Are our Eroids relationships real?
Over the past few days i have been questioning the "friendships" i've established on Eroids....lets face it most ppl i will never meet, never see their eyes looking back at me, never see their smile when they belly laughing, some, never even hear the sound of their voice...yet on a fairly regular basis i interact with them...some i have felt the purest sorrow for or joy or even love without ever even seeing their face which begs the question; how could this relationship even be real...when the ppl i call friends have never seen the "real" me? If they do not know the person i really am or the loyalty and integrity i am capable of then how can our friendship be predicated on anything substantial or binding....maybe; the real me is not my face or eyes but my soul that i bear in my posts be it depth, sarcasm, anger, or humor. i do know this; our new technological world leaves much to be desired because there is a lot to be said for seeing someone's face and eyes and hearing the tone in their voice especially when they're laughing or hurting.
I wonder if virtual reality is the new ideal for friendships; if so how genuine are they? more importantly how much are they based in love
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Same feeling happened to me in 1990s when i first connect the internet and met people around the world. I didn't meet any any of them until late 2000s.. And everybody around me was questioning, I didn't know these people. How can i became friend i didn't know. and people tells "omg it s dangerous .. " Common sense was it wasn't real at all.. And i was just a weirdo who looks a secreen all day long.
After 25 years, now when i look back, all my best friends were the people i never hear their voice for long time. And all relationships, friendships were real. One of the best guys i know, i met in 1998 and we met in 2008.. i didn't know how he looks, or how is his voice at all.. But the guy suggest me to go to the gym and start lifting..
Now times changed, everybody is looking at screens all day long
People meets online and marry.. So nobody can tell this is not real. This is the new type of relationship.
I havent met anyone in person from here.
Ive had a handful on facebook when i had it.
Years ago when i was in a bad place and was drinking, a dude that goes by the eroids handle " irishmack" was there for me when ever i needed him.
The dude is stand up, hes been there done that, being older and wiser than me steered and convinced me down a better path.
Hes from another country as me.
Would that class as real?
Another one- "ozninja"- knew a relative of mine had passed and he knew it cut me deep.
He would check on me all the time through inbox here and we exchanged phone numbers.
I remember xmas day 2 years ago less than a few weeks after the death being down and depressed that day.
My phone vibrates i look down and it was ozninja saying merry xmas and keep your chin up im here for you if you ever need a chat or vent.
That made me smile.
Is that real?
There is a handful more but yes i think so and ill add them in later.
I am cooking bacon... I can just smell the freedom in the air!
Molinin302Definitely a great post, I absolutely consider a few on here as honest friends. I mean, its not a direct comparison, but I've seen my mom twice in the last 12 or 13 years. Great relationship, talk on the phone often, but were in different parts of the country. Sometimes the online relationship can work out a little better, especially with a group of adult children that chemically alter their hormone levels.
I'd say they are real for sure, but in a slightly different way that's all. There is a lot more mystery involved which I guess kind of makes it a lot more exciting in a way. We all have an image built up in our heads of what that member looks and sounds like on the end of the screen at the other end of the world, until they post a picture up - then its normally totally different!! Lol You can also tell a hell of a lot about someone just through words and expressions they use, how much or how little they write etc. There are for sure the people that you wonder if you would speak to if it weren't just on here, but its also good to have those as friends who are completely different to yourself as you can often learn much from them too about life
I've met some truly Great people on here too, salt of the earth and would do anything to help you out if you were in trouble. You know who these people are as they are the ones who you get all excited to see when their Avatar suddenly appears at the top of the page each night or even more so when they haven't logged on in a few days. You can talk to them about anything at all, you feel you could even if you were sat right in front of them and not just shielded by a computer.
So to all you who restarted this post it seems society still poses the same question...
I tried coming back to Eroids but the know it all kids were aggravating and disrespectful so I left again then A few days ago my email blew up with comments on my post so I felt the need to speak ...I will say this, that time on eroids was soooo much fun the energy between us all was amazing SO many knowledge intelligent people and when disrespect happened boom they were hammered by the MODS especially Vike (a great man) I don’t know that it ever could be repeated.
I am still training hard but obviously I’m 50 now so my body isn’t like 25 but I’m damn proud of
What I still can do and how hard I still lift so if
Anyone needs advice for their women I’d be happy
To respond
I miss the eroids days now I’m busy trying to save America from communist. I’m on Instagram dawnde306 yah my names is not
Alayna.
Ciao for now my fellow work out junkies
I had to come back when I saw Alayna came back.
Alayna, I feel like what we had was beautiful.
I heard word that you quit talking to me when you found out that I cybered Zewi’s wife.
I’m sorry Alayna. Zewi’s wife just really knew what a man wanted. Upon further investigation I found out it was Zewi no homo and I just feel like we kind of lost our friendship after that.
Has time helped you to forgive? I do have my pro tag now, does that make any difference? No homo
At any rate it was good to smell your perfume around here again.
All my love, no homo
Ed
“Zewi’s wife knew what a man wanted” .... gear! She ain’t got nothin on me
Your still funny AF Ed and that’s always the way to a girls heart well since your a Pro this you already know
Ciao for now amigo much amore
Buzzing to see you post
Sending all the blessings!!
Ditto
Now everyone can see why I get excited when I see molins Avi up top. Thinking she's back but nope it's just that molin guy again damnit. Sorry molin but that Avi has to get color in it
I wish some of these women would reappear. Not cause I'm a Huge perv, but it would help no doubt. Oh yeah I'd like to ask them questions for the chicks at the gym and my wifey.
These relationships are as real as any other people in my life. I like this place cause I dont have any friends that use gear in real life, maybe a couple of dudes on trt.
What an Eroids Era. Real shit.
