posted Tue, 01/29/2013 - 14:02
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The Girlfriend Disapproves
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Well told my girlfriend about two days ago what I was doing and well. I'm not getting the CUDDY tonight. So my question is to the guys who have a girl. Howd you get your girl to be like its okay I KNOW WHAT I AM DOING! . She is stubborn about it and wont hear me out about it at all. She says its going to kill me BLAH BLAH BLAH the same stuff that every one who knows nothing about gear says. How can I show her that IT IS OKAY that I wont be doing any harm. Getting a different girl is just out of the question so lets not tread in those waters. She'll end up being my wife one day for sure. I love her but I LOVE GEAR .. torn between the two best things in my life.
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When I started my wife was jacked to do the pinning. So now if she wants to do it she can't wear pants... it's a fair trade.
Im in your same situation my girlfriend hates it and I've tried everything to convince her its not bad she wont listen. We have a 5 year old daughter together so there's no replacing her so what I do is just hide it from her less fighting & no headache that way
there is a TON of information about HRT and how it can prevent disease and lengthen life span if done correctly. Tell her its that, call it HRT instead. Show her some medical info on HRT and how helpful it is.
breakingfaceMy buddy told his girlfriend about his plans to cycle. He did it because he loves high drama. He knew telling her would elicit a worried response, making him feel wanted. Pathetic.
mine liked it all so much, she pins me, and even recently decided to start her own cycle. her reasons are different than the average gym goer but none the less, she sees the positive in it and knows how safe it is if done wisely.
im a lucky man i think
AnonYou are very lucky. I know a guy who pissed his girlfriend off and she called the cops, showed them the stash and the used pins in the trash.
The only people who know I do gear are eroids people.
The trouble with involving your "girlfriend" with your secret is if she ever becomes an exgirlfriend. You run a serious risk of it not being a secret to anyone if you know what I mean! Especially if she goes off of the deep end. Tell the wife, maybe the fiancé, but not the girlfriend.... JMHO
breakingfaceI try to keep my life simple. I would never share my aas experience unless it was a serious long term girlfriend. After dating someone for a few weeks you have an idea of what they will and wont react to. You had to have known that surprising her with talk of steroids would elicit a negative response. Now you can look forward to being accused of roid rage every time you get in an argument with her. That's nothing compared to the potential legal and social damage should you two have a toxic break up.
AnonWhen I started dating QV he told me straight up he was pinning, I told him I was fine with it but Inside I was nervous and scared for him. I think the thing that helped me get more comfortable with it was doing the pinning for him.
Invole her with it... It's worth a shot.
So you are a enabler trying to take others down with you huh?? :). This is very good advice!
Find yourself a hot lil Italian girl like me who goes
"Why you take that stuff baby? To grow?"
"Yes baby" I say
"Oki" she says
They can actually cook too.
Time to find a new gf
Almost a month later and the girl is still EEH but she has came around a lot asking me if I am okay how steroids work how i take them. Thanks guys appreciated all the help
I wtched the BSF documentary with my wife before discussing AAS use with her. Then we communicated and she is now my biggest suppoerter. She pushes me like a coach at times even. She even asks hey did you take your aromasin today? lol Glad to see. Like Novice we also discuss labs and such and that makes her feel good that its not just load up on gear and go crazy. She loves my "cyber gym partners" as she calls my eroids brothers and sisters on here lol Glad to see your now communicatuing now, cause in the end thats where it all lies.
Been with GF for 2 months. Had to tell her because we have been honest about everything. She was cool about and said its no different when she had phentermine to lose weight at one point. BUT she did voice a concern that it could have played a role in me pursuing her and my activities in the bedroom as we started out. I said baby, no worries, I'm a freak and approach it like its an athletic event regardless of being on or off.
AnonWhat are your goals with gear? I never approve of with holding sex to prove a point, always comes off a bit childish to me. Watch Bigger, Faster and Stronger with her on Youtube its a great documentary. However, if her mind is absolutely made up, I guess drop the gear. I wouldnt though.
AnonI'll tell you what, My wife was way impressed when one Saturday she said "where are you going" and I said I have to go get bloodwork done to keep an eye on my body. It let her know I was taking this seriously .
Plus I will warn you, the next fight you get in with her she is going to blame it on what you are taking, so be prepared for that one.
tread-mDo you support her in all things she wishes to do? Even those you disagree with? If you really thought about that and the answer is yes then tell her you support all things she is and wishes to be and you hope she can find a way to support what it is you wish to be. If she can't and you can truly say yes to the first question above then your conversation leaves gear and you have that conversation, supporting each other in your dreams and making them your own and then at some point in the convo this gear thing might seem selfish to her...now if you answered no above then we have arrived at our real problem : )
Thank you all soo much! All of you helped so much. We talked about it and she is understanding that I need her support! I agreed to answer all her questions and gets blood tests ect. THANK YOU!
Never forget The Laws of Women.
