+ 1 Dealing with Sexual Frustration While on Cycle
So, as we all know, can attest to and hopefully all agree upon round these here parts is that doing gear can leave you "wanting" in the bedroom at times. I've recently been left feeling unfulfilled by the significant other in that department and it upsets me sometimes. This morning is one of those times, hence this topic of discussion. It's my Wifey's 33rd B-Day today and I REALLY wanted to wake her with a nice surprise. I thought it may be a nice change of pace because it's her B-Day, the kids are fast asleep, and we just don't do early morning/middle of the night sex anymore. She's always too tired, or has a headache, or complains that she didn't realize I was trying to wake her for some midnight madness. Anyways to get to the point here, I'm feeling incredibly frustrated, and irritated with her (in)actions in the sack. She just can't keep up. I do know it's unfair to expect her to keep up when I'm loaded up with a sex hormone but jeez, quit making excuses. Just tell me: "I can't keep up with you. Sorry" I'd respect the truth so much more than an excuse. How do you guys deal with the emotions of frustration and irritation due to a scenario like this? I'm talking about ways to quell the wild monkey inside who's always looking to dance, lol. I can't be the only one with this issue. I'VE TRIED PUNCHING THE CLOWN, IT DOESN'T REALLY WORK AND IM STILL FRUSTRATED AFTERWARDS. Additionally, straying is NOT an option. I love and respect her too much to go that route. I'd kill her if she did it to me, and I'd expect the same treatment. How do you guys cope? Thanks for taking the time to read this sermon.
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i asked for sex last night after i got home from the gym and before we could get to it, we got in a stupid argument about something so i went to bed with no sex... this morning i am getting ready for work and she comes in and apologizes for being a bitch and takes my pants off and gets to it... thats why i love my wife!!
I hope I will be like in a few years
Ask her if you can get a fuck-buddy, some hot freak that is in her younger 20's. It isn't cheating if you are honest. Of course you will have boundaries set and everything like that. Like protection, testing, and no sneaking around behind her back, unless she doesn't care. Who knows, it might even spark your relationship back up or she might want to join in. If she gets pissed at you for even bringing it up, just play it off like you were joking, and explain to her you are just frustrated.
GearofWarAs tempting as that sounds, I couldn't do it. I suppose there's a reason we've been together for 13 years. Besides, I'd feel so guilty that my schlong would be useless. My cock would be racked with guilt, lol. But seriously bro, she's the only one for me even though things aren't perfect like they once were. I'm a realist anyways so I know that the relationship wasn't always going to feel fresh and new like when we first got together. Like when you knew you were going to see that person your stomach did weird flips and shit. And all the crazy bedroom antics because you couldn't get enough of each other and felt like you needed to crawl inside each others skin for chrissakes.
testaholicFlesh light.
GearofWarGot one, lol! Things are fucking crazy. She actually bought it for me.
she bought it for you? thats not a good sign... have you talked to her at all since you made this post? make any headway?
RLMAO that was the first thing that popped into my head! Why would she buy you a Flesh Light?
GearofWarSee my reply to @Pelon below for my take on the fleshlight.
Don't say that's bad, every relationship is diff. If he doesn't mind it then lets not put it in his head its bad
beleive me i have been in his shoes before, my ex fiance before i met my current wife was the same way, his story sounds just like my life use to be.. after a while the anger turns to resentment.. i just want to see him work it out to his benefit...
Resentment? meaning? n what could you have done before to fix it instead leave
i tried everything to fix it, i tried being sweet 24/7, doing more housework, supporting her in everything she did. after a while i just got to the point where i said if she loves me , why isnt she showing it, if she loves me she should have some sort of sexual attraction and sexual need for me, i just got to the point where i resented her for the way she was and i said fuck this i dont need it or you and i left.. i eventually met my current wife and i couldnt be happier
and trust me, leaving is the hardest thing to do when you care about someone, it just got to a point where i knew i was worth more then she was giving, i wanted a partner that was willing to give me back what i gave out... not saying he should leave just telling you my story
Ya man I am going through that at the moment. not even married a year though yet bro. Fucking miserable 5 day out the week. She doesn't show, give, me shit for real. I do everything around the house, food n all. I try being supportive of her going back to school n working n all. Take care of the kids, work same amount of hours as well 6 days a week have only 1 day off. Just fed up with it. I can only take the Im tired excuse so long
Have you seen this?Interesting read. http://www.eroids.com/forum/general/off-topic/want-more-sex-from-your-ol...
