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Nitti
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BOILING POINT

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Most of us don't lead stress free lives. We all have aspects of our life that cause us stress. Whether its your children, finances, spouse, work, medical problems, whatever. In my case I was taught to "be a man, don't burden people" so I have a tendency to bottle it up. There are a few things going on in my life that cause enough strain that it brings me close to boiling over. I know you've all heard of roid rage. I don't believe that bullshit!  Rage is not anger. Anger is a feeling. Rage is an emotion. Rage is one of the most difficult and most important emotions to deal with in a constructive way. When we are experiencing it, the adrenalin is running through us so strongly that our ability to think straight is seriously handicapped. In order to deal with it, it is important to get your mind properly orientated at a point when you are not feeling rage. It is extremely important to have your ethics correct. Then, and only then can you constructively deal with rage. Besides the day to day stresses of life, my real problem comes from people. Of course there are things in my life that get me angry, but not send me into a rage. No, only other people do that to me. I'm still trying to discover why or what the problem is. Whether its the little pencil neck at work who throws darts because he knows I won't hit him or the neighbor who likes to drink and mouths off ,I assume because he sees me as a challenge. Well dealing wit these kinds of people is a real challenge for me. I had an incident not too long ago with my neighbor. Started as a few words. Nothing crazy, but then he decided to invade my personal space. Obviously he isn't thinking clearly while intoxicated but I don't think of these things in the spur if the moment. It ended badly. I threw 1 punch that made a huge mess literally and figuratively. It could have ended so much worse however because of the decision I made. When my wife asks me "why do you get so worked up at what people say", I'm not sure how to answer her. I don't really know but I'll tell you my logic. Although I'm not better than anyone else, I am physically superior to most! I have trained the better part of 20 years to use my body as a weapon , I outweigh you by 50lbs and I feel like a piece of iron, so why the fuck would you want to take it there with me? I suppose I have a superiority complex in that sense. I'll never understand why people push. It's similar to the messing with sasquatch thing. You know he's gonna fuck you up so what are you doing! Anyway, I took this in a few different directions. My point is, I'm sure all of us deal wit this on some level. Some handle things better than others. Does the juice play a role? I don't think it does. If you're already a hot head, you're still going to be a hot head on juice. If you're timid and nothing bothers you, that won't change on juice. I'm at a point where I guess I need a therapist. I do have issues that cause a great deal of stress but that can't be the reason for experiencing rage. There must be more to it that I am failing to understand. I have tried a few suggested methods in te recent past. Yoga, meditating, just continuous awareness but they don't help in most cases. Heat of the moment, adreninline , I don't think very clearly. How do you keep from boiling over?

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I hear ya man. But the heavy bag and all the training and tiring yourself out to vent doesn work. It's a spur or the moment ,split second flip of a switch. When it's flipped, you can't undo it. I can't anyway. Like tread said ,I think it's because I also am nice and respectful to everyone. I go out of my way for them in most cases, so when they disrespect me, I don't respond well at all. There is no diplomacy. The only thing that stops me is fear or prison because let's face it ,they take one look at me and one look at the average guy, there is nothing fair about it. Same with most of us. Humans are at the top of the food chain, but we are the Alphas. In reality, people like us are physically superior to the average man/woman! We push and exceed human physical limits! Anyone who can rep 315, 405, 465, on the bench should not be fucked with. Why people would push buttons of a man 2x their size is baffling.

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I think you might have nailed it on the head when you eluded to a superiority complex. It made realize something in myself, I am more apt to get agresive against someone with an ego that doesn't have the physique to back it up. Let me explain, when I see a young guy with his hat cocked to the side and a cigarette hanging from his mouth looking at people like he is hard it triggers something in me that wants to smack him. Take for example the group of guys at the gym who stands around and talks in their gay little social clubs while gawking and puffing out there non existent muscles and staring at every girl who walks by. These type of dudes also trigger anger in me. I think it stems from the fact that I have spent years training and it is my lifestyle, I make sacrafices everyday, i eat for fuel while they eat junk, im in the gym on friday and saturday nights while they are out making poor choices. So in my mind I take it as an insult when someone puts thier ego on display when they have made little to no sacrafice to back it up. I'm probably just an idiot meat head with anger isuues but that's my two cents on superiority complex.

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I have to say I agree. But although I get that thought of slapping the monkey shit out if that kid who keeps suckin in all that air to pop his chest out, I don't spin out of control into a rage. I do however go into a rage when I shouldn't. It takes a lot to get me rawed up! But once I get there, I get tunnel vision. There is no talking, there is no way anyone is getting between me and the target. Why people try to push us to that point is beyond me but once I'm there, I have a hard time getting a grip. Lucky for me I never got a pro license to fight. My hands aren't certified

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i am not on AAS. its funny you talk about rage. yesterday i was arguing with my brother a lot. he said "fuck you." i told him to apologize or we wouldnt leave to go swimming. the wise ass gets in the car. so i go upstairs and chill on the computer a bit. after 15 minutes i was sick of this shit. so i go in the car and tell him either apologize or im going to beat you up.. he still wouldnt apologize, so i gave him what he wanted.

i shouldnt have hit him, but he was asking for it. i have already had to put up with so many people getting pissed at me over it. my own friend was upset at me over it. it pisses me off because i dont resort to violence as a first option. people have to be stupid enough to get me there. but apparently i am the one with a problem. yeah fuck that shit.

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Man I understand where you are coming from.I don't believe in Roid Rage either. You are what you are, AAS just intensifies who you are. I have had many "meet me in the median" meetings with other drivers. Anger is the thorn in my side. It don't take much to set me off. But, the older I get the more I'm learning how to control it. As hard as it is, it's doable. You have to find your peace and what works for you. Avoidance is what works for me. I am learning through my mistakes that it's got to stop somewhere. Never tried yoga, I do meditate but not the way you might think. As far as therapy, I don't like people getting into my head. Now that really pisses me off. You sound alot like me, I just can't walk away either. But we have to. Our families depend on us. It sucks when your kids see these explosions of anger. Good luck with this. I hope you find peace......... BTW, it is very satisfying to just beat the living shit out of someone who deserves it though.

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Thanks for the response. I think you're right about the therapist. I always called them Dr.Mindfuck. They don't really do anything. You just talk and they send a bill. And believe me, 9x out of 10, I can walk away. I eat a lot of shit from people. For whatever reason it seems that people go out of their way to fuck with me. Possibly because I am so easy going and soft spoken. I never yell. I don't say much at all really. I talk more on here than I ever have in my life. Sometimes you just get to that point where you have to let it out. It's kinda like throwing up a hail Mary to me. My neighbor for example. We had words. I shrugged him off, he stepped fwd. I asked him to step back. He got even closer (within arms length) do I fired a straight right hand square in the mouth. I'm a lefty. I didn't even haul off and he was picking teeth up off the floor. I'm lucky he didn't call the cops. I'd be up shits creek without a paddle for sure. I have two small kids. I can't be getting locked up because someone disrespects me. But I don't know any other way either. It is so hard to walk away from someone talking shit? Especially when you are physically superior and you know damn well you'll light them the fuck up? It's hard man

sc2216's picture

I smoke pot lol, calms me down and keeps the tren related night sweats and insomnia away Smile

Nitti's picture

That's a pretty good way. If I smoked pot I'd be locking all my doors and hiding under the bed with a shot gun. I don't know why but it always made me hallucinate and throw up. Lol

sc2216's picture

ahahaha you made me laugh there for a moment lol!