posted Tue, 09/08/2015 - 18:57
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What do I do?
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Haven't been real active lately, but I've got some issues and don't have too many ppl out here in my life to talk to about them, so....
What do you guys think I should do if I feel like my significant other is lying to me on a semi regular basis. A lot of the times its dumb stuff that doesn't even matter, but sometimes it really is important stuff. I love the girl but idk what to do anymore.
Any suggestions?
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My fav is..
"Did you fart?"
"Must have been the dog."
mikeyg4321And the dog isn't even in that room lmao
RustyhookerI just hide it way in the back. "Haven't seen it"
Lol
mikeyg4321Yea we gotta know some details man. Some subjects of lying will have a different response than others.
What she lying about?
Drug history? Cheating?
PallMallWell TBH I can't say 100% she is def. lying, but there's history with street drugs that I feel she very well may be lying about. I have no proof for my gut feeling she's lying about using though.
As for the cheating, I really kind of suspect it just because she is not interested in making love to me any more and brushes me off when I touch her.
Other stuff is just kind of dumb lies but it bothers me. Partly because she always tries to tell me I'm lying to her and partly because she will completely flip out (scream, get angry, hostile) if I call her on anything. Plus she always tries to say that I'm the one getting loud or being mean when it's truthfully her that's doing it....
.....IDK what to do dude....
Look into Gary Chapman's, "Five Languages of Love" i am not saying this will help, but it may provide a "path" to help you understand her and both of your situations. From this time on, refocus your responses to her and keep from trying to control the situation. Tell her u love her and hug her. If u end up crying, always remember those are tears of strength and wisdom.
Leave, pack your stuff or hers. Noone wants to hear the truth but you are on a road to nowhere. The loss of a loved one in this scenario is tough, but if you think you deserve better go. Seriously, this world is full of women that have issues as much as men you need to cut your losses because depression and anxiety is the leading killer of your sanity. There is something going on if she wont bang you and lies about even the dumbest to the biggest things. See how she feels when you tell her its over, if she says nothing you got your answer. If she is really hurt then theres your chance to lay shit out. If you dont get your balls back from her purse she will take you as a joke.
mikeyg4321This out of all the suggestions I believe is best. And when I caught ole girl lying this situation was about the same, except no child for me. Also if you decide to go this route you need to have all your gear and everything somewhere else(like a friends house or something) because when you split all she has to say is youre on gear then she gets full custody and you're stuck paying for the next 17years, instead of having joint custody.
Yep...agree 100% with u brother. This may be the over all mind-set he needs to be ready for if the scales tip in either direction becuz things may get better, but they may not last...
It sounds like an emotionally abusive roller coaster relationship that gets better, then tanks again. I have been there before and am sure others have too. You have to let go before the ride takes a turn for the worse and someone gets hurt. OP needs to think about his child because I would not want my child thinking the way his/her mother and father argue and fight all the time is a normal thing. Thats how you get strippers and hookers. Maybe it can be salvaged but who has that kind of time or patience?
I agree...OP said they use to be happy. Then, the baby came. She needs BW stat...maybe post partum depression can be ruled out with thyroid panel....if panel is WNL then she has something else going on and OP needs to get the baby and go....