To the man I admire
I will keep this short. My husband has chosen steroids over our marriage. He continues to lie to me and will do anything to get the body he wants. He tells me I am closed minded to the benefits of steroids. I am RN and I can't have illegal drugs in my home. He risks my career and the way we provide for his kids. I am not here to bash your choices. I am here because this is where my spouse spends most of his free time; online researching. I am hoping he will see this and I hope he knows that I love him and I truly wish the best for him and maybe he can find a woman who is into this lifestyle and won't give him a hard time about injecting and cycling etc. I hope I can find someone is as passionate about me as they are steroids. I know it takes a lot of work to achieve greatness; this just isn't it for me. Thank you for your time.
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I think there is a lot more to it. This is a onesided story... Most men will come to a women's begging call when they are complaining about there man to hopefully get a piece of ass. See it all the time on social media... At the same time I call it like I see it. I have no sympathy for you coming here for advice. Youve obviously done something to make him feel insecure or maybe he wants to be more of a man. If he's not cheating on you I don't see the big problem with it. A lot of men don't tell there spouse. Do I think it's wrong sure it causes trust issues. You are a RN I'm sure you can talk to a life coach or someone else about how you should deal with the problems and tell them the truth about yourself and other personal issues y'all have going on. It may be more to it.
Ok, so going back and reading, he lied to you about using in the first place, correct? If that is the case you have every right to be hurt and angry. He should have been honest with you. If your age is right you are both about 40, if so I can also totally relate to why he is using in the first place since I was also his age when I started with them as well.
If he is in all other ways a good man and willing to be straight with you from this point forward I would strongly encourage you to work with him. He shouldn't be using much more than testosterone anyway and with a little research you will see it is actually more positive by far than negative. The lies need to stop tho.
X2. This is really good forum...
Reading between the lines,.......... their problems may be more than just steroids.
It kind of sounds that way
Even the title she used .......... ????
"The man I admire "
I don't know,.......... deep down there is a sceptic in me.
Maybe it just some pasive/aggressive bullshit she's using.
Anyway,........ I'm still on the fence.
If I spoke my mind it wouldn't be good... Fuels the fire in me.
Hey Tiger00,
I think your post has been an eye opener to all of us. Thanks for sharing your feelings with us. You seem like a very nice Lady. I'm wondering if maybe you could post up a few pics of yourself. Now that you are single, perhaps we could get to know each other. I personally hate steroids and people who use them. I am really muscular naturally so I come here to coach people who don't quite have the superior genetics. My passion isn't for my muscles... I am one who saves my passion for those that I love.
I know this might sound crazy but I kind of feel a connection to you.
I hope you have a better day.
All my love, no homo
Ed.
Ed she's a girl no need to say no homo unless your a tranny in which case I apologize. Lol no homo
Thank you for the reply. I'm not trolling. I love my spouse very much. This is a very hot topic and it's difficult to get behind something that has been lied about then denied.
I feel he should have been open with me in the beginning so I could have learned or moved on.
Sometimes women become so unreasonable when it comes to things like this that men are forced into lying.
On a side note, are you going to post up some pics of yourself or not?
Thank you for replying.
rein it in
I agree with you. There's a reason why, I'm sure. How long have you been married? Since you're a RN, why don't you help him get with a doc you know and get it legally. Is he 5.0?
Three accounts, and the other two seem like dudes. I have been waiting all day for her to explain
I.was just thinking the same thing when I was typing...
My apologies. A lot has happened and steroids are only a part of what I see as a problem.
I'm not entirely sure why I reached out here but I hope I haven't wasted too much time. Thank you for the reply.
IMO, steroids amplify not only the body, but also the personality, good, bad, and ugly. I don't know you or your man, I can only share from my perspective. Love can survive, and grow with commitment. I know I am a better man on TRT than not. In fact, I felt like I was dead.
It could be legit. I dunno bro. If a lady has to confront her man here at eroids and not face to face...it's likely they have bigger problems than him juicing.
On a side note, perhaps this is a nice reminder to all the bros that even though this place can be addicting, it's important to not let it consume us to the point where it's hurting our own personal lives.
As Jerry Springer would put it...
Be Good to yourselves, and each other.
Agree with ya on the social media part...
I have confronted him after he quit I found the gear as its called hidden. I don't like being lied too especially by someone I'd give my life for. The anger and rage directed at me was not fair. I'm not perfect but I have nothing to hide from him. Thank you for replying.
He's a dude with insane amounts of synthetic hormones in his blood. lying about having steroids is probably the least of your worries.
Thank you for replying.
Here's my guess.
The other 2 are the same dude.
Tiger00's account was opened in the spring of last year. Probably when she discovered 0G~ was online so she tracked his posts and confronted him.
0G~ probably pledged to quit but instead opened up a second account L~ the last login for 0G~ is the same for the creation date of L~
I banned 0G~'s account today. It has not been used since the L~ account was created.
Tiger00 discovered L~ is still online nearly a year later and has once again confronted him. This time with an ultimatum.
You could be correct. I'm not sure how many accounts he had or has. Obviously I'm desperate at this point to be reaching out on a forum. Thank you for the reply.
Name that "Soap Opera ".
My life feels like one or a very poorly made for TV movie shown at 2 AM.
Thank you for replying.
Good luck to you both. Hope you can both compromise and sort something out, life is to short for nastiness to the people you love, its a hard situation and many are in same or similar boats, ill say one thing and its in no bodies defense, example - your 80yo grandma finds out you inject steroids- you may aswell be a drug addict murderer, because they dont understand it, but if a person has knowledge and understands it its totally different abuse is abuse either way, and i had kids i certainly wouldnt be smashing tren etc etc but testosterone is different....... anyway good luck!
