haters
i don't have any friends or family who hit the gym at all, so I'm gonna ask the community for some off topic advice. I'm a white boy who is covered from head to toe with tattoos. full sleeves, back piece, chest piece, legs covered, etc. i look like an inmate gang member, but I've never spent a day in prison. a lot of people decide they don't like me just by looking at me. I'm really just a big teddy bear, but every gym i go to, there always seems to be somebody who hates me. the last gym i was at, there was a trainer who would always stare me down, say things to his buddies, then they would all look at me and laugh. he would go to yelling about how he was a crip when i was near, and i always felt like i was in a staring contest with him. he made me extremely uncomfortable. i'm not one to fight unless you back me into a corner, so i just tried to ignore him. now this new gym i'm at, three huge black dudes are eyeing me and laughing at me. they easily lift three times the weight i can, so i cant earn anybody's respect that way. but everytime i have this problem with people, nobody ever says anything to me face to face, they just stare, talk, and laugh. am i going crazy, or does this happen to anybody else?
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You want me and the guys (mods) to come and spot ya bro.
You want respect!...... you watch them fuckers bow when we hit the fkn iron lol
Well i look at this as a positive bec no one will talk to you at the gym...i fuckin hate the annoying ppl who come to the gym to socialize and nothing deters them from striking up a conversation even doin cardio when its obvious i cant breathe let alone speak...or when im benching ugh! so "you" get to work out in peace....
btw you should get really huge and just grunt at them uurrrggggg
we have this group of guys that come into the gym every saturday morning, they carry newspapers and coffee. they sit at the benchpress machines and just talk. I guess the gym is now a social place not a place to workout.
keep on doing your thing. if it bothers you then you are letting them win.
when i was on cycle someone who i see at the gym all the time came up to me and asked what i was on. he kept on getting pissed that i told him nothing. i said i was natty. lol. he wouldnt take it for an answer, and was pissed at how much i grew in the 3 weeks its been since i saw him at the gym previously. he was straight up mad at me. all you gotta do is carry on without being bothered.
fuck haters. get huge.
I get the same shit at my gym except they try and "trick" me into saying I juice. They tell me how they were on dbol and they got huge and all this other BS. Funny thing is they are the size of a fucking string bean. I bait them by saying I won't take it because I don;t want my dick to shrink and wait to see what they say. Most of the time they look at me funny and say they only noticed it shrunk a little. Are you kidding me? LOL
lol its so funny how important it is to other people knowing whether you juice or not. they want to hear you say you are on juice, so they can use it as a pathetic excuse as to why they suck at "being fit".
this shit pisses me off more than anything. Im always like idk bro I just get this shit from my doctor cuz my balls don't work I guess. And then they keep on with shit like "yo a buddy of mine wants me to try this shit its called tren and he wants me to stack it with deca dbol, that's a good idea right?" like yeah sure, have fun with that shit
Just do you brother, focus on your goals and let the haters hate! They will always be there you just have to know that you are above the petty shit. I know how you feel though as I have quite a few tattoos and get looks as well but 9 times out of ten when they talk to me they find out that I'm a really nice person. Older woman at the bank one day was helping me with my account and after awhile of talking says "wow your not as bad as you look" lol I took it as a compliment... Just walk soft and carry a big stick brother
I don't have ink. I'm plain 'ole boring. Yet, I get a lot of stares as well. I'm a shy guy. I won't say or do anything. Once in a blue moon, I will catch myself staring back in their direction.
Who knows? ....maybe my form sucks, or cause I'm a 140lb beast. Lol.
RustyhookerI'm tacked out. I lift. I dont give two shits bout haters. Use their hate to power you to the next level. I feed off hate. Makes me hit new PR in gym. The gym is all about YOU! This aint no team sport. Walk tall...headphones....hoodie.
Love that !!
RustyhookerId rather be hated for what I am than loved for what I am not.
Prophet
BAM^^^ 2nd that!
RustyhookerIt's so easy to get lost in the crowd. Much more fun blazing your own trail.
Its the Juice messing with your head bro, put your headphones on and block everyone out. My headphones have noise cancellation, people have told me that they have said " Hi" to me and I didn't reply back, because I couldn't hear them at all. Your there to train and leave, try to focus on the task at hand. Muscles and tats attract attention, get used to it bro, it comes with the territory. Either change gyms, change the time you workout or change your perspective. Godspeed!
