posted Fri, 08/23/2013 - 06:22
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So this is my first time experiencing a pregnant woman, and I have to say, it is insanely difficult. Talk about hormones, geez. It seems like everything I do is wrong and even when I apologize it isnt enough. Its a constant barrage of emotions and im having difficulty coping with it. Shes 10 weeks pregnant and has two boys already (2 and 3 year olds) and she feels like shit all the time, so to the dads or people with experience about this subject: what are some things you did to cope? please HELP!
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ive got two kids man and its never easy dealing with a pregnant women, the way i dealt with it was by being pregnant with her lol true story, buy all the food she craves and eat it with her, spend a lot of time with her, rubbing her feet massaging her body.. watching movies.. shopping for baby stuff, setting up the crib and baby room, attending la maze parenting classes,, going to couples yoga.. it's basically spending the next 9 months doing baby stuff w/ your women maybe your girl will get horny like mine did when she was pregnant then you can do it multiple times a day lmfao and the best part is she is already pregnant!! lol congrats
Thanks bro, the horny part is def outta the question right now, HOPEFULLY that changes lol
AnonIve dropped about 20 grand in gifts since shes been preggas..goodluck to your bank account bro...
Well having been pregnant i can say i hated all of it basically.....there are parts that are beautiful like feeling the baby inside you, ppl treat you a lot nicer, yr skin & hair looks awesome even though yr fat!! being pregnant is like PMS on steroids, so if there were things she didn't like about you before she got pregnant, shes gonna hate them now....a big question is did she wanna get pregnant??..all i can say is in 30 weeks it will be over ;) and at least you get something great out of it in the end.... it wld be so much easier if you just concede that yr wrong no matter what you do....idk how personal it is or isnt...i loved my ex more when i was pregnant....so it really depends on how she felt about you before....our hormonal changes only help us bring to the surface what we've been suppressing....sometimes for days, weeks, months, even years....this is the best advice as a woman i can give...
Thank you very much, she is much better today. Her and I both wanted to have a child so it was planned, but her previous two were very easy for her.. I appreciate everyone's input, it really helps. So far its been really bad, her aching, feeling sick, emotional (mostly angry). I am just giving her space at the moment and am trying to keep my cool. Thankfully im not on cycle atm and finished with pct so I can be, for the most part, calm and collective.
AnonIs it true that when you are pregnant that you are farting for 2?
i dont fart! i dont burp, my shit doesn't stink, i never smell bad in fact i dont even sweat!! so im gonna say no ...just the baby farts!!
tip of the day coming in ;) Make your woman heart shaped pancakes for breakfast(dont fk em up they're just pancakes) Yes I did this this morning!!! i may be soft but i gotta a happy woman
AnonI just go to maccas and buy her a mega breakfast and shes lovin it
There really is nothing I was able to do just roll with it. When my ex wife was about 3 months pregnant she wanted sex and I was doing something she picked me up by my head and threw me to the floor and practically raped me that day. Never mess with them.
10 Weeks? lmfao You ain't seen nothing yet! ba ba ba baby you aint seen na na nothin yet!
1.) Be polite and nice as you can be all the time even if she's not(trust me she won't be)
2.) Do everything you can to help her out and make her life easier. (She may have it rough the first 3 ish months - my wife was sick/vomiting every day first trimester)
3.) Get foods approved before you cook them in the house!! Yes that shit makes them sick too :(
4.) She's gonna wanna fuck a lot at the end when she gets nice and big and you might not always feel like it. You have to(so get some viagra or whatever) I got a little uninterested in the end and this will make them feel " unattractive" and that will not benefit you in any way!
5.) Tell her she's beautiful even when she's not lookin so hot
6.) She WILL say ugly things that she doesn't mean. Don't take it personal! Remember her hormones are outta wack like any of ours can get sometimes.
7.) She WILL cry randomly for no reason and will not have an explanation for it. Dont take it personal there is no reason for this either.
8.) Bring her flowers randomly(My wife loved this more than anything) Also favorite candy or whatever else she may be craving when that times comes.
Just goin off the fly here since its fresh and my little boy turns 3 months next week. I'll come ad some more later if something else pops up.
Good luck. Patience and compassion better be with you so you can survive this.
Thanks bro, its really tough right now
I believe you brother. Treat her like a princess. Its the little things too that help. When she gets all big I put lotion of for my wife. I even helped her shave the harder to reach areas. Just gotta think about what will make her life easier. Foot massages and back massages. They always ache everywhere. Comfort her any way possible.
Anoni like you dude!
thanks bud!
Good God guys, this shit is overwhelming,but it feels good to talk about it knowing that its normal. I HOPE its not this bad after she spits it out
"Spits it out" ahahah
AnonDo you know if its a boy or a girl ? I have no idea if this is true or not, but I heard when women carry boys they are a little more regular emotion wise. But my wife was pretty crazy after both boys arrived . I remember looking over at her as we drove home after the first one and I was like "oops I think I brought the right baby home, but someone gave me the wrong wife " .
Their bodys are going through some pretty crazy stuff, gotta just try to be patient.
