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A crutch?

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I have one thought & I’d love to hear some other’s thoughts as well. We can have respective disagreements & it’s a learning tool!

Do you use Bodybuilding/Gym as a crutch?

What I mean by that is I know many of us have used the gym as a tool to help us recover. It helps shift focus, relieve stress, gives us self confidence & is a great way to spend our efforts rather than chasing that high. That’s very important & I believe it a great tool, but is it a crutch. A crutch is something great to be used while needed, but it’s something you eventually won’t need to help you stand because of the strength that comes back into that member of your body. The crucial point is if you become injured & unable to be to pursue your goals, do you believe that you’re strong enough to not return to the old habits? If not, it’s important to be honest with yourself & tend to those weaknesses before it ever becomes an issue. The tragedy that I see over & over is that someone gets clean & the get a good job & they start investing themselves in that job & doing great.... until the bottom falls out of the job & within a month or two they fall back into old habits mostly to deal with the depression & sense of why even try if you’re gonna fail mindset. I see people lose 100lbs or more & do get fit & do awesome until.... they face an injury & they are unable to keep that routine in the gym & the next thing you know their diet is out the window & everything they worked hard for is lost instead of maintained. We need to be completely honest with ourselves concerning our weaknesses & we should guard certain areas of our life against things that could negatively affect us. The gym is a great motivation & a great crutch for awhile, but are we really strong enough to make it without it??

BootyGear's picture

I have used it as a crutch, don't get me wrong it can relive a ton of stress, but I have to make God and AA the center of my program if I want my gym sessions to go well. Just my 2Cents

shirlsguy's picture

I'm trying to post in this groupregularly, one place or the other and hope that I don't become the last to comment on each group. Posting helps me to reflect a lot. A crutch? Good question.

I think it is about the only solid thing with history in my life right now, that is not meant to leave me or might leave me uncontrollably. Assuming that drinking 'had' to leave me, I consider that loss great. My children need to have their own lives, so they 'should' leave me, at least for their own daily lives. My wife sure gives a lot of signs that she is not one for me to lean on right now, so that leaves me. Even my job I let go for sad mistakes, my wife, drinking, etc. I have it back again and I begin on Monday, but that can't really be my support as it is a must and jobs are always subject to unannounced cutbacks. Body building has been an event that I can always do, it is healthy for me and it often attracts positive relationships and/or influences. It does wonders for my self esteem, so I like it.

JARHEAD2's picture

Keep posting bro & do whatever it takes to help you my friend! Glad you’re here!!

shirlsguy's picture

81-days :-)

House's picture

Crutch! Hellz no. A life style change for sure. You meet new people in the gym and get committed to something that lifts depression and builds self esteem. I had to get rid of face book. Delete every one out of my phone stay away from porn. All fckn triggers for me that i thought i was strong enough to hang with but it plays on your mind till your alone and using again. Had 9 yrs clean in NA and relapsed and lost everything. You guys have seen my struggles on eroids. Last few months started working, hitting iop and the gym. My girl and i are great. Family is great. Saving money. Just bought a 4k tv. Cought up on bills. When im using i steal all day fck work. I hate that person. Love who i am clean. Love u guys. Keep ur head up. Its 630 am on the bus to work cause i lost my driver lis. Blacked out on dope and xanax and hit a few cars woke up in the hospital with a warrant to take blood. Lost alot. A cdl class a lis. Mitorcycle lis. I was so depressed. Its been lifted and i see hope. Although somedays the emptiness calls out to do it 1 more time.keep ur heads up.

House's picture

I remember posting this and still didnt surrender. Im working on 7 months clean. Longest since 2013. God is good.

shaun1's picture

It depends. Like when I got off of pain pills I got on suboxon well I ended up getting addicted to that well it was a crutch to get me off of pills but I only traded one addiction for another. But I feel like the gym can be a crutch but at the same time not. But at least it is an healthy one. Anything you trade your addiction for can be a crutch. Now I feel like if you go cold turkey and don't use anything to help you, then you have used no crutch but lets face it how many of us have been able to say that not many I'm betting and if you can than this ol boy sure is proud of you because I sure as hell had to have some sort of help. As Rich say one day you may, whatever it takes. Brother if it gets you off drugs and is healthy and it saves your life then I don't give a shit what anyone calls it fuck use let it help you let it save your life wether its the gym, reading a book or if you like running through the tall grass up a hill side catching butterflies I don't give a shit do it do whatever it takes to get off the drugs. That's just my two shinny penny's worth.

