posted Fri, 09/12/2014 - 18:25
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Raising female sex drive?
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Ok so lately my wife has been saying that her sex drive is lower then normal lately, and we have come to the conclusion it is from her having our two beautiful children, and being a very busy woman who sleeps very little, and puts a ton of work in at the gym between training others and her work outs for herself.
So here is my question:
A- any advice on how to raise her drive naturally?
B- is there any supplements she can take that would help?
C- we were told that women can take Viagra or cialis, but I'm not sure about that one...any input?
Any advice would be great ladies! Keep in mind our sex life is great, but it is alot of my doing to get her in the mood. Thanks ladies...
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peptide called PT-141
it's a split from Melanotan II that works specifically on the neurotransmitters that increase sexual desire (as opposed to blood flow enhancers like your Cialis etc).
The stuff works so well, you may need to take some yourself or you won't keep up, and trust me, it will turn them in to a teenage level hyper sex drive if you're not careful!!
I appreciate all the answers and advice, but the post is almost a year old, and thankfully my wife's drive is back and in full force. Not sure what attributed to it but best guess was stress and lack of enough sleep w the Lil ones adding to that issue. Thank you all for the ideas and links tho!
Baldur2630My wife says take a look at these : -
http://www.nature.com/ijir/journal/v17/n5/full/3901334a.html
https://www.womensinternational.com/pdf/testosterone.pdf
http://www.sharecare.com/health/sex-and-relationships/article/testostero...
https://www.paleohacks.com/testosterone/woman-getting-testosterone-injec...
without labs, adding testosterone on your own is a fairly stupid idea, especially considering that low estrogen will cause lack of sex drive ... considering that excess cortisol will cause a lack of sex drive.... considering that ( I could go on..) so low test isn't the only answer/reason ..
ps.. your wife probably has low estrogen as well considering her age I hope you are at least getting labs done
Actually just started looking for the answer to the same questions as Awagz. As my wife has a very similar sex drive. As someone mentioned, I do believe some of it has to do with emotions, but i think it is also very hormonal. Because in our late 20's it was (her sex drive) exceptional, now fast forward 23 yrs and 2 kids its no longer a necessity but she would like it to be.
I guess my question is what labs should we have checked and does birth control have any affect on sex drive.
Baldur2630The birth control pill give women the power to control unwanted children. At the same time, the medical profession were well aware that the very same pill also decreased testosterone production in females, resulting in loss of libido and eventual sexual dysfunction.
The pill was great for the pharm labs, because you have to take them every day for most of your younger life and the pharma rub their hand in glee as the cash register keeps ringing!
Alternatively, we ar also exhorted to wear a condom "to prevent sexual diseases", in spite of the fact that >40% of men lose their erection and can't perform. Once again, every time a man has sex, the cash register rings!
Finally there were diaphragms, but lo and behold, it needed a doctor to have one fitted and a demeaning thing for a woman. Diaphragms are not good for the medical and pharma said, they last quite a while, so no steady cash flow. That is until recently when a German company invented the Caya diaphragm, one size fits all and you can buy them over the Internet. http://buycaya.com/caya-single-size-diaphragms.html.
get a female hormone panel it should include test levels .. but she's 43? and 2 kids.. I assume she works? She's probably got a lot on her plate.. depending on the bc it is possible .. progestin if it is strong enough with shut down natty production of hormones progesterone and estrogen ...
Great, thx we will start there and see.
Once we get labs back I would like to run them by you and get your opinion.
Baldur2630Sure, when you have doctors and Endos who say women don't have ANY testosterone and Testosterone is ONLY for men and twats who just repeat the bullshit they picked up from the medical profession that want to keep people slightly sick and on pills for life with horrific sides. Dream on gal. YOU can rely on the medical profession and the pill pushers, YOU can take things like Thalidomide (it's good for you!).
There seems to be plenty of people who want to stop men and women from breeding or enjoying sex. Take a look at the birth rate.
