Sex drive to much for girlfriend, causing problem
Anybody have this problem?
I'm being serious here. It has kinda started to put a serious strain on out relationship, sex is kinda touchy subject for her( big into religion)
Our biggest problem is I find her to attractive and want sex more often
In her eyes 1 a week is more than enough.
In mine I need to cum at least once a day if not eod. I can see where that maybe to much for her but 1 a week is outrageous to me.
I really don't wanna masterbate more than have sex, I mean what would be the point?(granted other than the partnership part of relationship, which is 100% amazing it's just the sex part)
The thing is compromise isn't attractive to me, I don't want her to have to compromise to have sex with me more often.
When we do have sex it's amazing, I just want it to be more often
Anybody else have an issue like this or similar with significant other?
Ps please don't rub it in by posting how much you and your girl fuck or etc. I would like some legit advice from ppl who have been in relationship or married a while.
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FlexNinjaHey Pull the first question I have is did you tell her your on the sauce? If not it's understandable why you wouldn't, she would probably freak. I have been in your situation b4. I was actually ready to pop the big question with this girl after 4 years of spending time with her. Our sex life was great, about 3 to 4 times a week. I was running a test e cycle and when it raised my libido I turned into Ron Jeremy and wanted the pink taco at least two to three times a day. She was more than OK with it. But when the big question came " What's got into you lately? " I didn't know what to say. I told her I was taking test boosters. She's a nurse and called bull shit. So I told her and guess what, she freaked at first. We talked it out and eventually she even started giving me my injections. I told her after that cycle I was done with it. I lied and did another cycle 4 months later after recovery. I ran test stacked with oral tren and tren e. That's when things went wrong. My libido decreased and my attitude changed. She decided shed had enough and we parted ways. I lied to her and lost trust. I went off the topic a little, sorry. I know its hard but if you gotta rub one out to keep her from knowing then do just that..... I know it sucks but if she means a lot to you do what you gotta do to keep her.
she knows, i lied at first (within first 3 months), but she didnt really beleive me considering how knowledgeable i was ( in her eyes, i dont think im that knowledgable compared to most on this site lol) and eventually i told her i had done it in the past, which was true. and i was honest about it to her this time, she knows my reasoning for it didnt like it at first, but know she is fine with it, she isnt gun ho about it like some wifeys i see on here. she will prob never take lady var and may be open to giving a left glute shot, we know how hard they can be but not any time soon, she has to learn alot before i let her do that. im 100% honest with her in everything! always have been sometimes to the point where i am kind of a fucking dick. but in the long run she has always trusted me and is thankful for my honesty. Its refreshing bc she always knows where im at and what im thinking
which leads to the topic at hand, she can tell something is up. im like a dog in heat with no bitches around(used in literal sense ladies), and the whole situation will come to a head soon. she knows its coming i can tell that she can tell. And at the end of the convo we will either compromise or part ways. And my main point will be, Im not participatiing in your moral dilema anymore. She needs to make a descision one way or the other regardless of my feelings of it.
Sorry everyone for the word vomit, This is a great outlet for me to be truly real and not have to sugar coat things to ppl depending on thier level of knowledge of my life (AAS)
FlexNinjaThat's great that you are honest with her and she is willing to except that. I on the other hand lied and it led to lost trust. I think you will be fine, communication is key in a relationship. My ex and I lived together but in the end we were more like roommates that did the vertical joyride every now and then. Yep love can be a pain in the ass sometimes. Man I'm getting all emotional, I better get my estro level checked. J/K I'm fine....... and you'll be OK just get her in the mood when your feeling like a dog with the red pepper hanging out with romance and flowers or whatever she likes. Throw on a little Keith Sweat or Johnny Gill. If you don't know who they are I'll feel old.
AnonYea i have this problem.. just tell her how you feel
For us we get it on during weekend and say in middle of week
That should passify your overload of test
Let her know its not just about when she wants it
Let her know u dont have to have it everyday but more feequent... everday aint gonna happen
Send little texts prior to the event to let hwr know what your wanting to do... try to make it interesting to keep it from being a chore of servicing your needs cause thats how she may see it cause your sex drive is gonna be way more than hers because of your test levels
Giving a massage works for me
This is good advice, try to make it more about her and less about sex and maybe you'll luck out. Especially on the massage part, we found a new position that way well it was new to me lol
AnonExactly lol
Hell i have sent her messages with her sittin riggt next to me lol
AnonYour handle says alot for your future:P
" I don't want her to have to compromise to have sex with me more often." I just noticed this part. That's so awesome, a lot of guys your age wouldn't care about how she actually feels in this situation. I hope it all works out for you.
The religion thing kind of throws me, it seems like once you've had sex that goes out the window KWIM? Care to elaborate a tad?