BigBmajWhat are you trying to accomplish with your look? Even your name here "booze hound" is an attempt to distinguish itself from the status quo - it's a steroid site we aren't typically a huge amount of drinkers. So are you one of those people doing everything in their power to keep people at bay - and wonder why no one is friendly? It's a very classic condition. I'll reject you before you can reject me syndrome.
It's something to look at
I'm one of those people that might look at you long enough to be considered a stare, but it would only be to check out your ink. You people that are covered in tattoos are like a book asking to be read. Sometimes you see some pretty cool stuff.
Once I was waiting in line at a waterpark behind some super fine girl in a bikini, she had the whole Alice in Wonderland story on her back, Was very hard to keep the glances down below "staring level"
Alright bro. Listen to Uncle Ed.
What you need to do is pick up a 2 foot length of large chain and attach a padlock to the end of it. The bigger the lock the better.
Stick thAt bastard in your duffle bag and carry it with you to each lift station. When those bitches start talking shit you unzip that duffle bag, grab the end of the chain and you head straight for the biggest dude. Swing that bitch and make a good connection to his head. Before he hits the ground you swing that bastard at the next biggest guy and repeat until they are all on the ground. Once they are on the ground take your paddy-chain and wack each one of those bastards on the back of the neck. (This should do a good job at preventing future retaliation). Then you get your shit and run like hell before the cops come.
Thank me later.
All my love, no homo
Ed
Why not have him put a roll of quarters in his hand and go and whack the biggest guy with that? at least he will get an assault and battery charge instead of attempted murder? lol good post had me chuckling.
The paddychain makes for a quick stoppage this ensuring a faster escape. This is how we beat jail time brother.
Is the paddychain your go-to hooker killing weapon?
No. Too messy. I use an old telephone cord with the telephone attached.
Ed I find myself just looking for your posts in all the threads, your a hooot big guy, thanks for smacking my mug with a smile. Lmfas....
Just fantastic! Violence is always the answer.
X2! Brilliant in its simplicity!
I don't have any tats and I get fucken gym employees that do the stare and laugh bullshit when there together. Every once in a while I will get someone talking shit randomly too.
You really can't ignore bullshit like that. I was raised to just ignore assholes and it used to work when I was young. But now a days people take that as you opening the door to continue there little bullshit games.
I'm trying to figure out myself how to solve this problem but I sympathize with you.
Until then I will just keep juicing/eating healthy trying to get myself as big/strong as possible to hopefully just intimidate people to fuck off.
Maybe I just need to man up and speak up for myself. But I am not a confrontational guy. And If I did I would probably be arguing with people everyday.
Hell I even had a teacher recently that would say these underhand comments just loud enough for me to hear every time I would come into class. Like if it was a hot day and I came in sweaty he would say out-loud something about someone being sweaty and gross. and other little bullshit things of that nature.
But all of a sudden when I started taking aas I finally got some gains working my ass of as lately not much but enough to stand out to the average joe. And now this asshole teacher is all soft spoken around me.
Or just use it to motivate you. I have learned when getting stared down at the gym you can harness that energy to get a killer workout.
I will be feeling lethargic and all of a sudden someone stares me down I feel like lifting real heavy and hard.
kill them with kindness
GearofWarOr with a chain/padlock combo like ED suggests above!
I go to the gym wearing a Minions t-shirt, that's right a big ass picture of a minion from Despicable me. I kind of look for trouble sometimes. Point of the story? who gives a rat's ass what other people think of you? Only one you have to impress is yourself.
GearofWarThis! This is awesome. I'd plus 1 you for this if we could in OT for the sheer nut sack it takes to pull this off. Lol
probably raise few eyebrows for this Gry, I train on my lunch hour from work half the time I show up in jeans, boots, tank and go to town, for me it's strictly business get in get out. I look around and I see allot off people with there 300 dollar workout get up on talking to each other like there at Starbucks. don't get me wrong I have a nice pair of kicks and the right pants but some of these people are just wacky color coordinated from the shoes to the compression socks pants up to the hat and we're talking different get up for each day of the week, he'll with that rather buy me another bottle of test lol.
welcome to bodybuilding as well, for some of us we welcome the stares, I do I, I enjoy not looking like the majority of the population. seriously tho when a person breaks out of the mold of conformity whatever the method, body modification, body building or even popular thought other people will pass judgment, point fingers and just stare without regard to what lies within.
