When my wife and I started dating I told her I was going to use gear. She said she’d leave me so I left instead lmao. I ended up not hopping on gear but let her know when I hit my 30s I was gonna go on TRT. Went the clinic route and she was whatever about it….. then packed started landing lmao. I never hid it bc I knew I wouldn’t be able to. She recently said she wants me to stop and I said no way. Only reason I’d stop is to have kids. She views it as I’m an addict and I’m taking drugs. She won’t let me explain or talk about it.

Just recently she looked at some of the pills I had I. My drawer. I had some cialis. Adex and Nolva laying around. She asked me what they were and before I could even speak she said she had looked them up and wants me to stop taking them. I asked if she knew why I’d even take them and she said she didn’t care.

I have everything in my closet on my side. Nothing is hidden from her but if she were to start going through oils I had and decided ti look up tren o man! No doubt there’d be arguing.

It’s frustrating as fuck. Bc the only real reason she can give me to stop is bc she simply doesn’t like it. Everything I do is for my family. The only things that are truly just mine is my gear my weights and my motorcycles.

It’s frustrating as fuck.

Ex knew I was on TRT. Not sure she knew I cycled but I kept everything locked up.

New GF knows and she injected me eod on my last cycle. She was on HRT when we met and was into peptides so that really helped.

The ex wouldn’t even look at HRT when she had symptoms. Glad she’s gone.

It has definitely affected my relationships in a few different ways to the extremes. However I am very open and honest about what I do with my companions, transparency is really the only way I’ll operate. There also seems to be a fascination or attraction to the lifestyle and the science so it works out

We were on our like 3rd date over a decade ago when my now wife asked me point blank and said something to the effect of she doesn’t care, but wants doesn’t want to be lied to. I really didn’t want to tell her so early on before I really knew this was going somewhere. Lying didn’t seem like a good idea so I told her. It was pretty obvious back then. She was always cool with it.

I was all for telling your spouse and being honest before I had kids. But since having kids my thoughts have changed. if you have young kids I don’t think you should. If something happens and you guys divorce your steroid use is an easy way for her to get full custody. Especially when she starts talking about your frequent roid rage episodes and shows them pics of your stash. Maybe sends them to Eroids too. You should get on Dr prescribed TRT and stick with compounds that could be part of your TRT regimen. And all she should know is you’re on TRT from a doctor. Even if you don’t have kids I read a story on here where the soon to be ex wife sent a guys Eroids account to his job and he got fired. Might have got arrested too, I can’t remember. Everyone’s wife is cool with it right up to the point they can use it against you.

I remember a few years ago doing a cycle, and after a few weeks, my wife said to me whatever lab your using ....Keep using it, lol

That was the ultimate sign of approval lol

Not at all. She knows I take test, mast, hgh, hcg, and cialis also why I take those compounds. She knows when I do something I do it right with lots of research. I research the hell out of shit before diving in even if it’s just buying a blender or crock pot. She trusts me.

I may or may not have forgotten to mention the tren…

No. Not if tren is used to a minimum and not too high. I don’t even like tren so I don’t care.

Steroids can DEFINITELY effect a relationship. Tren it's self has ruined a lot of relationships.

You would always want to tell your partner what you do. But some people just can't handle the truth and it has to be kept a secret from them. Like this dumb whore threatening to divorce cuz she found gear. Sometimes you just gotta keep stuff secret from girls because they don't know how to handle things.

Wife knows everything
Girlfriend doesn't know
Mistress is ok with it also

I’m in the same boat as you, honestly. I’m very fortunate.
Married for 16 years, three kids, and my wife has always been supportive.

She knows what I do and she trusts my judgment … especially because I study this stuff deeply and I’m a coach, so it’s literally part of my profession. She’s in the healthcare field as well, so she has a solid general understanding, even if she’s not deep into compounds or pharmacology.

Funny enough, she’s the one who helps me pin spots where my mobility isn’t great… so yeah, she’s definitely involved

To your question … yes, steroids can absolutely affect a relationship. Especially when they’re used without intelligence or consistency. Poorly managed 19-nors can mess with your CNS and take you to a dark place. Bad estrogen control can wreck mood, confidence, libido, and emotional stability. If your partner doesn’t know what’s going on, they’ll feel it but won’t understand it … and that’s where problems start.

In my humble opinion, transparency from day one is the best path. Not everyone needs every detail, but trust and honesty go a long way … both for your health and your relationship.

My wife had a hard time when we discussed me starting TRT. I mainly think because she has parents that are close minded (guns are bad, steroids are only abused and make you a killer and so on) Because of that my wife is very decisive in her decisions and of course, is always right.

It took lots of talking and explaining of why I’m starting TRT to help her understand. I showed her my labs and she did a lot of research on her own.

She still doesn’t love that I saw a clinic and not an endocrinologist but that’s what worked at the time. I’ll see an endocrinologist at some point.

Nah, wife knows everything. From when I started to now. Got to keep it honest.
Been married 14 years next month.
Plus, she helps me pin and she started using gear too.
A win win for me.

Ive always been up front, right to the point from the beginning if your not cool with roids or weird sex, this is probably not gonna work. Surprisingly in the two or 3 times i have done this, neither of those things were a problem.