Ill check it out, thanks. honestly I am more mad at myself for not having stronger feelings for my wife and being miserable with her. So I try to make myself sometimes with sex. Anyway ill check it out thank you
thats the hardest part when you start feeling unappriciated and not valued anymore. in my case i was still really in love , but i came to the realization that i really didnt have her anymore anyway, not the way i once did. i talked to her about my feelings till i was blue in the face and nothing i said ever seemed to get thru to her... so i left, sometime when you get to that point and they actually see you are serious and not just talking and you leave, sometimes thats enough to turn the girl around and have her start paying attention. bec if she really loves you and she sees she is going to lose you it could wake her up
I question if Im in love any more
i just meant that maybe shes giving that to him so she dont have to do it... believe me i want the best for this guy, hes gota get some resolution here
Shit I could be in the same situation in a few years. N I wonder why I never respected any one of these dumb ass bitches. got married, kids, try to do the right thing by being a grown man and taking a bitch serious and where has it gotten me? No where. Any where it did get me I could have done it easier and faster without a hoe around. smfh and fml
Were you offended? When I wanted sex the other night she said something about buying me one. I was offended and admitted to her before I ever used it or even if she bought me one I would be fucking other bitches. wtf do I look like even wasting my time or respecting a woman Im with who can't respect me and my wants/needs. ok we both have busy schedules big fucking whoop
GearofWarNah, I was never offended. It was actually sort of a thoughtful gift. We used to work it into foreplay and such. Think of it this way: If you came home with a vibrator, a rubber dick, or a double ended jelly dong, or any other sex toy would your girl be offended that you gave her something to masturbate with? My wife likes when I bring home shit like that. So it isn't as if she tossed it at me and told me to get used to fucking that instead of her.
Hey as long as you are happy with it, then I am happy with it for you :-)
I hope you can work shit out
How many times a week are you expecting to having sex?? When I am cycling I expect at LEAST 1 hump on weekdays and 1 on weekends....!!! Because when I talk with my buddies and their Wifes,some of them are having the same problems and tell me that is common in the relationships, but some wifes are the other way around and start complaining their husbands are either too tired or already fallen asleep when they want action. And my inner self is saying "I WANT ONE OF THOSE WIVES".....
You know know it's bad when you want to go in the bathroom at work and rub one out. Lol.
I deal with similar issues and without a doubt, showing them attention to and affection for works. A good massage always gets my wife primed.
If that doesn't work, I don't even care if she is sleeping I need me some action LMAO.
GearofWarYou guys are fucking whacked. I love all of the answers and insights given here. I do have a few tubes of transdermal Testim 1% gel left in the bathroom. I've been seriously trying to get her to give it a go, but she's all weirded out. I keep assuring her that her clit won't look like a thumb or grow a beard after 1 tube of Testim gel. I don't want you guys getting the wrong idea, she's not an ice queen but I tend to get really pissed off over excuses. When I'm on cycle my tolerance for bullshit is low. Thanks for the ideas and the laughs.
Haha, you sound similar to me. I get intense on cycle. I don't handle excuses well. My girlfriend quotes my statement, "There are no such thing as mistakes just poor choices", often in anger. I start to micromanage the shit out of her, and that is a big contributor to some sexual frustration.
I place some unreal expectations like she is my cycle slave. Ill be asking for three to four protein shakes a day. She makes them like a boss. Our demands for food and workout regiments can get taxing on our women, and when the free time is available for intimacy mine wants alone time for herself.
I've been more aware of this and have been making more time for her needs, and don't let my schedule supercede her. I've been taking her on dates frequently now. I don't drink or party but have gone to her friends' birthday parties, and was the one that found the babysitter. The biggest wins have been massages that I don't transition into sex. Things have gotten really good.
I saw some google searches of her looking at women's forums about significant others doing AAS and temperamental issues. I'm not a huge ass but I am apologizing on cycle a lot, and that isn't fair to her.
You are quite the guy to have realized that and worked on fixing yourself
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LMAO!!!!! Holy shit that's funny!
its has rarely been a problem for me in my life, if my girl isnt in the mood i just poke her the face with it till she crumbles under the awesome might of my jedi sex trick lol, but seriously if she dont want to she will take care of me other wise if i ask.
That Proviron technique is that scientifically proven
I am not sure if it is proven. My wife's doctor prescribed her Proviron, to raise her Libido.
Im fortunate because my girl is on the same page in that department, whenever im ready shes ready.I did date a girl once that didnt have the same primal instinct in the bedroom.I know it sounds cliche' but it really is true about women that they do need mental stimulation along with a nice session of foreplay to get them going.You can do a few things , Help her out with some of the daily things she takes responsibility for around the house.Give her some compliments , if she got a new outfit, her hair done etc tell her how nice and beautiful she looks.When you finally do settle down with her in your alone time , give her some more compliments , whisper in her ear, nibble on her earlobe a bit, work your way down with your tongue kissing her neck , down her stomach, glide that tongue along her pantyline teasing her..I am a firm believer that you should give in order to receive lol, If you made it this far and she hasnt grabbed the back of your head and basicaslly told you to feast like its Thanksgiving Dinner, then there could possibly be some other issues that may need to be addressed between the two of you.
