Telling your wife/GF about you using AAS
My wife exercises regularly and has always been very supportive of my lifting. About a year ago I mentioned that I was thinking of staring a cycle. She said that she knows I'm a smart, healthy guy and do my research on things, and as long as I go about it intelligently she has no issues just as long as I don't get TOO big.
Well things came up and I ended up not doing it at the time.
Fast forward to 3 weeks ago, I decided to go ahead and start the cycle. I assumed from our previous conversation that she would have no issues. About a week in I decide that it's something I should tell her that I started. She doesn't take it so well. She doesn't get mad or anything like that, but I can tell she is hurt.
Her brother used to have a meth problem and was shooting it, she would find his needles in the house. Ever since then she has issues with needles. She told me that it's not so much me using AAS, as it is me injecting something. She went on to tell me that as ridiculous as it is she would have NO problem with it if I was using just orals. She said she will get over it and things have been fine.
I can talk to her about getting bigger, seeing gains in strength and size, but when it comes to any talk of gear it's evolved into this "Don't ask, don't tell" situation.
Anyone else been in a similar situation?
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I am in similiar situation. But I haven't told her yet. I told her I was taking prohormones. I feel awful hiding it, Ijust don't know how she will react....I'm sure she won't leave me over it but I think she would not like it and give me grief until I agree to stop. She's totally against unhealthy habits. She would think Iwas being UNHEALTHY....which I guess she would be sorta right. Cuz its unatural and she believes au natural is the best way. In everything. So id rather just keep it a secret to avoid the nagging. Although, I could be wrong she might be totally cool with it.....but it could change things forever if she is REALLY against it...cuz Iwould be pissed if I had to stop.....uhhhhh what a dilemma.
AnonIve got no secrets about my useage, or purchasing. I guess it will have a lot to do with, 1 how well you have been behaving. If you snapped at her last week because she shrunk you favorite tee shirt then she'll prolly call it rage. 2 she may be concerned about fertility if you are considering having a family together, which you should also be concerned about too. And lastly, is she a namby pamby nit picker type about every last letter of the law ? If so, I cant see this being something she'd be comfy with unless its Dr's orders.
My wife does the pinning. She's going to support me in everything in life, period. Plus, if she is involved then we feel that everything is done safe and correctly. Also gives me someone to bounce ideas off of. Kinda like that good angel that sits on your shoulder.
I've told a few people I am close to..friends or family. I'm single, so I don't have a GF or wife...when the time comes to tell someone like that though, they are already going to know since I will be running gear when I start a relationship with them.
Education goes a LONG way...what people know about AAS is propaganda(spread by Uncle Sam and his compatriots) and the truth is shrouded in mystery and misunderstanding. The general public is ignorant about AAS, so they jump on the bandwagon and just assume it's a negative thing. When people think of needles, they think of addiction...which there is some truth to that, but not in the realm of AAS. Although people DO/CAN/and WILL abuse AAS...but just like anything, there is a RIGHT way and a WRONG way and that's basically the message I have told my closest of family and friends. They might not totally agree with my choices, but they acknowledged that the fact that I am at least being smart and TRUTHFUL and that's what really counts. As when someone close to you is concerned, honestly it's simply because they love you and don't wanna see you get hurt.
Really...and I am not trying to sound like a dick, but the reaction from your wife is pretty typical of a female. She was told of it BEFORE, and that it MIGHT happen and SAID she was okay with it THEN...and then, so it DID happen...and she gets upset. She's allowed to feel that way, it's only human. I was once married before, so I know exactly what is going on here, lol. She'll get over it eventually, just like she said...she loves you and that's the big picture here
Id plus one you bro but Icant. Well said
Nice reponse bro.
Anonwell put
education on your part will lead to better understanding on her part. and not to sound like an ass but judging by your other posts, you need more education.. you started pinning before having a solid pct and cycle support in place and planned out.
Actually I had Clomid and Nolva planned and on hand before I started. My only question was about AI dosage, and to the best of my knowledge that's pretty optional.
ah my bad, I apologize. you ever get the AI? and what did you decide to run it at? imo AI is necessary, I'm not tryin to look like the Michelin man, I'd rather look like Conan haha
Anonthere are some of us that may not experience many estrogen sides and can go without the AI. a lot of this, IMO, is determined by the compounds being ran. say a low dose of test along with masteron and proviron may require minimal AI dose or none at all. i am not one of these that don't need an AI. like you, i think it's essential to a cycle.
Yeah I got a bottle of it about a week ago. I'm going to start it off at .25 e3d and then go from there depending on how much water I'm retaining.
sounds good, you should make a cycle log bro. hope everything works out with your gurl.. I'm sure it will, she just needs to know your ok, it's good sign means she cares.
Thanks man!
