Women's opinion on Bodybuilding/bodybuilders
Hey guys/girls,
So, Im just curious, what do women think about bodybuilders and bodybuilding? Like, do you think its disgusting for a man to be that huge, do you find it attractive or unattractive? And I would mean, like IFBB size, you know like jay cutler, phil heath size. Im asking bc Ive been on dating sites for a week or so now, been talking to some girls, some are cool, some kinda bitchy but whatever lol Im just wondering though, is it something women like, or just view as "I guess thats his thing" and its either a negative point, of no value, or a positive pt. I know not everyones into that and thats cool. Also, bc I dont know how much bigger I would want to get, bc I dont want to get to a pt where women think its ugly. Im about 255lbs, good measurements, about to bulk again, then do a cut for my first show next year. SO trying to plan a bit, thanks everyone for your input!
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I got told, and this is by no means set in stone. And I think it was one of Rich Pianas videos on YouTube, not too sure.
That a man weighing around 200lbs has got more chance of finding the right woman than the man next to him that weighs 300 and the rest. But I guess it's personal preference really, he was mentioning that the fact that a lot of women see big men (and by that I mean IFBB and beyond) as bad stereotypes like rebels, criminals or hard men. Most have tattoos and look like 'monsters' and that can attract the wrong sort of attention.
But then again, a lot of women love that kind of thing and a lot don't either. Some prefer tone and definition whilst others love holding onto something. I've met a few women before my missus that love a man with muscles but there is a 'point' so to speak, apparently anyway lol
I know my girlfriend hates steroid usage. She doesn't like me messing around with juice and see likes me the way I am now (around 180-185lbs) but if it was a different woman then who knows, maybe I'd be too stick like for her lol
Each to their own. In my opinion
Like others have said, there is no one certain build, everyone has their own taste. A lot of guys like skinny model type girls, I on the other hand like my girls thick with a big ass.
But if you held a gun to my head and forced me to pick an ideal mans physique that would gain majority vote from women, I would have to say LEAN. whether you're 170 9% BF or 215 20% BF -- you're LEAN, and your jaw line becomes stronger and you look healthier and it shows longevity.
I cant thank you guys enough, these past few weeks have been a transition for me, a pt where Ive had to decide how much bigger I want to get. Ive always enjoyed bodybuilding and the "Freakish" side of it. I agree with quite a few of you, I HATE FITTING IN. I hate being thrown into a "category" I hate normal, different is best, I dont see why anyone would want to be some kind of clone. Some of you confirmed things I had wondered about. A lot of you brought new things to light that I had never thought about. I see now whats been plaguing me has been my lack of confidence, and nothing else. I look forward to getting fucking huge with you guys! Thanks to all the ladies, HRbodyGRRRL, ANBRO, and any others I didnt list, your advice was specifically insightful, and to Nitti too, thanks man and tell Mrs Nitti thanks for me too. I fucking love you guys, Thanks!
BigBmajThis is a good statement. I really like seeing growth around here. I think its whats keeping me around these days.
Its hard to admit problems with self-confidence, but you are not alone my friend. I'm pretty sure many of us struggle with the same issues. Don't let anyone fool you, the voice inside most of our heads is pretty damn critical.
I have to agree with you man. I grew up trying to be super real with myself, and I ended up beating myself down bc of acne and other things. I think we all have these things we see about ourselves that we may kind of beat ourselves up over, but we at the end of the day, have to accept ourselves, for what we are, and what we are not. Doesnt mean we cant change it , hell , thats why bodybuildings so great, bc we can, with hard work and over time.
I'm not a woman so I cannot give a woman's opinion to your question. But I can try to give you my opinion. Here's the thing, there are probably ideal body types that a woman can prefer in a man. It will vary with many girls. I know some girls like skinny guys or don't care if they have muscle or not. Some women prefer men to look average - actually lots of women do. Also many women prefer completely obese men!! IDK why maybe they think it makes them look sexy ahah. I honestly think some women don't give a SHIT what their man look like.