Of course we get bloodwork, but they REFUSE to check T in women and Estrogen in men. I do NOT live in the USA or the UK (thank God). The med profession in Europe is fucking USELESS. My wife's estrogen and progesterone is fine.
Please stop singing the praises of the fucking doctors to me. We avoid them like the plague, we don't take pills or meds, we don't eat shit food and on the rare occasions that we do get sick we go for acupuncture or herbs. I'm 74 and probably a bloody lot fitter and healthier than young men in their thirties. My wife is 55 and she never goes to docs or takes shit meds either and she never gets sick either.
Doctors = Pills = worse sides than the disease.
Who got YOUR panties in a twist ... where in the above did I mention medical profession?
I dont believe I even WROTE the word DOCTOR NOR DID I INDICATE THAT ONE SHOULD GO TO A DOCTOR so please relax ....
I DO have an issue with people who think that just adding testosterone to FIX a woman's libido problems without checking other things FIRST
If you have even bothered to read ANY of my posts you will see that I DON'T PUSH PILLS nor do I ENCOURAGE anyone to do so
I am glad to see that you do get labs
as for your reference about where you live or don't I am certain there are worse places to live than the US or Europe ... I should know personally as I have lived in places that do not afford women the right to even be human and are treated worse than dogs and I thank God every day to be alive and well
Baldur2630I'm sorry,but this forum seems to be populated by people who spout the same shit that they read from the medical profession. Wherever I look I see these dire warnings about consulting your doctor or endo.
I haven't been around here long enough to read every post. I just thought that at my age and being in the condition that I'm now in, IN SPITE OF THE DOCTORS AND ENDOS, and my wife's amazing performance in the gym and in bed since we started treating ourselves might just inspire others.
I should have known better, everyone is a fucking expert in their own mind and no-one cares to listen.
BTW - I have also lived in the countries that you are referring to and it won't be long before Europe and the USA are taken over by these evil bastards. They are pouring in every day and being welcomed with open arms.
It's cool. I happen to be in the medical field. I feel like everyone WANTS a pill and a bandaid instead of trying to deal with the underlying issues. They would rather treat symptoms than figure out what is causing the symptoms .
I am truly happy that you and your wife are doing amazing !!! And it is inspiring however, there are a LOT of people here looking for a quick fix ... they dont get labs, they just want the end results hence my suggestion for labs, check estrogen as well as address other chronic life issues that do affect sex drive and over all performance.
PS .. I am quite aware that the time is coming when all will be overtaken by those who wish to push us back into the stone ages. I hope that enough people will be awake to resist ....
Baldur2630Snap. I used to be a veterinarian until I got sick to death of how people want to be ripped off. They bring an obese animal that can barely walk and complain it isn't eating properly. You check it and tell the owner the only problem is that it's grossly overweight and to stop the kilos of raw liver and rump steak, with eggs and bacon and milky tea with snacks of caviar and pâté. Then they just keep going to other vets until a charlatan keeps it for a fortnight "for observation" and then gives them a huge bill.
Bottom line, I'm not without medical knowledge and I know how the profession works, it's the same with vets, but I don't believe a word that the hierarchy tell us. Just now there will be 3 doctors and 4 vets for every person alive that doesn't kill animals for fun.
As to the Stone Age hordes, there won't be enough people awake. The hordes have MUCH more natural testosterone than we do and they are breeding us off the planet. Worse, not only do we allow it, we try to stop our people from breeding at all.
Baldur2630My wife had the same problem, she's 55 and her libido (and mine) died completely. We didn't even think about sex for more than 6 years. Then I got pissed off and found I had zero free testosterone. I self-medicated myself with varying doses of test cyp until I found a suitable one, but I also added 2 IU per day HGH (generic). After a few weeks, all I could think about was sex. My wife started the HGH as well and then after some serious research, she started taking 10 - 15 mg per week test cyp. A month later and she was like a nympho. Her gym work is incredible, Leg Press around 400 kgs, Bench around 90 kgs. Sex every day.
