posted Sat, 08/03/2013 - 09:22
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Do people treat you differently?
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Very simple question. Since you started lifting, and or went back to lifting, and or, went back to the gym. DO YOU get treated differently? ESPECIALLY with the people you work with, etc? Not going to tell you if I do, or how I do, but would like to see if my suspicions are founded :-) Cheers all.. :-)
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I guess because I'm older (near 50) no one really treats me different because I'm really focused on my workouts in the gym. But my friends, when we go out to eat, always try to eat the same thing I do. They almost always tell me they are going to start dieting soon. The ladies always tell me, they don't want to get bulky. HAHAHA....
Ahhh, a fellow dinosaur. People always start talking about health don't they? Or what they benched when they were younger, etc... :-)
fuuuck yeah they do, i notice it ALL the time. i was skinny as a rail all the way up to 25, so i know and remember what it was like back then and can easily compare to how ppl acted towards/treated me then vs now.
of fuckng course women are the first i noticed, both in the gym obviously but even on the street too. chicks are so subtle about shit compared to dudes, but i notice them noticing me like 500x more than they did. also, they look for just a split second longer crafty little temptresses hahah. those are girls i see in the street (i work in a major city), at the gym i catch em lookin at me either in the mirror or sometimes even across the gym! however, i am happily married so in 3 years at the same gym, i have never even once talked to one of em. i know better, not gonna open any doors for trouble ya feel me?
dudes def treat me differently too, its like more go out of their way to try and be my friend, theyre much more submissive and respectful too. i was gone for a long time and when i came back with 60lbs of muscle from the last time my friends saw me, they were in pure shock and awe. it still blows their mind, all they talk about isnt how big i am now, but how skinny i used to be hahaha.
one last thing i wanna add, is that theres few greater feelngs than the one i get when seeing guys that i used to think were so fuckng cool growng up, some of who picked on me, all sloppy bodied and not in a fuckng fraction of good of shape as i am. most of the time they dont even recognize me lol. chumps, whos laughin now haha!
Love it, particularly the attention I now get from older woman, keeps me motivated lol
Fella. I am almost afraid to ask, "older women?"
:-)
AnonYea most def its fucking crazy what having a lil muscle changes the respect towards u from others
As i was growing women at work would tell me wow ur getting sexy
Dudes would be like man ur getting big what r u doing.
Everybody wants a hit body or to get close to one
absolutely, i feel like people treat you much better knowing that you can kick their ass lol, a good example is this year i got down to 5%bf @ 220 and let me tell you all my co-workers accused me of taking steroids, lol their were right, random people at the beach,pool whenever i was shirtless, came up to me for pics and advise.. it really hypes you up all the extra attention you get. its amazing!
F**K me! 5%? Real deal there fella. The attention is a definite bonus. And part and parcel of what we do, I suppose. I diet, lift, cycle, for me, my health, and my overall well being. The added bonuses come from what has been mentioned on here, CONFIDENCE!
Cheers :-)
Yes I'm about to hit 220 again I'm 5 11 with small bone structure definitely look unnatural last night was at beer fest some guy in the bathroom line was like you got huge traps, cops give me the head nod, girls check me out more, I get weightlifting questions all the time how much do I bench, my girlfriends guy friend which in good shape told her I was intimidating lol
WTF were you doing at a beer fest bro'? Were you at the protein shakes stand? :-)
BigBmajI think it has more to do with my confidence than anything.
The bigger I am tho people do treat me different. Some men will for instance, move out of my way, especially in the gym. Or do other submissive things like glance towards the floor after giving a nod.
Everyone at work treats me different. They all want to talk about how good they looked 15 years ago, how big their boy is, how much they benched in high school, etc. But you also bump into the occasional guy who seems to want to vie for status, so there is this odd power struggle going on. It happens with this old pro fighter at work - it's a funny little dance of assertiveness and mockery. He could totally kick my ass by the way, but I'm bigger. It was so funny the other day we were standing next to eachother and someone walked by and said "hey person x I remember when I used to think you were big, but Bmaj makes you look like a little girl". Made my day.
In my experience. Woman like lean guys these days. I get more attention at 185 than at 215 or more. I'm not sure if it has to do with having a leaner more attractive face at a lighter weight, or intimidation, or I just look better lighter.
