+ 1 Possible Mid life Crises
Hello Family of Eroids-
I recently have been very uncharacteristically impulsively spending money on degenerate things. Some of you know I’m renovating my house this year (starting the job in a month) which will be a big financial (130k) burden. I’m decking out my Dodge Ram with some new rims, emblems and running boards. Now, I’m having the urge to purchase a used Corvette between 1998/2007 under 20k. I literally just want to drive on a highway with the top down blasting some 80s music.
What the hell has gotten into me? I’m a regular blue color guy who’s had his ups and downs in life. Made some good investments but also horrible ones and there’s no doubt I had the chance to be very wealthy but squandered those opportunities. I live comfortably but work a lot. I just feel as if I worked and did very thing for those around and Always left myself behind. I also feel as if I never truly achieved my potential. Now I’m 42, wife and two kids, my obligation is their well being and success. This isn’t a wise economic or financial decision but my inner yolo child is nudging me to just purchase the red Corvette convertible. Can anyone relate to this? If so, how did you manage ? What was the impact/lesson?
UPDATE I TRADED IN A BEATER TO BUY A MINI COOPER CONVERTIBLE. SO NOW, IMAGINE A MUSCLE HEAD DRIVING THIS LITTLE ASS CONVERTIBLE.
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Are you currently running tren? Tren can cause dopamine imbalances, going on buying sprees is super common since its a huge dopamine burst when you buy something. Just look at someones amazon spending pre/post a tren cycle. Some people just buy shit and still havent even opened it yet because their tren cycle ended. Or you could just be at that time in life. As long as you arent going into debt and paying it forward you should be good. Greed will drain happiness quick in the long run. Go find someone struggling in a grocery store and buy them a store gift card. Buy a bum a chipotle burrito. Find a charity and donate a bill. You'll start to balance back out the fleshly cravings with humility. Sounds anti macho weak talk but its the way we were designed.
Hahaha that’s actually a very good question but no. I was off cycle for a while and only started up again recently. No Tren. I’m not even two weeks into my cycle and they’re always low doses. My sleep sucks without Tren so I wouldn’t want to run that shit again unless I’m in good health. I suffer from terrible acid reflux which I’m currently prescribed a proton pump inhibitor. Helps but I’ve been having terrible joint pain.
As a man and an adult that works for what we have, we also like to have nice things. For some people it’s cars and others it may be firearms, there’s plenty of cool shit to be into. If it makes you happy, and doesn’t put you in a negative financial situation, then go for it. I myself am impulsive as well, and when I want something I need it now.
Fuck it, you only live once
Start investing if ya haven’t. I always wish I invested more and got started earlier. 42 is still plenty of time to get some badass returns even on something beyond safe like S&P 500. By 65 when you really want to have fun you’ll have a large chunk of cash to spend on whatever ya want!
I haven’t reached a point like this yet, and am not looking forward to it haha. I am a bit older than some in my profession and studies, but I don’t let that change anything. I guess I am a little young for a “mid-life crisis”, but I understand it’s a very real thing and all too common to question the past!
I would say live in the now. The past isn’t worth getting stuck thinking about because we can’t go back to that moment and change anything. The future we can’t KNOW what’s going to happen, but we can consciously make decisions in the NOW that shape the way we want our lives to be!
You’ll come out on the other side looking back and laughing.
Rooting for ya brother man!
Great advice brother, likewise. I wish the best for you.
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PermalinkanvilIt is my intention to leave a big steroid filled corpse behind. Buying things never occurs to me. My wife will long out live me, why am I gonna leave her a bunch of stuff??? I would say midlife for me was 35, and I had no crisis. Do/buy things you enjoy, but enjoyment is a fleeting experience and maintaining a whole bunch of crap is never fun.
Simon buy a boat, take that Italian chic on a nice cruise LOL.
Man, I really wonder what it’s like out there out at sea by yourself.
anvilLonely, bring a lot of lotion.
Cant take it with ya when your dead
anvilYou can take me, if you can pry me out of Press1 arms.
Oof, thought you were going to say ass...
You'll never leave me.
anvilNo, I won't. You need me.
There’s nothing wrong with spending money on yourself to make yourself happy, I like to buy things that if I get tired of them or move on the hobby, they’ll hold their value or in some cases grow. You want to have fun, I know I do, and I’ve never seen a hearse pulling a U-Haul, but at the same time maintain some financial responsibility. Enjoy the vette!
