posted Sun, 08/04/2013 - 07:06
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+ 1 Wife no longer wants me on the juice...now what??
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My wife has now just decided that she wants me off the juice. I have been on TRT for approx. 5 years and on gear on and off for about the same time. I am 45 years old and look in decent shape....which the wife doesn't like(all the attention I get). She told me she wants me off for health, financial, and legality reasons. In a nutshell, the wife said pick me or the juice....It just doesn't seem right to buy gear behind her back, but at the same time why should I have to stop. We both work and have no kids together. We have been together for 11 years and I was not juicing when we met. I know my marriage means more than gear....I suppose I have answered my own question.
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BigBmajGood advice. I've noticed that gear brings out my self-centeredness and narcissism. My wife tells me all the time to keep my ego in check when on.
I've noticed a lot of personally types around here and there is something to be said for humility. It's such a beautiful trait. It's so important to try to continue and cultivate this especially on cycle. If you can do that - it should be much easier the rest of the time
I think a good wife really helps keep this shit in check. Especially when others may be reluctant to mention it.
I'm not suggesting that the OP go running into his wife's arms - only that he find humility and see where that leads him.
Excellent! People tend to forget the other aspects of taking gear. Alright, you get the "my mood swings", or "my sex drive" posts, but rarely do we touch upon the way gear can and does make us narcissistic. Well said.
Great to hear someone else who admits, or realsies his own misgivings. My wife also blames the gear for my personality changes. And in the beginning of a cycle, I have to told a few times to change my ways. Then, once I have settled in to a cycle, do we then get on better.
Thing is. Listen, then act. We have 2 ears and only one mouth, prioritise the ears!
Best of luck to him and his lady. And well said here bro'.
Thanks for you advice DrDaz....my says that she liked the old me before gear. She also says that when I cycle my personality changes.
It does change fella. A lot. She likes the results though? Does she like the increased sex drive? Good, if she does! Just wind your neck in, check yourself. Put your raging hormones down. Unless she is the direction of them, of course. F**K all this conflict shite. And, if you don't want to stop the AAS, then stop being a bad person when on it. I managed, and I was an absolute wanker! I know where you are, and where she is. Thing is, like I said before, speak to her, then both move on and UP! Best of luck my friend :-)
You say you are on TRT. Is this a self prescribed TRT? Is giving up gear an option? If your natural levels are truly worthy of TRT perhaps you should have her sit down with your doc and talk about andropause and getting a script. The compromise -no more blast; just cruse.
More telling are your comments "she doesn't like all the attention I get" and, posted below, "Gear is always gonna be there...my wife won't." (sic)
You need, and should feel, that your wife will always be there. And she needs to feel the same way about you. My guess is that you are both pulling away because you feel the other is not fully committed to the relationship.
I bet if you really talk (aka listen) to your wife you'll find that she wants you. The gear is not really the issue. Start paying more attention to your wife let her know you need her.
You should both read the book "Hold Me Tight" http://www.holdmetight.net/excerpt.php
My Dr prescribed test cyp--Watson pharma. I do take more than he prescribed. I have been cruising and blasting for a while. Thanks Greg--nice advice sir.
tread-mVery nice G
Guess im different than most but seems to me if she loved you and knows what it means to you and how much work you have put into this she would never give you an ultimatum like that.So what if you werent on when you met, we all grow and change as we age, thats part of being married and loving someone.Sounds to me like shes being selfish and jealous as im sure juicing ur getting better looking with age.Just my 2cents
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Damn Bro PICK YOUR WIFE!!!
j223 - BEST ADVICE EVER
My opinion is this should not even be a question. If you love this woman and she means everything to you, then things need to change. If you stop taking steroids just for her, she might think they you actually care about her. If this is not only your hobby, but your lifestyle she should understand how difficult it must be to choose to lay off the gear. But it would send a clear message to her. Showing that you want to make this marriage right, you are willing to compromise for her. I really wish that you can decide what's best and try to work it out. I would absolutely cycle off in this scenario. Build up your trust, spend time with her and try to fix this marriage because it looks like it needs it. Maybe a few years down the road when the two of you are in a better position you could ask her if she would be okay with you starting another cycle. Inform her and make sure she knows what it would mean to you if she let you. But at this point cycling should be the least of your worries. Anyways that's pretty much all I have to say. I wish you and your girl the best of luck. Please don't take what you have for granted.
Solid advice... You sound like you not only understand the situation but you also understand the repercussions of not fighting to save something important to you! I can say... It's very refreshing and humbling to hear someones honest heartfelt opinion.
Thanks j223. Very good advice. I'm gonna do what you said and stop cycling and get things where they need to be. Gear is always gonna be there...my wife wont.
