posted Sun, 09/05/2021 - 16:09
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Hey eroids!! Just getting back into the swing of things after a miserable 4 year marriage. Have been in and out of the gym and I'm finding hard to get back the motivation I had before my marriage. For the ones that have been in this spot, what are some of the things yall did to regain motivation and start killing it again. Currently just on my normal trt and plan to keep it that way for a while. Hope yall have a great labor day.
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Well honestly ask yourself what you were deprived of during the marriage. This can be a number of things but learning to enjoy those things again will really open your eyes as to what life can really offer. Using that joy to make you want to push your life to its fullest should allow you some motivation to getting back to it, and the marriage let you know what you lost when you stopped.
I have to say, my divorce was definitely motivating. I was free to pursue interests previously poo-poo'd by a genuine article bitch-on-wheels ex-wife. I would think getting back into fitness and getting in shape and entering the single life again.....at your own pace would be exciting and fun. It takes some time to carve out your new life. Enjoy
When you see a hot woman you really want to have sex with and you know if you get jacked she will be in your bed. Plus your ex seeing you jacked with her skinny and new guy and she begs for your cock behind his back.
PropheticWookieNow it is very important to find places of power and what brings us happiness. And then covid, waves, restrictions.
Old post I get it but what better time for self reelection coupled with a physical change; you’re gonna surpass you’re former self, you’ll find love that you deserve all these things we get from a solid failure turns us into the machines we are today.
Robert Frank is usually a good motivator for people going through breaks ups and divorce.
PropheticWookieI'm not familiar with his work, I'll have to read it. Where can you find them?
This happened to me about 1@1/2 years ago already
But 23 years of being with 1 person
Devastated, depressed,lonely even when i had people around, and covid gyms closed then,
Gym Opened went back to the gym , hair cut , new clothes ,boots and 180.00 sneakers. It was MY TIME time to invest in ME my life had to move on. Even of i didnt want it to. Time heals and becoming the best version of yourself and of course signed up on a dating app and found a girl 10 years younger than me and LOVE ME SOO MUCH ..
You decide !!!!! Make a move
I remember when this all happened bud and you were very upset at the time - Now look how time has moved on & changed that and you are now WAYYY Happier!!
PropheticWookieI remember when I got divorced. there was nothing at all hunting, not eating, not moving. The hunt was to drown in bottles. But I overpowered and forced myself to go to the gym. And the hall saved me and also got a cat. Here are two moments that pulled me out of despondency and hopelessness.
It feels like the end of the world at the time doesnt it…
PropheticWookieYes. you quite correctly described the condition. That the world has collapsed. And not even that I was at a loss, but the fact that I seemed to be very shitty and had no strength or desire to fight it. Any movement caused a wild lack of desire. As if they took out the soul and the body is empty. But I'm glad I was able to overcome this and I'm glad that I found a solution. Here I wrote about my steps, it may be useful.
See there ya go Bud - the trick is to spend time with another pussy!!
PropheticWookieThis is certainly an option, but there were such thoughts. But I guess I'm not much of a different person. Although I think the option is working
PropheticWookieOn the topic of motivation, I had the following observation. Often you don't even want to get out of bed, but as soon as you get up, your feet are already making you move. So it is with the hall. Here the guys wrote correctly, the most difficult thing is to get to the hall. The main thing is to force yourself and start. Any path begins with the first step, it is the most difficult and important. At such moments I made it a rule for myself to come to the hall in any case and it doesn't matter whether I want or don't want to. I started with light warm-up approaches and the body itself began to work and it always ended with a good workout and a good mood. And I walked home with the feeling that I could and overcame my laziness and lack of motivation. This is my experience. can it help you
PropheticWookieIt seems to me that you need to start working in the gym and make short-term goals that you will quickly and easily achieve. It will bring you positive emotions. Again, I concentrate on those things that bring emotions, this will also bring you happiness. I did this in due time
Also the stair machine usually has the best “view “ in the gym.
Break up with wife or gf… the Old saying - best way to get over an older live is get under another. While it may not allow you the real time you need to truly heal & allow the chemical imbalance that comes from separation to rebalance, having sex, having fun, working out & looking good will do so despite the effort, undoubtedly make you feel better than you do.
Make sure to keep busy, spend time with friends & work on bettering yourself at some kind of skill that benefits you.
Bigshinsu77This happened with my first marriage. I used the divorce as motivation, even though it was mutual I just told myself I was going to build a body that all the women wanted and she would regret ever loosing me! Lol. If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.
Go to the gym everyday when you get off work, even when you don't feel like it, just do a little something. Then I suggest to download the app Tinder. Become a man whore for a few weeks.
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This is just what you need to hear... Hope it motivates you like it does for me... Best wishes my guy!
I feel for ya as I’m sure most can.. motivation comes and goes. Start forcing yourself to do things that keep your mind off of the negative shit. Not even necessarily the gym. Some things are great and some things aren’t. You’ll end up filling the time focused on doing things for you and motivation follows. Best of luck
Whether we were married or we were just in love and lived with them, we have ALL been there pal. My last relationship ended with her cutting my heart out with a spoon then probably eating it with her favourite ice cream! You feel so low and shit at first the last thing you wanna do is bust through a training session when it already feels like you have been drained of your heart and soul - BUT this is what you have to do. First few sessions i felt awful through out from not being able to eat properly with my stomach cut up knowing she was laid on her back being rogered by some other guy - BUT this is exactly what you have to face because you know how much BETTER you will feel in several days time. Once you start to see those gains coming back along with the endorphin rush that bitch will be a distant memory. Once I then get back into training I reflect on how much I neglected it in my relationship through having barely any time for myself or simply because she use to to say 'oh do you have to do that tonight!!' Lol Stay strong and I guarantee you will in time feel so much happier and better than you were before - You are now your own man again!!
Most of us have been there in some shape or form. Better things to come. Can’t change what you did yesterday so all that matter is what you do today and tomorrow. Gym will prevent depression and all the evils that come with it.
Time. It just takes time. Lift when you can and feel like it and don't be discouraged if you don't get to gym just because you didn't have the motivation. Just try to do things you enjoy and then one day you will say to yourself why was I so bummed over that. The more you can get in a stable routine the quicker that day will come. The hardest part of many workouts is just getting to the gym so the battle is mostly won once you get there.
PropheticWookiehow I got to the forum. I read your messages and more and more I am imbued with respect for you. I want to shake your hand for your answers and literate advice. I emphasized a lot for myself and of course I follow your topics
RustyhookerStair machine at gym. I hate that damn thing but it raises endorphines. Natural happy juice. Burns fat of fast too so visual changes come quickly
PropheticWookieI hate this Stair machine, running or treadmill works better for me. But the rhythm should be light. I hate this Stair machine
AnonThat machine goes hard. I don't use it, no need, but I have watched some bulky guys slim down and build killer calves at the same time in months. I'm talking about the guys who come in the gym and get drenched in sweat climbing that thing.