In a Wednesday night
So got home from work today. My fiance has been diagnosed with BPD borderline personality disorder and believes she has it , I've figured this for 6 months and sure enough , also full blown alcoholic trying to recover for the last two years. Usually doesn't make it 2-5 days. A shitty Dr wrote her 5 .5 Ativan 3 weeks ago. Worked well for two days. Back to the usual bpd bullshit and delusions. Walked in from work at 525pm today and could tell she'd been drinking. I can tell most anything about a person once I know them. She d3nie3ed it and promised. The lies are commonplace it seems like she can't handle being a liar or even if it's just a white lie.
Walked outside open trash can kid snd see miller bottles still cool. Bring them inside ask her again, lied again and then admitted. I threw them down in the carpet pissed she'd lied to me for the 25ooth time.. so she rushed me aggressively so I stood mind and pushed her out of my face not hard od course and she starts hittinf me. I'm a man that's cool until I've head enough and throw her im on the bed. She then runs and grabs my bag which contains 14 vials and two bags of orals calls her boss on FaceTime and says I use steroids and shows him sand starts talking shit her blah blah blag. Calls police i grab everything and bolt. Thing is I was sitting out a pv when we got the place so couldn't be there to sign the lease, just her. Back the in street which i hate. Most my money is tied up in crypto that I can't pull right now and often wonder "when do I get out and stay out" because Its what my heart, body and mind yearn for. My comfy home where I cook, research, clean and recover.. sorry y'all all my people is either dead or in for at least 1o more years. I can't let the best me in just too old to be sleeping in the SUV and don't want to get back into the hustle or working my way back out when I never put myself there in the first place. Just tired and fucking broke from having to sit that time out and realistically understand I'll be sleeping in the street next two months it i can't hit something quick... Just leaving gym gonna smash some co
Ld turkey burgers my boy gave me and think until I manage to crash on how to get back out and not let another person put me back there. I love y'all guys, I got no love for these streets no more.all suggestions welcome and keep it pushing y'all
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Anyone else noticed that NWA literally hasn't been on here since he posted this up??
Not sure exactly how things work in the US, but if the cops were looking for him as a result of her phone call would they instantly just be able to hold him indefinitely until court or bail date?
Easiest way to answer that is by law they cannot hold you like that, the reality? They do.
I thought that's exactly what they do over there? & if you can't get hold of Dog The Bounty Hunter then your ass is staying in Jail until your court date?
Once bail is involved it’s a different story, there’s time limits on how long they can hold you without charging you, but in a lot of departments crooked minds they’ll do whatever they can to tie you up. They don’t pay the settlement anyway if you sue them, the taxpayers foot that bill. A guy I work with’s brother was held for 10 months without being charged. He was guilty as shit for trafficking a lot of cocaine, but they had absolutely nothing that would stick. I don’t know how it all played out in the end. Think the best for NWApatches though, may not be that bad, for all we know he’s chilling in the SUV and doesn’t have a way to pay his phone bill.
SERIOUSLY - WHERE IS THIS GUY? HE HASN'T BEEN ON HERE SINCE THIS NIGHT STILL ....
Just leave , Leave now .
If you stick around you have no one to blame but yourself .
Them bitch's be crazy.
@Mikeyt84.L.I..N.Y.
You should read this carefully, I’ve been done told all my homies stay away from the borderlines, Males like myself tend to have anti social traits and well this makes me the magnet to the borderlines.
Better to have no women than one who’s got her claws in you so deep yall are trauma bonded, idk call me old fashioned but reading up on the DSM5 had me spot this shit in my family members,
Close family members and I dropped them like a bad habit, been hard in the beginning but you owe it to yourself to be treated better
Juice head, tough guy etc etc whatever you wanna call me I’m worthy of positive healthy relationships and sexual exploration without tethered bonds.
Drop this fucking women bro, they want the complete package, jacked as fuck dude that will bow down and serve them at any whim, don’t pickup the drink over this one bro, I did that with five separate relationships that all had some actual good potential going and I caved
That’s rough. Maybe this is your turning point. My advice, keep positive, network and build relationships with people in real life. Less time on here. Won’t help in your situation. Start at the gym. It’s amazing how many friends I have from all backgrounds from meeting them at the gym. Real friends - doctors, lawyers, investment banking, plumbers, electricians, construction, etc. They help me and I help them all the time. This is a fun place, but we aren’t your friends even if we call you Bro. lol Wishing you a speedy turnaround.
It sounds like the SUV is the better option for now. I wouldn't go back.
