What's up with Women?
I haven't dated in a few years, about 7 to be exact. But I'm going through a divorce so I'm sort of talking to a few people these days. This has been my luck so far -
First we have my wife. She never had a sex drive when we were married but lately she's been asking me for favors all over the place. What's up with that? Just manipulation? Probably.
Next we have a girl I was talking to for awhile. I told her I wanted to be friends the other day and she said "do your son a favor and commit suicide". I'm on Tren and I thought I was mean. Holy shit!!
Next we have a friend who called me this weekend and said "I just got in a fight with my boyfriend and I need you to come fuck the shit out of me". I couldn't turn her down but it made me feel horrible. Makes you wonder doesn't it?
Later that night I called a friend and told her I needed to kill some frustration. I got her some food and a couple of drinks. We actually had amazing sex, it was a great workout and everyone was happy all around. But then she asked me if I wanted to get high, she ended up shooting some dope and falling out. I did want to get high but I'm trying to be sober these days so I made sure she was still alive and I left. The sex was good but I left feeling horrible.
I'm not done yet ....
Then we have a cute girl at the gym. She's a friend of a friend so I started to talk to her a little bit. Then my friend just told me he saw her on some "fuck and forget" website. That was a deal breaker for me. She looked so fucking innocent too.
Then we have another girl who I really like but I was married when we started talking and I wasn't ready to leave my wife. She just texted me saying "if you are sleeping around keep your dick clean because my guy can be an asshole sometimes." That shit makes me wonder too!
So I know that I'm not doing a great job at picking them out or attracting the right ones. But I thought it was funny. I can't wait to see what tomorrow brings.
I'm not trying to say anything negative about women in general. If they weren't occasionally so great id just run at this point.
Anyone got some interesting female stories to share?
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Man I was Married for four years and thought I was done forever and a year after the divorce I said fuck women fuck relationships and met the best girl I have ever been with. Like molded to me perfectly. Literally that night said I'm fucking done trying to find someone. And she bounced into my life. Met in middle school a long long time ago and lost touch
Damn bro just keep throwing that dude around....sounds like fun besides shooting up dope. WTF.
BigBmajI find it interesting that there is another thread around here from a woman's perspective. She asks, what's wrong with me? In investigating her problems with men. And I ask, what's wrong with women? I wonder if that's common?
Maybe time will be your friend, i know i gave up at one stage and planned on being alone forever then one day KAPOW and the rest is history as they say
BigBmajThanks for giving me some hope! I needed some.
There's plenty of crazy bitches up here bro. Nothing to do but drink in this college town. Getting out of the bar scene is helping me stay away from shady people... But it also means less contact with women for me.
AnonTheres some hotties in chruch beleive it.or not
I tuink they go.there to.meet ppl
That's what I've been working on. Great church to meet girls where I live
BigBmajNuns are always fun.
I never really found the right protein powder until I basically tried them all. Now I kind of know which one I like the best or at least which few I can tolerate the best. Use this theory for woman and you find it works rather well! You just got to keep trying new ones until one kind of sticks. Some Tricks & Tips;
very funny!
AnonThis is just my take on why we seem to get with crazy chics sometimes. When we are older and a relationship ends especially a marriage we have a fear of being alone and we get with the next hot chic to help with the hurt and loneliness and dont put alot of thought into the character. Just need to take some time to urselve and completly get over the last one before you can find the right girl for u. Easier said than done I know. Hope ur doin well bro
BigBmajThanks brother. You are right that fear of being alone creates an urgency that forces us into lackluster situations.
Maybe I'll go buy a dog.
Honestly, the dating game is a tricky situation brother. I had some similar stories, so I cant preach to the quire. Every man and woman big,skinny,tall,short,black,white and brown is looking for someone to love them, which way they "get loved" is all about what they put out and receive in return. Are you looking for true love?Are you looking to sow your royal oats?How do you REALLY, want to be loved(sit back and think). Be honest with yourself, nobody wants to be the side guy/or chic, or do you?