It's something she admits she struggles with, she wants to not have sex until marriage, it's what her church and morals tell her, but she loves me enough not to, she knows I'll leave if that's her descision...but that's just it, I dont wanna play a role in that. Her answer should be final based on her own morals not needing/wanting to satisfy mine in the mean time. She loves sex, she enjoys it thouroughly, the her wetness suggest so. But she just gets into "moods" where it is an issue , I'd be lying if I didn't think these "moods" of morality were convienent at times ...that last part make sense? Like when she wants it poof their goes the moral issue with sex, then when I want it and she don't it is brought up...this DOES NOT happen often but I just feel it plays a role in our amount of sex
Your probably right its an excuse like any other. It has nothing to no with you and likely has nothing to do with religion. Its her issue one way or another and I hope it gets worked out for the sake of your relationship.
AnonI call bullshit. That's an awful convenient way to do what she wants when she wants. All real worthwhile partners whether it male or female will place your needs on an even playing field of their own or at least 60/40 you will know that you are actually important when in a relationship. You shouldn't have to wonder if you fucking matter bro. She's all about herself.
Most women, and yes I'm generalizing, are very manipulative you are being played. "When she wants it poof their goes the moral issue" = proof
ohhh no trust me it doesn't. I've dated religious girls like that and they have had it pounded into their heads since birth that they can't have sex until marriage so anytime you have sex with them they have a guilty feeling about it. It's like a mental illness really. Long time ago though, early 20s.
AnonExactly!
I have to beat it out of every girl I come across that there's nothing wrong with them, it's OK to live your damn life, that the female body isn't disgusting etc.... I don't think I've ever had a girlfriend/short term whatever you want to call it that didn't walk away realizing the indoctrination is all BS. It's "mass delusion", as Freud put it. It really fucks people up mentally always feeling guilt for no reason.... sad
in my experiences they all had crazy religious parents that put unreasonable expectations on them also.
That's odd though, that's like feeling bad for eating an Oreo and expecting guilt to put the Oreo to go back in the box. Once it's eaten who cares eat the rest of em' what's done is done. I've never been religious so I guess I do not get it. Once you lose your virginity the whole wait until marriage thing is pretty much ruined.
trust me i dont understand it either. pure insanity if you ask me.
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i didnt think id get this kinda response
So much good info on here, i truly appreciate you guys and girls taking time to give me personal exp and advice, truly why i love this site
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I feel your pain because I remember my sex drive at your age ON OR OFF cycle. I know I'm not that much older (I'll be 33 next month) but I'll give you the most solid advice I can from my experience. If you love her and plan on being together then work on it, it will get better. My wife is older then me, doesn't cycle, and still gives me a run for my money most of the time. So I don't break her chops when she's not in the mood, has the infamous "headache" or just a little dry spell for a couple weeks. This is because when I'm not on, going through pct, or any other ways AAS effects a man's sex drive she don't break my balls when I want nothing to do with vagina more then once a week tops. If you two are gonna stay together then be understanding and work on it (don't forget it might be the other way around one day) if not, cut your losses and go. There's worse things in life then worrying about not getting laid enough....
:( might have to find a new girl. I couldn't stay in a relationship like that, everyone has different needs. There are women out there who want it more than you go find one and marry her.
Huh u can't b real right now. There is no way I could handle sex once a week. That's why I won't do long relationships.even if we have sex everyday I still masturbate. We're are men that's in our DNA.
Not all men are like that, I've met few who can keep up with me. Just sayin' some people male or female are just more sexual than others.
I've meet few that can keep up with me
Seems like a curse sometimes. I've always been this way, I think 90% of the time my husband loves it and 10% of the time he wishes I would just leave him alone lol
Lol think my girlfriend it's bout 50 50 she gets tired and btw your hard to stay on top of and by that I mean karma. U got me by one
50/50's not too bad. I tease my husband a lot because I'm always the aggressive one, hell he's 4 weeks on cycle and I'm still the over the top one. He's spoiled. I used to worry that he would think I was a weirdo, but I think he has come to enjoy it. I've actually never been in a relationship where the guy wanted it more. Even in my early 20's, I chalk it up to being a redhead I've met a few others and they were the same way. Just a little different.
You're a guy dude... we ALL masturbate more than we have sex... especially on a strong test cycle I'll knock off at least 4 a day
Damn four a day. Thats alot. I guess im very fortunate because my girl is a freak. I never have to jerk off. I have sex minimum once a day. The other day my girl had over 15 orgasms. But when shes on her period then I might jerk it. But she always tells me not to wack it because she loves giving bjs
AnonFUCK YOU
Lol
What cycle is this? Do tell...
