatible with them
I think we're talking about two differnt things.
bigwillyyea i think this is a heck of a guy here.
bigwillywell put my friend spoken like a true man. theres a FR behind this. id be proud to have ya on my friend list.
Been married for 15 years. Hands down the sex is better now than our first year. When you are single. Sex is sex but to be truly devoted to one person it takes work. And hard work pays off. My wife and I are 100%the in tune with each other and this has lead to fun in the bedroom. About a year ago we started getting into light bondage which has grown into more hardcore adventures. Hence, the kids get to stay with the grandparents a lot on the weekends.
also I agree with a lot of what is said below but ulimatwly sex is extremely important for our overall health. There is no better stress reliever. It can make you feel powerful or helpless. Its a good reflection of omes personality at that given moment.
hmmm bondage interesting...
About 6 years ago I lost a girlfriend who was very important to me. We had sex all the time and I loved it but after we were over I went through a funk. I didn't sleep with anyone for nearly a year. Honestly I barely even pleased myself because I had no desire. Sex is important to me with the person I'm in love with. Seeing the look of pleasure on your partners face is very satisfying. Making love is a connection unlike any other. Unless ur ed and ur bagging hookers ... Lol
Aw that wes such a sweet answer... well not the part about Ed
I need both sometimes my women needs made love to and other times she needs to b treated like the bad girl she is
lol i think this is true of a lot of women
Is sex better with or without love? How do I explain without putting my foot in my mouth? Sex is better with Lust, to me when I first start off with that person and we're lustful it's great. The longer were in "love", it tends to get mundane imo. Eventually you have to spice it up, after years on sex. Sex is definitely possible without an emotional connection, as long as the physical is there. Would I stay in a relationship if the sex was garbage? Depending of the circumstances. If I was with my wife and she was injured or was unable Have sex, I would be alright with that. If she was just prude, she gots to go.lol
It will really only get mundane with a lack of communication. Just like every other aspect of a relationship, communication is key, corny, but the truth.
Not corny at all. Pure truth.
i like your answer and i agree sex is better with that lustful feeling...i do think if two ppl stay connected to each other they can have that for a long time but you are right you need to switch things up...get yr freak on every now and again
bigwillymy goal when having sex is to please my wife. Thats just me. And I also beleive that sex and making love are two very different things. Her pleasure should be the priority ! But to answer the question sex is much better with a women you know love and care about.
I love your answer too Bigwilly!
bigwillyI knew ya would mama. But I am right arnt I.
Sex is always better when emotion is involved. The connection makes it better. Its also better the more youre with that particular person. Sex is extremely important in that type of relationship. If you are sexually miserable there is no point to staying in the relationship because you are incompatible on a very basic level. For me its validation of the connection and proof that this is the person you choose to be with. That choice is extremely important to me because I will not settle for second best, nor for being second best.
wow i love that answer
Glad you like it doll! But I also agree with a constant change up. Just like training, dont want it to stagnate! Gettin ur freak on seems to be the most popular for me, Im a very lusty guy. ButI stand by the connection statement. Intensity is what makes sex great. Its not about the destination. Cliche, I know, but quickies are only for when theres no time or youre in an awkward place youre afraid to get caught in and you just cant help yourself. Uh oh. Gotta go!
Sex is very important, This may sound kinda fucked up to most women but the best sex is when you have more than one woman and one or more of them know about the others that is the best sex ever! But I am undecided if I liked that more or threesomes which in a way is kind of the same thing but a lot more work. And since I am married and so on threesomes are a rarity . But without sex I get really fing crabby. Yes I do associate romance and sex.
Thank you for sharing your very honest experience
AnonAlayna, Im sorry for not getting to this sooner, its an interesting topic and very much a part of my married life. Im always saddened to hear about a sexless loveless marriage, and there are plenty of them.
Years ago the best sex I ever had was always with girls I knew Id never marry. All of the best sexual memories were with girls I did not love ( although if you get fucked in an amazing way enough times you can start to think you feel love ) . My wife was not my best sex partner ever, and we always had plenty of it, but it did become quite dull after a while. When we were dating I openly slept around a bit. We have been through quite a number of "ups and downs" in our 17 years together (11 married) .
Well I will tell you it has been a complete revelation to me. Our love is stronger than ever and she has now become my best partner I have ever had. We fuck like porn stars and we also make love, there is a trust we have developed that has finally allowed her to really cut loose (plus shes in her forties now ) . Now there have been times I have been worried , because Ive noticed that during sex and after orgasms the " I love you so much " comes out, and Ive asked her if I stopped being able to have sex would she still tell me that ? She says yes, but the truth is we dont know do we ?. The other truth is that sex does seem to be an integral part of the relationship, and although everyone goes through dry spells, I cant imagine a relationship with out it.
Just last week I stared in to her eyes as we had sex, eventually she titled her head back and we lost eye contact, but there was a transfer of love during sex that made it very different . She sent me an email the next day describing it as "other worldly" . She was spot on with that description and I have never experienced that while simply having sex with someone.
So many things stood out that were deep and meaningful that i agree with which you expressed so eloquently..Two other things also stood out; one that yr wife emailed you the next day...thats so dating like and flirty and fun and the other is that shes in her 40's lol thats when a women really comes into her sexuality and owns it and as you can see being the recipient of that expression is awesome! You guys obviously have a great connection even after 17 years...you two give me hope!
Thanks for yr honesty ;)