My left hand gets jealous sometimes.

She knows everything, I mean everything! nothing hidden, no sneaking around. We’re solid, communicate openly, and the trust is real. She’s amazing. If anything, being honest about everything has made us closer. Hell, we even bring women home together.
When relationships blow up over this stuff, it’s almost never the compounds. It’s the secrecy, dishonesty, ego, or using gear as an excuse for bad behavior. Transparency and trust change the whole equation.

A few years ago I found that i was hypogonadal. Was 26 with several symptoms and total test was 116. Once I started getting amazing results for my overall mood and health, my lady was onboard. Getting curious about other supplements, id add 1 thing at a time and keep her informed on what im doing and why. This constant communication kept her out of the dark and helped her stay supportive. To help me judge my use of extra compounds and to show her "proof" of good health, I really kept on top of labs too.

Like I saw someone else mention, I think your second buddy just messed up by keeping his lady in the dark. Secrets, regardless of how big or small, will put a strain on a relationship in my opinion. Hell, mine even had me pin her for the first time today with reta when she saw how much weight I lost and shes very skeptical about new stuff. Keeping them involved is just the logical thing to do in my opinion.

She gets alot of interrupted sleep when I'm on deca. Especially if she's facing away from me. Other than that, just typical female bullshit. Its not a problem, and she even likes it..... until we're in an argument and she thinks she can use it as a weapon.

Single now so no. My breakup from a very long term realationship drove me heavy into fitness. I would say fitness/gear has made me a way better man. Physically and mentally. I stand on business, do what l say, and dont take shit from anyone. I fear nothing today, and love every single day im alive. I wish l took fitness serious years ago, life would be even better today. Im proud of the man l am today, and l know fitness and gear deff helped me do that.

My wife knows I’m on TRT+. She doesn’t ask questions beyond that, but I do share all my bloodwork. I’m sure if she found my Deca and Primo, there would be questions.

But to be honest, she loves me at 300mg / week. But she doesn’t know I’m running that high. She also knows how crashed E2 treats me, and she has told me not to do that again. She knows I low dose HGH and cycle Reta.

I order her trizepitide. She won’t take Reta because it’s not approved.

But I think the transparency with the bloodwork really helps. It shows all green except standard TRT markers.

I went through two relationships on it. First wife i hid it and never explained to her what it was so all she knew was it makes you want to kill yourself and kill your family. She found my stash and tried to out me to my family and friends but concentrated more on the fact it was hypodermic needles, and i was shooting up steroids like in my veins and hiding it so everyone who knew about steroids was like "so" and the ignorant family and friends were like "why?". Fast forward to my current wife i told her up front. Explained what it was, dispelled the wives tales and compared it to her on birth control estrogen and im on testosterone and she is ok with it and we are happy. I think #1 wife was more hurt from the hiding, lying than she was actually of the substance itself. Be forward before you start a relationship or before you start using it. Nothing good comes from lying and hiding from the one who supposed to be trusting and living with you for life.

I think it did change my relationship with my ex wife, higher test made me stand my ground and not take as much abuse. I don't think she liked that I wasn't her bitch anymore, hence the ex in front of wife.
She didnt care about my use as a standalone thing, would do my shots for me.
I practice radical honesty in my romantic life, when I start talking to someone new the goal is purely a long term relationship, marriage, children. So I just come out right away about all my flaws and failures, wrongs and regrets and my gear use too. Weeds out the incompatible women immediately, but doesnt scare most off. Been thanked for my transparency by both women who wanted to date me and those who declined.
Pretty quickly my current girlfriend got used to needles and steroids and got over her fear and started giving me shots.

Assuming ur buddies wife had zero idea that ur buddy was on ANYTHING. so the betrayal likely lies in the dishonesty, which is understandable.

Most guys successful in having a supportive roid spouse use the ol trickle truth method. Starts as "trt for "health", then it's "trt" plus something my buddy suggested for joint health, then you order her something as well like reta or tirzepatide to show her how above board everything is and then you end up just "needing 10 mins alone for my shots" every day and she don't ask questions cause she "also takes reta".

Tell me I'm wrong.

Option B is just be single and beat muff flaps and don't answer to anyone.

I personally would choose the divorce, I will only go with a girl that understands and is ok with gear. It is not drugs like heroin or meth or coke or whatever. I also only want a girl that understands the gym, maybe i am picky I dont know but if not then I prefer to be single.

No, I spoke to my wife about why I wanted to use AAS prior to starting. Did research with her to calm any fear and anxiety she had about it. I promised to be responsible with my health. Showed her that by improving tracking of my BP, seeing doc more frequently, and tracking labs while on cycle.

She even does injections in tougher to reach places. Been married to her for 12 years.

I think your buddies issue is really that he hid a part of his life from his wife. Trust in marriage is a really important thing and violations of trust by hiding shit is hard to come back from.

One of the many advantages to living alone - I can leave all my Vials, barrels and needles all over the bathroom unit LMAO I find it a real pain in the arse having to keep it all hidden away.

I think there are Pro's and Con's to your other half caring or not, if they are upset about it then it shows they deeply care about you and your health - but if they trust you and have no issue then it shows they are not controlling and respect what you want to do with your life. You can see it from all angles.