posted Sun, 02/09/2014 - 19:07
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+ 4 what is wrong with my body type I just don't get men
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what what's wrong with my body,someone please point out to me what the hell I'm missing....because I just Don't understand: ( not happyfeeling really down and disappointed and those I love the most anyone else feel that way
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Am I missing something, do you not have an ass? If that is you in the pics, you look beautiful from the front.
Nope I have an ass...lol..its not a big old GI normorous badonkadonk lol..I couldn't have one if I tried I'm just a small Build.....but I have a decent bubble bputt:)lol funny post way to just break it off gently!!! geez I'm glad I have one, lol I think I would be crying if not funny response typical man :-)
Well, i am a butt-man.
Doesn't look like your the problem at all. Men are fragile to we just hate to admit it. Your husband could have plethora of thing going on that's keeping him sided from you. Best thing to do is talk and let him know how you feel and that your there to support him through whatever is going on. Maybe he has low testosterone levels affecting his mood, desire etc... Maybe he is depressed. He may not want to feel this way toward you but he can't help it due to some underlying condition. Try a marriage therapist and possibly blood work to figure out the problem and get him back into the positive swing of things.
I love all your maybe's..wonderful husband....but he challenges me in a certain area And its putting myself through an area of weakness that is not fair.....which is why I posted in the first place "well what the hell is wrong with me" I'm not going to put all personals on here but I'm pretty sure y'all can figure it out...no he is not cheating..great dad ..wonderful relationship he's just the typical man and has to mess up in some area....And there is only one the
only other man in my life..it is our Son,:) I do appreciate all your kind words....made me feel better instantly I think that sometimes you just need thst Gradification!!!!! or if you're feeling sad anyone to scream to the world nobody hears you, I think that's what I did with my post except people hear me lol guess it is kinda nice to get off your chest every now and the remember my post was nothing about him it was about me. I'll never bash or to do any type of drama stuff against hubby/ or anyone....but I'll post about me all day long....my feelings Are just really hurt and it has you question youSelf....I think a lot of people can feel and relate to that feeling and it sucks sometimes...
I see where your coming from now I guess. I love my wife, support her, tell her how wonderful she is everyday and what a nice ass she has, in turn she is happy, positive about life, and very motivated which in turn has a positve affect on me and the kidos. Hopefully your hubby will wake up and show you some appreciation.
I don't under stand ?? You are built just like my wife. But her body has nothing to do with her love and personality !! I'm sorry your feeling this way !! I would still love my wife and support her no matter if she was big dumb,Etc..... When you love someone you can move mountains !! As far as what your missing ????? Hope you feel better remember always move forward and not back ! :-) Pmob
but I never would change the Me inside I can't I'm too strong willed in too good of a mama for that... But I wish a man would use his brainbefore he makes the ones around him and Insecure..I guess maybe that's an area I need to work on which is why I posted this I knew comments would get my Mind in a better place...sometimes the site is good for that to know you're not alone out there feeling vulnerable some days... I guess it's okay to not always feel perfect but I'm still mad as hell
you are asking a man to use his brain before he opens his mouth and inserts feet?
56tooLMAO Right on GRRRRRRRL
Hey hey now....stop telling the truth!!
lol.. you know how I like to tell the truth.. (according to grrrl)
One of the many reasons that you possess that if you were a chunky monkey and not Hrbdgrrrl you would still be HOTT! ;)
I think this post goes on a more personal level if you know what I mean:(its just annoying when you work to be the best that you can and it's not the type or good Enough...wouldn't be fishin for other body types if you're happy with mine... guess its a woman thing men don't realize how fragil We r are and they never think before they do dumb s*** sorry Men....so true tho....I guess instead of sweet funny caring and would give my heart and soul to anybody I should just become hard b**** :-)
Here is a honest perspective from a man. A woman will never be enough man neither will kids or anything else. We are restless now some will disagree so I will make this my opinion and from my perspective. I love my wife I also think she is the Hottest woman in the world because of all we have gone through together. But her body isn't enough to make me feel that way. However her loyalty, faithfulness, and love is more than enough. There will always be those with better bodies than what we have age will see to that.
