I guess being pissed off, is better than being pissed on.
Whats up Eroids, its Win with another slight dilemma! Let me get into the meat and sweet potatoes here. Two months ago me and the family decided to take a vacation. We were gone for a about a week and during that time a friend of the family watched over our house. We have a dog and he needs to be fed and walked while i was away so.............
This friend of the family is my father-laws best friend. My father-law basically grew up with this guy all his life, they do everything together. A little bit about this guy, hes a contractor in his mid 50"s, he weighs about 115lbs soaking wet. Hes a very smart guy, but also very eccentric to say the least. By eccentric, im saying odd. He tends to have mood swings like a girl and loves to be the center of attention. He wears the tightest jeans and shirt that he could fit on his womanly physique.
Ok, heres where its gets sketchy. We arrive back from vacation and this guy cleaned everything from head to toe in our house. Floors,cars,kitchen,bathrooms,a/c and even did our laundry. YEA, that shit was grounds for me to nock the son of a B*@ch out, but Wait it gets better. Upon his departure he was wearing a nice fitted under Armour shirt, I didnt think anything about it. When I had to go to work, I realized that I was missing my work shirt(under armour, black long sleeve). I wear that shirt under my uniform at work and the hat to the gym.
I confronted this guy and his excuse was," I was so busy cleaning your house, that I used your clothes when I didnt have my own." So he returned my shit, the same day! OK, I let that shit slide, but he could have at least asked me first, right? Then two months later (today), I see the same guy with a pair of Oakley's( oil rigs). I have a particular scratch on mine, so I look at his and I'd be damn, my fucking glasses.Of course I confronted him and his reply was" You got me, the gig is up" and "I guess im a klepto." I'll kelpt my foot in your ass, Im the wrong person to cross!!
Now at this time Im in a rage, my family says "oh well that just him etc" I reply with " well if this fucker will take my shit, what the hell else does he have of OURS? No normally, I would just knock this guys teeth outta his mouth, but hes the family friend and I'm not trying to mess up the father-in- laws friendship! Out of respect to my father, I don't want him to think I'm some roid raged goon.
In essence, this guy took my clothes and didn't give it back until confronted. Its hard to remain calm and maintain my bearings when, shit like this takes place. I'm trying to remain calm and cordial, but the beast inside of me wants to ring his neck.
Help me out fellas/ladies, let me know what you would do in this situation and how you would handle this. Sorry if my grammar sucks,but i don't claim to be an English major.
By no means am I trying to come off as a tuff guy, but it took all the strength in my 180 lb body not to murder him! Im fluent in Martial arts "Muay thai", I could do damage.Im stuck between a rock and hard place..Wheeew. ..that feels better.
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Go around the house, with your family, and take an inventory of all of your sensitive and valuable possessions. If anything is missing then make a detailed list. Call the guy out and ask for your stuff back. If he doesn't return your property then contact your Father-in-Law, since he recommended his "friend". You can also protect yourself by making a police report. What if that guy made a copy of your house keys? He might be able to access your home at any time. So notifying the police will put him on their radar. If items continue to go missing, then he will look like the guilty party. Also, if you are really concerned then take him to court after the police report. You can request him to pay for new lock, since your family may not feel safe in your home knowing what he has done.
i would say don't get yourself into trouble over some idiot that jacked some material things from you. life is to short. lesson learned make it very clear he is no longer allowed in your home and distance yourself from him. although pounding the shit out of someone can be temporarily gratifying it almost always makes things worse for you and the people you care about. be assertive not aggressive. fine if that's just the way he is its also fine for you to have boundaries about who comes into your house, stick to them you are in the right and he is a thieving ass. good luck brother
Fuxk it some people deserve to get knocked out. I'd hit an old person if they deserved it... Or you can just flick the shit out of his eAr everytime you see him.
hey brother, my thoughts on this extremely unfortunate situation would be after calmly explaining what this guy did to your pops, I can't imagine he'd want to carry on a friendship with a liar and theif. and as I get a little older I take comfort in knowing I just bought this guy for the price of a shirt and a pair of shades. even tho yes I'd of liked to make him swallow his teeth. however we both know just how costly than can get. soo I'd say it was a small cheap price to pay to find out that this man is not trustworthy. if dad chooses to see this for what is truth you just have done him a service as well, if not after this shithead steals or fucks pops over you can always take comfort in telling him so. again all I can say is WOW. people never seize to amaze me.
