posted Tue, 11/06/2012 - 15:06
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Loss of Motivation after marriage or serious relationship?
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I have noticed that when i was single i was driven like a bull, six days a week one and a half to two hours a day; but since marriage, i feel like i lost the majority of that drive and focus, i practically have to force myself through my workouts, whereas before i couldn't stop myself. Anyone else have this problem? anyone have a solution? will i get that motivation and drive back with AAS? just wondering =P
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BLW5000I see you define yourself as single or married, so depending on who you are with. Keep in mind that no exterior circumstance could affect you unless you let it to do so. It is all in your mind. Good luck to find a balance.
IMO i think bro just like you say "shes smoking hot and shes way out of my league but she loves me"
this is the source of your problem. shes crushing your self esteem and you are putting her up high on a pedastal like if you were to get divorce you could never find someone else to be with or as hot as her
both are false ideas in your mind. this is a psychological problem and you have to aproach it from the view that you're the boss and that you will do you.
when a woman senses that she has you under control she will use her power to drag you down and if you allow it the shit hole you end up will be so deep that she will ask herself why am i with this wuss?
so my take is to be boss and go to the gym, make her know that other women want you by dressing killer and being super friendly to everyone specially waitresses.
this will keep most womens mind in cj=heck that you are valuable and that you're the boss.
not sure what else to tell you bro. you're going to do what youre going to do but thats what i would do. plus hot chicks looks fade overtime whats more important is someone that loves you and accepts you as you are and most important supports you 100% of course if she cute not super hot thats a plus.
super hot chicks are a pian in the ass because they have been conditioned to have men at their feet worshiping them. fucked up mentallity but its true most chumps do that and condition them.
anyhow better happy with a "cute girl" than miserable with a "hot girl"
Lol, good advice bro, its not that bad of a situation she does love me for real and she goes both ways, she pulls more ass then me, so flirting with chicks would end in her getting some ass or a 3 way, i could literally wingman for her she reels them in. She doesnt like insult me she just wants more time with me and sometimes i get a little obsessed when im in my mode, plus i do hardwood floors and work like close to fifty hours a week, and she works to. It will work out i just gotta force myself and once she see's me in alpha shape again she wont mind. she is like my one and only, soul mate type shit, and she knows i gotta do my thing too.
That is some solid advice right there. Never let a woman get between you and your workout - not that we don't all need balance - but bro, you always gotta keep care of yourself. She fell for the in-shape, alpha male version of you, and as joedaddy says, hot chicks are notorious for getting a man, breaking them down, then dumping them. Keep your power - I'm sure she's a sweetheart, but she will be even sweeter if you do not give away your personal power. True dat.
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LMAO, my older bro says the same thing.
thanks for the input everyone much appreciated. =)
Work out for you just because you like to work out....not for her or anyone else and your drive will come back. Make small attainable goals to shoot for and focus on them. There is no magic trick to this. You will find lots of guys even on here who only work out when on cycle and that means they only want the easy way! Not the lifestyle! Ask yourself why you are going to the gym and you will have your answer.
BLW5000i like your advice
Thanks for the input, i personally have never cycled but i'm planning a beginer's test only one sometime in the future after much more collecting and research. i guess thats all i can do, i love working out and being fit, sometimes she makes me feel bad about it, like that's all i do besides work, at least she used to,she's smoking hot like rediculously out of my league but she loves me, i guess i gotta just push through it and keep on keepin on, thanks for the advice good to know i'm not alone on this one
That's honestly what relationships do :/ I experienced that for literally two years. Then she broke up with me, now I'm so pissed that the weights run away when I go inside the gym.
That's honestly what relationships do :/ I experienced that for literally two years. Then she broke up with me, now I'm so pissed that the weights run away when I go inside the gym.
Brother that's just your natural test make up. For some reason once a man gets married his test levels drop. Don't sweat it bro. I you ever divorce about a year before your divorce your natty levels will jump again. Lol.
Push through it workout your large muscle groups spacing sets 90 seconds apart, eat right and you can get the natty back.