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Ok kids, Do you know what drives me effing crazy? People who hate it when other succeed. I get it. It's human nature, but damn it's rediculous. This notion that people feel like they fail when others succeed is pathetic and vice-versa the notion that when other people fail I succeed is absolutely ridiculous.
Every damn one of us are surrounded by people who claim to be our friends but hate to see us succeed. That is crazy to me.

If people around you succeed you are succeeding! Truth! Why piss your pants over someone else's success?
Recently, I had some close friends fall on a terrible misfortune. It was incredibly sad to watch. They are very well off. And the misfortune made the news. These were good people, worked their asses off, and made their own name and their own money, yet people were cheering because the rich people deserved it.
I don't know, maybe it's late and I'm just rambling. Hell, This post may not make sense to anyone but I will tell you this as my final thought......
if you feel that your success is greater when others fail, you aren't successful and you will never be. Take that shit to the bank.

All my love, no homo
Ed

Ozninjaguy's picture

In Australia it's called the Tall Poppy Syndrome - "a perceived tendency to discredit or disparage those who have achieved notable wealth or prominence in public life." It's supposedly based on the notion of an egalitarian society where no-one is better than anyone else, and if a 'poppy' (person) grows taller than the rest - he or she is cut down to size. It's not really egalitarian - it is jealousy at it's most fundamental premise. It really is sad to see that so many people are jealous of another person's wealth/achievements/status/possessions, to the point of attacking them for having those things. I'm envious of some people and the things that they have - but for me envy and jealousy are entirely different. I have achieved a lot of things in my life and of course there are so many people who have achieved a lot more, but conversely many more who have achieved less...and each person measures personal success in different ways, , so I have a fairly philosophical attitude to other people's achievements/success. As I have always said - if you continue to compare yourself to others - you will never be truly happy. So I don't criticize/judge other people's success, simply because I don't know their personal journey to achieve it and it really doesn't impact my life anyway.

Gymjunkie01's picture

I have 3 12 ounce NY strip steaks on the grill ... envy that beeeeatch lol

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Engineereddisaster's picture

I would if I wasn't eating an effing prime cut porterhouse as we speak nookah!

XmadXscientist's picture

I remember you making a post about losing your favorite steakhouse :(

Here's a way for you to make the best steak

https://www.eroids.com/forum/general/off-topic/diy-beef-dry-aging-make-t...

Gymjunkie01's picture

Lol

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helloBrooklyn's picture

Since I don't have any friends I guess I just don't have to worry about it either way.

Engineereddisaster's picture

I'd be your friend if you weren't from Brooklyn.
Sorry dog.

NPC4years's picture

I actually don't even look at it as you venting. I look at it as you taking the initiative to post something absolutely worthy and good.

Some people are innately critical and envious, but with the right input from the right, exemplary people, anyone can change. THAT, is tough. And that which is honorable, upstanding, and altruistic in others is worth defending and and protecting.

Engineereddisaster's picture

Well said. Thanks for the positive words.

twistedsister's picture

It's the haves vs the have nots which is the oldest form of Marxism they have been taught to hate and envy those with more money than them or if the person is more successful...
Not trying to get political just saying the amount of hate here in America as of right now is crazy just pure bat shit crazy.
Sorry to hear about there misfortune maybe one day people will learn to stand on their own merits and if their success doesn't match their ambitions maybe it will motivate them to try harder

Engineereddisaster's picture

I know exactly where you are going and you hit the nail on the effing head with that comment.

Theophany's picture

You know brother Ed, one thing that always sticks out in my mind and always will is a quote by the late comedian Dom Deluise:
"When a good guy hits a home run, you yell yeah"
Why begrudge another persons successes and victories? If you choose to do so, you are only putting a ceiling on your own! Life is funny that way!
I love that stout hearted man, what a great guy! Would have loved to share an Italian meal with him!

Engineereddisaster's picture

Great Quote! Thoughtful as always. You probably could have thrown in a no homo after mentioning sharing an Italian meal with another dude. Smile

XmadXscientist's picture

Everyone wants you to do well but never better than them, it's stupid and petty. The last couple years I've been trying to be proactive and pump people up, push them to take chances and help take chances that can be rewarding. It's so much easier to be nice to people and if you help someone and they're a good person it will come back to you down the road.

giardap's picture

Real Karma. You're right.
Your post has me thinking about how I 'speak' to people on this site... there's definitely a better way.

Check out the article I posted below, I'd say you would enjoy it, from a psych perspective

XmadXscientist's picture

I don't recall seeing any ill will in your post nor in my exchanges with you. I read the article and it makes good points, unfortunately the people it addresses probably won't read it or care to make a change. You can only control yourself and hope that your actions and words lead to positivity in others.

giardap's picture

lol no, not directed to you. more so to the 3cc'ers of this world!
Yeah it's unfortunate, for sure, but I do believe that positivity can spread, as you say
Here's to controlling yourself, I guess!!! (and lower tren doses all round lol)

Engineereddisaster's picture

As a 4cc'er I can say that the 3cc'ers need to be addressed

Engineereddisaster's picture

I agree with that.

MedDx's picture

Sociopaths...

Engineereddisaster's picture

Ya known it really kind of is right?

daksmack's picture

You're only as strong as your weakest link. Bring people up, not down. Be humble....

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Engineereddisaster's picture

Boom

TheFlash85's picture

There is alot of cunts who feed off other ppls misfortune.

Its happened too me also.

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Engineereddisaster's picture

Straight up cuntery.

giardap's picture

Totally agreed!
Begrudgery is a psychological epidemic and it's a shame; however, there is a better way to live/behave. You might find the mind-trick in this article interesting, not that you need it.....
https://www.irishtimes.com/life-and-style/health-family/begrudgery-what-...

Engineereddisaster's picture

Excellent article. Thanks for the post.

Pale's picture

Haters are out there. I get a lot myself.

Engineereddisaster's picture

I'd be willing to bet the new toys brought a little resentment. Lol.

GrowMore's picture

Who wouldn't be resentful of his new cum blaster 3000 mega tron with dual action cyclone suction boosters and removable semen collection tray male masturbation unit.

Engineereddisaster's picture

I told you about that in confidence ass!

Pale's picture

LOL.

WelshNmad's picture

In my experience those success haters are massively unsuccessful and insecure about it

Engineereddisaster's picture

Agreed

GhostBulk's picture

No one cares about you and your success..yeah it's hard to pass over those thoughts and live a normal life because all these thoughts ruin your perceptions of normal things and at least it killing you from inside.

Engineereddisaster's picture

Winning attitude.

Dacky's picture

Couldn't agree more brother.

I have personally experienced this myself a lot over the last few years. Having some success in my personal and professional life shower who my true friends were. Manj simply shower how truly jelous they are. At the end of it though I now know who is truly happy for me and supportive. Through it all though I kept my head held up high and to this day I am still truly happy for those who couldn't be for me.