posted Fri, 03/02/2012 - 02:05
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need to f in vent!!
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If you have a little sister or old school and have an older daughter plz PM me, seeking advice. Much appreciated
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ItsNoelMines is 2 months old so im still good and shes nothing but innocent but i got that shotgun ready !!!!!!!!!!!
Man I feel you on that.
Make her look after a baby or doll for a week. Google it and you can find something that should work.
They require that at the schools around here!!!! Do they do that at yours? Usually in jr high. Is it the baby that cries, you have to feed it, wakes you up at night, etc.
That is a good thing... I live in Canada and am unaware now of what they do, but I do not believe they do that. Yes it is that baby, it has an internal memory that records everything and at the end of it all, it shows whether or not you kept the baby alive.
Ya she just did that. She did good, but a real baby of course is much different and just because she did good on that doesn't mean she is ready for a real one
56tooLove understanding and direction. Violence never did anyone any good no matter at what level.Just make sure she has a good supply of condoms!!
I don't know what else I should have said. I explained NOT to do it because it'll lead to false love from other boys, hate from other girls, pregnancy, stds, main thing is its a downward process, once you have sex with one, every other dude you date are going to want to and can easily tell you well you had sex with him, do you not like me as much as him, boom that's another dudue. It'll just be bad. She seemed to understand. Smfh
Ill check it out. What are you going to do when you hear she is having sex? Idk if its true or if she was just trying to sound "cool" for her friends or something but wtf. she is a great girl, not bad, great grades, smart, shy, idk man. I know at least one of her friends that's a girl has had se I didn't expect it from her I saw some signs but idk man idk what to do last night I just drank drank drank ended up taking shots of 151 got less than 6 hours of sleep didn't sleep throughout the night
You might get a kick out of this. Its a long video but its worth watching.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kl1ujzRidmU
Yes...we are pretty much in the same shoes. Shit is fucking hard. Im sure harder on you. Its like, if im too hard on her, she will rebel, if I am nice, she will do bad shit. Like you said, lying about where she is, im sure lying about what friend is there this and that. Boys. Uuuuuuuugh. What do I look like beating up a 14little year old?
I'm almost 30, but I remember my teen years. I was a bad kid. I have analyzed with my older sister why we made the poor choices we did. I'm not blaming my parents, because everything I did was my choice. However, I was a kid. My parents were full of crap. They either told us horror stories that were embellished or they just ignored the problem. No one ever sat down with me and was just brutally honest. I was dumb on so many levels. I knew my parents were full of crap. They also always acted out of anger. If someone had just sat down with me and talked to me like a young adult I would have respected them and maybe listened. I have a 15 year old sister. I've tried to do this with her, because I know my mom won't. She's not perfect. She tells me things she does and the things her friends do. I'm honest with her and she's honest with me. She's not a sweet little angel, but I do know she's making better choices than I did. I told her at 13 if she needed me to take her to get birth control I would do it. I wouldn't ask questions or judge. She told me all of her friends were already on it and having sex. That scared me, bug she told me she wasn't ready and it scared her. I was happy to hear that. I just continue to try to keep communication open and honest. I don't freak out, even when I want to. It seems to work. Kids are going to experiment. You can either encourage them to do it safely and honestly, or they can do it behind your back where they are more likely to put themselves in danger.
Are you a girl? I think you understand girls better. Honestly if it were my son it wouldn't be as hard on me. No im not going to be the proud dad, but i don't know if it will hurt as much honestly. Do you think maybe because you are a girl its easier on you to understand?
I always am upfront and keep it real. Do you think what I explained to her was not accurate or in some way encouraged it?
I am a girl. You probably didn't do anything wrong. Sex is part of growing up. Everyone is going to do it. She needs a girl to talk to. If not her mother someone older. There ae many reasons she could be making the choices she is. She may think she's in love, she may be curious, she may be doing it because everyone else is. Once you know why she did it then you address. She's not going to open up and tell you why probably, but she might someone else. Here is a huge thing no one wants to talk about, masterbation. If she's doing it because she is curios then she needs to know she can "feel good" with out a boy involved. The truth is she needs to know she could get more out of it alone than with a partner at that age. If she's doing it because she's thinks she's in love, she needs to know boys come and go. In that case she may continue to do it, because we refuse to believe that person us the love of out lives. If she's doing it because everyone else is she may have self esteem issues. She needs to know she can bs herself with out doing what everyone else is doing. No matter what the reason she needs a serious talk about safe sex. Birth control and condoms. Babies and STD's are the last thing a 14 year old should be dealing with.
You think I should tell her I saw some text messages or heard someone talking about it or what?
I think she is curious because everyone else is doing it and like you said, at that age, there isn't any satisfaction she is really getting from it. She is doing it because a dude pretty much wants her to. I don't want her putting out for shit like, he said I was pretty, or bought me candy, or carried my books. I explain to her real shit, maybe she doesn't belive me? Wants to find out for herself. Idk but I don't like it. Its going down the wrong road.
I think im going to feel her out a bit. She mentioned b/c before because her periods are bad, I declined and said wait until she gets older. Honestly, because when I was young, if a girl told me she was on b/c I would bust in her, ya know? Until I learned about nasty bitches, lying ones, trying to trap you type shit. Anyhow, I told her we can talk about it after a little bit of time. If she is going to do it I want her to wear a condom. Too many stds and shit. Was it right to tell her no?
I wouldn't tell her you heard anything or read anything. She will think you are spying and won't trust you. I would put her on birth control honestly. You don't want her pregnant. Think about it. She needs to know that doesn't mean there is no need for condoms. Birth control doesn't prevent against STD's. Explain that 1 in 2 people will get an STD by the time they are 25 and half of them won't have any symptoms or know about it. Some things you can't get rid of. Make her think about being 25 and finding her dream guy and then having to tell him she had herpes. Tell her what you just told me. The way you thought when you were young. It may not be easy to say that, but if dad thought like that so can the boy that's trying to get with her.
I sent you a friend request. I didn't want to tell her what I thought because I didn't want her to think that I didn't believe her reasoning for wanting to be on it
Dude I got a 13 year old daughter, and its getting hard man really hard.. its lie after lie, I just recently took all electronics from mine, bad part is I plan on starting my first tren e cycle in April... ill end up killing some little punk:-) As a single father with full custody just try to keep a cool head man...