You're right. I don't understand it. To me it's illegal and hidden and lied about. I agree that our laws may be messed up but to self medicate with products that the purity or sterilization are questionable concern me.
Also in my state there is a $1000 fine and jail time so I'd prefer vials aren't arriving at my home.
I personally do not think spouses should be hiding something like this. This isn't a nice surprise.
Thank you for your reply.
AnonFrom a LE perspective, they dont care about a few vials of steriods of any grade arriving at your house. Hell most would ask you what price you're getting your shit at because they're getting ripped off. Above local LE, perhaps if you have some large factory going on with a lot of traffic and something like an outbreak of sickness due to poor quality that would bring attention. Tax money pays for a lot of things but it doesnt pay to investigate and detain small fish in extremely large ponds. cough notacop
I am also a rn. Your job is not in danger! Not at all. So stop with that way of thinking
I disagree. In my state possession is reportable to the board of nursing. I can't call them and ask because I'm concerned and don't want to be flagged.
I understand what you are saying though. Thank you for replying.
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. I understand. I am married too. It's not all rainbows and sunshine. But for better or for worse I will be with my wife for the rest of my life. Instead of focusing on leaving, focus on how to resolve the issue and save the marriage and be there for the kids. Walking away isn't the answer. Keep your family together. Open your mind and focus on a fair resolution. Communicate
I'm not trying to leave. I donly communicate with him but he gets angry and feels attacked when I ask questions. He's the one who has mentioned leaving.
I have stayed through this and much more. He's given me many reasons to leave and I haven't.
Thank you for your reply.
I just hope the best for you. Only you can decide what to do. I wish you happiness!!!!!
bigmurphI think that you're husband if being that dedicated to using annabolics over the safety of his entire life needs to rethink his outlook.
Trt is a popular thing now he can go see his doctor and get a prescription for his Testosterone thus eliminating the law issues.
I had to have a discussion with my wife about my usage and her job isn't in jeopardy so she is ok with my usage. I believe in a marriage especially you have to meet on common ground if my wife said no more I would tell her no more ugl and I would go get a prescription so it would be a legal route not putting anyone at risk in my household.
I wish your family the best
Thank you for your reply. I've asked him to see a doctor. I even said I'd give him the injectionsame if it was OK with his MD and labs were good (for test).The anabolics are something I'd need to know where OK before being on board.
bigmurphNo problem i wish you both the best. I know people that have broken up over this. There is always middle ground its my belief atleast.
Hit me up anytime if you would like to talk
I see the answer I was asking up top here...
I hope this isn't littletiger. She is one of my personal favorites of the ladies that have come through eroids.
Anyway. I think your husband should tone it down a bit for you, but you should also be fair with him. Your job is really not in jeopardy, your husband is not in the bars, or gambling or cheating by the sounds of it. How serious is steroids? I challenge you to step back and look at how much worse things could be and then to realize none of us are ever going to be perfect.
This is not littletiger. And yes he was. . .so all that happened after he was doing more steroids. I don't expect perfect but I do expect faithful and honest.
Thank you for your reply.
Sounds like bigger issues at home...maybe y'all need to see a counselor
It is easier to get someone off of Heroin or Amphetamines then Anabolic Steroids. My girlfriend is a BSN and I am completely honest with her about what I put into my body. She is a good women and keeps me in check because when you are on any kind of mind altering substance we tend to forget that the mirror always lies. Personally I have walked away from several relationships because when your mate lies about one thing they can lie about anything. Honesty is crucial in any kind of a relationship. Honesty with your partner and honesty with yourself. Good Luck.
That's great you communicate with your GF. I just earned my BSN a year ago and this is my 10th year as a RN. I don't like the lies. My opinion is why be with someone you don't respect. It's frustrating.
Thank you for your reply.
If you just got your BSN a year ago, then I know for the past couple of years you've been super busy with classes, clinicals, and the study groups that take place. Maybe you weren't there for him enough and he felt rejected. No one is perfect! And, AAS isn't his problem. He needs to know he is loved and you need to be there for him. You had PSYCH NURSING, right? Then, make your degree pay off and learn not to feel so frustrated....remember the continuum of coping?
I was always there for him. I did my BSN online. I was working 2 jobs though to provide for our family but I always made time for him. I was a psych nurse for over 5 years, worked in corrections too which is one reason I do not want to go to jail or prision. AAS has been a huge issue as would anything someone was doing in hiding.
I have idolized him and find him to be absolutely perfect in regards to many areas. But lying and hiding this has had a very negative impact on our lives.
No one lives under a bridge bc they wanna keep doing gear bro lol
Thank you for your reply
How does he lie to you?
So your issue is just roids?
Well I'm not putting everything out here. Too many and he'd really not like. It's been enough to make me reach out here.
Yes, I guess you could say my issues is the roids. Anytime you have a huge secret that makes you so angry you're yelling at your wife for anything she does its not good. Not good for him or me or the kids who hear the yelling.
For me I'm not sure I can accept steroid use. This is what I'm coming to terms with.
Thank you for your reply.
I know how you feel about the lies. I've been in the same boat and it bothered me. Of course, I didn't cope adaptively, but we are still together. Relationships are not easy and marriages aren't either, but you make them what they are.
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backonroidsThis is sad and FairPlay to the women for coming on here speaking openly , I don't think it is someone trolling it seems heartfelt . It's a difficult situation to be in , some things are not worth losing the people you love for . There maybe another option rather than ending it make him keep them and use them in a friends house to take away some of the concerns above then move forward from there. I wish you the best of luck x