girlfriend won't have sex anymore...
So been dating a girl for 9 months. For the first six, the sex was all the time, and really good. Then it just basically stopped. I know it slows down over time, but it went from almost every time we hung out, to once a week...now its been almost a month.
I've tried talking to her about it, and she got mad...proclaiming "I didn't know you were keeping score!" And she's made comments since like "well since you brought it up, now you made it an issue."
I love this girl but not sure I can endure this. I'm on TRT so the drive is still there. I tried talking to her about it because I think no sex is a red flag there is something wrong in the relationship. I'm a good guy though. I do it all...take her out, buy her flowers, fix stuff around her house, compliment her etc...but she just doesn't want it.
She bought me Xmas presents, talks about plans with me down the road, says she loves me, but no sex.
I'm at my breaking point. I feel like I need to move on, but I do love this girl. Any input? I have had several girls hitting me up lately, but I love this one. Thanks
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My Ukraine babe keeps me satisfied. It is time for an upgrade. Hahhahaha
Time to find another GF bro. If you are not having sex with your girlfriend , odds are, someone else is
I second that, MOVE ON!!!
I've been with my girl for 10 years, but almost a year in we went over 2 weeks without sex, I asked what's up and she swore it was nothing and everything was ok... turned out she had a yeast infection and was self conscious/too embarrassed to tell me about it.
AnonYou know the tongue is an amazing antifungal tool. Get in there champ.
lol!
went through the same kinda shit for felt like years. kinda looked back and realized she was depressed because of every day life shit...just wasn't happy in general ya know...but hang with it and just ask if she happy with life shit!
Well, its been over for a couple weeks now. Not getting any easier. Miss that girl, but its so broken now there is nothing I can do. Met another girl who's hitting me up to hang out. The test-e is telling me yes, my heart is still somewhere else.
Move on, no lust, than theres no love. 9 months and this happens, walk away, and thank God theres no kids. Get on POF, Bumble, etc. Don't be too nice and do to much, just enough!!! otherwise you become a friend, pushover, like one of the girls!!! They want MEN...Dominate MEN figures, they already have there girlfriends.
GOOD LUCK
You don’t have to fall in love just get out there and have a good time.
basskiller89Doesn't help brother, I've been there. Listen to your heart, no homo lol
Maybe you suck in the sack..
Seeing how she isn't anymore
Been with my wife 9 years...5 times a week on avg. Ohh and that time of the month...BJ's BJ's BJ's.
Kick her ass in a snowbank.
AnonUntil she meets that real man that ain't afraid of a little blood.
basskiller89If you really love this girl give it time brother
Women are insane. Maybe she loves you too and is putting you through some ridiculous woman test to see if you value sex more than your relationship with her
If you have the desire and want to be with other women chances are she's not the one for you anyway
Haven't seen her since Monday and she lives 5 minutes from my house. Supposed to see her tonight, I think this is the official we are done talk. If she doesn't meet me, I guess its done anyway, just like to have some official parting words with her. :/
You can do drop-sets but you cant ditch da bitchhh?!!
Harden the fk up brohimbe, youre more man than this!!
Bloody hell are you serious? Walk away why are you meeting her? Glutton for punishment? Lol.
Amen!
No offense Drop, but you need to move on and make a clean start. There is nothing to gain from this and lots to loose. She loves to jerk you around and manipulate you. Don’t let her. Cut her off for good and look forward to a bright future.
That's why I'm going over there. I want to do it in person. I feel like it's been too long to do over text....
Very best of luck. I think we all hope you’re able to come to a solid resolution.
backup2018Sort of looks like she was wanting you to throw the towel in mate. Maybe she just didnt have the guts to do it herself so took the easy option knowing that its going to make you pissed at some stage and maybe blow up about it.
You sound like a good guy like others have said you have been more than patient.
Onwards and upwards mate.
Hope you're well.
Hi, I think you're right. Ended up seeing her Xmas night. Had sex, then she got weird again. Wouldn't hang new years, and haven't heard from her since. Guess its really done...
AnonI would try one more time and just "accidentally" stick it in her ass.
Coupled with the old 'bucking bronco'..... splash factor: 5000!
basskiller89lol
Cut her from your life she's obviously toxic.
Start internet dating straight away, get yourself out there and make some memories.