It's no lie some girls really like fit guys, many women at the gym who are also very fit tend to like guys that are fit. What is fit? idk 7-15% BF with a good amount of size. Some girls like guys with 6 packs and very lean, some girls like buff dudes with a little extra beef.
My point is, FUCK IT. If you would just make your body the way YOU want it, I'm sure whatever girl you end up with will like it. It doesn't matter. Focus on yourself and how you want to look and do it because that's how you want to look not because that's how women might want you to look.
But I notice guys who don't have a lot of fat usually get more attention, but again overall I don't think it matters. I'm naturally a lean guy but I consider myself a bodybuilder at heart. I'm always trying to bulk up because I want fuckin 22's and will keep trying to get there, but my girl says she likes when I'm lean. So yeah she thinks I look good no matter what but I think for the most part high fat is 'generally' more unattractive.
I'm finally going to chime in on this one... First of all.. as stated below by so many.. you can't do this for someone else. Body Building is a selfish sport, it's the one activity that's driven by your passion to prefect the human body. If you are dedicated to the sport it's not going to matter if a woman likes you big, small, round or square. Woman want a man that is a fine line between confident and cocky... she want him to be a teddy bear at home and a warrior in the street. When you hold her she wants to feel safe and secure and like you will never harm her. You've got to be a mixer of everything and nothing sometimes.. if you can do those things.. she won't care if you are 255, 375 or 145... As for if it's attractive or not... a man with confidence, that carries himself well and holds his head high regardless of the situation will always be attractive..
Thank you, I really appreciate it, lol Ive spent so much time in the gym and the books I dont know anything about relationships. I appreciate your advice, bc I do honestly want to get freak huge. I just wanted to make sure I was heading in a direction that would make me happy. I didnt want to just keep my head in the bulk game, and end up somewhere someday, and be like, damn. I let my life pass me by. I feel better now about it, and im happy that its just i need to be more confident in myself and not the Im too focused on getting huge. Thanks!
Gohard... Do what makes you happy and in the mean time the right woman will come along. She will not only be everything you've always wanted, she will also support you in achieving all of your goals. Before meeting Abaddon I hit the gym maybe four times a week, I didn't know what AAS was or that normal people (not wrestlers) used them, how much hard work and dedication body building required. I did however know that it was abaddons passion and I wanted to share in that. It wasn't long before it became just as important to me. My point is... Everyone will say find a woman that shares your interest.. I say find one that wants to share everything with you... One that's willing to open her mind to new things, and you do the same. You'll be glad that you didn't forfit your dream in fear of not finding the right one... Because she'll end up being the reason you get those last few force reps and the motivation to keep going when you don't think you can.
Thats my dream
Im hoping one day I will find her, I do find myself attracted to bodybuilder women, something attractive about that too me, and I know that it would be a good thing for both sides. Im excited for the future now, I feel so much better about the whole thing. Thank you for encouraging me to be myself and for the advice, God bless!
First you have a rare talent to express what you think with great clarity, that is why I always enjoy reading your post with your view points they are honest and sincere. Now I would like you if you are willing to give others some perspective here especially the men or those trying to become men lol.
What is your meaning of a "teddy bear"? Do you prefer a man that you can lead around and won't disagree with you if they have convictions that you are going in a wrong direction? Or meaning a teddy bear in regard to chivalry but yet still being bold and not a yes man in all things? Now I believe I know how you are going to answer so this is more for others especially the younger men today. Thank you my partner in social change.:)
"Teddy Bear" Cuddles with you on the sofa, gives you butterfly, eskimo and forehead kisses. Isn't afraid to cry and display emotion especially when you're dealing with what could very well be the other half of your soul. As you very well know, all teddy bears are still bears deep down.. that's what keeps them from being a yes man..(To which no real woman wants, if she does she has underline issues). I want that toe to toe won't back down bear like when I'm in the wrong.. That's what keeps us balanced.. the kind, gentle, strong and forceful....
Yes...very nice! I still haven't learned that crying thing though but I am good at making other men cry ;)
Pank, sometimes you scare me... I just pictured you holding some poor man down making him cry so you could tell your wife.. See baby, I have feelings too, you just MADE me make this man cry so I could so you!