With all that out of the way, a majority of finding the right one, is about compatibility and Luck! Stop looking for the "hottest chic" and just start looking for someone that brings something deeper to the table. Even if that means lowering your standards in terms of "hotness", When I met my wife I had allot of chicks, she wasn't the hottest but we were awesome together and still are. I met her online and I got "Lucky", (not just literately), its been 5 years we have a beautiful daughter and shes my best friend!
Never settle for being second best in a relationship, you deserve to be put first, don't stop until you get there! In essence, you have to pick through the weeds before you find your ROSE!
Keep picking Nooka!
Winning
BigBmajYou've always got good things to say. You are a good guy.
Nice answer winning. You just impressed the hell out of me .. again.
what's the matter with women, B? you don't really want me to answer that o-O LOL
BigBmajIt's looking like the question is -
What's wrong with women?
Answer is -
I am.
You are asking the wrong question... the first question is .. what is the common denominator..? you are.. second question and most important.. WHAT DO YOU WANT? third question WHAT ARE YOU DOING TO GET WHAT YOU WANT? ( you can't answer the third question until you really sit down and answer the second question. when you answer the second question you might realize that you are seeking these women out because that is what you are familiar with. that you haven't ever really thought specifically about what is you want..and if you did you put it aside for what is easy and comfortable...)
BigBmajOk since we are getting slightly more serious here I'll put some thought into this. Everything you said was true. The truest part being that I don't know what I want. Initially I was looking for something to make me forget about my wife. But I don't even want to forget about her, we are great friends and we have a son together. We even live and raise our son together. So what I was really trying to do was not feel hurt about the whole thing.
The more sex I have the worse I feel. I had always thought that was the solution to all of life's problems. Ask any guy how to get over someone and they often will say "go fuck someone" So then it dawns on me that I'm looking for a strong connection. But people really tend to annoy the hell out of me so dealing with all their wants and needs is just too much work at this point. So then it dawns on me that I'm looking for a connection that works for me. That is eye opening because it means I want a woman who can deal with a selfish guy. Which also explains the inability to feel connected, which has to do with reciprocity. Then it occurred to me that I have the numbers of women who are willing to fuck a married guy. Which explains the late night text messages looking for booty calls when they are mad at their boyfriends. Next it occurred to me that I tend to look at the young gym girls that wear make up to the gym, that explains a lot. Another huge factor in this puzzle is the fact that I'm newly sober. Which explains why I happen to find myself around junkies, or recently sober junkies. Anyone with much high quality sobriety would see me coming from a mile away and run for their life. Since I am newly sober I have very little in my life that brings much self worth, career, colleagues, multiple degrees, car, home, pants, etc. So I feel slightly out gunned by exceptionally successful women. The charm that always got me women in the past only goes so far. So unless I can fulfill some need for a woman to have an older child, that's out the window. (That's super common by the way, but I don't want one of those women.) I could go on and on but I'll spare you, the picture is clear.
When I am completely proud to be myself I will find a suitable match. So that involves lots of work, time, and energy. Ugh!!
But... I absolutely have got to have sex. So what will happen. as I'm trying to grow, is that I will continue to be dissatisfied by women that are willing to have no strings attached sex. But don't forget it's not the sex I need, its the connection I'm looking for - so I'm not even able to do no strings attached well.
Playing that out sure makes some stuff clear. Shit I don't know what the fuck I want at all. When I can figure that out I'll know where to start looking.
Oh and by the way this is the way my brain runs 24/7 and I'm sure that scares some of the good ones away too. :).
Thanks.
well, I applaud you. You have insight and that is a great thing. Next is priorities .. If I were assigning them it would be fix you and everything else falls into place. You have the upper hand if you understand what you want/what you need. the only thing now is whether or not you do something about it. it takes a lot of courage to admit these things. Many of us have dealt with them on one level or another and it may not help, but I do understand where you are coming from.
fyi the good ones won't be scared away by something like that.
keep in mind that the greatest display of love isn't affection, it is sacrifice.