But I do swear some woman can smell the test tho. At the peak of a cycle it's this strange phenom where it seems like people just sort of stare at you. But again I think that has more to do with confidence.
I agree.. it used to be good to be bulky, but now its slim and ripped look.
I am by no stretch of the imagination at the same stage as you lot. Though, I am most definitely on my way there. So, agree, confidence is the key factor, doubtless. If you ooze confidence, then the world acts differently around you. Though your comment on testosterone being scented? Now that's not without the realms of possibility.
GearofWarSure do. Your suspicions are right on. Some people are jealous little bitches. Some people want to try you up now that you're bigger, and some people just give respect and positive comments. I like the last type of people.
Me too :-)
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I would say a lot more respect from the older generations, I think they must think "now there is s hard working chap" or at least that's what I imagine. 90% of the people I know on a personal level get a little jealous I feel as I can bring quiet a bit of attention but the respect is still there, I try my hardest not to act big headed and there's never a problem. Also my job involves me going to 15+ houses a day and you can't beat that look of surprisement on a woman's face when they answer the door, I catch quiet s few wondering eyes. Novice is right, people like to see in shape people!
VewiYes the ladies want me more.
Like I said earlier I owe a lot of the ass I been gettin to Zewi an CDaddy's cycle advice
Anonyes people seem to be very nice to me, especially women. I get lots and lots of smiles
Yes sir, the women seem to be real nice to me lol.
Smiles you never had before? :-)
AnonWell Ive always been pretty friendly and gotten a good reaction, but yes it seems to be much better now. Im finding even at my kids events other mothers and fathers are anxious to talk to me, and women in stores make a lot more comments. I think people just like to see in shape peple
I'll take that. :-)
i have noticed im treated differently based on my mass. when im over 210 ppl will come up to me and ask me questions about lifting, diet and supplements, when i cut and drop to 190 and get shredded no one seems to bother me in the gym, but i tend to get a lot more looks at the pool from the ladies when im cut, even on the street i would get the ocassional comment when im over 210
I'm the opposite. I look big at 220 sure and still get a few comments or people accusing. But when I get down to 190 shredded as hell that is when the striations come out and fat is gone leaving me LOOKING bigger and more vascular which is when I get accused the most for being on steroids.
Good answer. And very off the cuff. So, you are treated on SIZE only? Not on your physicality? So. Let me guess. You have lifted for a while, and only the huge change in you sparks a change in peoples reaction?
Yeah seems that way. When I cut the guys at the gym say I'm losing weight, shrinking, slimming down. But I keep a fairly low body fat all the time. Rarely if ever have I been over 10% so when I get over 210 to 220 I look monstrous for 5'8" although I feel like I look my best when I'm cut at 190-195. Seems bulk is more sought here than a good physique. But than again its not like I got my shirt off in the gym. I got to get a few new pics up since my cut. I got lil more to go to be where I want.
Yes bro, some people are very complimentary, friends etc. Definitely getting some looks from the girls at the gym, 1 girl I was talking to the other day felt the need to start adjusting bra top thing she was wearing, saying sorry as her massive fake boobs wobbled about, very nice! Shame shes so skinny.
Only negative was at beginning of cycle, this prick felt the need to slag off gear wenever I was in ear shot. Just stared at the cunt, seemed to have shut him up! Hes said nowt since. Lil pussy!
People will always hate, it's their problem imo, wanna stop being insecure cunts. Dont entertain em!
Brother. Agreed, some folk are complimentary. And most definite friends. ALSO, girls, either at the gym or wherever, are more attentive. Though, the prick who slagged you off? He probably not a pussy mate, well, maybe not. more likely he feels a fool, as he sees the huge gains in both you, your physicality, and your attitude. Respect due! Cheers :-)
Yeah, I am always the one who needs to lift heavy boxes, etc.
Positive change? Do you welcome it?
I don't mind doing the work...what bothers me more is that the others are SO out of shape, eat crap and and constantly talk about their "diets."
valhallas bestladies cant keep their hands off me now!! literally bro!!
FUCK BITCHES
GET HUGE
I knew I could rely on you bro'. So, it's different for you now? Since lifting? Were you not a focus before? Or is this just a kick uphill? :-)