Law 1: She only as smart as you allow her to be
Law 2: Look at these fucking biceps woman!
that's very interesting Cj... what if she has bigger biceps?
Then she's been giving to many handies
CleyonBwahahahaha!!! That's funny, usually I associate that with bigger forearms.
V-Power-AYes !
tell her they sell the same stuff on tv. only yours is better.
women are not rational. they see pin and they freak. ( not all.. but most.)
swallow a pill ?.. np.. they dont care about that.
women are not rational? care to elaborate on your statement?
I guess I am just old or old school I don't know but to me it is simple. If she is not willing to listen to you about this because she is "stubborn" well then gear is the least of your problems. In the future if your communication issues don't improve it won't matter what the topic is because nothing will get resolved if she is unwilling to listen every time you disagree. I vowed to take love my wife better or worse sickness and health etc and to be faithful. I did not vow to take my balls off and be someone other than who I am. I am faithful I provide for my family but I decide ultimately what I do with my body. And if she tried to manipulate or impose on me an ultimatum to get her way, then I would gladly walk away from her. Knowing full well that once that behavior begins and is rewarded with compliance it never ends. Then as the man you wind up hiding, lying, and resenting her then like so many do pull a suck ass move like having an affair because she deserves it. Oh yeah I have been married for 24 years to a strong, educated, wonderful woman whom I respect. Just my .02. Good luck.
AnonDude... that was good!
V-Power-ALike your point !
She loved this man. Thank you so much brother. Appreciate you dropping some relationship knowledge!
My pleasure brother, I am glad everything work out for you both!
CleyonWatch Bigger, Faster, Stronger with her. Problem solved. Then support my documentary!
She agreed to watch the movie and your documentary? Its BFS? I'll support it what is it?
CleyonMy documentary is in production.Check out the youtube channel we have some "Drive Time" videos up, and will have some new stuff coming very soon.
http://www.youtube.com/justaddsteroids
That's pretty good shit bro. I just watched a few. Like the one when your going off on the "documentary" LOL
Thanks for sharing!
After reading this thread I rented the movie and last night me and my gf watched it I was actually surprised to see the effect it had on her I think it actually help a little
CleyonIt's a GREAT documentary, I hope mine is at least 3/4 as good! He's a really good guy too.
Let me know when yours comes out .
CleyonAny updates will be posted on here bro, this place is family and has been very supportive.
I was in the same boat.. the girl im with i know i will marry. I started out by educating her slowly over the span of several months through occasional small talk and some rants - we got to the point we joked about it.. when doing this of course she had no idea I'd taken anything.. After a while she got to the point where she knew more about steroids than most gym rats do, and she could pick a steroid user out of a crowd pretty quickly.. I told her about the terrible things that can happen and the great things.. how to avoid bad things etc etc.. I'd say this approach works because before it she thought of steroids like narcotics.. heroin users etc.. now she sees it more like a supp if used correctly and safely. She even offered to pin me and I would have let her if I wasn't such a control freak
V-Power-Asame approach worked for me too
How old is your GF? How many cycles did you do before you met her and have you done any behind her back?
Two words: Mind Game. Here's the card you play. Tell her that you always support her in all the things she does(hopefully). Like that time she got shit faced and through up all over the bathroom. Did you just stand there... No! You turned on the fan and closed the door so the whole house wouldn't smell like vomit the next day. Well now it's her turn to support you. This is something want try and you NEED her support to do it. Your Welome!
Had the same problem in the beginning bro. Once she seen the improvements in my body and she wasnt so against it. But the main reason she loves it is how i lay the pipe down in the bedroom lmao thats the best way to get them to fall in love with us doin gear. Now look i got her giving me glute shots when i dont feel like reaching around!
My girlfriend is 100% a part of everything I do related to my cycles. Once she was educated, she wanted to be a part of it. I didn't give her anything to read, at first, videos that were to the point. Then she began reading on her own.
Today, she even made me do my blood pressure because I was having headaches and lethargy.
Go to google and type in should I let my bf do steroids. So she can see other women's point if views and that she is not the only gf with a bf doing it. But only show her the ones with understanding girls lol bit the stupid ones and the ones with educated replies.
educate her.. then show her what us roidboys can do in the bedroom .. problem solved
Tell her tonight you thought alot about it and decided shes right and your stopping . Im willing to bet she wont change her mind about this and your not gonna stop so yes lie to her and tell her you stopped . some folks on here may disagree but this will get dragged out to the bitter end, next thing you know she'l start saying your fake lol . I told my girl I stopped she keeps bringing it to my attention so I simply give the hand and tell her I stopped Boom end of discussion . hope that helps.
I went from not being allowed to run any gear to becoming a source on here, all because we sat down and talked about it rationally from all angles. After shutting myself down in my 20's from running deca only cycles, she made me promise not to touch anythng again. Once I started TRT things really changed. She saw the medical uses that these compounds were intended for. The lines of communication have got to be open when it comes to this topic. Be honest with her, set her in front of this website and let her read along with you.