Ethical debate- sex offender dating a single mother
Alright- Im going to need some opinions here guys. About 4 years ago I moved into an apt building with about 12 units. In the unit next to mine was this guy in his mid 20's who was arrested attempting to sexually assault a girl 13 or under. This was confirmed by online court dockets and news articles.
Even with out knowing his past you can tell there's something really off with this guy. On a few occasions he would open his door when my girl friend visited and start talking to her. We were convinced he was looking at the parking lot and deliberately putting himself in a position to be around her. It happened so regularly that I pulled him aside and scared the piss out of him.
Eventually he moved out with a few other tenants who were renting a house. I kept in touch with one of the other guys that lived with him, and he told me that this perv was constantly trying to bring high school girls back to the house from the local high school.
Here's my dilemma: The other night I was face booking and I saw his profile had a pic of him and a women around the age of 40. I clicked through a few pics and profiles and realized this was a girl he was dating. My first impression was great he found someone age appropriate for once. Then I clicked on her profile. Shes a single mother of a 6 year old girl.
I would really like to make a fake account and forward his criminal record to the mother in the interest of protecting the child.
I would do this in a heart beat... But last year the police charged me with harassment for posting a photo of an ex boss next to Mr. Ed with a caption calling her a horse face. In that case they tracked my IP address and brought me to court. So im really hesitant to put my family through that again.
What would you do?
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breakingfaceAny one interested in helping me legally forward public information PM me.
I would call the police and explain your concern. You aren't breaking any laws and I don't know a cop that would pass up a chance to lock up a pedo.
Say something bro, do it in a nice way just letting her know,if he already told her then great, if not atleast now she knows to watch out... Thats a little girl who you might be able to save a ton of pain, SPEAK UP BRO, your in a position to do so.
jokerlabzGetting charged for harassment will only cause temporary problems, a child molested at a young age.....their innocence and youth stolen and destroyed. Whatever trust they have in adults, GONE. You know what to do,.might be the best thing you do for that lil girl.
. If it was me , I would ..... In a heartbeat....
If you feel that 6 year old girl is in any danger I would do anything to help. Even if it meant being charged for harassment. it's not like talking to the mother is considered harassment.
At least add her on facebook and send her a message of your concern. If she decides to chalk it off, then that's her fault. But at least you know you did the right thing
That's fucked up bro - do what you can to save the kid man, shes a baby.
breakingfaceWow. Thanks guys. Every comment was excellent. I see the validity in all the arguments. That being said, If something happens to this kid I will feel culpable. Simply because I had all the available information.
We live in a society that requires our collective effort. Part of that effort is the protection of those who cannot protect themselves.
Ill sleep on this tonight, but at the very least I may have an out of state friend forward the message. I don't think there is anything illegal since all the information is public record. Using regular mail was a great idea- but I simply do not have her address.
Thanks guys!
I never post on this site as I I am here to learn and I feel I don't have anything to add, however;
I can not believe for a fucking second you are considering (and some are even suggesting!) that you do nothing!?
It makes me sad for what society has become that you or anyone would condemn a six year old to a fucked up existence for any reason.
I don't consider myself a hero or a do-gooder but come on man, do the right thing. You don't even need to get your own hands dirty, just let the mum or the authorities know...
scums like that are in P.C IN PRISON FOR A REASON... i beat a fool once around my block same conviction and the reason this fool try to talk to my little cousin.... be the protector brother save a life feel me... this also hits close to me.... when i was about 12yr i looked if i was 7yrs i was @ a local arcade in downtown and this man kept insisting i come with him for a soda around the corner and everytime i was playing a game when match was over he was right there waving @ me.. thank god i was street trained.. and luckly the local city bus pulled up and i jumped in...
but what could of happen is the thing...
Do what you've gotta do to protect that little girl. Hell, go talk to the lady about it. There is no law about talking to someone about warning someone about their sex offender boyfriend. It's not harassment, and even though the law can be shady, they'll never side with a pedo.
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quite the moral dilemma. on one hand, we live in a sea of filth and you stepping in could be a drop in the bucket, wouldnt even matter and you might get in trouble. HOWEVER, if you saw someone drowning would you help them or try not to get involved for fear of a lawsuit? Not an apples to apples comparison but its something to think about. You have an opportunity to possibly save a childs life from abuse. Thinking its not your problem is a defeatist attitude and its why the world has turned to shit.
Theres a quote that im going to butcher but it goes something like : the only thing evil needs to survive is for good men to stand by and do nothing.
pick a smart way to do it, like alloneword said below, hes probably got something disallowing contact with children. I would print the court docs and try to notify an authority figure. Take the time to get involved legally and above the table.
Definitely let the woman know. Use tormail.org, which will mask your IP address. There will be no way to track where the email came from.
https://www.torproject.org/
RustyhookerTurn it i.to the police and fake account to warn the mother. Thats all bad right there! Be a hero bro!
Now don't get me wrong...I like young ladies. I'm 35...early twenties hell yeah, but as the father of 5 & 6 year old little girls this sickens me. I can't fathom how someone can be sexually attracted to a prepubescent child. I know what I would do, but I'm not gonna tell you cause big brother is always watchin.
Walk away. There are a ton of sick fucks all around you and sure it would be nice to kill them all but you jsut can not do it. Your life gets lost over that sick fuck. I have been divorced and the bitch I was married to I had kids with. One of my kids came to me and told me that mommy's boyfriend beat them while mommy sat crying in another room. The absolute hardest thing I have ever had to do was not kill that guy. I still to this day think about it all the time. If I would have beat him I would have lost my kids for good. Now I have full custody and about to get the bitches rights taking away totally. I won by backing off and swallowing pride. One day that mother fucker will pay but my kids will be grown and their dad will not be needed.
You are a bigger man than I my friend...or should I say more patient. I'd no doubt be in a 6 x 8 footer.
If he was convicted, more than likely, it is stipulated that he's not to have contact with children without consent from the state. Call his PO with an anonymous tip and they'll investigate it. Or, move on and forget about it. I wouldn't get involved electronically.
Wardi77Well....two choices...protect YOUR family from the drama and not to mention legal fees that might arise by sticking your nose in others' business, or protect another family from a pedophile. I presume you are not law enforcement so I would go with the first choice. My family is always first. You cant save everyone, nor is it your job to.
Anonprint the court notes out and post them to her
Come on man read what you wrote. They tracked your IP already ! Y go through it again ? Think smarter ! There are other things you can do.