I'm 66 and still waiting for my midlife crisis
I didn’t think you were that old, still don’t have @KMC beat though…
AK80It's OK to have some fun, just don't waste your money on pimping out that truck that no one will ever notice anyway or getting those particular years of Corvettes. Get the newer C8 or the '63-'67. You doing a HELOC? Re-fi? Might have a little play $ there depending....
I hate that phrase, too, but we can all relate. I tend to think of it as, you've been grinding for so long, and one day you kinda just want a little slice for yourself. This is a very healthy feeling, and frankly, if you ignore it, you're headed for bigger issues down the road.
You deserve the 'vette. There's nothing wrong with having one toy you love and cherish.
Right there with you man! 43 this year and the wife is asking what the hell is happening. For me though the kids are getting older and we have more time and money for us, so I’m taking advantage of it! Hang in there man!
I don't believe in the term 'Midlife crisis' and never have, even when I was younger - I've always viewed it as a negative phrase that somebody labels someone who is older but who still isn't scared to live their life and do things/buy things that make them happy - the person labelling them is just too scared to live care free.
In a way buddy, don't you think we are all basically doing that anyhow on here? We are a bunch of blokes pumping ourselves full of hormones weekly trying to remain as strong and aesthetic as we were in our twenties basically, still trying to feel as good and get attention from the opposite sex (or men if your Anvil).
I say go for it pal and enjoy it - hell I sure would if I had the money to do it. You only get one life Simon, the clock is ticking everyday and that time doesn't come back
This should be an award winning response. Everyone who responded to this offered great advice and you’re damn right, buying juice is a damn mid life crises especially for me where 75% of what I buy will end up expiring. But one day, I’d like to take massive amounts of Tren and Winstrol, get down to sub 10% rocking a corvette in my 50s. But I will wait until my boys are both in their late teens.
You couldn't of posted this at a more ironic time - I drove past one of my old car friends from about 15 years ago today. He has obviously just got a Black Corvette as he was stood showing it off to someone and it had his private plate on it!!! Was all polished up and looked great, which they normally don't over here lol Wasn't one of those Stingrays though, not sure if it was left or right hand drive as it was a fleeting glance at the time.
I like them all. I was looking at literally every decade since the 70s. I’m going to wait until the kids are older. It’s not the right time nor do I have the space because they have to be garage kept,
Yeah shit happens man. It's good that you've recognized it. All you can really do is just try to be better every day.
I can relate 100% although I’m only 33 I started working full time at 15 had my first kid at 16 and 2 more kids in my mid 20s. I’ve always worked hard but never had money for myself. My financials have always revolved around my children and wife (who’s a stay at home mom). I just landed a new job that pays significantly more and right away my thoughts jumped to buying either a Durango srt or challenger Srt along with a new motorcycle of this year. Instead I settled for a used bike after repair and maintenance I’m still under 5k. Even then the wifey and fam is asking if I’m going through a midlife crisis yet I’m only 33 lol. sometimes it’s defeating as fuck to work so hard yet have so little. I have a 90s Subie, my motorcycle I just bought, my power rack weights and my gear lmao the children and wifey get whatever they want pretty much. What stopped me from going balls deep with the srt and new bike is in reality that initial high I’ll get out of getting that will fade quick and I’ll be like damn why’d I do that. Then I’d sit there and think of how I could have been sitting on money, putting it in my Roth/retirement or atleast more stocks. I’d like to be the first to retire and first to own a house in my family and in Cali you need to have serious money to make that happen. 130k is a hefty chunk of change. You’re about to have that dream house. You already played with the truck. Breath that shit in and enjoy it! You are already blessed! Idk how old your kids are but get them cars first make sure you got them for college then get that corvette. Set a couple family purchase or family trip goals for the fam before you splurge. Of course idk how much money you’re really sitting on so my advice can be irrelevant. It could mean nothing to you to drop that. Blue collar muthafuckers love them toys. Work hard play hard. Or you could work hard and play smart. It’s up to you. I know for a fact I’m not gonna be able to do the work I do when I’m 50 so what happens then?