1jakd_hipyNope... My wife pins my lats and glutes for me(i get cramps when trying to pin glutes).
Anondamn, son. the lats? i feel ya on the glutes. i fk myself up everytime.
I pin my lats by myself, lol. It's really not that hard...if you can pin your delts and glutes by yourself than the lats aren't shit either. There's trix to getting it right.
1jakd_hipyThere's no way I could pin my lats, I can barely touch them
I could try to explain this, but it might sound confusing. It's kinda like giving yourself a hug and holding your elbow of the arm you are using to pin and you just hit the thick part of your lat underneath/close(?) to your armpit around the same level of your nipple. Gotta have the bathroom mirror handy of course!!
No thanks! I thought pinning my glutes were a pain in the ass(pun intended), but that sounds damn near impossible!
it's really not that hard...just take a peek at www.spotinjections.com at all the different ways you can pin body parts.
Anonshoot.. stretch armstrong over here... i have to use a friggin' loofa on a stick just to wash my shoulders. i damn sure can't reach my back. lol
LOL...'stretch', yeah..I am real big into flexibility(part of the BIG 3 of fitness!!) I only hit certain spots with short esters, like these ones. As a cycle progresses, certain spots are harder to hit than others as the muscles are all full and filled out all the time.
1jakd_hipyBro lats are one of the most beautiful spots to pin, a large muscle that's not used much in day to day life
Anonnever thought about that spot.. for me it's mostly glutes. if i'm pinning ed, i'll alternate between the glutes and the quads. next cycle has an extra compound to inject, so i'll throw the delts in there. nothin like pinning a virgin muscle.
Even if you have talked about something in the past and didn't follow through never assume it's still ok. The fact you didn't let her know ahead of time you were going to start the cycle probably made her feel like you were hiding it. Always always be honest with your wife or these types of things happen.
Yeah, we have a really healthy relationship, and I felt bad that I might have been doing something that could have compromised it. I think the fact that I didn't talk to her before I decided to start it was a part of what bothered her (understandably).
I'm really grateful I have an accepting and forgiving wife.
Anoni can't relate at all here. for me, the gear came into the picture a year ago bc my sex drive completely disappeared. i saw the concern in her eyes when i told her what i was considering, but she kept cool about it. as the libido issue resolved itself, those concerns deminished as well. needless to say she benefits from this as much as i do.. she is in nursing school aslo, so she gets to practice by giving me my shots and taking my blood pressure. i think if my temper got out of hand, though, it would be a problem. we agreed early on that, if i turned into an asshole, i would stop. my AI keeps that in check for me.
unfortunately for you, she probably doesn't understand the ramifications involved in oral only cycles. you're better off healthwise by keeping everything balanced as best as possible.
My wife pins me and she is currently using clen. She loves the horny all the time part and how my body looks like while on roids.
AnonMy GF: you need to stop this steroid shit all you is get angry go to the gym and eat!
No I do that plus love you take care of you and the baby and work! But at times they only wanna see the negative she likes shoes i like roids and the gym two addictions hers inst Any better than mines when I look at the bank account and 600 dollars are gone in shoes!
Speaking to the significant about decision is 100% the right thing to do. Me n her were h addicts for five years and been sober for three now and not once did we use needles. So when I started she was upset to see a needle in her body. So I went online and printed some forums about other women and the same position so she would know she wasn't the only women dealing with it. I just explained to her how it's what I want to do and if your safe that everything will be fine. Then we started screwing like five times a day and she was very happy bout that lol.
Luckily my wife is very well educated and uses AAS herself! She also works in the medical field so needles don't make her think negatively. I do have an Ex who I had to try and explain it to. She was totally against it and said "your dick will shrink and you'll have a heart attack". Needless to say I got rid of her ass. lol. It's pretty cool to hear your wife say "Hey, I need you to pick me up some primo , Var and t-bol when U get a chance".
This is off topic but I like the trailer park boys avatar.
You're the first person to notice that. LOL
I've seen about 5 episodes and it's pretty damn funny
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Well I'm glad to hear I went about it the right way. I think for her the other issue is she doesn't understand WHY I want to use AAS. She says that she loves the way I look before and doesn't see why I would feel the need to get any bigger.
She grew up with body image issues and was never thin enough in her mind, and I think she is afraid that's the same kind of thing going on with me.
When my girlfriend found out she asked to see my gear, so I showed her and she pretty much looked at me like I was a heroin addict. But now she is fine with it and pins me
You definitely went about this the right way my man. My girlfriend of two years ended up "finding out." My dumb self tried to lie and hide it but it just made things way worse because they will always find out. Now our trust in general is compromised not to mention she will perminantly be NOT OKAY with my use of AAS. One of the biggest mistakes of my life.