posted Sat, 12/01/2012 - 13:25
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How to deal with anger?
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I'm not talking about roid rage, just regular everyday anger. Today as I was walking out of a store , some guy in a truck honked at me to move out of his way in the parking lot as I was crossing. Then I look back and this mofo is looking out of his window straight at me and given me the stink eye. Now normally most people would let that go , but I didn't. I followed that him until he parked and I walked up to his window as I was steaming with anger. Long story short he apologized out of fear because I was ready to pull him out of his car. Any ways I Wana as u all what methods do u use to control ur anger? Really do u guys have a plan, I haven't tried tren but I know some of u get on fire. So what u do? Do u store it all in?
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V-Power-Acheck the advise of a therapist
thanks but i dont think im crazy, lol, just anger bro
AnonBig problem with your thinking bro. Its not just crazy people that go to therapists. A good therapist will make you think and reflect to the point that you may realize why you do what you do, and then you have a better ability to control your self.
I keep a frag with the thumb clip off...
Seriously anger is a personal thing. Since I started to live by the bushido code I have not fallen into many personal traps. While I main be stuck in a phase of vanity right now, the anger is far gone. Please give this a hard look
http://www.eroids.com/forum/general/off-topic/living-like-a-man.-the-bus...
I have to collect rent from tenants..you dont want to deal with them not having money
when you go to pick it up at the first of the month.. its a bitch.. we own the property..
they have excuses. ..not fun.. happen this week.. I drive 40 mins to pick up the
check.. the bf is at home.. the g/f isnt.. i go to the door..which is open.. i bang on the
door..( alot) and I know if your in the house and i hit the door..the whole house shakes..
he comes out and tells me "he cant cut me a check" because his g/f has both check books..
total bs.. i call the day before and leave a message on her VM that were coming
by to pick up the checks.. ( so the bitch knows.) ...
He give me shit - tells me she wants to meet me somewhere to give me the check.. ( WTF ???)
I tell her no.. ill wait here till you show up with the check.. which she has to do on
lunch break.. so I wait.. 20min.. for the cow to shows up... I get the check and walk..
there slobs and not long for being on my property ... people in there 30's.. have
no reasoning of business.. ( if your making money and over 30.. congrats..)..
but im still pissed from having to deal with this..
sorry about the rant..
AnonB, theres a diff though. You were being lied to and someone was blowing off their agreed upon obligation. The story in the topic is about a spur of the moment horn blowing parking lot rage incident. And although you came away mad , you didnt do something like grab the guy by his shirt.
your right.. my tongue has a hole in it from biting it.
( i have had a shit week.). wont go into yesterday and today..
i feel better.. but the last 3 days sucked.
Hey, I just wondered did you kinda feal bad later for freakin the dude out?
not at all. i felt bad about letting loosing control and acting out of anger because I would of lost potential if anything went south. but in my head that guy deserved it, he was being rude as hell, not to mention people that mean mug out the car is a cowardly act, something i always had a problem with, is people who attack and run.
keep in mind that this is new, i never had anger issues
@XvBeast Has any of this helped you bro? There are a few good comments below and a few that clearly haven't ever dealt with consuming rage like a wild beast. They are giving advise similar to telling a heroin addict to just quit like it's that simple and they (the advise giver) have never been addicted to anything to make such a statement. I really hope some of this helps you. I have seen first hand how losing control can ruin your life forever. My brother is a prime example. Several events have basically cost him his life and he was brilliant and talented in many areas. Now he just a f'd up mess of shit just from losing control. Brain damage from too much trauma on revenge attack has made him mental. I take about 15 minutes of peace and meditation a day to be a "normal functioning human" Noone would ever know I was nuts. It may sound gay but give it a try. Find a quiet place and keep telling yourself you are a calm peaceful guy and by avoiding conflict it will bring you positive energy and good things. Or make up your own shit and basically brainwash yourself. Try it
Well I am a recovering addict sober since 7/3/04 and I have anger issues along with a list to long to go into. In both case I play the tape out in my head what will happen if I drink, what will happen If I act on the angery thoughts I am having. They both have the same results, locked up or covered up. You have a split second to make a decision even in the most even in the most consuming rage. In that split second I think my life is actualy pretty good and I know what a cell is like so fuck it Ill just keep my mouth shut and walk away. You are taking a good first step in thinking about your anger and lookin for input.
yes it has, when i experience rage now, i just take my self away from the situation by walking away as far as possible. i was just not prepared for this but now im much better, everything is under control
AnonThis is a good point and along the logic of realizing what you have to loose.
I know someone who had the exact same thing happen ,revenge left him brain dammaged.
He had been fighting this other guy each time they saw each other at a local watering hole. Well the loser of the fight finally decided to get his revenge and waited for the guy I knew to be alone, he snuck up behind him and whacked him in the head with a bat.
