Feeling guilty about controlling temper
Ok kids, serious subject.
I work in a somewhat laid back environment, and I'm a pretty laid back guy. I get along with everyone in my office rather well. However we like most offices have one douche bag. This guy is your typical 5-6" fatass with little man's syndrome. Probably 260- 270 lbs. Loud as hell, and quite unprofessional. I've had to bite my tongue more that once with the little prick, but I always keep cool because I never have and never will lose my temper at work. That's not the way that I roll.
So today, I walk into another co-workers office and he is there talking to the Douche, and as I walk in, I say casually, "Whassup crackers." (I feel that I can say that because I'm white as well. Yes, admittedly slightly unprofessional.)
The other coworker smiles and says whatsup Ed, and the douche bag says: "Whats up Bitch."
Now, I'm pretty chill, however I don't take kindly to people calling me bitch. Especially with someone who I'd like to make my bitch. (No Homo) However, I'm at work, and calling someone cracker probably made him feel justified. However it's now 30 minutes later and I am still wanting to go into this kids office and have a closed door talk with this piece of shit. You know, give him a little tune up.
So just wanted to open this up to my fellow eroiders:
Should I:
A. Go into this kids office, shut the door and beat his fat ass to an amnesiatic state.
B. Go into this kids office, shut the door and let him know in my serious voice that if he were to call me that outside of work that he would get his ass kicked in a manner that he has never experienced, including full dental work. (No homo)
C. Wait until after work, lure him into the woods beat his ass and stab him.
D. Just let shit go.
I don't know why this got my goat (No homo) but I look at that fat, loud, little man syndrome, piece of shit and would take some serious pleasure in hurting him. I could beat a guy like that into paralysis and walk away with a clear conscience.
Sorry. I know, I try to keep things light weight around here, but figured this would be as good of place as any to vent so I don't end up doing something stupid. I'm off cycle by the way, however starving my ass off to keep my weight at 215...Could have something to do with it.
Also, am I being a bitch by not doing anything? After he called me a bitch the only thing that I did was smile and say: "30 seconds and you'd be my bitch, and you know it." I really did keep my cool.
Maybe I'm being a bitch by letting this bother me.
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RustyhookerYou gave the perfect reply. I work in a large organization and keeping quiet isn't easy. Just think....every night he stands in the mirror but still can't see his winkie twinkie.
Cheezeburgerkatyou should have manned up, went to his face and said if we have a problem we can take this outside
And he's gone!!
Lmao. That guy couldn't hide his douchebaggery if he was paid.
Thank You! That was a strange cat!
Monster666. He likes to play. And beg. And poke the bear.
LMFAO! No way!
Ohh yeah!
AnonNo Way! That was monster666?
Do Not Feed the Animals!
Easier said than done, especially in a professional environment. You might get away with it at Burger King or wherever the hell you might work.. but when you have little kids you just don't have the convenience of kicking everyone's ass that looks at you wrong. You've gotta be thinking about them. That my friend is manning up.
I pick letter C. And after you do that then go with D.
Well ed you said it yourself, you felt it appropriate to use the term cracaker cuz you're white, he obviously felt it was appropriate you use the term bitch because...
Lol. Well said. Glad to have your ass back brother. No homo.
What's up bitch?
Lolololol. Fuckin little man. I don't know your stats Ed, I picture you looking like Kip. But you said you're 215, probably been lifting for some time so why would he try and get cheeky with you?
What ended up happening after that? How does he act these days.
Lol, I think everyone pictures me looking like kip. I'm back on cycle and sitting at 230 at the moment.
I ended up taking a different approach. Our company has a company softball team that this douche plays on. So I went and talked to the most gossipy bro in the office and told him that I wanted to join the softball team. He asked me why? And I got kind off hush hush and told him not to say anything but I'm joining because I want pussy boy to cross me so that I could kick his ass outside of work and not get fired.
Of course it only took 5 minutes for this to get back to pussy boy, and he's been kissing my ass ever since. I think I'll still join the softball team.
Just show him a couple of the hookers you've killed on video. I'm sure you've got quite the collection on VHS..
LOL
BigBmajI had to say something to someone at work in a similar situation. I just had to say something I couldn't let it go. Every time I would think about it I got more angry. I always do a quick assessment - can I let this go? If I really can then I drop it right that second. If I can't then I go say something. It went well and he will not push my buttons anymore.
In the case of your coworker I would say "Hey bitch, I just wanted to let you know that I may have been inappropriate with the cracker statement but it's not smart to call me a bitch".
Someone did that to me awhile back. I called a couple of guys bitches in a friendly way and one of them immediately corrected me. He said its not cool to call me a bitch. I respected him for that shit too.
I think you did ok-you didn't let him get away with it without consequences, and kept your cool. Like a good alpha guy would do.
You and I have similar problems-some things seem to really push the buttons and the anger makes us want to do some pretty extreme things.
Last time I was in Norcross, GA a guy gave me the "finger" when driving. I followed him all the way to his house, drove by, and I'm afraid of what I might have done to the dude if he wasn't a coward (as they usually are).
The other time a guy was in a truck purposely block me getting to an off ramp in NC, so he could try to look cool in front of his woman who was riding with him. In that case I got some things out of my trunk and almost followed him to break out his windows.
I had to learn to let the ANGER go, but not the situation just go without speaking up/doing something.
Yeah, just keep the anger under control the best you can and it gets easier with time. I think you're ok, especially since unlike most people you let the guy know his beta smart-ass comment didn't work-you're still the alpha there.
For some reason some of us have pent-up anger issues (mine's from a shitty childhood and bad high school crap) so its hard sometimes for me not to break out someone's windows with a tire tool when some dick thinks he can do that shit.
