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I don't know about you. But during my drinking and using days I've ruffled alot of peoples feathers . Made poor decisions based on self. And not only hurt myself but the others around me.. we have this notion that we are only hurting ourselves. That's how selfish we can be. It's us,us,us.... somewhere there is someone who loves you . And we hurt them most of all.

Making amends is a pivotal step of recovery
Sometimes we cannot do it directly. They won't talk to us or we hold ourselves back thinking the worst.
If we can ,we make things right. Pay a small debt. Show people change in character, even it's from afar.
We just have to pray for guidance.
And realize we are not running the show. A higher power is...

Even if you don't have any amends and all is well

Make a stranger smile today
They might need it

GOD1ST

Crispbread's picture

You are a very wise person and speak very true words. This motivates me to do more good deeds. I repeat that I am glad that I found this group and that you accepted me.

AUTO51's picture

Great message~! I love to make men smile or laugh. When I disagree with men, I'm going to try to give extra hugs. Lots of woman in my life too. I hug them too. thanks

PropheticWookie's picture

I am sure that relatives should be hugged more often and told how important and dear they are to us.

mason548's picture

Good post brother the 9th step amends is a beautiful process man but fuck its scary sometimes thank god for "God"
Thank you for your posts lately have been hitting home

PropheticWookie's picture

Fear is normal. we are all afraid. We are afraid to be weak and not be able to return to normal life. Therefore, the guys in this group help and support each other.

Brozowski265's picture

Glad your hear brother!!

xhile's picture

Good post and stay strong, it's hard not to be selfish, putting my family before my goals I feel a childish temper flair up. I have done what I can to make amends, beyond that I feel it's easier to put it behind me and forget maybe it's denial. With my kid growing up so fast it seems pointless to dwell on the past what's done is done and all I can do is march forward and push the rock. Me me me me me that's how my post reads.
christ is king and I pray everyday my kids don't look at life the way I did that their souls aren't dead set on self destruction.

Brozowski265's picture

Amen

PropheticWookie's picture

The main thing now is a different life, children are what it is worth living for, family is important. They need you.

PropheticWookie's picture

Great advice, that's right, when we drank we were selfish. But now we have returned to normal life and it is time to repay debts and do good deeds. I also try to correct the mistakes of the past with good deeds.

Brozowski265's picture

Yes no matter how little... it goes long way

PropheticWookie's picture

The main thing is that all the best will be now and in the future.

press1's picture

Good post buddy Smile I hurt my father the most during my drinking days, my mother didn't care as she was an alcoholic who I learnt the behaviour from and still is to this day no matter how hard I try to get her to stop. I gave up a long time ago now, you can't change people who don't want to change or who still think they are above everyone else. If it wasn't for my father I would have never found the AA rooms as he is the one who made me go - he was the one who helped me take the first step.

PropheticWookie's picture

I have a brother who I can not wean from alcohol. Parents are worried and don't know what to do. I have already tried all the ways, but he does not want to change anything.

press1's picture

Unfortunately Wookie until he suffers in his life in some way or another as a result of his alcoholism he will not quit, like most of us we had to lose things that greatly mattered to us before we were willing to say enough is enough - I am now sick of feeling this way and of who I have now become. As we know ourselves the more others tried to stop us - the more we wanted it. The blinkers go up and we refuse to listen, till inevitably many years down the line it all catches up with us and we now realise we have in fact lost everything that meant something special to us. If he is anything like you he will find his way in time, it is up to him to wake up and see his own reality as we cannot force it Yes 3

Brozowski265's picture

I feel the same.. my parents were dead by time I got really off the rails. Which was the reason I justified self medicating. But my kids suffered them most. I was never violent. I just wasn't mentally there. My sister got me into a.a. she took her life 2 years ago. So I know both spectrums. We just gotta keep on keeping on.
Everything I do is for my family today

press1's picture

Yeah I was the same mate - I was never a nasty drunk that hurt anyone or abused them through messages/phone calls etc, if anything I just wanted to be left alone to rot in my own hell lol But I hurt him in the way that I became an embarrassment and a let down to him, I lost my pride and dignity, drive and ambition. I looked a state too. I feel so sorry for your sister mate, did it just come as a surprise in what she did or was she suffering for a while but no one knew what to do?

Brozowski265's picture

I was aloner as well. In my later years I dissent wanna be around anybody. Ty for your kind words. She was 7 years sober and relapse on her husband's painkillers. She died in her sleep I was living in another state at the time. Her husband is 30 years sober he lost his leg in a motorcycle accident years ago. And gets ghostpains do he was prescribed them... she was taken them fir a few months before she died we found out.

press1's picture

Jesus buddy so sorry to hear all this, heart breaking.

Brozowski265's picture

Ty brother. Every life affects the other. We are allll connected in some grand way