Hey man I'm basically gling trough the same thing I always only get 3 hours of sleep but I'm getting tough it j keep telling myself these obstacles are just here to make us stronger and I just step over that obstacle and keep pushing. In my opinion from what I read you are doing the right thing you want to make sure your kids are safe, have a roof over their heads, food, education, toys, etc. Just look at the positive parts of this situation and maybe try some therapy that helped me. Find that light inside of you and it's gonna keep pushing you. Things will get better and I hope they got better by now. We are here for you man. Thank you for sharing this with us and letting it out it's always good to do this. Keep grinding man you're doing great you're not just anyone looking at you you're doing so much and still going so keep going don't give up. All love man!

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out. It's completely understandable to feel this way, especially with the demands of work and family responsibilities.

You are not alone in feeling this way, as many people struggle with finding a balance between work and family life. It's important to remember that it's okay to take a break and prioritize self-care, as this can help you recharge and be more present for your family.

It is important to prioritize vacations and plan them ahead to ensure that you are able to spend quality time with your family and alleviate the stress of daily routines. While work may be a necessary obligation, it is important to remember that the ultimate purpose of working is to provide for one's family. Therefore, family should always take priority over work obligations. Communicating with your family about the need for a work-life balance and finding ways to make time for them can also help reduce stress and increase overall satisfaction.
Been there..

How are things going for you now buddy? I hope things have settled down a bit and are more relaxed and enjoyable for you

I’m right there with you. Our kids are similar in age but I knew I wouldn’t be able to manage a third because my wife and I are at our limits now. I think life is a little more stressful given the circumstances of the digital age compared to previous times where we would let our kids go outside for hours on end with kids down the block and overall people were more of the community type. Now, it just seems like everything has amplified over the years given the complexities of the increasing influence of social media. I don’t feel life is going to get easier for the middle class so you and I have had our differences over the recent weeks but trust me I deeply relate to you on this and hope you keep managing. Good luck with the birth of your 3rd. This quote has helped me in the past when feeling like I can’t keep up with the next family

It’s easy to get bogged down with the whole “same shit, different day” stuff. Sounds like you’re being a decent father, going out to work and having a little bit of time for yourself, (gym).

Gym time for me has always been my place to take out the stress and frustration. Much more of a positive then taking it out on people.

I think we all have little runs where it’s like that. Focus on the positives and take out the negatives on heavy stuff in the gym. Glass half full rather than half empty…..

Bro i whas feeling the same getting up 05am getting ready for work driving 1 hour to work with my work mates woeking 10 hours a day returning home fucked up exhausted then you get 2 max 3 hours time with them eat togheter shower them getting them ready for bed etc ... Then they go to sleep i hit the gym 20/ 22pm returning home eating sleeping even on my work i said fuck for what i need to do this im just a fucking number in a company so i searched the chef with the biggest mouth get him outta his cage. We got ik a fight he hit me i hitted him his nose whas broken after that i got my C4 finishd work there now i work on my own i do what i want i start and quite when i want :::::We are going to emancipate ourselves from mental slavery, for though others may free the body, none but ourselves can free the mind.”

I was hitting the afternoon gym sessions several years ago and was having the same struggles. Flipped my sleep schedule and started hitting the am. Gym sessions, it sucked at first but I love it now and wouldn't go back to the after work pm. Sessions. Keep your head up brother those kids need ya!

That's sounds like a rut. Easy fix. Plan fun stuff. Quick day trips every month. A week vacation a few times a year. Whatever you can fit in your schedule. For us, traveling together is our family thing and it keeps us bonded. We do 3 big adventure/experience trips a year and recently got the kids scuba certified so we do that together now too. It's fun for all of us. I come up with idea, present them to my Wife and Kids and we decide what to add to the agenda. My goal is to get them to see most of the world, most of the land aminals and sea creatures before they head out on their own. Keeps us all motivated during the normal work for me, school for them but we know the next fun thing is just around the corner.

Quality time spent with them may be more important than quantity.

Time for a vacation! I always feel like our family vacays sew us up real tight for a while afterwards. Also not sure what weekends look like for you but if you can try to dedicate more 1 on 1 with kids that may help also. We're starting tball soon so I been trying to get boys out for catch for an hour a week. Little stuff like that helps reinforce our relationship with them. It's tough and they really do grow up fast as everyone warns, so I know why you're feeling like this I think we all feel this way from time to time. Do what you can and don't beat yourself up, they will grow up knowing how hard you worked for them and learn to appreciate you and the time you spend together.

I feel ya, Bro, but remember, all those hours you work your ass off is for them too. It’s normal for a REAL man to feel guilty about neglecting his family, because we love them more than anything in the world. But someone’s gotta pay the bills, your gym time is keeping you healthy so that you can actually handle your busy schedule.

Whenever you feel this way, just think about all the fking losers who don’t wanna work and go hang out with their boys or Goomar every day, and then you’ll realize what a great husband/father you really are.

Also remember, gear doesn’t just make you rage, it can mess with all your emotions.

You are most definitely not alone my brother this community is here for you and we all get down sometimes anyone who claims otherwise is full of shit and lying to themselves…..hang in there man and get actual (medical/physiological) help if you think you need it .

I’m certainly not ignorant of the fact you have to make time for family. But it’s them you’re doing this for.

You’ve just described a very normal life my man. Life is hard it’s supposed to be that way. Depending on what you do for work or even as off day take your kids and show them what you do everyday, even from afar. . Say ‘ the lesson I’m teaching you is always provide for your family ‘. I do this everyday so we can have the things we have.

We each have two lives, the second one begins when we realize we only have one.

I would prefer to be stressed everyday of my life than comfortable. You’ll go broke otherwise. Finically and spiritually. Seek discomfort every single day of life….. follow David Goggins ……