Outstanding quote!
So true!
BigBmajWow that's good. That is honestly the best quote I've heard since I can remember. It is so appropriate for me. I'll carry that gem with me for awhile. Your insight really amazes me.
Thanks.
^^^-----Amen, she speaks truth! I Totally agree.
Thank you, I was given help in time of weakness. Just returning the favor. ;)
The best relationships were always ones I never went after more of things just kind of fell into place. I would just go about your self and one will come along don't go and start looking for a girl all over or much less be worrying about it
As a woman I'll say this, the woman isn't the problem, it goes both ways. If u pick whacky girls, u can't blame them, u made the choice. There is less good relationship material ppl out there today but there still around. Just choose better. Same goes for women, if u pick an ass hole u can't blame all men, pick better.
BigBmajOh I know I'm a problem, I've known that forever. In the past I had relied on the woman for being the sane component. This is a whole new era of insanity all around.
Or maybe it used to just be more fun fucking crazy girls.
BigBmajAt least the porn I watch has healthy women in it. :).
Fuck ill say it.. the mentality most woman today is shit.. most of them I find to be selfish.. not to take away from you screwing that girl to get back at her bf.. you should feel bad about that.. I really can't believe what that one woman said about you and your son.. real sick piece of shit to say that to someone.. I've got some crazy stories I can tell you in pm later if you want a good laugh.. there are some great women out there but you'll have to reeeeeeeally search everywhere to find them but its worth it.
sounds like every experience ive had with girls man. ive just decided to be alone for a good while. and in no way am i saying its just women because its just people in general. there are good people out there but in the younger generation they are few and far between
Unhealthy people attract and choose other unhealthy people. You just need to get yourself right and you will start choosing the right people. Spend the time to focus on yourself and doing what it takes to improve yourself. Best of luck!
BigBmajI am fully aware of that. I just thought I could have some fun during the process.
Brother I agree with vhman. When you get to the place where you feel "horrible", as well as possibly picking up diseases and living in strife I would say the fun is going out the window.
Didn't mean to be a downer.
Chicks are crazy! How that? ;-)
BigBmajIt wasn't being a downer, it was stating the obvious. I just wasn't sure I was THAT unhealthy myself. Scary shit.
I would much rather be aware of a problem than be ignorant of it. Scary or not.
Sounds like your on the right path.
It's definitely crazy out there homie! Sounds like you need a fresh start and move the hell away from whatever cesspool these bitches are coming from.
I am 37 and was married for 9 years and my wife was on her third affair when I finally left (we have kids so I didn't want them to go through a divorce) anyway, That was like 7 years ago. I moved to a new city and started a new life but still close enough so I can see my kids. I didn't talk to a woman for two years bro. I focused on me and my kids and that's it! Best thing I could have done imho. Then I met someone by chance and we've been together for 4 years now and are married and have a little girl together.
When you're in a toxic situation it's good to get away and hit reset on your life.
On a side note, I was a bouncer for a while and got to see first hand how trifling the singles scene is now. No way I could deal with that shit! It's pretty much how you described your situation. Good luck whatever you decide bro.
AnonWow.. Looks like you can pick 'em! ;) In reality, we are all fucking crazy, just varying levels of crazy...
I'd double check that fuck and forget website...... just to be sure your friend aint cockblockin you. Hate to pass up on a sweet innocent gym girlie if she's not a web slut.
Well, I feel a little better about my plain old monogamous married dude lifestyle now. I guess that's why they call it strange, lol.
Thank you! Me and mwag have an amazing relationship n marriage. I admit women want him, men hit on me, and we never stray and never get jealous, we are happy. I just had someone say they wish they had a man like mine and he told me he's only the man he is because he has me. It doesn't hurt that we still have an AMAZING sex life too and talk like a new couple. I'm lucky. It's nice to see when men appreciate what they have.
Looks like you have your hand full ?
BigBmajNo but that's looking like a better option.