Work out more. ask to just get some head or a quickie, or stay out of the house as much as you can
I have tried the complaining route and that got me nowhere.I have found the more attention I give my woman the more receptive she is.Things like kissing her when we walk by each other in the house.Sitting next to her on the couch holding her hand,rubbing her back or scratching her head.When she's doing dishes,sometimes I will walk up behind her when her hands are full and rub her boobs.As she is trying to fight me off,I will dive my hand in her panties for a feel.She fights me off pretty well and we get a good laugh out of it.Sometimes I will walk up to her and ask "How's your pussy,is it ready for some action?"Sometimes,when she is laying on the couch and the kids are off playing,I will whip my dick out and try and touch her face with it.I have yet to make contact she is fairly quick.I just play with her often and we laugh together quite a bit.
I don't go quite as far as scooby but I think he has the right idea. If my wife bends over for anything I mount her like a wild dog, lol. Her usually line is "are you done yet?". Anyway, they have to know that you are watching them I guess.
best answer ever. Im gonna try all those things! and not even bc im frustrated but bc they are awesome
I have the same problems, and makes me think about starting cycles ,because of the raised libido Testosterone gives. I even talked with her about going to the Dr.,but complains that I am the crazy,only thinking about sex psycho. I tell her that if I had sex more often I would not be in the position of complaining.She finally agreed to go to the Dr. and was given Proviron 1 Tablet of 25Mg a day for 6 days only. The prescription worked for a while ,but the problem started again. The only way it started to work is that after several days of no sex I started to help her less in house chores and finally 1 day I was very mad I told her I was leaving the house cause this was not normal. When she saw me I was decided to pack, she finally started to put her 2 cents.I always tell her she is not tired to go out for drinks and parties, and travelling but for sex she is always tired. Also I agree with cry-havoc about jerking off in front of her...a frien of mine did that and her wife hit him so bad,but the next days she started to have sex at a regular basis. If I were you I would try to crush a Proviron or something similar and put it in her oranje juice or soda and see what happens!!!!
ye i agree, forget talking to the bitches, just shut em up with some drugs and send em on their way.
nice advice brother... lol.
"JOKING" but the proviron shouldn't even be a option, but if it is, should be your VERY LAST OPTION.
That is true about Proviron being the last option. I really don't know much about using hormones in Women, unless the doctor prescribes it. But we sometimes get so frustrated,that we do whatever possible to get some action!!! Lets hope everything gets better, but would like to see what GOW is going to use,so in the future I can do the same....
Yea man this is a tough subject, eveyone is saying to jerkoff but there is nothing like pounding the fuck out of somebody to let out your anger. I love my wife to death and i would never cheat but there is nothing wrong with getting a good lapdance or something like that. To be quite honest i did not marry my wife because shes the whore i want her to be in the bedroom. We love the for who they are not how they fuck. But i know Exactly what your dealing with unfortunatley you might have to get her drunk or give her goat weed or hcg. I like what the guy said below find a good friend but the only problem is with that is you will feel guilty and its a huge risk...GOD DAMN IT if this was 2000 bc you can just fuck a village girl and call it a day.GOOD LUCK
Get her started on PT-141 or Melanotan 2. Both increase sex drive. Anavar works well too.
I have read stories of woman literally grabbing their mans hair,dragging them like a rag doll into the bed room and not letting them out for 12 hr after a shot of pt-141. Apparently if it works ( I say if because some users report no increased sex drive, just discomfort) she will turn into a instinctual primal beast with only 1 thing on her mind....SEX,SEX AND MORE SEX! Always wanted to get my girl to try it but she is too scared.
Couple of things.
1. Like Rick said jerk off....but, and I mean this in all sincerity, do in the bed next to her at night! This will do one of two things; it will either piss her off to no end but she will get the message or turn her on.
2. Jerk off twice a day in private. This releases frustrations obviously.
3. Give her a shot of test! Lots of woman who go to the doctor for low libido tend to have low t and estro. The prescription is a shot of T. But at 33 this is likely not the case. I would send her to a doctor.
On another note it can be exhausting taking care of a family for husband and wife the difference here is you have a little help. Does she support and know of your AAS use? Most wives I know like when their man is on because of the increased libido!
im sure you have tried to talk to her, but try talking again, either that or start hitting her with test prop while shes sleeping..lol , my wife will jokeingly complains sometimes but for the most part shes a trooper and rarely turns me down , and i have a huge sexual appitite when i am on.
Best thing would be talking to her and try to fix thing peacefully..... 2nd choice, Jerk the fuck off my friend... Or 3rd, worse case scenario, find a friend to fulfill ur nasty needs ;)