If the content of the text wasnt too bad, I usually go w/ she had to get a hold of me for some paper work stuff when we were married... (stock, bonds, life insurance) Really anything that she would need to talk to you about, and for an hour alone w/ the ex I use she needs my signature on x paperwork.

Now since you got caught your initial reaction set the whole mood of the argument... You gotta act like it's no big deal, she got a hold of you first, you answered the question she had about the warranty on the dishwasher? and you had already erased those out of your phone, but you missed that message when you deleted the others... Now you can make up any thing about why you had that text in your phone and why you said what you said...

If you're serious about seein others and your main cant find out... 2 phones is the only way to go. get a track phone for the side projects... it's a pain in the ass, but when you go to the the side chicks place, only carry track phone, keep main phone in the car, but transfer calls to track # so you will still know if main is trying to get a hold of you. And dont forget to switch call transfer off Now the track phone needs to stay in your glovebox whenever around your main... It stays shutoff until you have some free time. If your main finds it... everything in the track phone should be in code... all names.. I use like greeny (eyes) or hourglass (body type) nothing too weird or too sexual, cause if you get caught w/ the phone you say you found it in the parking lot at wherever and was going to turn it in to the store the next day, so you just threw it in the glove box and forgot about it... Hope this helps. I wasn't caught, but I am divorced.. So you might not want to listen to me...

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