Once a Whore always a Whore. I hate cheaters it's the weakest character to have and sorry if offends I just seen way to many friends dump hundreds of thousands of dollars into a life that they were pre-warned about.

I was in a similar situation, myself, was going to get married, had a house build and car etc etc..
Found out that she cheated on before a little bit before the wedding and it just kept eating at me. It doesn't bloody stop. If she's done it once, what's not to say that she will do it again?
Congrats on going through with the marriage, but believe me, you will be spending years on that couch. It will always be at the back of your head and you won't forget it. It's going to be hard to forgive the past but you've already taken the leap and have sought counselling, which is a step forward.

Congrats on you marriage. I hope it works out for you and you find peace. I sent you friend request. I wanna share something with you personal as a married man to married man who understands your situation and resent

Plenty of more sluts in the sea my man!
Fuck go to europe, balkans, brasil, thailand.
Then you will see real women dude with class and who will look after you.
Fuck these American me, me, me, me reality TV chicks, whom want the hole cake and then more!!
Aussie chicks are even worst!!!!
I don't date any of them anymore. They have too many tickets on themselves and believe you me they aint that fucken good especially when you visit the above.
Don't get married dude for fuck sake. Play the game, if your a juice junky you will have them bouncing off you like a pinball machine. Overseas though!!!!
A leopard doesn't change it spots my brother!
Don't forgive and be treated like some bloody doormat.
GROW balls man, you are the FUCKEN CATCH NOT THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hard words my friend, but wise up. If you a fit kent, looking good, have a brain, then the world and the bitches in it are yours for the choosing!
Example: Hire an excort once a month, that way you don't have to put up with shit. YOU get to pick what you want. (some hot 19 year old with big tits) whatever.
It's fucken heaps cheaper man!!!!!!!
But TRAVEL please dude.... You will realise that western women & their bullshit feminism movement is failing.
You deserve better and it's not some fat couch 100kg slut who still thinks she is a super model.
REMEMBER: Your the catch not them!!!!!

embarrassed? cheated on while in jail for 90 days? you asshat think about that. 3 months?, it's not to much of a stretch to imagine something hasn't happened before or was already in the works.. didn't come completely clean, you had to drag the truth out? dude flag on the play.. over and over again, red fucking flags! if I was your friend and you told me that I'd honestly probably punch you right in the face or slap you upside the head for asking me such a question. no joke. that you are even considering marring her is stunning, that must be some good pussy.. you should drop her and bang her friend that did you a favor, not to get the girl back, no you should forget about her and not look back she is not a wife. you should bang her ex-friend because she actually did you a favor.. and it would be just great. amazing probably.

U guys have got to be fucking kidding me. Yeah, stay with a girl who cheated on u when u were gone. She must be a keeper... A woman whos down for u is gonna save it for u and u only. Go ahead and take her back, she'll do it again cuz there were no consequences. Really? We r all human so its ok to fuck everybody. Hey man, if u wanna share ur girl with me then send her my way "brother". Start a garden and get a kitten so while ur planting veggies she can blow somebody in the kitchen, u idiot. Worst advice I've ever heard. And fellas, its not bad enough that she cheated, but then she lied to him and kept it from him for 5 years. He found out about it from her friend, so that means she was bragging about and making him look like a fucking idiot because everybody else knew it. Get real, grow some balls, leave u idiot

learn to forgive, and it will be one of the greatest achievements of your life. We are primates man.
Really? cheating?
There are only people on this planet Its not like she was with space man. All people come from the same earth, the same blood. Brothers and sisters. When we die we all return to the same place. Women and men are not different. We are just people, all equal, and equally inflammable.

Stop judging her asap. Forgive her. Plan some things to do toge5ther. Start a garden. get a kitten. Make a pie.

The moment you come back to being humble, your happiness will return. We are just tiny little people floating on a rock in space.