I'd beat his ass, you've caught him twice with your possessions with no disciplinary actions, he may see this as a reason to keep taking your stuff. Thieves are lazy, inconsiderate, kid-minded pieces of shit, if they steal from you beat the hell out of them and it turns into a lesson like kids touching hot burners, they won't do it again plus it's really hard to steal with two broken hands
Well good job not beating his ass, self control is a good thing.
I would be wondering what else this man took, and I would inform your FIL.
Tell your father in law that his friend is a thief. He should know a guy he trusts to that degree will abuse trust instilled in him.
AnonIm well versed in mma too
And shit like this is hard not to beat his ass and yes after the oakleys.. i would have lost my shit.. the shirt? oh well.. but my oakleys too? naw fuck you Theif.. id prolly be fighting... but these days i try To have more control.. and let shit go cause yes we are not the average guys esoecially factoring in that we practice mma.. For me its krav maga... just let it go.. my only thing is
What else did he get?
Actually id investigate further thenn make a decision and inform your dad of it all and let him k.ow your pissed
Your dad should choose your side anyday over a friend
Krav maga is the shit, thats a martial art that you can actually use! Pretty bad ass! I've been trying to control my temper to, if he would have caught me 10 years ago when I was a hot head, he would be wishing he didn't take my stuff. I text my father-in -law and told him, "the only reason I didn't, knock the shit out of your friend, is because I respect you." Thanks for all your imput.
Cleaning your house from top to bottom is a tell tale sign something else happened and the "evidence" was being covered up. Proof of this was when he was wearing your clothes and then out of nowhere your glasses. This guy is not family in the sense of the word although he is tight with your Pops. It's always shaky ground when dealing with this situation considering family friend so here are your choices:
You put alot a thought into this, I had a great reply, but some how it got deleted. However, I like option 1,3,4, they all seem like great choices.#3 was true but funny a.f. Thanks for your help.
what? id be happy if someone cleaned my house
Im goona post but got hurt saturday and doc has me on vikes (not to be confused with Vitamin here) tomorrow. I have ideas but too lightbeaded at tbe moment.
Oh shit feel better my brother. Keep me informed.
I was stupid and decided to arm wrestle the number 1 arm wrestler in the world and the number 8 heavyweight multiple times and now I'm paying the price with some seriously hurt forearms and tendons. I decided to back seat my Napoleon complex for a while this time lol. painkillers are the only thing that is letting me sleep and the Doc said for me to suck it up and be a man and be lucky I didn't snap the tendons. Fuck I'm getting old.
Bro, you need to water board his Ass and find out what else he took. After that you need to take a body part of his, as a reminder not to steal your shit. Cut off a finger. I don't think a thumb is quit called for so I'd take like a pinky or pointer.
Teach the lesson bro
Where do u Barry your hookers ed? Do you have a spot for this guy?
valhallas bestwhat a fucking piece of shit... he practically stole your oakley and passively pretended like it was a joke but i bet would have never gave them back if u didnt see that, so in essence hes a fuckin thief.. this guys is a douche n to clean your house for u when u didnt even ask him to while wearing ur work shirt?? wtf else did this guy fuckin do, imagination is running wild...
id honestly usually tell ppl on here u should beat their ass and film that shit so i could watch but for u man just try ur hardest to let it go its not worth it..