AnonOr do the complete opposite and just treat yourself, I've found the best things come when you're not looking for them. Until then just live by Dane Cooks quote "Fuck chicks Brian, I just want to dance"
Sorry to hear! Sound like me and my Bf but the other way round lol. Although we have discussed it and he’s got a lot going on so sex isn’t a priority. We are both very happy apart from lack of sex which frustrates me. If its something you need in a relationship and it makes you unhappy that your not getting what you need your doing the right thing by walking away! I’ve made some sex vouchers for my bf for xmas they all expire end of Jan pmsl.
Update....I was supposed to spend night on Thursday and get action..she then went cold and told me she was tired. Supposed to o spend night last night, then invited her kid to sleep in her bed! So I had to leave. Today I was to watch her kids, because she was working. I go over in the morning and she started the "what's wrong comments" unfortunately it boiled over and I went off. Long story short I left in the end and told her to go write a book on how to ruin a relationship and lose a great guy. Haven't heard from her since. :(
Good for you bud. Now go find you a woman who appreciates you!
Looks like going your separate ways might be the best solution now. If you have been in touch with each other since you wrote above.
I'd say you have been more than patient with her. Most men would of cheated to get some or just found someone else. I'd suggest you don't bother going back to her. It would annoy the fuck out of me just not getting an explanation as to why she's not willing to have sex on top of not getting any.
Sorry to hear of your situation, it's seems a shame to have a breakup over no sex of all things as you both love one another.
Thanks, zero contact from her. Just sucks this happens right at Xmas. I already have wrapped presents for her and kids, not sure what to do with them. I don't hate this girl, so not sure if I should just leave them at door..
Yeah bad time of the year for things like this. Try phoning, if she answers say you just want to drop the presents off. If you get that far, see how things are going regarding being together. At least this way you will know that you tried and will be able to go your own way with a clear conscience
If you can't through to her, won't answer the phone, look into returning the presents for a refund. No point losing money on top of everything else.
I’d still deliver them. But I’m a chump from way back.
She’ll probably minimize it and try to make it just about sex, but from the outside, it looks like she wasn’t emotionally available either. If you were having issues now, they’d have probably compounded in the future.
Best of luck man.
AnonHonestly, it just sounds like you deserve a girl without baggage that will appreciate you for you.
Man, I feel for you. Was in a similar position at one point. Madly in love but the bed-room action had dropped to almost 'nil. When I tried to approach the conversation I got all sorts of uncomfortable and brutal accusations.
Listen, often times, the sex life waxes and wanes. Just a fact of long-term relationships (though yours is more medium-term in my opinion). But this kind of stark drop-off is a warning sign.
And if it is a warning sign, then her refusal to discuss the situation and immediately shift into "confrontation mode" is a massive pot-hole.
Relationships for the long-term are built on communication. No doubt about it. I would gently give it a 90% rating in terms of importance. If she is unwilling to listen to you and unwilling to engage in a dialogue about an issue you see in the relationship, then I would suggest you make want to reconsider how much work/time/effort you are going to put into this lass.
If she is unwilling to engage in a conversation about an important cornerstone of any relationship (been in a relationship for 8 years, married for one) then this does not bode well for future issues; religion, children, money, house, etc.
Other people raised a lot of the psycho-analytic points, so I'll let that be for the time being, and suggest that approaching her in a calm and quiet manner, expressing how you feel (no accusations), and inquiring as to her thoughts/emotions on said issue would be a good first solidifying step in order to figure out how to move forward with this whole thing.
I wish you all the luck in the world. Love is a brutal process, but it is also one of the best.
Finally, if you are interested in some more intellectual/experienced views on relationships, I recommend Jordan Peterson on youtube.
Here is one that I found useful:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9VM1UA0pCMQ
Good luck.
Thanks brother.
Is that a special forces flashlight? Looks like the mouth on thomas the train
basskiller89lol "thomas the train" is killing me right now brother
All special forces & grunt personnel are now given one upon graduation of MOS School!!
AnonMine was green, about 4 and a half feet long, made of foam rubber and could also be used as a flotation device.
Wait, I forget... What are you describing? (no homo)
AnonThe rubber bitch or military issue sleeping mat, she's the only thing that held you at night. She typically rode on top of your alice pack. When lonely, she could be rolled up to make a tight hole.
Sounded more like a dildo replicating the hulks anatomy.
AnonWell during the last administration I believe it would have been acceptable for some marines to use them as dildos.
I'd think it would be needed more at the beginning of training. We were only given "lightsaber" cones placed on the end of our flashlights... this would have been so much better.
AnonThe trusty ol moon beam