AnonIm sorry to say, but a lot of it simply comes with age. I dont know too many young males including my self that didnt have anger issues for one reason or another.
It also depends on what you have to loose in life. When you realize you have something to loose you also realize acting on your anger could cost you a lot.
One thing you can do, is work on being secure in your self. I found a lot of conflicts I engaged in were due to me saving face. Especialy if a girl was around . If you gain a little security in the knowlege that you are above the idiots that seem to attack us constantly, then you will have a better chance at looking past their actions.
I deal with this alot and have alot of history regarding anger and could talk forever with alot of points of views and philosophy about.
But at the end of the day what helps me deal with it or control it is one word.
PRISON !!
All the best !
Acting with anger is just a habit. If it makes your life hard and unpleasant, it's a bad habit but you can get rid of it acting calm and after 2-3 weeks of doing this consciously you'll see that you have this new habit. Henry Ford used to say "Whether you think you can do it or not, you are right." It's up to you.
Oh...my..god, ironically enough the anti depressant that my Endo prescribed me to get my endo system working again causes rage what a mess. now im not depressed just pissed off at the world. im fucking raging worst than any cycle i have done
The root of most anger is a sense of entitlement. If you can relinquish the mind set that we are entitled or owed something by other people it's easy to deal with anger. I've found most anger is just misplaced, ultimately anger is an emotion that is designed to signal to us an injustice has taken place. But normally that "injustice" is not a true injustice its a warped perception malfunction, some jerk off honking at me, I may feel entitled to respect or consideration, but at the end of the day I'm as much an A-hole and POS as the next guy so who cares? knowing who you are, being confident with a sober understanding of your gifts and sins and just being thankful for all the blessings you do have bro.
AnonRight on there ,brother !
Well said!
Yeah bro, I see there are a few really good comments before me. I have fighter in my soul so it's hard to fight the anger some times but just like CAhardcore said, think about how much you have to lose before you react. That moment you are pissed off at some asshole will be forgotten in a day or two. (If like me) It will eat at you all day until you get on a heavy bag or in the cage with someone, but you will forget that ass and that moment. If you react, it's your life that gets screwed and they learn nothing from the beatdown. An ass is an ass and don't change. Try convincing yourself that the poor bastard must be having a really f'd up day if he's crazy enough to mess with you in that moment and feel bad for him.
I don't know how to deal with it either bro, anger has cost me a lot. Roids don't help much either, but I don't care I love em lol.
i usally dont talk about my personal life to much,but i do feel comfortable on here, reading through the fourms i found theres alot people on here that i can relate to. long story short take classes, i went through a custudy battle for about a year and during that time i had some serious anger issues as you can imagine when children are involved. i took parenting after seperation courses and a few others,one of the courses had anger managment in it,this may sound corny but it changed my life..just my two cents
Blow him a kiss and victory sign. Gross him out.
i just started calming down this year. definitely dont hold it in tho. i think you just learn to not let other people affect you negatively
Anonjokes aside tho.. for me, i just try to remind myself that i can't control other peoples actions; only how i react to them. from there its a matter of two different paths crossing at a certain time. we never know what someone is dealing with in their personal life at the moment. dude could be having a bad day all around and chances are that he wont even remember the guy in the parking lot an hour later.
hell, poor bastard prolly just got shot down cuz he's been running bogus caber and his dick is broke. or maybe his cods shrunk up so bad his sack inverted! haha
well I've been through much in my life to bring me to where I am today, and today I am a person that is able to think ahead (usually)..
you gotta realize buddy, that guy could ave pop'd a cap in your ass and not a damn thing you coulda done about it after he did it.. I'm not sure what part of the country you're in and I don't want to know.. but where I'm from you think of those things, because it happens. about 1 in 4 people have a CHL and there's plenty of hoodlums that carry them and illegally.
bro it that god dam anti depressant i start taking , shit make me rage like i never have before
you hit it on the head.... its all about thinking ahead. think before you act like my moms used to say, lucky for me i got meds now to calm the ADD down enough to think before the bi polar knocks someone out lol :-)
I figure it this way, I dont allow others to controll my emotions. So I just dont get angry, now granted I did not learn that until alot later in life after getting myself into trouble many times. That being said, there ARE times when anger IS justified and should be acted on.
Anonhaha. up the AI bro! and thro some gh in the mix
I probably would have done the same thing as you in that situation. People that pull that crap set me off.
I channel it all to the gym. If that doesnt work I will start building something. I enjoy making things from wood and metal every now and then. The gym and woodwork is a good way to just forget about everything that makes me mad or stresses me out.
lol bro, i just found out its the god dam anti depressant that makes me angry