posted Tue, 02/18/2014 - 19:44
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Opinions - Would you be cool with your girlfriend/boyfriend being friends with an ex lover/fuck buddy?
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Just in general, how would you feel and what are your policies on ex's, in relation to FWB or actually having dated - either for them hanging out one on one, in a small group, or having them invited to your S/O's parties, etc.
Not just, do you trust your S/O, but do you feel good seeing people and knowing they've had a turn in the sheets with your lady/man? It's not about cheating, because if they're gonna cheat they're gonna cheat, it's just about respect/needs/personal morals.
Thoughts?
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Unless there's kids involved it is a sure sign of disrespect. It exposes a lack of character and an indication they are not leaning towards you 100%. It would violate my boundaries. When after I explained that to them, if the reaction is "I'm being insecure" I would choose my peace and dignity over them. Let them decide how insecure my choice was when they are left alone. You don't need anyone in your life. You should want someone who wants you.
Fuck! That! Period!
For one I feel like it's a level of respect towards the man your with not to be talking and or hanging out with guys you've fucked. If she doesn't put how it makes you feel above her desire to associate with an ex that's a big red flag in my book. Like, you'd rather chill with this dude knowing it makes me feel a certain way rather than understand and give a shit about me feeling that way. If they're not fycking then why put you thru feeling like shit ya know....is it that important to have interaction with this other guy? Fuck no.....unless?? My 2 cents.
Nope fucking way.
Hell Noooo! Even if you broad is a cool ass chic, its a recipe for disaster. Let me say it again HELL NOOO!
amen.
No.
I would be cool with my boyfriend being friends with any woman as long as i know, and believe me i would know, that he doesn't have ANY desire to sleep with her.....
lets face it when most ppl cheat, its not with a former lover its generally a new one...need to always pay attention to the "new" friends yr partner makes...
however, i would not wanna date a man that had feelings for one of his ex's whether he was friends with her or not
actually, women are more likely to sleep with someone they've already slept with, scientifically speaking.
btw i missed the part of yr post where you said they would be hanging out together one on one thats a big negative..when i meant "friends " i meant once in while talk, or if they see each other in passing but hanging out on a regular basis....no way, then they're not just friends
what about groups?
Groups are fine but once in a while...
most women will only continue sleepin with a guy they have feelings for....men can just sleep with a woman who he's had great sex with but nit necessarily has feelings for..so if she has zero feelings for the guy then she can def hang out in a group and go home with her girlfriends...if however, she still has feelings then she very well may be goin home with him...i think its safe to say once you've met someone yr really into...no previous ex could make you cheat if yr 100% over them and yr really happy with the new person, this applies to both men & women alike.
def absolutely disagree! ;)
uh uh no he di entt.
RustyhookerNope. If they like that ex so much...dont let the screendoor hit ya.
what if they "never saw them as more than friends" and "it was a drunken mistake"?
bro hes still tampered ur girl... how does he taste? you wana sit with someone whos fkd ya misses ? why not get a bottle of vodka have a drink togther ...have anothr mistake on ur hands ..no way ..id tickle his tummy with some steel like elmo on crack....hahaha
exactly man. like no way man, unacceptable. i dont care if a girl's a virgin or not but she better not be bringing that shit into our relationship.
lol if shes not a virgin bro its a no no ok.......pmsl
new policy: only date virgins.
i like a dude who learns quick........are you a virgin??????? hahahaha
i wish, only because i sleep with psychos.
crazy = better in bed?
hmmm im crazy...do you think thats why i wank so much???
yes, yes I do.
No way would I be cool with tht
Does this really happen nowadays or is this a joke?! Well the world is always in need of more organ donations
BigBmajI feel like this sort of thing happens all the time. I'm good friends with almost all of my old girlfriends and I will be friends with my ex wife soon. I do think it's possible for two grown adults to get together and not have sex. To most people avoid all the people they slept with prior to current relationship?
I don't know what's right?
I get understand the concept in that context of a ex wife. But not an ex FWB I mean really it was a relationship primarily about the sexual benefits. Now personally my take is this about any ex anything if you still really like the person that much why are they your ex? Like I said just my take on it. But I have issues liking things nice and wrapped up one way or the other lol.
Ultimately it really is an individual preference not a law one way or another. Would I want to be with someone who has one foot in the past and one in the possible future...no I wouldn't. I believe it divides the focus on building a new solid relationship. Now if it is just about superficial sex... well whatever.
You nailed it imo
i dont even care if they slept with them, ive knocked dudes for looking at my misses and also bashed a dude from her work for writing on her facebook that he liked the cupcakes she took to work, fk em dont interact with my misses if i dont give permission or i know them or at least met them
BigBmajWhat? You hit someone who mentioned he liked the cupcakes she brought to work? Why all the insecurity generating this type of jealousy? That's not good at all.
I'm just a different breed I suppose. Anyone can approve of my girls cupcakes without me going nuts. It's got to be hard to have all that anger inside.
hahaha, not jealous bro just showing whos boss, im a skitso bro any excuse will do, but the answer is why does he think he can comment in public on her page when i dont know him ? what will others think...i fight nearly everyday mate its my life style .....the way i am, im an angry person hahaj jks mate how you been.........
BigBmajOhhh the Facebook battles. I got it.
No
FKN NEVER..................... END OF STORY.
Jail time for me if that shit went down.
damn right.
lmao me too
They are EX'S for a reason bro........ fuck me once shame on you... fuck me twice shame on me..
Ace VenturaNO!! this should be common sense.
thank you! it's just super disrespectful! and even if it was a bad choice or a mistake, mistakes of consequences and sometimes you have to just move forward!
Not me. This cost me a marriage. I was trying to be the progressive, trusting type and it steadily got worse til she slipped and fell on his dick. Now she calls me up every couple months crying about how it didnt mean anything and she wants to get bsck together. Aint gonna happen. Itll never happen to me again like that, I promise you. The worst part is her ex told me she cheated on everybody shes ever been with and when I asked her about it BEFORE we got married, she said I was diffetent. And my dumb ass believed her.
well, that's reassuring
BigBmajI know the feeling. Hope you are getting over it without too much misery.
Thanks. Her friends are helping me get over it. That thing alayna said in her thread about girlfriends sharing info on a guy? Its true. Lmfao!!
Sorry to hear that Bro, best thing is learn from the mistake and never let it happen again.
Yeah. And not take it out on other women. And not take it as a knock on my manhood. Tuff one there.
Chaz32621I dunno man it always bothers me especially when you start to date the girl you feel like she wasnt messing around and moved away from the people she fucked like you did. I don't hang out with girls I fuck they don't deserve the respect for it especially if they put out on day number one. But yet again the girl I'm dating didn't put out till date four so maybe she's honest. But knowing this and knowing she just fucked some other dude before we met without there being a relationship at all shows u there true colors. How come I wasn't the one to just get some she's got daddy issues and I shoulda ran before my heart got involved.
Youre fishing for reasons to suffer.. I get wanting to see the best in people and emotions can really screw with how you see things clearly... go read over your thread again lol.. many many red flags and out right disrespect from the girl
Anonfuk that!
Only if the ex was aware if he steps even slightly out of line he's going to get hurt.......
If he's comfortable with that threat hanging over him, I'm pretty confident nothings going to happen.
Yeah that is a good answer. I went to jail for my actions and would go again in a heartbeat to prove my ( your) point. Didnt touch her, but I beat the living shit out of him while she watched. He refused to go to court and I walked. I was going to trial, no guilty plea! [:|