When a woman offers to pay for dinner - date.
Ok so this girl I know recently asked me on a date AND she said she wanted to pay.
So I have known this girl for years probably 5 now. Early on she kinda became a friend (can't remember how or why lol) but it was cool she was a good friend. I started to like her and I'm pretty sure she did too I just never tried to do anything about it since we were so close. Anyways we spent a lot of time together over the years, but she became more and more busy, as did I. We both kind of got seperated by different schedules. During first year of college she was in a relationship with the same guy for like 2 years. Then they got seperated and I could tell she was starting to really like me. Anyways we then got seperated by busy schedules, we were both holding 2 jobs at the time and nothing happened of it.
So basically a whole year by went on and we barely contacted each other at all. Until recently when I would see her at the gym she started talking to me. I would flirt a little and we started to really hit it off. SO the other day she came to my house and we were talking and she said she really misses me blah blah. But this time it was different, not like friends but her body language and things she was saying clearly pointed out friend zone is now flirt zone.
When she was at my house she said she wanted to go out to dinner with me. She said she wants to pay and I get to choose where we eat. So I'm pretty confused, what does this mean? I ALWAYS pay no matter what so it shocked me when she said she's paying. What should I expect?
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sex is one thing but FREE food, teach me ur ways
zewisWifeLet her pay... She is saying two things, thanx for always being my friend, and im in to you. So let it happen. Key is not only to pick somewhere you like but she likes too, if you understand that. And after the Date, you get to say, now its my turn to take you..
CleyonGotta ask. Did you ever offer to pay for Zewi when he was trying to win your hand?
zewiI can honestly say yes she did atleast once that i can remeber.
CleyonNice! I'm still waiting for a woman to offer to buy me dinner. Had a girl send me flowers to my office once, but that just got me laughed at by all the guys at work.
Hehe don't wait for it bro, but if it happens cool. Hey I'd love if a girl sent me flowers don't care if people laughed at me - it means they are all jelous their mate never does it for them.
CleyonNah, I don't like flowers on my desk. I'm happy to pay.
relax and enjoy yourself.. make sure you say thank you ;-) have fun
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AnonYea man your scenario sounds like the typical modern love story... let her pay for sure, and if you 2 can enjoy each others company without sex and drama, then you have a cool ass chick... the sex and emotion and such will just be an added bonus
Really? Wow, but yea you got a good point!
Anonyeah man, have a committed relationship with a chick you enjoy hanging out with is rare, most dudes just go for the hottest thing they can find.. you cant have sex all day, 99.9% of the time together is doing errands, and hanging out not sex...she sounds like a keeper, don't lose her AGAIN
Let her pay bro, it opens it up for a second (if you're interested) for you to take a turn. I appreciate a woman who reaches for the check, 98% of the time I won't allow it but the gesture speaks volumes.
zewiWell said brother. I would have to agree with this one.
She just wants to bang you. She's gonna throw a burger down ur throat, ride u like ur a buckin bronco. Put pants on and leave and never call u again.
CleyonYou say that like it's a bad thing... or like you've donw that before.
Anonyou should def let her pay. thing about it is, when someone offers something (material or otherwise), we are robbing that person of their joy in gifting someone if we do not accept. so, it's ok to accept. give her the pleasure of taking you out on a date and make the night enjoyable.
goes without saying, but the next one is no doubt on you. if it were me, and she didn't have anything else planned, i would try to add to the date at my treat. maybe a movie, or dessert followed by a walk somewhere peaceful.
Just make sure you tell her just because she's paying for dinner doesn't mean your going to put out.lol If she laughs and says "we''ll see about that",your in!
Cleyon^^^ THIS!!! Exactly right!
You let her buy you dinner then smoothly use it as an excuse to pay her back by going on a 2nd date.. That's how this typically works when I've done it
Women like to feel independent. Let her pay and return the favor for a second date!
AnonLet her pay for dinner, its no big deal. Still do all the other things you'd do like hold the door and open her car door.
If theres any doubt at the end of the dinner date just go for it and try to kiss her. The worst that will happen is she'll just say no, but she wont be offended. The best that could happen is it will go exactly where you seem to want it to go.