We wont know for another month or so, she said her two boys pregnancys were "perfect". Its fucking intense man shes like threatening to leave me and shit
If you are not doing anything wrong, then I would tell her to go. It is a win win. I don't care what the excuse is no one has a right to be an all out ass just because of hormones. I have had guys use PTSD as an excuse to be assholes to their wives and tell them it isn't ptsd you are just an asshole. And that works both ways hormones can only be excused so far.
I'M A FEMALE WITH HORMONES AND I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE! He's right... you can only blame hormones for soo much..
Bingo! Self accountability the mother of all success!
It all depends on her.. not everyone reacts the same.. she maybe wonderful after.. she maybe worse.. I have a friend that was wonderful while prego and then once the baby was born she was crazy... all I can say is HELP.. HELP as much as you can.
AnonHahaha you think this is rough ? Wait till the surge of hormones that hits her the few days/weeks after she gives birth , coupled with sleep deprivation .
Hey Novi.. Congrats on the ADV my friend!!
Anon:) Thank you :) When did we become Anbro ? I totally missed that one. Ah asleep at the wheel again.
Give them a vote if you find it helpful.PermalinkWell I've been BRO since the beginning... Soooo the Anbro came about just today!
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Yes!! And that look you will be getting perpetually "This is all your fault"!! Priceless!
Join the military and go to war. It will make way more sense than what you are going to face at home ;)
I think I may do that myself.. I just spent the last three nights trying to cut a 10 month olds hair! Next time the hell with trying to save 15 bucks!
AnonWas it really that long at ten months ? Thats one hairy little dickens ;)
This was his third hair cut in 10 months.. no joke it was that long (Over his ears and in his eyes each time).. He's very blond and sky blue eyes..
AnonWow thats incredible !!! Its funny, my one son needs hair cuts about three times as often as the other. Kids are the damdest little creatures.
Lmao!! I remember those days. I also remember saying special ops my ass, the only special ops around here is this kid that seemingly can duck every damn movement I make!
Oh my God! I'm raising one of your kids.. I knew it.... I really do think this child has special ops training.. he can duck, tuck, roll and crawl faster than I can run.(and take that diaper off and you've never seen something move so fast) Night before every time I went for his head he went under the end tables.. so I thought it would be a good idea to cut it while he was a sleep... OMG one side was longer than the other.. finally fixed that the next night.. while he was in the bath.. now he's got a flat top.. LOL
Lmaooo! You can't underestimate that baby speed! I would pick deployment in a women's thong a thousand times over, than to go through that again. When my daughter says "Dad will you watch your granddaughter?" I say I will give you a $1000.00 if you let me off the hook. If the enemy ever captured me and wanted me to give up positions all they would have to do is make me watch another less than a year old child. I would fold like a lawn chair lol.
LMAO! Panks weakness exposed.. not feel bad buddy I almost folded like a lawn chair trying to get under that table.. and I won't even tell you how I've got to hold him to get a diaper on him.. let's just say it's all done with one hand one knee the kid and one hand on the diaper...Hey it's like mission impossible..
LMFAO!!!!
*It's going to get better... yes hormones can be a bitch and yes she will take it out on you... That's how we do it.. that just means that she knows you love her and she knows you can handle it and not lose it. Just remember that she wouldn't be this way if she could help it.. Men a lot of times do not understand what it's like to have your emotions all over the place.. most of you guys should understand, the ones that have run cycles that have cause high estro.. imagine that's what it's like for us every single day... she will get better.. just be supportive. Also, I just watched a movie of the weekend.. "what to expect when expecting" it's a JLo movie.. Very cute and she will be able to relate to it I'm sure. Just try to make her feel special as much as possible, help with the other kids as much as you can and don't always agree that will piss her off too.. *
I worked all day everyday.
My woman was insane.We actually split up about four months after our child was born.We got back together after a while.1)Don't crack any jokes,no matter how funny you think it is.2)Don't try to help unless you are told to do so.It will sound something like this "ARE YOU GOING TO FUCKING HELP ME OR JUST SIT THERE ON YOUR FAT ASS?!3)Say things in your head before you say it out loud.If you think it can be construed as negative or mean,rethink it.At the time I wish I had understood better how their hormones affect them.I would have handled things different.I don't think we would have split up if I handled things different.
AnonYes honey your rite is a motherfuka on cycle!
I found it was better to just nod my head for yes or shake my head for no.That way there is no "tone" to your voice.
AnonApparently the grand finale of labour is the best to look forward to..mite buy some ear plugs for that abuse!
Thank you bro, she is flipping out!
I have this experience just in my marriage a lot and u just gotta lay all ur pride down bro and still somehow treat her like a princess! Shit aint easy!! Lol
Ive been reading some scary shit that says like some women it can take like 2 years for their hormones to stabilize. I hope to god it gets better cause shit is bad now. Like its supposed to be bad first trimester, then the second is good, then it turns to pure shit the third trimester
Anonif you can go chat to your miss mother see how she was when she was in labour..pretty good indicator of how things will pan out!
I need to, she said her first two wasn't so bad, bit she is a beast now, no sex drive, always upset, doesn't want to be touched, everything I try seems to backfire