People do not respect weakness or clingyness or neediness....maybe its time you man up and leave a sutuaion where yr just not fuckin happy...if she really loves you and wants to be married to YOU you'll find out soon enough....obviously she is COMPLETELY removed...everything you say SCREAMS that to me...i respect her for being honest but id respect you more if you left and stopped talking about it and man'd up already.....you've begged, pleaded, grovelled, its humiliating and pathetic! no woman repsects a weak man sorry but its the truth especially a strong woman which yr wife appears to be. c'mon she books a hotel room and gets separate beds so she can get a good night's sleep??? wtf seriously you really need any more advice?? im a woman i can CLEARLY see the writing on the wall!!

time to find someone else bro, the longer you sit around with someone who isn't into you the more time you're wasting starting a new life with someone who is.

based off your pics, i would say you wouldnt have a problem in the dating department,

There is a lot of great advice down below. I will just say simply that it is never a good idea to make emotional decisions when you are sick, depressed, under the influence of any substance such as drugs or alcohol (consequently being on cycle counts as well, especially tren. To often we forget that we are altering our frame of mind and our bodies and push or hurt people or make angry haste decisions we normally would not make. It takes a conscientious effort to remember that fact). That being said I think high E2 and low T can account for not being of sound mind and body. Not to neglect or diminish your issues, they are very real, but making any decision to press a move when your emotions are all over the board is not wise. I would try and get my hormones right and do not press her. In the mean time have faith it's not over yet.

Now to put a smile on your face watch this clip. Its funny but really drives home the point. To preface it, you need to know that the character Theo wants to borrow money from his father to higher a voodoo which doctor to put a spell on some guy making a play for his woman. This is his fathers response.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_J-EhqJDyyE

I read this earlier but I was driving so I have had a couple hours to sit on it. Your wife fell in love with the old you (for whatever reason.) I think you need to keep that in mind and try to balance the new you with that. As men we think coming on with bended knee will automatically melt their hearts, but I don't believe that is always true. We still need to be MEN! That is your wife! You are still the king of your castle, no?

I am not saying to go back to being a dick, but I think taking the lead and showing her your love from a different angle may be better than begging forgiveness with your tail between your legs.

That being said, you guys need alone time. But you need to take the lead on this. You seen what happens when you let her, you end up with separate beds. That is not conducive to reigniting the flame. If you can afford it brother I would highly recommend taking a trip to the Caribbean for a week, just you two. If that don't bring you guys together nothing will.

Hey man, I was in almost the exact same situation as you. My wife and I have been married for almost 8 yrs and I've been mentally absent for most of that time. I have always loved her but I think I let the daily drag of life get in the way. Several months back I was away on assignment and some shitty stuff happened. Bottom line...I almost didn't make it home. It shocked the shit out of me and made me realize everything I had been taking for granted. I also realized my wife meant way more to me then I realized.

When I got home, I sat my wife down and laid it all out. I told her that I realized I had neglected her, not always been there for her, etc. Then I told her that version of me was gone and that I would I spend the rest of my life showing her what she meant to me. That's a very shortened version of what went down but the point is we are at the best spot we have ever been in. My wife had gotten to a point like yours. She had given up on me and I think the only reason she hadn't left was the kids. At first I was a little overwhelming but I quickly backed off.

Open up to her and treat her like you did when you won her over. She will come around and you might have to deal with some hurt in the process but I guarantee you've made her feel the same way.

Feel free to PM me if you want to discuss further. Good luck man.

Go to marriage counseling. Your job will be to listen.

Trying too hard or pushing too much may actually make her retreat more. Something happened early on that you, her, or both do not want to bring up. A counselor will give you the forum where you can express what is not being said without fear. The counselor can help you articulate things that are not quite clear even to yourself.

Based on your description she knows you did not marry for love and doubts that you ever loved her -or needed her. Even now. She might be asking herself, "So what's changed? most likely nothing, and it's all about sex."

Put yourself in her shoes. About to give birth to a child and getting married to a man who doesn't love you. like you loved him. How lonely can that be?

I would open up to her and let her know how you felt, sincerely apologize for your actions and how it must have made her feel. Let her know why you feel the way you do now. explain why you need her in your life. This is the hardest part because we are taught as male adults we should be self sufficient. You need to be vulnerable here. You WILL be vulnerable.