My suggestion is to up ur dose of test , get on some gewd gh, buy a new sports car and let the gewd times roll!
I have a new car, gh, and take plenty of anabolics
Good life?
Not bad.. but having a loyal wife by your side... priceless.
bbondsAmen to that brother.
tread-mYou had a good ride with her brother, time to move on bro. Peace
Lmao....jk
BigBmajI'm always reluctant to give marriage advice because there is always so much going on that isn't seen.
I don't know about your marriage. But I do know about giving up what you love for the sake of another person. And I've never seen it produce great things.
AnonI know that nobody is perfect, but I can only think there are more issues between you and your wife other than "the gear". You just need to sit down with her and really have a heart to heart and see where you both are at in your lives.
I agree...we do have more issues going on. I think the gear is just a scapegoat for her.
This is going to sound really harsh but I call it the truth and you opened the door brother. That quote above...well maybe your wife means more than gear to you but she doesn't mean more then your selfish ambition. I have to laugh you say
But it is ok to fuck other women behind her back? You are either a sociopath in your way of thinking or you are plain ignorant to how weak and pathetic you integrity is. I read Andromeda's response to you I thought it was right on. The only difference is she has a hope for you in my experience I will be astonished if this marriage makes it. I will say if you want even a shred of hope for it to make it, you have to take full credit for being an underhanded man. Next you have to stop justifying your actions like "I was really horny" naw that ain't it you were just a weak ass man. I wouldn't be here judging you but you opened the door. And this to me is how real men should be encouraged not will sensitive sympathy form other men. One last thing the only reason that you are afraid of losing your wife is because you use her to wet nurse you rather than you providing for her.
When I was young in marriage I cheated on my wife. Because I was a selfish asshole who wanted to do what I wanted without giving a shit about who it hurt, so if it helps I know what it is to be a weak ass little bitch.
I only fucked one girl when I was married to my 1st wife.
Well my mistake but that is not made clear by the way you wrote it also take this quote
If you think you can hide this attitude from your wife you can't women are a lot smarter than apparently you give them credit for. Also elsewhere you write that "she thinks you are cocky" what would give her that image of you?
To be honest you say you would never cheat on your this wife but your attitude and words say another story. It seems you already have or the only reason you haven't is lack of opportunity because even the way you talk about other women degrades you marriage. Don't get wrong I don't care what others do if it doesn't affect me or the ones I care about but you opened this up for discussion. So I am not sure exactly what you were looking for but you are going to get different opinions. If your wife trusted you which clearly she doesn't I don't believe it is because of the roids but instead your outlook towards other women. In her mind she probably factors that in to you being cocky and putting vibes like a dog in heat. I am speaking to you like man, I could be completely wrong but I have had some experience in this field with solders doing the same thing.
yeah I know what I wrote about the gym was stupid. point taken. I need to act 45 and not some horny teenager. My current wife was very inscure when we met and I think it's worse now.
That attitude right there brother is one of self respect and honor taking credit for your words and actions. That is a good start and I hope it leads you and your wife to a good place.
me too...thanks.
Just ditch the wife bro. If your banging other chicks there is obviously something wrong with your relationship. No woman will tell me I can't juice. My body, my money that buys the shit!
you were banging the girl at the front desk at the gym.............bhahahahahahaha then your alarm clock went of and you woke up with your hand on it!!! stop cheating on your misses, your marriage is over if you already cheated on her, that means you think shes a piece of shit!!! pointless post!!!!
I would never cheat on my wife. I did it to my 1st wife.
Once they start asking you to change it's all downhill from there.
Time for a woman to chime in here! First of all, I've read that you are horny, cheated (even fucked the chick at the front desk) and you're checking out woman at the gym... Am I correct so far? It's not the gear that's causing the issue, it's you! You're a man that she thinks can't be trusted... And she doesn't want to admit that so the next best thing is gear. She honestly thinks that if you aren't on gear you wouldn't be as cocky or horny, you may even stop going to the gym as much. You need to do a few things 1. Start making her feel like the most amazing woman on the planet... In other words.. You need to be giving her all your attention. 2. You need to stop being one of those guys that looks at other women... We aren't stupid we see it..for women that aren't feeling as confident or have self esteem issues this can be a huge deal. 3. Include her in you love of working out.. Take her to the gym with you, show her how to do things and then praise her for doing so well. Once she sees that you don't mind her being with you and you make it all about the two of you, she will feel better. 4. You need to sit down and have a long talk with her... Find out where this is coming from, why she feels this way and try to explain why you feel it's unfair to pull this card now. I believe her issue is deeper than the gear and its going to be up to you to get to the bottom of it. If you think that's to much work or that it's not going to help or matter... Then you might want to consider finding a lawyer. I wish you all the best and lots of changes.