It does happen over here as well. The last time I just walked over and asked if they were Gay cause they couldn't keep their eyes off me. Then they said No so I asked what can I do for them. They started to get a bit pissed off at me but I just turned it around on them and said what would they do if a group was staring them down. Then just walked off. Now mind you these were younger guys, however it still pisses you off regardless. Either just ignore it or blow them a kiss from across the room and see what they do. Haha they might leave you alone then.
I like what Greg said below.
Just shake it off bro, be the alpha and just give 'em a nod and keep training. At the end of the day who gives a shit what they think, you are there for you!
Go shoot 2 ml TNE. And a preworkout drink get a good pump going walk right straight toward then and say WHATS UP GUYS im not a big guy buy on more then 1 occassion i walked up to a big guy sitting on a bench talking to his buddy and i swear on my moms life i said hey guys if you want to talk take it to the ladies room Swear to god
FantasiathescammerBest way to stop the haters is to quit immediatley and join them in their mediocrity.
I agree just about everything that has been said below. I also think that you should think about where you are working out. I've tried many gyms and clubs and I disliked quite a few of them. I found an "athletic club" that I just love now, because I feel comfortable there. So I guess there are two steps: 1) look inward and 2) look outward (where you workout). Solve those issues and you'll be golden.
Have you tried just introducing yourself? They might be thinking the exact same thing. Sounds like it's to early to draw any conclusions unless you've made a valid effort. Remember you are the new guy and being all tatted up may make you unapproachable. I've been told that I always look pissed...... It's because I need glasses and I squint or wrinkle between the eyebrows
This kinda thing happened to me at every gym Ive been too, Im not even covered in tats nor huge or stand out in any way.
What Ive noticed is ive never been mean mugged or laughed at by one person, its usually a group of 3 or more. These people are just like any other asshole. They poke fun at other people to make themselves feel better because they are insecure themselves.
I like to have fun with these situations. Stare back with a huge smile on your face and watch how confused and uncomfortable they become. If you think they are laughing at the poundage you are lifting, cut that weight in half and grunt like a mufugga. Or, make a point of crop dusting them with every protein fart you've got.
The best thing to do is really ignore them, if they can see it bothers you, it'll continue.
thank you all for the advice. i should have just asked you guys for advice in the first place instead of having these awkward staring contests. I'll try to be more friendly instead of being so antisocial. thanks again, guys
Well maybe they just haven't seen a colored man before. ;-)
Seriously, have you reflected or asked yourself Why you got all tatted up like you did?
It could be that they think you are a poser, or it could be that they are just trying to figure out what it is you got tattooed on your left elbow.
I think you might have more of a self esteem issue.
Next time they (or anyone) are looking at you acknowledge them, a respectful nod of the head, shrug of the shoulder, or simple "whazup?"
GearofWarYeah I get that treatment sometimes too. If you look at my profile pics I've got a full sleeve right arm, half sleeve left arm, right chest panel. I get look sometimes but not nearly as often as when I lived in the South. The Northeast is far less judgmental and much mor progressive than the South. I try and make an effort to meet all the regulars at my gym and learn their names. Makes for a more pleasant workout everytime I go in instead of getting mean mugged by everyone. Although I should say that when I get mean mugged I tend to have much more intense workouts for SOME reason? No idea why ;) Bro, put on your best PR(public relations, not Puerto Rican) face and shake some hands, kiss some babies and bang some ladies. You'll be okay. I just had to go through this myself due to moving to a new gym in my area.
BigBmajHaving staring contests in the gym is no way to win friends. You just came to a new gym and you are covered with tattoos, people are going to test you. The body language you are giving off is clearly something that people are not finding attractive. If this is happening everywhere you go I would walk up to someone and say "what is it about me?" Be willing to hear what they have to say, I doubt it's just the tattoos. Maybe you can learn to carry yourself in a more approachable manner.
Good luck bro.
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