I'm with cheat nature on this one.. Time to bring out the big guns!! Don't sit around apologizing.. When you take her out on all of these dates keep in the mindset you are doing this like you would with someone you just fell in love with.. not someone you're trying to make 6 years up to.. that'll just keep bring up negative memories and make it more difficult for both of you to open up.
As for worrying about her hurting you.. Why? WHYYYYYY? WHY SHOULD YOU BE WORRIED?? If she's going to hurt you shes going to hurt you and whether or not you open up to her it will not lessen the damage that could happen.. But ya know what I'd sure as fuck rather be able to sit down at the end of the day and know I tried rather than regret not trying at all out of fear.. Trust me it is better to open up and try.. your a intelligent guy and If you want to make this happen it will happen.. plus you say your emotional right now so I'd imagine you can get pretty damn creative so use it to your advantage =D
Just my 2 cents

Listen you pushed her away for 6 years dont expect her back in 6months, you have to win her trust bro. Buying her stuff is ok, but you have to show her with ACTIONS and behavior. True love is whatever it takes, if it takes you to move a mountain, you better be willing to move two. She wants the relationship the way it was in the beginning, do the same things to sweep her off her feet. As guys do everything to get the ladys, its keeping them that is a challenge. Do little sweet things like writing letters, you know the stuff you did before. I have two ideas for you, have a pizza delivered to her job with the pepperoni in shape of a heart( if she wont eat pizza,use something else). Or have flowers delivered send 23 red and one white, with a card saying out of many you are that special one. Little cute things like that is what woman love...I cant tell you the rest or I will have to charge u! Good luck my friend!

Wow thanks for opening up like this I can relate in a lot of areas let me tell you a a couple things though do not worry about getting hurt she is your wife and she comes first no matter what and do not change how you have become but just keep loving her and laying ur life down for her .. counseling is not a bad idea at all but talk to her about it and i dont know if you guys believe in God but if u do go to church together gget connected and a counselor that believes also is good because u guys made a promise to eachother in front of God. . Pm me if youd like to talk at all im here for ya

I was with my ex for 6 1/2 yrs. I left her 3 months ago because I felt I was not in love with her. I left her because she didn't treat me like the man I know I am. Well fast forward 3 months. She is the one I want to grow old with no doubt! But I pushed her away by leaving her. She is now undecided and setting me aside. So what I'm doing is taking the approach of what she is looking for....the man of her dreams. Forget your past it's done. Forget the the future it will come. Think about now! She wants excitement and something new but not a insecure man that now realizes he was wrong. Act like you just met. How would you try to win a women's affection then? Random flirting,nice gestures,dates full of excitement and once you have gained her attention again show her that your the man that she needs in her life. Plain and not simple lol. You have to take a psychological approach and stop thinking with your emotions. Think with your brain. That's how you have achieved everything else in your life and have succeeded.

If you don't have the same life goals you are ultimately going to travel in different directions......

you need to sit down with her and lay everything out on the table...from both sides, how she felt, how you felt, how you feel now and how she feels now. you wont be able to successfully move on until youve worked it out. covering up the past and moving on is just a short term solution...it will come back to bite you. if you arent able to do this successfully together then try a counselor. Buying her things is nice but just being involved with her life will open her back up to you faster than anything. Talk to her, check in/call often to see what she is doing. follow up is key too...if she has an issue with someone or something(not necessarily you) remember to check back in and see if she was able to resolve it or how she is doing with it. To guys, we could care less if someone checks back in...issue is handled and we are done with it. but to women, it seems to mean the world...its like an epiphany for them, "wow he actually was paying attention to me and he actually does care about the situation). Ive done all of these things to save the relationship with my wife and it has worked quite well...and I was way worse than you. I partied my brains out, up for days at a time, didnt do shit for her, didnt do shit around the house, didnt talk to her barely at all, most of the time incoherent and we were able to move on. hope it works out for you

Make her feel like she is the most attractive woman in the world to you. Buy her flowers, set up date nights and catch a dinner and a movie. When you have kids a relationship can get ho hum so you need to put a spark in it. I went through the same thing about 10yrs back and we worked on it. Now our marriage is outta this world.

would have been good to post this in ladies lounge then could get some major insight here, id pm some of them to check out this post or maybe their husbands if you only have their fr's
how old is she?
but girls are weird creatures, the new you may not be just enough, try REALLY showing her your feelings.

Flowers chocolates teddy bears stuff like that, after 8 years you prop know what she likes and gets her going be nice to her tell her she is beautiful

if you are up for it tell her "I love you so much id do anything for you and the relationship" maybe couple counseling is a good idea, she will be able to let go of some one the things she is holding on to if she is saying things like
"She will say something along the lines of "I'm not sure" or "I think so". "
I feel you bro im only 23 but have had the same feelings of shutting down, and one month loving and thinking how sexy my girl is and other months wanting to fuck anything ELSE with a pulse, but that's just my own shit and not hers which isn't fair, I have learned to not pay attention to those thoughts lol