Thanks Andromeda....I do need to sit down with my wife. She does get insecure when I go to the gym, especially since she knows that I cheated on my 1st wife with the gym employee. She has caught me more than once looking at other women and that does make her feel like shit.
You have given me sound advice...thanks
Cltleo, I do have high hopes for you sir.. I think if you take the time to make the changes I suggested and spend some time talking to your wife you will find it's something greater than gear.. Now weather it's all you or it's her it's worth the vows that you made to find out what is really going on. Sometimes.. we have moments where we question everything.. we get tired, frustrated and just plan fed up.. We want excitement and start questioning... A few months ago I started wondering, questioning and thinking maybe this whole thing I had going with Abaddon wasn't the best idea.. then the thought of losing him hit me and it scared me to death.. I can't imagine my life with out this man in it... and it woke something inside of me up .. I realized that life will get boring and tiring sometimes... but if you fuck up and wake up with all those things alone it's going to be much worse.. Just remember you can't fix something that both of you won't accept is broken.. it's not the gear.. it's going to be self esteem.. the cheating on the first wife.. and not feeling that confidence in herself that you are happy... Talk to her.. and remember in talking you need to listen to her.. hear what she's saying.. don't just nod and say "yeah, I know" Also, please come back and up date us..
Thank you Andromeda for opening up and giving me solid advice. I really liked what you said. You just saved me a trip to the counselor and saved me a $40 co-pay.:) You are correct, the gear is the tip of the iceberg, it goes way deeper than that. You really know how to write and express your thoughts. Thank you again and I will update you.
BOOM! I think me and you are soul mates!
Excellent post Andromeda. From my own experience the gym brought my wife and I even closer, and like you say, as her shape has gotten better it has made her a ton more confident in herself and me..
As a woman it's hard as you age to watch the one you love only looking better and better.. As for me Abaddon's 5 years younger than myself and in the very beginning I was really worried about him thinking... she's just to old and out of shape.. Once he started having me workout with him and really started showing me how to do things it became something for US to do... It wasn't just his thing anymore.. We have date night Friday... AT THE GYM! Every Friday night... It's our time to just be together and push each other as hard as we can.... Now we've been dating for a year and a half and people always think I'm younger than him... I contribute that to hard work in the gym... and some HGH (wink wink) Honesty I love to hear about couples taking the time to hit the gym together.. you will find that you push each other so much harder... and as always.. CONFIDENCE is key.. If she has self confidence she will not worry as much..
You can tell her yourself. After messing with it for a couple days I think she finally was able to crack the Captcha! lol.
I tell people all the time, the only "fountain of youth" is the gym. It has worked wonders on us and many of our friends. Live life to the fullest or die a slow and painful death,,, it is as simple as that.
I can't wait..LOVE the idea of mrsicepirate!! The couples on this site are growing like crazy!! Also, you are so right.. the gym will do sooo many things for not just you and your partner but even to the people you know. They see the change in you and the progress and they want it to.. You are an example!
Awe, thank you Andromeda.. I am all verklempt,,,, talk amongst yourselves.
she is looking for a way out of ur marriage she prob has something on the side and wants to put the blame on u
hey bro, i had a similar prob my EX-wife said the same thing so i left her.. i'm not telling you to leave your wife because, it happened to me when i was a lot younger than you. but, its hard to give up something you love maybe there can be a compromise like you get regularly tested by docs, blood work and all ..and if it effects you negatively you stop the juice... also 1 year later i met my gf who ive been with for 4 years and she has no probs with it.. her only problems is that i get a lot of attention from other gilrs lol
yeah my wife hates the attention I get....
56tooI just read further down and learned she knows you cheated on your first wife. Maybe just maybe she feels you will do the same to her . Maybe what you need to do is look in the mirror and ask yourself what your priorities truly are bro and I dont mean any disrespect
none taken.
56tooBuddy I can tell you from experience the problem is not you unless you're being a complete asshole which is probably not the case considering you say you've been doing it for over 5 yrs. The problem lies with your wife and I wld be willing to bet she is jealous.Has she gained weight lately? I dn't know wether you've had problems with her concerning jealousy but this is very indicative behavior of that. Get her more involved in working out and put some anavar in her OJ lol once she sees how much better she looks and feels she'll drop her request. Good luck bro
read down the page a little, the problem is him! to the OP I know truth hurts but shouldnt post here unless your ready to hear it.
I greatly appreciate the combined years of experience you guys all have and I agree with you Roid Noid....when im cycling im really full of my self and think im superior to others....But in my defence ..the wife has gained a few pounds