posted Mon, 06/18/2012 - 15:27
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A (post) Father's Day question for the ladies
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After the conversation in another thread, I thought it would be interesting to ask the ladies here "What did your Dad teach you about men."
In other words, what did he teach you to require of men? Was the example he set more important than what he said? How did that shape your perception of men as you grew?
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Anonmy dad never talked to me about men.. he worked. All the time. I saw him on weekends if I went to work with him. He taught me that men work. Men fix things around the house. Men don't raise their voices. Men don't become physically violent. Men provide for their families. No discussion, no conversation. It is just what he did.
CleyonYour Dad sounds a lot like my Grandfather. He was a no-nonsense career military man, and rarely spoke. Which meant than when he did speak we knew it was important, and listened.
Anonhe is still the same way .. "what do you need that for?" lol.. I always had to have a good explanation if I wanted something .. he still doesn't talk much, maybe a bit more now that he doesn't work.. still asks me what I need stuff for though ;-)
CleyonJust his way of being a concerned Dad. I've always believed that there are just as many ways to be a good Dad as there are to be a bad Dad.
My dad set the perfect example of everything I didn't want in a man. He lies, he cheats, he was verbal and physically abusive. Don't worry my mother is now divorced from him and has a good man that treats her with respect. I married someone the complete opposite. He's kind, patient, and loyal.
CleyonI'm glad you decided not to perpetuate the cycle. It's sad to hear that you had to grow up with that, but it seems like you (and your Mom) made changes for the best.