posted Sun, 12/01/2013 - 04:58
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Relationships and Bodybuilding....Advice please
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Hey guys just started going out with the coolest girl, real open about everything in life, EVEN STEROIDS!!!!.
But there im concerned about something;
As you all know BBing is very time consuming and so I dont get to see her as much as she wants.
I just wanted to ask you guys how you keep up with your relationships.
Feel free to to write about your past or present experiences , only if you're being 100% honest, and I shall feed my brain with that experience...wow that came out a bit weird hehehe.
AND GIRLS, I WOULD APPRECIATE YOUR VIEW AS WELL!!!!
Thanks people and much love to this great community.
PS:Check my latest pic and give me some judging time, i want do a competition prep in like 6 months.
LOVE!!!!
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Make it easier on yourself and marry a bodybuilder................ i did and its the best thing ever
I have to completely agree with that .. no one else knows, wants to know, or understands what we are doing ... and why... lol..
U guys are so right.... however i would prefer a Figure competitor, but those girls are way out of my league hahaha
thats only because of what you believe about yourself
I know right. Its all bout attitude. If u want something bad enough you will get it !
Hearing all of your responses was like jaw dropping to me. My girl and I have recently separated over a lot of trust issues and assumptions on her behalf. The one thing that just popped in my head was I was getting judged and accused of cheating or w.e. You want to call it for going to the gym at night, when I got out of work.
damn bro, im sorry. i've been there and it hurts so much.
Here's my womanly opinion....for one thing were not 17 anymore, so our time is consumed and demanded in many ways besides bodybuilding.....if she wants to spend more time with you, workout together...working out is very animalistic and can breed some strong sexual experiences....
how long are yr workouts and how many times a week do you train? i train 5 days for nearly 2 hours...i have a full time job, a son, a mother who i kinda take care of, a home to keep, do all my own cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping....im fuckin busy lol but i can always find time for my man...and if he wants to be my man he will understand that we need to work around things....there are other great ways to stay connected i.e. texting, facetime, emails, or the old fashioned phone call!
you realy didn't elaborate as to how much time is she asking for nor how much time are you already giving her so i wld need this questions answered to give you better advice....
;0)
That by far was the Sexiest reply you could give!
"working out is very animalistic and can breed some strong sexual experiences...." I need to go work out now................
lol lol lol! hope you had a good workout ;0)
Hey Alayna, first of all thanks and good to hear from you again.
I workout 4 times a week for 45 mins or 1 hour per session, but the problem isnt the workouts, its the meal frequency.
My life is clearly not as busy as yours and fyi i respect what you do so much. I get to see her two afternoons per week and couple days on the weekend, for me thats enough but you know she just cant get enough of me hahaha, just kidding,
I'll talk to her and tell her that i got other priorities in my life which i have to take care of as well.
Thanks Alayna, and the best of luck
What woman wld get enough of you ;)
well it seems like you see her enough...i suppose if you fall crazy in love with her you can have her move in with you then she'll wanna see you less lol
keep me posted let me know how it goes
I totally agree. I worked 92hrs last week. I'm a father of 3 and married. I'm a very busy guy. I still make time to cook all my food, train, work, pay bills, and spend quality time w my wife and kids each week. So, if it's something u r really committed to. You will make time. For the things that are important to you in your life.
Wow you worked 92 hours?!?! you poor guy you must be exhausted! luckily you have a wife who takes care of you
Thanks man, encouraging words right there!
Here's something to ponder. I once dated a woman that new about my use of AAS and when i tried to break it off with her it got ugly. She went around telling ppl I use and threatened to call the cops on me. The whole bit bro. Be careful what you say to some of these broads. They are all nice and seem normal at first until things get ugly.
Sometimes it doesn't pay to be honest.
IMO just about everything in life is on a need to know basis. 2 can keep a secret of 1 of them are dead. I would say all of the ppl in my life (that matter) know this about me... Just because we are good right now doesn't mean we will be good 5yrs from now and then what...? Cynical? Maybe... Drama free? You bet!
From my past experiences and even going into my current situation you couldn't have said it better. If I could +a million I would. I'm not trying to blow you here but what you just said should be taken into consideration by many other people on this site. We can only hope the op listens to very wise words of wisdom.
It's best to find a girl with the same goals. Now that doesn't mean a bodybuilder but someone that enjoys gym time. That way you can do it together. Like Rust says below a big body draws girls in, but then they get insecure because what attracted them attracts others. Girls half my age hit on me with my wife standing right next to me, they act like she's not even there. My wife is secure enough and cocky enough to give them the "I've got what you want". If you want a relationship find a gym rat, if your lucky like me you'll find someone that motivates and push you to ever greater things.
RustyhookerTake her with ya to gym is one way for more time. The other is change your workout time if shes that important. Its not an easy balance and I used to go thru gfs like kleenex back when I was young. They like when your pumped and lookin good then beat ya down with their insecurities. Take life slow and enjoy
This topic hits really close to home for me. I just pulled out of a 3.5 year relationship and it was mostly due to not spending enough time with her. She knew I was a gym addict early on, so I was always confused when she was upset that I would spend 3 hours at the gym instead of on the couch with her. I tried to get her serious about physical fitness but it was never a priority for her. In the end I just felt like I was always letting her down, and never giving her the attention she needed and it wore on me. My body and my career are always going to take precedence, it's what works for me in life.
I never told her about using steroids, but I have to think she must have known. Strange packages in the mail, using all the round bandaids, alcohol swabs, etc... (oh and me putting on 20 lbs and riding her like a rodeo horse.) I don't think I would ever openly it admit it, even if I was caught in the act. I'll always explain it as a B12 or vitamin shot.
Well now I'm just ranting.... good luck with the new whip!
As I've always heard in this great community, "Do what makes you happy!"