Dont go back home
She is going to destroy you at any cost if you keep messing with her, especially if she doesn’t get you hemmed up this time and you try to make a clean break. Once they spite you, its a ticking timebomb, Oh Lord. I will never understand why men tolerate this type of stuff. Been seeing it my whole life, it just ain’t worth it.
Problem is we have ALL been with an arsehole woman at some point in our lives (well most of us lol) and when you see another guy going through this kind of shit you think why on earth are they staying and putting up with it? But its totally different when its you on the other end of it - women are the masters of manipulation and can always play nicely and put on an act when they have to. You then forgive them, you still have feelings for them and you stay. Then it happens all over again .....
You aren’t wrong about that and I’ve experienced that attachment before many times. I’ve been through some pretty rough patches too but nothing like that. I’ve seen so many friends, cousins, uncles, etc go through insane shit, I’m talking criminal/felony level abuse or mental/emotional manipulation that was sickening and I knew I would never deal with that, and still, I never will. We have the power to turn our backs and walk away.
anvilI don't have big all long reply for you brother. I am in your corner. Don't let anyone be on control of what you do, build the life you want around you. Cut off anything not providing you positivity, or that stands in your way of getting those things you mentioned. Nothing comes easy, I know. But this is the best way, I'm never gonna be in a box again.
Patches I’m sorry to read this brother. Wish I could offer you something more then words.
It’s hard to be part of a team when you alone! She is not your people! Solitude will find sanctuary, it sucks but find a way on your own. It will happen if you let it! Allow yourself to flourish , allow yourself to believe & FUCKING GRIND FOR IT! All will be groovy, keep your head square, your thoughts square & think about yourself , fuck her & “them people” . Show yourself the man your ment to be! Lots of love brother dm anytime, if I can help I will.
That all sucks man. I'm sorry to hear about the issues you're having here. But I'm going to be the ass who points out that she wasn't the only one who's at fault here. You knew what she was like, you knew the kind of issues she has that she was an addict and that she wasn't stable yet you still stayed anyways. So while she is absolutely in the wrong and at fault for being a crazy, drunken cunt. You need to own the responsibility of keeping yourself in that situation when you should have known better. If you want to grow, become a better man and try to get your life right you need to be able to acknowledge your own short comings so that you can overcome them.
Not trying to bust your balls here my man. You're situation sucks and i think most of us guys have been with a total shit bag of a woman at least once in our lives so i def relate to you here. But accepting that i was also partially to blame for allowing myself to stay in such situations when i knew better was one of the main things that allowed me to stop getting stuck in such situations. I'm telling you this so that, hopefully, you can become and happier man. You'll get through this man. But it might be a good idea to stash the gear somewhere trusted for a little while just in case the cops are looking for you. There's no telling what that crazy cunt told them happened. But you can bet it involved the fact that you put your hands on her even if it was justified. Though i'm sure she left out the part where she was hitting you first and you only got her off of you. In the future always, and i mean ALWAYS, start recording everything on your phone the second you think the situation is starting degrade. I'd be less worried for you right now if you had a recording showing she's the one who attacked you first. With the way things are these days men specifically need to protect themselves in these sorts of situations. All it takes is one false allegation and suddenly you're going bankrupt from paying lawyers, your reputation is turned to shit in the community around you (even if you get proved innocent in the end plenty of people will never change their minds about you) and end up in prison for a few years and parole for another few.
Stay safe man. Get your shit in order brother. Nobody deserves anything they don't work for. But you can put in the work and have a better life for yourself.
What a Grade A Cunt mate, you want to get as far away from her as possible no matter what feelings you have left for her, women like this will cause nothing but problems for you as long as you are with them. Alcoholics with this kind of unpredictable mindset are also likely to do anything to upset you, they have no boundaries which makes them dangerous to be around too. My mother is one of these kind of arseholes, she will ring the cops and say anything to them at all to get you into trouble even if its totally untrue. Doing that with your Gear is beyond acceptable or normal. If you want to get the most out of your training you need a relaxed and stable life at home, not shit like this. If she is like I am reading into it, then when you try leaving she will probably try making you feel really bad about it and tell you she will change and get help etc - be fair to yourself and own mental well being and get away from her mate. As to where you go and get help to get somewhere to live asap I am not too sure as I have never been in this situation especially over in the States. I would probably look to staying with my father till I got back on my feet or other family members like an aunt. Just remember if she feels down most of the time, then she will always try and make you feel the same way as her and will resent it when you are happy. get yourself around a positive woman buddy and you in turn will flourish.