Lmfaoooooooooooo! Damn that was good now I know what to get her for our anniversary!
Stop copying my paper or I'm tellin the teacher.
Nice reply! The women around here should be the ones commenting on this post I think. We don't know shit about women. I know I don't.
I think this is too general a question. But if you poll 100 women , my money would be on most prefer the look of a male fitness model over a bodybuilder. But there are plenty of women who love a freakishly big bodybuilder type. Then there are women who are in love with Adam Levine's body. I think the majority will fall somewhere in the middle. Women (most) like to feel safe & protected with their man. Someone who is physically imposing and fully capable of handling physical danger. Then there's sex appeal. I'm sure a lot of women look at a bodybuilder and like what they see. While others probably just gaze in awe as they would looking at the lizard man in the freak show. I don't think there's any doubt that women are attracted to strong muscular men. But how much muscle? Ronnie Coleman or Mark Whalberg? It's a matter of perspective and opinion.
This is from Mrs.Nitti who wanted me to post this for her.
Really appreciate it bro, very helpful advice.
That was really good brother and I believe it puts the whole issue into perspective.
This has been my experience, I know in special forces even guys that are 165 lbs have this affect on their women. One wife said one time "If he is willing to kill the enemy of his country how much more will he not protect his family."
But right here above is the real answer to it all. Say a woman goes out with a fighter or bodybuilder or solder and he is a class A douche bag to her then she may be apt to pick a guy who does not exhibit those traits even though it wasn't those traits that were the problem but just a bad apple that had them.
I never did any of this to pull chicks or any of that stuff.. shit! i was married with twin daughters at age 21 lol so i never did all the chick bonin one nighters and things lol..... i do it because i just love to train and i am my own worst enemy in that respect because i am the prime candidate for falling into the over-training trap which i have done many times.... i have actually had to teach myself to "back it off" because it is that much of an addiction for pain.
For the record.... i prefer strong muscular women over any other body type..... NORMAL is BORING to me.
F@#$ Normal.. that's all I have to say about that ..
Fucking normal isn't fun either... I've done it.. Fucking a freak is way better!! Just sayin ;-)
Same her, normal is very boring. I love my wife's new found muscles! Shoulders and traps have bulked up and I'm loving it!
See that's what I'm talkin bout! That's awesome Harley! Love seeing a man giving his woman props and support!
Ugg! Twin daughters! I am dealing with one teenage daughter and losing my mind let alone two!
lol yeah bro... i had to grow up real quick.
It's kind of the same thing as debating music or even food. I like classic rock and hip hop from the 90's. Someone who likes metal might gag at the thought of listening to Tupac but he can't really argue what's better. It's all a matter of preference. With that being the case, do what make you happy and fuck everything else.
Correct brother.... lifes too short to drag our ass,s around like sheep, be individual thats livin!
Exactly, every single one of us is different. The OP I think is generally asking if women are physically attracted to big guys. That question is impossible to answer. But either way, IMO the point is still he should do exactly what you just said and Mrs.Nitti echoed Do what you love and whatever makes you happy!
Nothing else should matter
why is it important what someone else thinks you look like ?
Im in my 50's and things like weird colored, or dressing like a skank, (or for that matter acting like one)
having a metal rod in your tongue, or eye brow or what ever.. seems to be the "norm"..
( i dont care what people look like..).. but if some one give you shit for trying to be the in the best
shape your body can be, ( with or with out aas.)..it's no one business but your own..
just my 2 cents...