So if relationships do not evolve past the outside then they will decay. Some men would choose a body as the most important others the devotion of a woman. My wife has both but it is her devotion that makes no other woman hold a candle to her.
There is no such thing has enough praise, money, muscles or women when it comes to men. Now it doesn't mean that they will cheat and rob to get all of that but it doesn't stop the desire for more and more. I know both sides of the coin, what it is to not be content in life and go after anything and everything that I want. As well as learning contentment and gratitude and not pursuing every desire.
My suggestion if you have not already done this is to be blunt with your husband. Don't hold back at all. Something like you know your lack of appreciation and desire for me makes depressed, angry and down right wanting to become a bitch. I am talking to others on boards about this but clearly if something doesn't change this marriage is going into the trash. Because I am going to want someone to appreciate me more and I am going to be disgusted with you for not doing it and then you are going want to be around me even less because you know I don't respect you. Of course use the facts of his actions to prove these points, not just because you "feel" he doesn't appreciate you.
Yes Sir !! X2 !
X3! A great many of us like to pretend to hunt even when we aren't really hunting. I am guilty of having a wandering eye and I know that bothers Mrs Ice, but she also knows that I am faithful and always will be. So I guess like Pank said, yell at your man about it and he will realize (if at least temporarily) that he was being an ass. We really do need reminders... welcome to level 1.
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wrong guys honey... trust me, I'm not your body type, but I've lived with that issue my whole life. When I finally figured out that there wasn't anything wrong with me, I was just trying to be something that I couldn't ever be. I m a big grrrl .. tall, curvy, and well big. I will NEVER be small and I wouldn't change that for the world. There are men who love that and there are men who don't... you just be you and the men will come.
bigwillymaybe she should read my post, ya know the one you beat me up for,lol
the problem is I and married of 10 years with 3 children . .lol I hope the men don't come :-) but I worK hard to be fit for myself and my husband... and seeing things that just crush me (does that me)...if your husband is supposed to love your body type why do you find things are see things that make you feel otherwise so question is what the Hells wrong W mine: ( I guess you can't please the world but I know that your man is supposed to make you feel like the most beautiful girl on the planet and when you're in love as much as we are you think that be the casethis heart is not happy right now I guess I'll go take it out at the gym:)
AnonI've been with my wife for 14yrs. Married for five. Ten years was a hard time for us. We were young when we got together. I was 20 she was 17. It is completely natural for this to happen. The key to surviving this is never forgetting that you love each other. Being open and free with your emotional and spiritual connection with each other is huge. Speaking freely without hesitation about your need to feel desired of your need to know how to make him feel desirable. Telling him you love him while looking into his eyes. Being connected while making love sometimes is a hard thing to do after you've been together that long. Taking the time to make each other feel appreciated goes a very long way. Never hesitate to express your love for him or your need to feel loved by him. As long as you two are communicating I think you'll be fine. It's when you stop talking that things get rough.
Very well said brother.
Damm you really are my Brother !! Excellent post !! +3
AnonThe only thing my wife says I'm better at than being an ass is kissing ass! Our marriage has literally seen the best and the worst. Took me a long time to finally figure things out.
56tooI hear you bro. It took me 4 marriages and I think Im just now getting it LOL
Total agree ! We've had are ups and downs also !
and that gentleman is LIFE
There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with your body!!!!!!!!!!
AnonFrom the looks of it I'd guess guys are intimidated by you. Maybe it's not so much your looks that's the issue. Have you taken the initiative and tried asking a guy who you find attractive or someone you find mentally stimulating out?
sounds good in all personality is not the issue married woman of 10 yearsI'm confident enough to say my personality starts with the heart and shine its way throu....this is just something personal that goes a little deeper that's all I have that doesn't sound cocky saying that I have a good personality... Actually coming out with this texting quote was hard for me because it sounded negafive:( I just wondered if there something I'm missing because obviously someone close to me does
AnonWow darling so you're married for the last ten years and is it your husband you feel isn't attracted to you? Or is it other men you're referring to?
Oh and your post doesn't come off as negative at all. This place is all about helping and we are more than happy to help you in any way. We're family here.
Must be your choice in men, that's all I can figure cuz It not your body that's the problem. +1
valhallas bestwhat is the problem over here young lady, by the look of ur pics ur beautiful...