56tooSounds like destiny bro. Too many things for it not to be. You must be older cz only older guys are used to paying for dates. In my day that was a given but no more. Good luck, she sounds like a really cool chic
I sure hope so aha but I do think so. No I'm actually pretty young. I was just taught how to treat a lady and brought up that way.
Thanks, yea she is really cool, very modest, hard working, and reserved. unlike most sluts these days lol thats probly what I like about her
CleyonAMEN bro! I've never been attracted to women who act like whores. If you want to show your stuff off to everybody, then it must not be that special to you. So how am I supposed to believe that you're going to consider it special to be sharing it with me?
AnonI used to love some whores, but only for the night
CleyonYou mean one night at a time right?
Anonmaybe the following weekend if I couldn't pick up anything else,lol but yea just for the night...that of course before I got hitched to my badass wife 7 years ago
CleyonI have a buddy that spent 48hrs in a whorehouse... Really expensive for him, but he was smiling for a week afterwards! LOL!
Anonoh.. I wasn't talking about the "pay for sex" type of whore, I was talking about the ones who get sloppy drunk and take dudes home after knowing them for an hour
You need to get your definitions correct bro, a whore sells it, a slut gives it away ;)
CleyonThose chicks are scary. When I was 22 I picked one of them up, and while she was riding me like a cowgirl she hurled all over me. Thus my new motto of Never Pick Up Drunk Chicks!
AnonWtf do u mean what should u expect bro! Take her out then take her home and fuck her like the animal you are! Grrrrrrrrrrr go get it tiger
Sweet situation brother.
IMO, ALWAYS...ALWAYS pay for dinner, be the gentleman and remain dominant in her life. Its a great trait in a girl when they offer to pay and its hard to find in quality girls, but imo she'll like it more if you over-rule her decision and pay.
Overall, i like what muta said - judge the date, if you feel its going somewhere, let her pay and say you're paying next time (making an excuse for a second date)
She sounds cool. Don't try to go anywhere too expensive. When the bill shows up offer to pay, if she insist let her. Me and my old lady were friends before we hooked up and its been really cool. I talk to her about everything. I don't have to hide nothing from her. I got friends who have to hide gear and lie, I just smile and think that has to stuck.
My wife came on to me also, she came up to me and asked for my number, but all the girls were HEYOOO haha ever since my first pin I've been really cocky haha
Have her take you out to a nice seafood dinner and then never call her again!
AnonMy wifey came on to me.. it was actually her independence that made me fall for her. If she wants to pay for dinner bro, let her.. then take her out after for a drink or dessert and insist that you're taking her out, and buying next week. It works out perfect because its the perfect excuse for a second date.. Some girls are go-getters.. nothing wrong with that!
Ahh yes! Ok great to hear. I guess I just come from a very traditional family. Yea sounds like her
Bro she sounds like a keeper!! My wife made all of the first moves. She kissed me first. Pulled a condom out of her sock like it was planned the night she decided to jump my bones. Asked me to be her steady. Too bad she never paid for shit!! Ahahahaha expect to spend some quality time with a great friend. If its meant to be then believe me it will be. Just keep being u and you can't go wrong. She obviously is into u so don't try too hard. Show some respect and don't abuse her kindness. But make it obvious that you are physically into her or u could get stuck as a friend. And whatever u do if u get lucky don't cum too fast. Wait for her to get her milk n cookies first. Then u can:-)
Ahh thats good to hear. Yea she's definitely a keeper! Lol I'll keep that in mind
Don't pick a 5 star restaurant though unless her purse is phat. Lol .
Expect to have a good time man!!! Just have fun. Ha you've got game if she asked you out. So keep doing what you've been doing.
She owes you a favor. Congratulations. Have fun!
If you buy lobster.....you gotta put out!! Lol! Its a modern world bro. Women will askyou out and even pick ya up. Have a great time! If its fun...return the favor. Or homemake a Nice meal. Chix love a good cook. High five!
Ok thanks bud. I wonder though if she did it so I couldn't say no to the offer. I guess it just shocks me because I know she has always been a struggling college student, I even bought her books last semester because she wasn't able to pay for it at the time. However she has 2 jobs now so maybe things are different.. idk