She stays on this for 12 weeks and then takes a 6 week break. So far ZERO side effects.
Women suffer from low hormone levels after having children… it's normal and natural.
There's a drug called Tefina that's scheduled to come out very soon (it's a testosterone intranasal spray), and is designed specifically to address these problems.
Personally, I don't recommend getting on testosterone (even though it will work, she will have the drive of a horse if she gets on testosterone), because there will be a rebound effect where it takes just as long as after-pregnancy for things to go back to normal.
I've tried Viagra and Cialis, and personally it didn't have any effect on my sex drive. Nitric oxide will have a similar effect but be a lot cheaper.
here it is http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bremelanotide
Unfortunately brother after women have children they change...You just have to be sweet to her and surprise her with something! Have someone watch the children one night and pick a dress out for her and tell her to get ready when she gets home and take her to dinner! Surprise her with something and a thank you card telling her how much she means to you and how glad you are to have her in your life ect ect. Go for a little walk somewhere nice if its not to cold... Just think about it!
Dude you gonna think this is weird or inappropriate, but I would say, porn? fetishes? role play? people go to raves drop E and screw like rabbits. I had a girl who would get turned out if she thought somebody is watching!
Do not have her take anything for this. With a women its all emotional. Women think more about the sexual act more than men, who of course just have sex. Surprise her with jewelry of some sort, wash the dishes, take out the trash and tell her how beautiful she is everyday. Make sure that all of your attention goes to her. Women notice if someone else is getting more attention than them which will ultimately effect sex drive. Good luck....
bigwilly100% emotions call the shots, that's why we cant have female leaders, wed be at war with every country on earth.can you imagine, an emotional woman with access to nukes !!
Hmmm. I think I was aiming the emotional aspect more towards sex drive!
bigwillyI know honey I was just being silly, awags is my buddy
HA! Its cool.... ;)
bigwillyseriously did you just say that ^^^ please present me with some factual basis and evidence please ;-)
bigwillyit was a funny, id be fine with chics running things, they could only improve this country. who wouldn't feel safe with you in the oval office. ;)
I wouldn't self medicate for libido, at least not until she gets checked out by a doctor. Women's bodies are odd.
You could hang a picture of me over your guys bed...I kid I kid brotha...I think a lot of people below are right on target...my girl and I can both lack sex drive at times...but take tonight for example...we both worked 10 plus hours we get home neither of us feels like doing much...we grabbed fast food for dinner...I usually cook...don't judge me...we turned on the tv ate our sickening fast food...btw I use to be a competitive eater not like the fat kind more of like a furious pete kind of guy...and tonight I couldn't even eat a whole baconator...so after my girl emasculated me for that...we just kind of layed around then we changed the channel to an old timey movie...next thing you know they're getting hot and heavy...I start to kiss her a little bit...she's not into it yet...I nip at her ears and tug and a little...anyways sparing you the graphic details slowly she got to that point...and it was for no other reason then I put in the time and did everything she likes...and just listening to her and worrying about her needs put her in the mood...so I guess just good old fashion making her feel good...lots of compliments and foreplay. ..tell her she's beautiful...
bigwillylol,
Advice appreciated...like I said below I don't shy away from telling her how much she means to mean emotionally AND give her sexual attention. I hear you on the long days, I work about 60-70 hours a week and it's all physical labor, but seeing her drives me nuts...I know it's not any physical thing between us because I know I am a good looking guy and I'm in excellent shape, I just think maybe she DOES have a lot to deal w with the two kids, she just started working for the first time in four years and she keeps out home beautiful, which is almost impossible cuz my kids are like two Tasmanian Devils that come in a room and annihilate everything in sight
opticxAll the women ive dated on anavar were crazy high sex drive, like straight up sex fiends. Im telling you though once you open that door there is no going back, you will be violated ... be prepared lol
My wife has tried 20mg of Cialis and it didn't do anything for her.