Great response man. The thing is, I didn’t want to put this money into the house, it was my wife. I told her years ago we should’ve bought more homes prior to Covid and right now, I’d be retired but she was always hesitant. Now it’s like I will be essentially down to zero after that but my money is in my homes. My kids are 10 and 5, two boys. Everything is for them. My oldest thinks I’m the coolest dude in the world, my little one tries to overthrow my authority. It should be fun in the future but, I already told my oldest my truck is his when he’s 18. That’s when I’ll go for the Classic Corvette. Maybe stingray
That’s a tough one. Spending that much and not really wanting it is frustrating as fuck. I’d say if you want it that bad set a goal. Say you are leasing and gonna put 10k down match that 10k in savings before you buy it. Or if you are gonna cash out I drop 20k double that then cash out. I’d personally wait the and try to recoup as much as that 150k first
Some decent advice there brother! What makes you think you won't be able to do the kind of work you do when you are 50? Better be good! I'm 50 and I do the same work I have done my whole life, only I do it much more efficiently now which had provided me the opportunities to become the guy now running the job for the company. (And I do concrete and heavy construction) and yes, I'm a hands on guy! I don't make the guys do all the work. I jump in that hole and show them young boys how it's done. Don't limit yourself by saying you won't be able to do it. I gotta call bullshit on that bro!
Ps: GTFO of Cali brother! Shit is crazy expensive! One of the main reasons I left the NYC area.
Hell yes brother. Concrete guy here since 2001. 45 and still a machine!
One of the toughest jobs out there brother! Although I've many other trades under my belt, concrete is the one field that I have always fell back on. Tough work, but it pays well and there's always an opening somewhere for a good concrete guy.
Ain’t that the truth. We are a dying breed bro. I was brought up working for the Sicilians, ornery as fuck and couldn’t speak a lick of English! Some of the best years of my life, I credit them with my work ethic. Sink or swim!!
I will say you’re 100% right on this. It is bullshit. I could do this well into my late 50s early 60s. What I should’ve said is I don’t want to be like the guys at the job who are in their late 50s early 60s making the same money I am with all the hip, knee, and shoulder issues. Imagine spending 15-20years working for a company and getting paid the same as me with only 3years in. Mandatory 6 day weeks minimum 10hrs a day and not even compensated enough live here. I don’t see myself doing anything other than blue collar work. I’ve been chasing line work for 5years now. I can’t imagine doing anything else
Edit: bro I have 2 baby mommas. I’d have to wait til my son is 18 as I dont want to take him away from his mom. The wifey is down tho. I can’t fuckin wait to get out of this shit state.
I understand that though as far as how much you're making with the time in you have vs somebody who just started not long ago. Although I've been there, nobody wants to be in that spot. Especially that 6 day work week, putting in 60 hours a week every week. Fuck that! Life is too short to slave for ANYBODY that long and not be compensated correctly. Any better companies where you're at? Lol
I actually just started a new job. Only been there a month. Waaaay better pay and it’s mon-fri 6am-2pm. Stress has decreased dramatically and financially I’m in a much better position. On top of that IBEW is in negotiations and if all goes well I’ll get a 10/hr raise. I finally have work live balance. That’s why I started looking the srt. Almost said fuck it I got the money now lmao
AK80NYC is nothing but a democrat ran shithole. Fun to visit or travel there for work and make a ton of $ for a bit though. Eric Adams is finally shaping up, but that's because Trump is on his ass. Hochul is next...
Yeah, it's cool for a visit but that's about it. Lol! I grew up there 80s, 90s until 2000 then I left. I was like 28 and never looked back. I've been there to visit family many many times and Everytime it turns my stomach. Can't believe ppl choose to live that way! All on top of each other and shit. Fuck that!
I’m on the east coast and you’re right. Need to get the hell out of here. My small ass house could get me a mansion somewhere down south.
That's a fact brother! For what you're paying out have paid, that value would get you some nice property to go with the house and probably still have some change to sit on it or make upgrades or whatever. That's why I left bro
If you move down here in the south, just make sure you don’t drive slow in the fast lane. Please don’t.
I honestly never realised you are 50 mate - I always thought you were mid to late thirties by the way you talk!
Yeah brother, nobody believes I'm 50. I'm blessed enough to not show it. Good genes I guess?
Whenever I find myself thinking about making a destructive decision, I go and get “wife advice” and she usually talks me out of doing dumb shit. Now it’s not 100%, but it works more often than not.
I’d put my focus somewhere else for a little
Lol they ground us. A lot of the things she’s talked me out of would have had us both retired but she’s a play it safe kind of gal. Seriously greatest hearted person I ever met and money doesn’t mean everything.
They certainly do ground us. She’s much more risk averse than I am. I’m an adrenaline junkie and big city firefighter for a living, so I constantly need something to keep me going. She is a teacher with her master’s and sells commercial real estate on the side and she kills that (I think people like to buy things from hot women) so she’s much smarter than I am, but she has allowed me to invest our money and we have done extremely well with bitcoin luck and just the market in general. She spends our money now lol, but atleast it mostly goes back into the house with her upgrades