If I had someone tell me this perhaps I would still be with the love of my life, that I still deepley love and care about to this day. I still dream of her.
She cheated when I was in Iraq bro.
I never forgave her truly until many years later. I wish I had grown the fuck up, harden the fuck up, and humble the fuck up sooner.
We stayed engaged and had a painful 3 years where I turned to drugs because I was hurt. Time did not heal me, but my actions did. I came to realize that I love her still, and I wish I had forgave her, and not gone and cheated myself.

I still love her man. Dont be like me. Learn to forgive her now!

not trying to steal your post... but...

I was married for ten years..( perfect or so i thought.) never fought.. argued 10 times in ten years..
came home a month before our 10 year anniversary .. she had been talking to her X from high school
online.. and she split to go with him.. she didnt say shit to me.. left me with the bills and CC and the rest.

If they cheat.. its not worth it.. no matter what.. Would I take her FAT ASS back ?.. NEVER....
would I get married again ??.. F_K NO !!!!... better off on my own.. MUCH!!!!

just my 2 cents..

Sorry to hear that brother. The bad news is....you've wasted 5 years with her. The good news is...u know who she really is now. I mean if she can't hold out for u for 90 days then the answer should be pretty clear. Obviously when times are tough, she falls apart. If u guys get married u will go through many tough times together and its essential that u know u can count on her. And what makes it worse is that she was obviously bragging to her friends about these incidents. And u probably dont wanna hear this, but that makes it even worse, she basically humiliated u bro. Call it quits, hit the gym, bang one of her friends, and move on.

Mate no offence... But what would make u even think for a second that she wouldnt do it again? Once its done the first time it only gets easier...

If you can ever really learn to trust her again I would be amazed. If suspicion doesn't eat at you every time something doesn't seem right I want to know how you do it. One thing I suggest is a DNA test once the child is born. If it's yours great, if not you know and either way you have piece of mind.

It gnaws at you forever mate, you can forgive but forgetting isn't going to happen. Someone I was with did it to me and we moved on but some things remind you even 10yrs later and it still hurts then.

If you can live with that then all power to you :-)

Cancel that shit. I'm ready to pack my shit and leave too.

Here is how you know she is the one and will stay. Fuck one of her friends right before the wedding and if she does not call it off...Then maybe there is some hope. And possible threesomes in the future. Preferably with another girl

It depends on if you can live with it or not. If you can find a way of getting past it without constantly throwing it back at her, your relationship is definitely salvageable. Once the anger subsides, you may feel different, but only you can answer that.

Good luck.

fuck that situation!!!!! same thing happened to my best mate while he was in another country for work for a couple weeks, they were engaged, only found out cos the guy she was with emailed him letting him know a year after it happened, she denied it, then partially came clean, he forgave her, then he found out she had cheated again... seriously if she cant come clean to u then she would lie to u again, fuck her off. sorry but if she didnt have the guts to tell u the complete truth after asking about it, then she'd be bullshitting about other stuff aswell..

find the power to forgive her, listen to your heart and you'll know what to do
sometimes, we all make mistakes, but this doesn't makes us bad persons, we are just humans
if you can forgive her, go ahead
anyway, make up your mind NOW

Id call it off. She may have even done this before. Shes probably done the same thing to past boyfriends. If you do go through with it....From Kanye West-holla we want prenups, its sometin dat you need to have, cuz when she leaves yo ass she gonna leave wit half,

Some things may be forgiveable, but may never be forgetable. You will get many opinions on whether you or not you should forgive. If you belong to any religion, those religions will usually tell you that these things should be forgiven. Likewise, if you to to a professional marriage counselor, they'll have a million ways to train you to forgive.

However, the primary issue isn't about forgiveness. The primary question is whether you can FORGET. Whether you can forget will have a huge effect on your quality of life over the course of this marriage. In my opinion, sexual infidelity is something a man can NEVER FORGET, no matter how hard he tries. It will always be a cloud hanging over him. If it were me, I would not want to enter into a lifetime of marriage where I will always have the thoughts and images of the betrayal lurking in the back of my mind. I might be able to forgive her, but I'll never be able to forget to the point of erasing the scar.

You're a young, fit, and capable guy, as shown by your stats and by the fact that you've taken initiative to build your body. You should have little trouble finding someone else to start a clean slate with.