Seems like most people say nothing, when directly or indirectly insulted by some douche, which is usually some insecure beta doing typical beta stuff to cut others down, which kind of negates the validity of said comments to begin with! But you held your own.
Bravo!
Publicly apologize to him for the run-in, then publicly befriend him for a few weeks to build up deniability... then stab him. At his funeral, cry a LOT. If you hit yourself with pepper spray before going in there youll be a wreck, crying, snotting, puking, drooling. Youve got to sell it. Hope this helps. Good luck buddy.
That's hilarious!!!
You did the rite thing bro and I'm very proud of you. Having said that, I pick C...
Lol. I already did bro. Watch the news.....
My nigga...
Lmao
AnonPicturing fatty as newman from seinfeld and ed as dwight from the office with this one:P
Fark man what would them dead hookers expect no less from you?
Seriously,
Just laugh or shake your head at him all the time it will either create a complex or make him think your insane-WINNING!
BirmonI'm sorry but Newman would kick Dwight's ass. Unless Dwight was armed, which he usually is. But 1v1 in the Dojo, I think Newman would own him. Even Michael did.
AnonSo your saying newman would make dwight his bitch:P
Just own it ed. You are a bitch. threaten him with a ton of Civil liberty lawyers and a workplace harassment lawsuit if it happens again. Tell him, "We bitches deserve respect like errvybody else, Um-hum." Then 2 snaps and a head toss as you walk away.
I dont think it was a big enough comment to beat his little ass, if you made this into a big situation i think you might come out the bad guy (even though he sounds like a complete ass) i would let it slide but if something similar happened, let him know there and then its not cool and he should watch his little self
IMO the way you handle this could make you look like the office hero or a dick. This is what I would do, I would speak with him and have a witness so he can not turn shit around on you. I would say some thing like this. I like to joke around as much as the next guy however, I believe you crossed the line by calling me a bitch. So please in the future do not call me that, I find the word highly offensive.
I can't agree- by saying you find the word highly offensive it means they succeeded in getting to you.
I'd rather deal with it by keeping a straight face and saying something like "Is that the best you can do? Let me know when you want me to show you how a bitch gets treated." but I realize not what you're aiming for he he.
Something that one needs to take into account is the fact that I do joke around at work like I do here which does make it hard for people to read what line they shouldn't be crossing.
Yea I get the same problem about people not knowing when I'm serious. With my friends atleast. Doesn't help I say "ill break your jaw" with a smile...
thunderbeastthat's tricky dude I had the same situation happen to me when i worked for mcdonalds a long time ago remeber bro in these situations calls for more action less words because anything you say to these kind douches they flip around, and you don't want to have that kinda war. Let's say i got lucky and caught him slippin walking around and popped him and went home. cops were literally at door in less than 2 hours questioning me and checking my hands and i got lucky and bullshitted my way out of it like a boss. They did and investigation at work and literally i got fired from work. So just remeber physical justice is highly frowned upon in the society we live in and you can and most likely will get FUCKED by the long dick of the law. If anything it's best to let the universe take a care of this fucking piece of shit, so get a punching bag and get your anger out and just think of how fucked up his life is and what led him to be the pievce of shit he is today.
BirmonΛΛΛΛ This
I would take him aside and ask him if he was ignorant or stupid. He will most likely be puzzled by the statement. I would then say your answer is going to determine how I respond. Maybe you are ignorant to what the term "Bitch" means and the derogatory connotations that it holds when saying it to a man. Now if you are stupid that means you do know what it means and apparently are inviting me start a war in which I will win and you will be humiliated. Simply by me revealing why you try to act and talk cool, because of your massive insecurities of never developing into becoming a real man. Choice is yours I will measure your response to this conversation by the way you speak to me next time.
you are so sexy when you speak those big words mmmm ;)
Hahaha
I am a geek at heart what can I say!
Wow. I don't think that I have the intellectual capacity to pull off something like that.
I'd have to give it an Ed modification:
"Are you ignorant or stupid, eeeeeent! (buzzer sound) Wrong answer, you are bleeding BITCH!
HAHAHA! Your version is better! Oh yeah I have watched you my friend your writings and the books you read, you don't have me fooled with your intellect! I know you are a Renaissance Redneck!
I am curious, how much surveillance do they have in your office? Any cameras and such? Is his office accesible stealthily? You get where I am going with this... What about where you guys park your cars? His "bitch" remark is worthy of a couple flat tires..
i think introducing him to Viking and Tread in the eroids van will solve everything...once he sees what you guys do to those hookers hell never even be able to look you in the eyes again
Thats the one.... nobody survives the texan + irish spit roast that only BIG T and myself can deliver.... we have done plenty of CONTRACT CRUSHINGS in that beat up old van..... Aaaaahh happy days!!
CONTRACT CRUSHING? With spurs, toys, goat milk and chaps? If that's what you kiddos are calling it these days.... Last time I checked that was a freak porn gone.. wild!
Nothing like it.. get in the van friday night baby girl you dont know what yer missing..... most never look back after a hardcore friday lol
Don't Do it Andro!
Lol The Texan Irish spit roast. That's some horrible shit. Luckily Tread and Vike only last a minute and a half before the prolactin sets in.
NAH.. not these days brah... we have caber in tic tac boxes and run that shit @ 1Gram pr hour... we got sick of errbody sayin we smelled like sour yoghurt ... peace out nooklet
You guys are getting to me for sure... check me out talkin american again... lol
Lol. You are American at heart. Not going to blame you for that.
please we all know you have caber and viagra in that water bottle you guys keep in the van