How to tell her,the elephant that in the room?
I've seen countless guys post on this, now its my turn. Been dating a beautiful young lady for 7 months now. Pretty serious stuff, wants me to move in soon. Have met the family, and done the whole camping thing, even went to a Renaissance festival lol and I'm a black dude so thats a big deal jk. She has a son, who I have babysat and am a good influence on. Family has offered to pay my plane ticket to a wedding in NC. We will get married one day and have kids, I'm convinced she is the one. I'm 30 and she is 27. How do I tell her I'm on gear? Had an ex who I was with when I first cycled 2 1/2 years ago, besides my dad brother and friend, the ex is the only spouse who knew I was running gear. I trust all my brothers and sisters on the board and would like your honest opinion. Kinda got the nerve to tell her tonight...........please help
PS: She knows I want to be a pro bodybuilder and I will obtain my personal trainers' license next month.
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Bro, lay it out there. Just be sure to sound confident in your decision to use AAS and let your knowledge on the topic shine through. If she feels confident that you know what you're doing, it will ease the blow. Explain that you didnt tell her out of fear of being judged or misunderstood. Explain the obvious. The stigma accompanied by steroids and being a bodybuilder already puts you under the light of suspicion which makes you extremely uncomfortable talking about it (women who love you have a desire to make you comfortable. If you're uncomfortable about something it hits an automatic sympathy switch). Most ppl are closed minded and ignorant. Tell her you want to leave nothing out and from here in out you are an open book. No secrets. She will accept and appreciate it. I promise
RustyhookerI wasnt gonna jumo on this but here it goes. My gf was absolutely the one! I finally just sat her down and explained it with full detail. Her worry was "roid rage" stories. I told her flatly....I'm on cycle right now. What do ya think bout roid rage? End of worries. We're gettin married at our 4.5yr mark. Be honest bro! If she catches you lieing bout this...what else you lieing bout? If she wants that body...I'm 100% certain she's pondered that roids we're used.
AnonThank you brother. Appreciate the honest opinion.
Give them a vote if you find it helpful.PermalinkBro you need to tell her soon because if she won't accept you and your habits then she is not for you!!! My wife accepts me completely but if we get in a argument she will throw that shit in my face so beware of that. I think that the fact that she is willing to try clen opens the door wide open. I mean I know there's the whole needle thing but it's actually safer then clen. Good luck brother I'm sure she will accept it if she cares about you the way you seem to care about her.
First ya gotta be like babe i gotta tell you something then you sit down put yr head down and sigh and she'll be like "what"? then yr like this is really hard for me to tell you i feel really bad, and she'll be like "fuck this asshole is cheatin on me" then you sigh again and put yr head in yr hands and be real dramatic and she'll be like "i can't fuckin believe this shit" and then you say and i use steroids...... and the she'll be like oh ok and in her mind she'll be like "thank fuckin god cause i really love this guy and i wld have fuckin killed his ass" then its all smooth sailin from there!
AnonNot to sound like a super douche but I honestly thought of something along that logic. Like she's probably going to think I have kids hidden somewhere or something completely obsurd lol. Thanks for your opinion.
Give them a vote if you find it helpful.PermalinkTell her youve been cycling since before she met you.. you prlly didnt seem like a axe murderer then so what would change? Health concerns? I take it youve explained that to her.. just make it clear your safe about use.. I can see why you have anxiety waiting this long but im pretty sure youll be fine.. youre not gonna make it this far in a relationship and fail because of something like this
AnonAll good points. I guess it was never a concern which is why I waited this long. I just feel its a private matter and my business. But seeing how she wants me to move in, she has a right to know.
waltr7 months is a long time to keep secrets from the woman you're thinking about marrying...
just something to think about.
AnonI disagree but respect your opinion. Thanks for contributing.
Give them a vote if you find it helpful.PermalinkWe are all wired different in what we want. My biggest hurdle when I first got with my wife was breaking the news to her that I am a career solder. But not only that because of the nature of my unit can be called away in a moment and she will have no idea where or when I will be home at all. Also if I get killed the real reason behind it. Those are just a couple of the goodies that went along with it.
I also knew and I think this part is relevant to your dilemma, that I really needed to know if she was in it for the long all. If I held something back and later it came up as a possible issue, she would be justified in being disappointed and pissed. Than that would be my fault. If I tell her everything up front and she leaves well better sooner than later after she knows my secrets. But at least if she knows them and grows weary I won't be at fault for not giving full disclosure.
In your world you will be receiving gear and there being a certain amount of risk she will share in, so if she is good with it you have grown closer and your mind will be at rest greater. If not you may be sad for awhile but at least you won't have a marriage of resentment as the truth seeps out. I wish you well and congratulations.
AnonAlways can expect a thoughful and well written response from you Pank, thank you brother
Give them a vote if you find it helpful.PermalinkYour welcome brother, I think it was wise not to let her in on so much personal info before you were sure about what you wanted. I waited until I was absolutely sure no need to let others in on your privacy until a commitment is made.
Good luck, bro. Maybe she wont care. or better yet. What if she said me too. And whipped out some lady var and clen. No just kidding man. Hope all goes well for you
ITS ALL YOUR FAULT !! L.O.L !! Let's see you want to be a Pro body builder ?? And she don't know your juicing ???????? O.K first tell her the safe things about AAS ! Everything you here or she here's is always negative !! So tell here the benefits, if she doesn't agree than it's up to you what you want to do ?? If she says drop them and you love her than drop them "A.K.A" sneak L.O.L !! More than Likely she already knows anyways !! Anyways be trustful and true. Ask her what she thinks about AAS and feel her out and go from there ! Just be true !!
AnonKinda already did, and thanks for the info Pmob. I want to get her on clen and she said yea. So thats why I became interested in telling her. And if she said her or juice, I would say juice.
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