maybe try thinkin on the bigger picture that if this is your biggest issue atm its not that bad i just read a book about the civil war of sierra leone from a child soldiers eyes n i mean shit they would take families and make the sons have sex with the fuckin moms an then kill every1 1 by 1 i mean shit idk bout u but that just makes me have a better perspective on life n that alot of my issues arent too bad but at this same time im trying to understand why this guy who was supposed to watch ur house did all that n i just cant sometimes u just gotta let shit go
i mean unless u can catch him slippin somewhere where there is no cameras =)
Yea, he's like a family member, kinda like an uncle. The kind of uncle you don't want to keep your little girl around because, you know he has shady tendencies. I'm going to have to talk with him, man to man. Straighten shit out, but firmly. See my father-in - law doesn't have many friends or girlfriend ect. If I was to crush this guy, he would probably disown my father. Honesty just because I respect my father, is the only reason holding me back! He was actually wearing my shades today, I was like "wow nice glasses man." Lmfao!! If he would have just asked it would have been cool, shit I have 3 pair of Oakley's, the pair he took I don't even wear. You right though I should let it go, after our little convo.
last year we had a party for my wifes bday, hired a hall etc etc, cost me 4grand and her mum chucked in 2grand , food,drinks , dj, caterers the worx, anyway her whole family where there, they have never liked or accepted me long story short , im at the bar and i can hear her uncle, mum, etc etc talking shit about me how they hate me blah blah anyway the uncle i have seen twice b4 but never spoke or introduced...hes drinking the drinks i paid for eating my food and talkn shit about me.... i went outside to cool off and he came out and sparked a smoke.... i bashed him. anyway the point is by me doing that i have fkd up alot in my life... her family dis owned me etc etc.... so my advice in reality is dont beat him, threaten yes but nothing physical...it may affect the relationships with others around you ie: your in laws , then your misses due to the resentment of tension btween you and her parents. it snow balls. good luck.
I'm sorry bro the only thing I can think of after reading this is the guy with his 115lb womanly physique was wearing a nice fitted shirt (me I'm thinking tight like the clothes you described that he likes to wear) and it was your shirt Lol..... I have to admit this made me laugh! Soooo does heeee um wear you know! Uhhhh the same size as you? LMAO I'm sure you not but you have to admit its funny! Ok I'm done busting your chops..... In all seriousness I would have at least unleashed a verbal beat down on this prick.
Haha don't worry about hurting my feelings nooka, I can take a joke!!! My shirt fits like skin on a grape on me, but like a loose magnum condom on him. Lmfao, its funny a.f. I know, I can take jokes no sweat homie.
Lol I'm glad because that mental picture was funny and I had to share! Not everyone can take joke..... Good lookin out bro!
MY thing would be what else did he take, I would have been happy about the house being clean but if he is a klepto that means he did it just to look for shit that you might not notice you have that he could take. I wouldn't fuck him up because your dad vouched for him, I would just put the fear of Hades into him by doing something like wrapping my hands around his throat and hold him against a wall for a minute while I tell him what will happen when I find anything else of mine on him. I hate thieves, worst kind of people.
Yea, I thought the same thing. I don't trust him at all! I hate thievery too.
tax him bro.
I'll tax his ass alright.
you only got two options kick his ass or kick his ass.. i mean he STOLE from you.. do i need to send you some left over tne so you can come to your senses? lol jk but seriously kick his ass
I so want to, everyone is giving him excuses like " Oh that's just him". It tool everything I had in my body to not flip the fck out on him. I'm trying to think rational, before I act. I would still take you up on the "tne", offer. I'm off cycle now, so I guess I'm passive aggressive. I have a couple of years under my belt in martial arts "Muay thai", I would really hurt him.
RustyhookerHeart to heart with dad on law. He vouched for dude. Cleaned house woulda made me happy! Stealin shit....nope. Dad should addtess his homey.
You would think he would, but intern he pulled me to the side and said" what the hell is wrong with him." I think that would be his place to say something to him but,no. I wouldn't say he vouched for this guy, he kinda nodded his head and walked away in disgust.
I would move out of my in laws home, well I probably wouldn't have a choice after taking my glasses back.
I dont live with my in-laws, I have my own home.