100%
She is one of my true friends of eroids. One of only a handful that know my name and the only one that has heard my voice. Trust me if you heard her accent on top of that sexy as bod of her. She's a ten in my book. Alayna is eroids royalty imo
If I wasn't happily married I would have been trying rap on her as well,lol
Well now is that right lol ;)
;)
Defo royalty. Loves a a good conspiracy theory if memory serves me
Oh yeah. That would need a whole new post. She's very opinionated lol
LOL nothing has changed ;)
Fuck it, get posting ma man. This place been calling out for an Eroids tribute thread :))
Yeah that's one I'll keep between myself and princess alayna. Thanks for bringing up some good memories
Edit looks like she made an appearance here after all today.
Princess is not the right word cause that invokes thoughts of daintyness it’s more like a warrior queen! I was strong before but now it’s on a whole other level mentally emotionally spiritually and physically
Princesses can be warriors to fyi. Haven't you seen game of thrones. Lmao. I know you haven't. Hope all is well
GearofWarI've been away awhile and I've definitely missed the camerederie the forums provides. I've been away due to some dumb-ass "life events" so to speak that have sidelined my involvement in the AAS community but I've surely missed the advice and friendship-real or imagined that I've developed here. For me Eroids is an invaluable tool to keep myself motivated when I'm felling run down, beat up, and shit on. Sometimes I'll just stop by and lurk nowadays. I think te definition of true friendship is different for everyone. I have very few friends in the "real world". So I'll take what I can get. It seems like my whole life has been a series of short bursts of friendships with people I'd call acquaintances. True friends are rare. Missed some of you guys though.
I feel a sense of real admiration for some of those that I've met on here. A connection of sorts as best as it could be. I have actually spoken to two members on here over the phone. I'm glad to say they're good ppl as far as I know based on the lil I know. I also feel respected here and I give that same respect to those back. It's a veiled friendship here but none the less friendship
You know the funny thing about this I think a few people on here live pretty damn close to me. Just seeing posts how they talk weather complaints ect....
AnonYou want to hear something strange? Novice and I was talking about when someone just vanishes and that's it. If they died, we would never know what happened to them. If we cared so much for them we would at least want to send flowers wouldn't we? at the least know what happened to them.
Thats my point exactly..
AnonId just want some closure as Id expect any friend would . My wife has a pretty good handle on who my friends are and how to reach them. I know if I got killed she would let few people know. That is of course as long as we didnt get taken out together.
Vewithanx to you brother.
Even then God forbid we would know!
VewiYes.. Im a good example was gone now back.. its a family...
AnonYeah but while you were gone there were certain people that knew you were around and ok . I get the feeling there are a few people here that if they just stopped logging in no one would ever know .
BigBmajCan't keep track of everyone. It's too much work to try. I got rid of Facebook because I don't care, to care, about that many people.
There are a few people on here I care about. Many could vanish and I wouldn't notice. Nor would many notice if I disappeared. But it doesn't mean it's not real.
This is apparently where I'm spending my Saturday night. This seems just about as real as if I were sitting at the bar down the road. It's perhaps more real because, I'm reading what you write, so I'm actually paying attention to you people.
yr the person I pay the most attention to ;) hehe
BigBmajIt's nice to feel important to someone.
I guess than we fight like a family???
VewiWe do..
Ive been here over a year and there a couple of people in here that I consider - very real friends -
and I do think some where down the road I will meet them and hang..:)
People come and go from here on a consistant basis..I doubt members actually stress or lose sleep on where so and so is..I use this as a resource and have met a few people,who are they? I really dont know for sure but like we will be meeting up for a movie later.Sometimes its nice to just to be able to get away from the face to face bullshit and come message your eroid buds..
BigBmajDefine real. I had a real dream last night.
This is no more or less real than anything else.
Do you mean authentic? I'm not sure it's any more or less authentic either. People change according to their environment. This is just a different environment. I think the amount of fake bullshit we see here is probably paralleled to a more tangible setting.
I've spent more time here, talking to people, than someone I can reach out and touch. So where does the intimacy lie? Here or there?
Definition of real; Being or occurring in fact or actuality, having verifiable existence
actual. true, genuine, veritable....so yes i meant real?
the question i posed is deeper how can it be real when its based in supposition...i still question whether all can be real if you never see the persons face, hear their voice, have a beer together, anyone can be anything behind a computer or a cell phone texting....it takes far more vulnerablity to speak face to face....but the point is; is all that authenticity being thrown to the way side in lieu of a virtual reality?
i remeber the days when a man picked up the phone to ask me for a date, now its nearly off putting if someone actually calls you...in today's world i can break up with a guy through text message, never once having to see the sadness in his eyes....i question the big picture of all this...
AnonThat's because you are a sweet heart
;-)
Aw tks D mwah
I think they're about as real as they are in real life. Even in real life you'll meet a bunch of pretentious ass people that say they're your friend but have ulterior motives. Having said that I think most people here are genuine but you have the occasional papa swole that tries to take advantage of people through lies and deceit.
AnonI think its different for everyone on here and I will tell you why. When I offend someone I get told about it immediately, just like rustyhooker, noviceAAS and others. The people who are held in high regards like the women of eroids, mods or other senior members are the ones who are susceptible to behind the back words.
No one is going to tell nitti or viking they are a fat ass in an open forum.
Unfortunately this is true. But like I said in another thread, If you are effective at what you do then 95% of the things said about you will be negative. So I chalk up any back biting as just plain ol' hatin! And at the end of the day, it's their shit, not mine. They have to carry it with them. I'll walk behind em playing the violin all day. What other people eat, doesn't make me shit. But back to the fat ass thing. Do I need to post an Ass shot? lol