posted Wed, 06/10/2026 - 09:42
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No amount of positive feedback back helps with the complex of feeling small. I’m a very confident person with a healthy out look on life. But once i lose the pump. I cover up and hide my body. What are ways people deal with this?
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Where my fellow fat kids from the 90s at?? If you were a fat kid during the Reagan, Bush 1, or Clinton administrations, you probably have body dysmorphia. I don't think I have it quite as bad as you, my friend, but I wouldn't be here doing dodgy shit if I didn't have some fucked up body image issues.
I wonder if it is worse for young men now. On the one hand it is less acceptable to roast the fat kid, while on the other they have social media and physique inflation.
Same here bro. One point in the day I’ll by and mirror and think “damn looking good”. the next time I walk by it it’s “fat skinny weak POS why do you ever take steriods” lmao. This is a daily battle that I have not come out victorious yet. If/when I do I will give you update.
lol this is a real struggle for me too
I have the exact same conversation with myself daily. Fat skinny fuvk. Why do you even take steroids! Lol
It takes a real man to admit and publicly display his vulnerability. Respect for posting this.
I’ve battled body dysmorphia my entire life, and one thing I’ve learned is that mental health struggles don’t just magically disappear. You learn ways to manage them.
Something that helps me is honestly pretty corny. I look in the mirror and tell myself I’m awesome. Being my own hype man has done a lot for my confidence over the years.
I’m also fortunate to have an attractive wife who constantly reminds me that I’m sexy and worth something. Having a partner who can be your hype person is huge when you battle this stuff. Sometimes we need reassurance from the people we love and respect because our own minds can be our worst critics.
You’re definitely not alone in this battle, brother.
My wife never says anything positive about my body. Shes afraid it’ll go to my head. Which is true. I do get a lot of attention from girls at the gym though. I don’t cheat. I tell my wife and it’s a little funny to see how jealous she gets.
I’ve found that jealousy is usually rooted in insecurity. That’s true for men and women. Most women need reassurance and emotional security more than men do.
talking about attention from other women can sometimes come across differently and create unnecessary insecurity in a relationship.
Women are strange creatures.
If your wife isn’t the type to hand out compliments, it might be worth having an honest conversation with her. For a lot of us who struggle with body dysmorphia, reassurance from the person we love carries a lot more weight than compliments from random people at the gym.
That’s a very good point.
I fight this battle everyday of my life. In front of a mirror I think I look great. Once I walk away and put a shirt on I feel like I don’t even workout. The gets BAD sometimes. It’s like fighting a demon.
You’re definitely not a lone. Look at what Megan fox did to her face. The woman was stunning. Now she looks fake af. We all see what our minds create in the mirror.
When I was 13, before I hit puberty, I remember one summer I didnt wear shorts or t-shirts the entire summer. Im 6'4". I was a bean pole. I can still get skinny af if I stop lifting/eating, running trt. Its what keeps me motivated. Not wanting to look/feel my worst. My legs have always been weak point. I wish i had bigger legs but I dont really have what it takes to put the work in to get there. Ive learned to just be happy with doing my best. Well... id say I put in half the work of what I could. Im just lazy. Im happy with mediocrity these days. I lowered my bar. Easier to accomplish. Not suggesting anyone do this.
Im thinking you sound like you just need to get bigger lol. Add some size. You wont feel as small when the pump leave. That should work. Thats what I do.
Youre in the right place!