Thanks for the comments guys, I guess ill attribute half of this post to my life-long foe, estrogen, lol been in my pct off my cycle, I always run into these damn emotional things. Truth is, I have had a problem with self confidence, had bad acne for a long time, got over it a good bit, the confidence took awhile to come back though. And I asked this because for the last 3 years, I have been completely single, no one night stands, none off that. And it gets lonely. So I would like to have someone to live life with all of a sudden. I guess I need to just find that special someone, I do want to get bigger and all that too though. Im def not focused on trying to have a physique for women, but I dont want to be ugly at the same time. Idk, thanks for the opinions guys
this is grrrl .. lol.. I don't want you to think Goth wrote this .. but beauty is in the eye of the beholder... do what makes you feel good about you and that will show through any perceived ugliness that you may or may not have. some people don't know how to be single .. this is a good thing, that way if you end up in a relationship that needs to end, you won't be afraid to be by yourself .. you already know how. Now go grab your ai, pick yourself up and rub some dirt on you and you will be fine.
Thanks. And it is correct that i feel fucking awsome about everything bodybuilding, I love it. The last four years have been tough, gone through some real crazy shit. Things have just started to get better for me, and I finally feel hopeful. Im super thankful for people like you in the bodybuilding world who dont mind giving a word of advice, thanks, and I will. (couldnt figure out the last part"go grab your ai..."
grab some aromatise inhibitor or aromasin ..lol.. and rub some dirt on whatever ails you
oh haha ok now i get it, yeah, i just finished tren, been taking some anastrol and nolva
Damn Goth you sound awful sensitive and caring you better check your estro!!! I would almost swear these are the sweet and lovely words of your wife:P
lmao
sweety there is someone for everyone on the planet...part of my job is issuing marriage licenses so i see it every day with my own eyes....all you have to do is be open to love.....but before that you need to stop beating yourself up....Nobody wants someone who is perfect thats very uncomfortable to handle....i have loved some of the strangest imperfections in men and they me....i always hated my nose and i have a few tiny scars on my face and believe it or not those are some of the things men find most adorable....anyone worth the salt of their soul will love you for who you are and thats the truth :0)
That means a lot to me, thank you
I know you are right, I just need to work to get to the point where i am confident and i accept myself for who I am, and what I look like. Thank you, you made my day
If you just want to impress the chicks then a harley, some tattoos and a prison record will do the trick bro... I know plenty of FAT fucks who do juuuuust fine with the ladies LOL
...seriously bro what it comes down to is CONFIDENCE and if you are looking for SIZE to give you CONFIDENCE then you don't have any
This
Exactamundo.......... without that we may as well pack up and fuck off back into a dark hole.
Well must be the minority cuz I'm IN ON MUSCLE WOMEN!
Amy Fadhli comes to mind!
Sounds like a jerry Springer or Dr. Phil topic.
AnonFrom what Ive seen and heard women say the vast majority do not like the body builder physique. Just as I believe the vast majority of men do not like the female body builder physique.
In both sexes I my self prefer the look of the fitness model type , and a lot of people here seem to have that, or just slightly towards the BB side.
In any case you really should be shaping your goals around what you want , and even if you chose to go the BB route there will still always be a woman somewhere for you so let that be the last thing you worry about.
Do you see this as a personal challenge ? Are you getting big to impress others ? Without your muscles would you have low self esteem ? All things you might want to consider before going further.
BigBmajIt all depends on the woman. I think 6' 195 with 7% body fat is what lots of women seem to like. That is where I seem to get the most attention. But women also seem to factor in things like personality when looking for a mate, if you can imagine that.
In my fine opinion I'd have to say if you care so much about what the chics think then maybe you ought to reconsider what you are doing. If I quit lifting because of every dude that freaked out because I have 17 in arms ... I would not have a very good opinion of myself and would be basing my entire being on the thoughts and values of other people that have absolutely no meaning in my life. If they don't like it, they can go find some skinny petite little thing because I happen to like how I look. The men that find me attractive don't ask me lose weight or size and to be honest I wouldn't.
Bingo!
If you're not in this game for yourself, then you should probably make an exit.
In my opinion I say Jay Cutler is too big, but all women have different preferences. Some women may be intimidated by a man being muscular for a few reasons; insecurity and the guys' ego. I say my hubby mrkwright body is perfect, but prefers to be bigger. I dont mind him getting bigger but when when he's too big I will definitely let him know.
Anonyou aren't a real bodybuilder if you're doing it in hopes of achieving a body look for the opposite gender.