Plumberscrack13's picture

I feel the same way I've been on Suboxone for around 8 months and it has been a lifesaver for me ..my wife also a recovering addict gives me shit everyday saying I'm not sober since I'm still on the subs ...I've also turned to the gym and it has been my safe haven ..it has completely transformed me if u look at my progress pic I posted before was when i was on the pills heavy and the after us 8 months later ..so I do use the gym as my crutch and the Suboxone as well ..I don't see anything wrong with it if it's keeping me moving forward ..any thoughts on this?

Masscheese638's picture

Injury is one of my biggest fears. I worked out the 5 years I was locked up and the three since ive been out. so ive been clean 8 years. I don't think I would relapse if I couldn't lift. I'm just not sure what I would do and would rather not find out. I Need that time to strain, sweat and clear my head. Id find another outlet if I had to but I wanna keep this one for as long as possible. It helps me stay clean, be a good dad, remember to pay bills and gives me something to look forward to. Thanks for sharing guys

dzkahuna's picture

To the question of crutches.... everyone has a crutch. I have friends who sleep when their lives or work get too stressful or eat ice cream when they are upset. I think that crutches are ok, as long as they do not affect you or someone else in a negative way. When I used, I spent my money on drugs and it really negatively effected my families finances. I have never felt like such dog shit when I made my wife cry because we had no money to pay our bills. She grew up poor and I had really opened a wound. When I got clean I was determined to right all my wrongs financially. I work a full time job and I have two side businesses. For the last 3 years I have worked 7 days a week. Lately my health has started to suffer a little. I wake up @ 430 go to the gym come home get kids off to school, work until 5 do the dinner home work thing. Get kids to bed then work until 10. Then I work all weekend on my businesses. i just realized in the last month that I am again alienating my family trying to make their lives better financially. I am starting to back off of the side work a little bit. I have taken things too far again, what I am learning it's about balance. My wife and kids need me there. Things seem so obvious when I pause and take a look around. . Anyways I am rambling here, hope everyone has a good weekend.

shaun1's picture

I agree 100percent with you bro.

felony's picture

I believe we are all strong enough to make it without it if necessary. When your ready your ready damn the odds. I have a friend (this is not recommended) but she is a recovering alcoholic and is also a bartender.I asked her if it was difficult for her. She said when she was done she was done and it didn't matter what job she had she would not drink anymore. She is still a bartender and now has 14 years sober.
I do see a lot of people go from one extreme to the next quick. This is our addictive behavior. Moderation is the key. I know a guy who is a chronic relapse. Opiates. same routine relapse get clean one week after detox he is on cycle. Trading one addiction for the other. Then the mail is late or the dog shits in the house and he is using again.
I guess for me its all about being honest with myself. Does the gym make me feel good? Yea. Does it help to keep me focused? Yea. Do I need it to stay clean no.
Thanks Jar.

shaun1's picture

I agree with when you've had enough you'll quit but some like me had underlining problems such as bipolar and lack reasoning and copeing skills to just quit. I'm on meds for my bipolar but at times even they don't help. I have to bury myself into something to help take my mind away from that nagging voice that says fuck it you've had a bad week you've had a bad day you can just pop a few pill just this one day to help take away the stress and if I'm not careful if I'm not on my game then that voice will fuck me over every time I learned that the hard way a long time ago. The gym became my much needed crutch to help me channel my stress in a positive way. There are times that my stress gets so bad until my anxiety will cause me to almost have a panic attack and I can't get to the gym quick enough to relieve it. Its an up hill battle that I have to fight every day.

Johnny Bravo's picture

I feel for u I’m bipolar as well and when the switch flips everything I’ve learned goes right out the window
I use the gym as my meditation. I can’t sit still or clear my mind. I get real anxious and get stuck in a loop almost like a bad trip. When I go to the gym I focus for the only time that day. Nothing can break it. I get into a meditative state and while feeling the target muscle working. It works wonders for relieving aggression and taking energy out of me that I could likely turn to harm someone else or myself.
So is it a crutch? Idk. I don’t do very well without it. I haven’t been in a while and my meds are low so I’ve been acting out. Shit I’m on crutches because I didn’t have my crutch. How ironic is that. I got anxious and threw something and it bounced back into my knee that I just had surgery on last year.
Read this I found it and I like it. Hit me up with anything that helps u I’d appreciate it.

https://www.t-nation.com/training/elite-wisdom