I'm not sure why the religion has anything to do with it. Seem odd is all. Either she makes the choice to have sex with you or not. I guess the easy thing to say is marry her. I'm big on the sanctity of marriage. I've been married 24 years. Sex comes and goes as far as who's more into it. She goes through spells where she can't get enough and I'm not that into it and vise versa. There are times that we're both into it and times we're not. So it's a constant roller coaster that we both choose to stay on because there's so much more to a relationship than just sex. I have to admit though it's good times when we're both firing on all cylinders. To say you don't want to masterbate more than you have sex may be a bit delusional. I mean as a man with the testosterone coursing through you you gonna want it more than her on average so put it in a tissue and move on. There's no perfect recipe to a perfect relationship and compromise is a huge part of a successful marriage or relationship. I believe in marriage because live in relationships are to easy to walk away from where as a marriage is a commitment less throw away and reason enough to try harder. So I hope you figure it out and remember the grass isn't greener on the other side in most cases. So if you have any value in what you have now then do what it takes to solidify it and never let it go.
Sounds like unfortunately you may be physically incompatible. I couldn't lived with once per week!
I don't advise this for anyone just for sexual purposes but my Wifey is on 60mg's of prop a week and we are tearing each other up in the bedroom. She's trying to build muscle but the libido side effects are very nice.
AnonHe's 24 bro and she doesn't even lift lol. Sounds like a blast on your end though hah
I didn't see that he was 24. Good looking out bro. And yes, it is a blast! I am setting new PB's in the bedroom. 5 times in one day...I asked my wife it was me or the test she's on and she told me to shut up and keep licking.
Lol
AnonLMFAOOO best comment I've read in a long time!
While i feel your pain, you also have to remember we have our hormones JACKED up right now and our women dont. A lot of women dont have as high of libido as men to begin with. Best thing you can do is talk to her and compromise is the way to go bro. MY wife for the most part is a trooper and deals pretty well with my crazy sex drive, but there will be times when she kind of gets annoyed esp when we have sex early in the day and i need it again a few hours later, If you have a girl who cares about making you happy she will go out of her way for you with sex, esp knowing your on cycle, but you seem to be the only one compromising in your situation. Express your needs and see if shes willing to change a bit, if not go from there. good luck
Sex is a very important part of any relationship bro. Especially if you been together a while and a bit older. It should be fun and at a young age such as yourself and really vigorous! You have to be comfortable with that person the deed should be fun exiting and an experience. Sounds like she might not be as "comfortable as you bro. Me and the wifey been together 13 years and its better now then we were in our early 20's. Its all about feeling comfortable. .....I say move on my man
If your sex drive is still too much for her even off cycle, you should get out before things get too serious. Things will just slow down more after you get married, kids etc...
Married = better sex true story.
The longer you are together the kinkier it gets, doubt you would have the balls to ask a new GF if you can ram it in her ass but after a few years of marriage nothing sounds crazy lol
That's incorrect, I get more now that Im married with kids
Exactly; I literally have to push my wife away sometimes because she wants it all the time; married now for 8 years. But when I am on cycle she pushes ME away LOL its give and take.
waltrMe and my girl just had a.sit down (screaming argument involving both.of us vrying) about this exact issue 3 days ago.
We were sleeping together once a week too.
Well after we both calmed down and let each other know how we felt abkut the station, things worked out.
Your Eroids brothers have you covered mate! Sex isn't the be all and end all of a relationship but it does count for a lot and it seems like the 2 of you are not compatible. Imagine what she will be like in 10 years.. once a month job.. while you troll through internet porn wanking yourself silly in a dark room trying to remember how perky that birds nipples were you banged back in school! No way man, no way..
If I remember right, the average couple has sex 2.something times per week. That's the average. Some more and some way less.
In my mind compatibility is key. Let's just be real and admit sex is damned important in a relationship. If you don't match there, it's as big a problem as one if you wanting kids and the other does not.
I'm always suspicious of the religious angle. If she doesn't want to discuss it or work in it and says it's for 'religious reasons' she has slammed the door in your face. After all, you can't dare question a persons religious beliefs, right? She automatically wins and claims the moral high ground in the process. Checkmate.
Please don't misunderstand me, I'm not anti-religion. I know a lot of religions prohibit some sexual activities, but I am not aware of any that specify 'once a week only.'
AnonExactly. I removed the part I said about religion because people get butthurt about that kind of thing but you worded it more carefully than I lol.
AnonDrop her. I'm not just being an alpha asshole I'm intellectually serious here. You are sexually incompatible, what's the point in continuing? She doesn't make you happy & isn't even willing to consider doing something so simple to change that = she can't care very much at all. In my experience once a week means she's emotionally unstable or has another guy in her life besides you. Lose lose situation.
You only think the sex is good because you barely get any.... you're deprived & probably have not had many partners. You're young, you need to explore new territory. I'm young too but I've been exploring for a while. Lol. 100x happier than I used to be getting hung up on one female, I mean I have a girlfriend currently but you know what happened when my cycle started and sex drive went up? She went out of her way to make ME happy. I do the same for her in other ways, that's why it works. If she's unwilling to even attempt to make you happy she doesn't care much at all that's reality.
I read below she lives an unhealthy lifestyle too???!? She's going to get jealous and try bring you down when you make improvements to yourself while she stays stagnant in life mentally & physically MOVE ON BRO
Sad but true. Been there, got outta there, way happier.