love is a bitch. i was married for ten years and went thru what you went thru when my x left me.
I was f--ked for a long time.scared out of head and g-d knows what. now its 6 years down the road. and I thank every day I dont have to wake up next to her.

What your feeling is betrayal ,. You put time,heart and emotional feelings into her.
and she does this..it happens...You dont have any paper between you.. be glad you dont..more
then 1/2 of all marriages dont work....your not the only one..

I recommend a strip club... Here is what I'd do if I drank... To to the club, have 2 Long Island's at the bar. A couple girls will come talk to me, ask me if I want a dance. I am picking out my mark here. Once I find one that will be suitable, I leave bar and tip her well when she dances. Then go back to bar. She will come ask me if I want a dance. I talk to her here for a few min, if getting green light I get a dance. During the dance I find out what time she gets off. Now time for her to dance again. I tip her well again. She comes and talks to me at the bar again. I ask her if she wants to hang out after she gets off? She'll say yes cause I am oh so silky smooth. Get lotsa booze... Take her back to her place of a hotel. Now the next day she will likely go crazy.... U want to make a clean get away here... Load ur booze up and scoot on outta there. Repeat if problem persists. Before long u'll have pissed off so many crazy strippers u have time to think about ur ex. U'll be too busy.... I still can't figure out why I am divorced tho?

Time heals all wounds. Before you know it you will look back and smile, trust me a lot of us have been there. What you have to do is try your best to stay busy and allow time to pass. Hang out with friends go out often, anything to keep your mind busy. It will get better my friend that I can promise you.

I hope you can take comfort in how many other guys on here have been through similar if not MUCH worse situations, and in the end it made them better men.

Most of us have been there, it's SO hard not to call/text her, but you have to resist.
Find a new hobby, get even more active, just stay busy! The more idle time you have the harder it will be not to dwell on it.

The best way to get over someone old is to get under someone new! Get on some PUA forums and study up on your skills. A good body and some finely honed PUA skills will get you the pick of the litter just about anywhere you go. Find a random girl and get your dick wet!

But no matter what, FOR THE LOVE OF GOD, do not contact her!!!!

can i ask why she left you?

This brings back some bad memories for me. I left someone I thought I was gonna marry too. But got hurt one more time. I knew she was lying to me and it was tearing me apart. One day I just said fek it...I'm out here, cut her off and never looked back. She'll try to call you or hit up the people you know...never mind, it wasn't meant to be. Don't hook up again because that's a mistake too. Just don't down drown yourself in some stupid sht like drugs or alcohol. It's a big mistake, believe me. Go do something else constructive, the gym or learn some new sht or do something else to keep you busy. Time'll make it easy after awhile and there's always someone else to meet when your ready.

Ya I've been in the same spots brother. Just happened around a year ago. The girl I've got twin girls with when we broke up I went out a d drank day and night during and after work. I stoped working out and now I'm tryin to just get back inshape. I lost my job and almost my home brother. It'll hurt for a lifetime but you can let it ruin your life like I did mine for a year and now I still have to see her daily to pick my kids up and it's worth it to see my kids but still hurt brother. So brother if you ever need someone to talk to add me and I can ways talk

Ive been in this position before. I was all fucked up for a long time because of it and just flat felt like shit. Your not gonna like this but every girl I got back together with never worked out in the end and things got worse and they use your love against you next time something happens. There is plenty of other girls out there.

I hate this for you my man. I really do. I remember getting so upset over an ex that I literally got a bloody nose from crying so much. I was 18 and had just graduated high school, had been with her for a couple years and we were planning on starting our lives together. I was traveling all that summer playing baseball and she sends me an email with a picture of her blowing two guys at the same time. What a fucking bitch move. Anyways, this was before everyone had cell phones and could text at will so we communicated a lot through email. I kept sending her emails letting her know that she destroyed me and how shitty I thought she was. Her email addy was basically something like soccergirl8 and I kept leaving off the damn number. Someone else got most of my emails and actually responded one day and said how sorry she was that I was treated that way. We began to chat back and forth and quickly realized we lived about a mile away from each other and were going to the same college! Lol I kid you not. Long story short, we meet and 13+ years later have two beautiful little boys and another baby on the way. It's gonna hurt brother, most likely for a while. But don't let it define you or hold you back from encountering new people. Who knows man, could run into someone tomorrow that blows you away. Good luck my friend.

It def hurts bro! But u gotta know that she wasn't good enough for YOU homie. Not the other way around. Your body actually creates chemicals for the ones you love and when your around that person your brain releases those chemicals creating a euphoria (love) and when you lose that person your body actually goes into withdrawl. So think of it like kicking a drug addiction it kinda helped me. Stay busy. Get laid. Get yoked. And be the most successful person you can be and she will regret her decisions bro. Look up the chemical thing tho they did studies on it. Kinda weird way to look at it.

You're gonna hurt brother. This pain is normal and it sucks and it's going to be there for awhile. You're gonna hurt. You need to stay busy. Whether it is pulling doubles in the gym, taking up a part time job, working more hours, whatever. Nothing is going to help with this pain though, it will always be there. The only thing we can do is turn it into something positive. It's not your fault man, sometimes people have changes of heart.

Brambo definitely had a crazy loss bro, I know this from talking to him for the past year. And he knows I've went through the same shit recently but my girl had a change of heart and idk we kinda worked it out. My girl has mental issues tho as in she gets depressed and runs away from her problems so if she breaks up with me then that's a problem that temporarily goes away for her at the moment. What I learned is if you love her, you have to let her go. As fucked up as that sounds its true. Brambo taught me that and even old timers have said the same thing. Like she EXPECTS you to constantly call and text her, so if u Let her go and ignore her she will be like WTF why isn't he calling me? And she will be super interested again. And if she isn't interested again bro, fuck it! Then that means she wasn't for u in first place. I know there was a time or two you must've been like wait do I really wanna deal with this shit forever? U have to remember those times and realize your better off bro. Get in the gym as hard as it is and work out bro. You obviously are good looking if you juice so pulling new girls should be no problem. At least let her cool down a couple of days bro and then contact her and demand an explanation at least be like I need some fucking closure if your just gonna up and walk away. Honestly- that IS fucked up. She did you dirty bro! Is that someone u want to be with FOREVER?!

Give her some space. Go hang out with friends and keep yourself busy. If it is meant to be, it will happen with time. Time will tell a d time will eat you up. You must occupy yourself to take the pain away. Eventually, in a short while you will be able to hit the gym more often.

I keep as busy as possible. Out with friends...double up gym. Anything out keeping me busy. Sorry bro...understand the feeling very well :(

Samething happened to me last year. It sucks ass bad. However that was my inspiraton to start working out to put up some muscle. Bitch was fucking a mexican a black guy and a white boy while she was living with me. But im glad i found that out beforemaking a big mistake. Some of the most insane work outs ever was when i started to think about her. For the most part, working out and look better in all the ways possible make them go nuts(to see u doing well without them) and hell now i got married with some one else and living life, only time heel this kind of shit but it does sux when this things happens.

somethings only go away w time, go out have fun even though u dont want to, u just gotta force ur self to live life again and u ll goback to normal. had the same happen 2 me

takes time bro will get better hang in there

you gotta let it all out in the gym bro, you gotta stay strong and motivated. If you keep thinking about her its only gonna get worse, just give it some time bro and train even harder. You just keep your mind away from her bro go out have fun.

go outside and have fun I would think is the best way.

Put on your best clothes and hit the club!