She is 40 and after a couple kids she too lost some of her drive.
What really does it for her we have found is PT141 from evolutionpeptides.com.
Just .7 of a mg and an hour later she can barely keep her hands off of me.
It's really been a game changer in our bedroom.
Hope that helps.
DeathstrokeThats interesting
AnonDelete the source name outta there brotha-
AnonThis may not be a popular response but it's true.. Women are emotional creatures. We (for the most part) can't flip the switch that men can, to get in the mood. We are under constant pressure- take care of the kids, clean the house, do the laundry, look good, be fit, have successful careers- this shit is exhausting, even for a single woman. Put the kid(s) to bed and even when we have a quiet moment, we are thinking about bleaching the sheets in the guest room, packing lunches for the following morning and making sure there's fucking Ellios pizza in the freezer for the sleepover. Pay extra attention to her. Make her feel beautiful. Rub her back. Sweep the hair away from her face and kiss her neck. Remind her how sexy she is. Steroids have increased my sex drive ten-fold but I would never recommend steroids solely for that reason. It's not worth it.
I can say 100% honestly I think my wife is the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. She literally gets hit on everywhere we go wether I'm there or not, and I ALWAYS make sure to remind her how much I know she is beautiful. I am not just saying it, I do it, I put 110% into us and we have a great marraige and the sex life is great too. We have two kinds under 4 and still go almost every night. It used to be that SHE would be the one getting it started and she even asked her dr if there was anything she could do to increase her drive (bear in mind she is 27 so it's unusual), and they just said go to GNC (I am not joking) and see if they have herbal supps.
If anything, she says I'm TOO affectionate but I can't help it, a woman of her caliber can drive a man crazy! Thanks for the input Iron!
Try ignoring her a bit, if that doesn't work walk around in a towel that always gets my attention.
Funny you say that I ignored her completely Monday and went to go to bed nonchalantly and she sprang into action...good call
Works like a charm lol
Same boat brother, when it was just the two of us our sex life was out of this world, on both ends. After our son was born, the house and all the stuff that comes with a family and the daily grind her sex drive dropped dramatically, it took some doing and experimenting but ultimately it came down to me having to put some extra work in. I don't mind this at all Bc I love making my wife feel good. Say the right things, an intimate rub, kissing the neck and collar bone so on so forth... I'm sure you know how to get it done brother, but like I said the little extra work on my end and our sex life is back to being just as good or even better than it was. One thing I will say, the hardest part at first was getting her to be open to new things and not shooting the idea down before it got started... We actually just started incorporating toys and different massage oils and lubricants which has def given her a new spark. Nothing over the top, but it's a lot of fun for both of us, it has taken things to a whole new level. If it's something your interested in looking into pm me and I'll tell you where we get everything from and the stuff that has really spiced things up for us both... Hope this help brother
We are on the same page. I DO NOT mind putting the work in, I can literally smell my wife's perfume and I go into overdrive. We got some good toys, some new ones for both of our pleasures, an this all helps when we are in the moment, but it's just her getting off the bench and into the game first. Maybe I just have to man up and take the reigns on this, which is fine, I love to pleasure her so there is no issue with me starting it up. Thanks for the advice man
Anytime brother
destress...
get some sleep ..
do something that makes her feel good about her self ..
send the kids away for the weekend ..
touching releases oxytocin which will increase sex drive..
viagra and cialis don't put women in the "mood"
sometimes you have to accept that fact that if she is that busy and sleeps that little you will have to help get her into the mood...
I see what you're saying about the kids, when they have a night at grandmas we do have fun but it's not very often we can utilize a sitter. We just had them out last weekend for the night and it was great, and don't get me wrong I do put my work in, we have a very active sex life, but her "urge" isn't what it was before the kids, so I think you nailed it. We gotta put them up for adoption
JK!!!!