+ 6 Ways to come clean about your AAS use
How I told my wife I was using Steroids. Hopefully my story will help people realize the truth may be the best option. Health wise, and for the sake of your relationship with your significant other.
I would not advise to tell someone who is short term. I have had buddies ratted out to the cops because the relationship did not work. I would only advise someone who is true to you...
This topic comes up a lot because this is a huge issue at home. People want to associate AAS with other hardcore drugs like Heroin, Meth, Cocaine Etc. The point is we are not trying to get high, we are trying to live a healthy lifestyle, look good, feel great, and have confidence in ourselves. Our love ones are concerned about us, we have to give them the true facts pro’s and the con’s. In our case i believe the props outweigh the con’s
After using AAS/HGH for more than a few years, i had finally decided that it was time to tell my wife. I broke the news to her....
Below i will describe how i was able to hide it for a couple years, and how i finally got enough balls to come clean. I basically eased it on her for over a year...
My Story (Short Version)
I dated my wife three years before we got married. The first two years we dated we lived separate. She had her house, and i had mine. At this point it was easy to hide my gear. I have safes in my home, briefcases, and different stash spots in my home where i hid my gear. I also had fake hide-away cans in my fridge to hide the HGH. When i would stay at her place, I would put my gear in a gym bag and give myself injections when she went to work without any problem. When i met my wife, I was already fit, and “buff” as she calls it. She believed i was buff because i visited the gym often, and my career field required it.
The problem started when she moved in after we were engaged. This is when things went to hell. I started feeling guilty. I convinced myself that i should not tell her. My master bed/Bathroom are connected and i really don’t have any privacy. I started missing injections, and i started getting off balance with my Testosterone shots. I also was taking more test that i should have been taking. This totally screwed me up. At this point i was still learning about Steroids and did not have the proper guidance of the internet...”Eroids”... Long story short i had to seek out HRT in my early 30’s.
I started feeling all the sides of low T, I’m screwed i said. I stopped the Test use, and i was feeling tired all the time, low libido, all the sides etc. (This is the first time i started having trouble with sex drive) I then resorted into viagra but V didn’t create sex drive). This put a huge strain on our relationship. She though i was cheating on her. I had to do something quickly. I told myself this is my opportunity to share with her, i told her my stuff is not working like it use to babe. I believe i am suffering from low T. We started doing the research together. She started buying into it believing it would be good for us. My girl is in the medical field she was very skeptical at first. I visited the doctor to confirm that i had low T. I had a problem with getting a script from my regular doctor. After referral and referral nothing. I had to reach out to an anti aging doctor who was pro TRT. I had my lady go to the doctor with me, and the Doctor helped sell the idea. I got the script. I started doing a lot better. She could notice the difference. She is a RN so she even agreed on pinning me. Now, how do i tell her about me stepping outside the range of Testosterone only and higher amounts???
I was tired of sneaking around. AAS isn’t really something you want to hide. If you ever have a bad reaction or suffer sides and she doesn’t know its all bad, if she finds out on her own it will create trust some trust issues. will be some trust. Regardless if she approves or not, being honest about it will make her feel like you are comfortable enough to talk to her about anything. I believe that hiding things from your significant other sets the stage for other lies and secrets. Lies and secrets undermine the relationships.
So I started easing it in.
Internet/Videos & Research
Ask your self what got you into using Steroids? The first documentary i watched that sold me was BIGGER STRONGER FASTER. I watched this at my friends house, and then we went out and purchased Steroids. We were sold. previous to that i said hell no!!!. I had her watch BSF on the internet with me. i made it look like a stumbled across the video. I was like “babe look at this”.
The internet has several positive accounts of Steroids. I watched shows and interviews like Rick Drasin who had several topics of Steroid use. I would watch his videos, and she would walk in and ask what i was watching. She started to listen, but still disagreed with Steroid use.
I looked at many articles about AAS and HGH. HGH had many positives articles and my wife started reading the articles herself. “My plan is working”. She agreed HGH having some good medical benefits, but only under supervision of a medical doctor.
Celebrities/Sports Figures
She liked certain celebrities and i would mention you know they are using AAS/HGH. She agreed but stated “They have the money and time to do that stuff right with a doctor”. She likes the “Rock”, Brad Pitt, Huge Jackman, and other celebrities. You can mention that they are using great compounds....
Any time she would mention anything about an athlete or Celeb i would throw in what kind of compounds they were using.
Show her your hard work
I did one of my greatest cycles ever Test, Test Prop kick & taper, EQ, and Anavar. My diet was dialed in. After the cycle we went to Vegas and hit up the pool parties. The compliments started rolling!!! My wife doesn’t get too jealous. I received many compliments from ladies and a couple of my bro’s (no homo). That made her feel good to see her man gain such recognition. She loved the lean muscle and body. In the end tell her that you achieved this with hard work, and some AAS to help with recovery. Explain to her all the benefits and that the media hype about steroids is not what they make it.
Medical, Sex, Athletic benefits I found on internet:
Steroids offer numerous and important benefits in the world of medicine. The drugs most notably serve as part of effective treatments for cancer and other muscle deteriorating diseases, but also help treat Alzheimer's disease, hormonal disorders, asthma, the list goes on. I tried to gain as much medical backing as possible.
On a physiological level, various types of steroids promote strength, muscle growth, energy and sexual drive. Steroids also improve recovery rates, reduce pain, promote leanness and muscle definition and can create positive euphoric feelings, which lead to increased confidence. Anabolic steroids are natural and synthetic hormones that promote cell growth and division; in human physiology, this leads to muscle tissue growth, and sometimes increases bone size and strength. These types of steroids can also speed up weight gain and strengthen muscle fibers when used in conjunction with weight training. Steroid hormones such as estrogens (for women) and androgens (for men) promote development and maintenance of secondary sex characteristics and structures, help prepare females for pregnancy and aid in gamete development. Estrogen steroids may also help females maintain normal menstruation cycles. In men, testosterone steroids promote sperm production. My wife was concerned about problems with having a baby, and is a little skeptical about my use while trying to conceive a child. i told her i would seek help with that. I also told her the benefits of HCG.
Steroids have athletic advantages. Steroids reduce fatigue and enhance physical performance, allowing athletes to perform physically demanding activities without exhaustion. Bodybuilders use steroids to build muscle mass while runners and other athletes use the drug to become faster and increase their overall endurance. When taken in cycled doses, steroids allow athletes to continually increase endurance levels, achieving results that might not be possible otherwise, both in training and on the field. The euphoric feelings created by steroids lead to enhanced aggressiveness and drive in competition. It was basically like doing a research paper for school or coming up with ideas to brief your boss how to make more money for the company.
Conclusion
I came home one night and broke it down to her. “Babe i just want to be perfectly honest with you...I been using steroids, and have been hiding it from you” I’m sorry but i believe in this if i do them the right way”. “I just don’t want to hide them from you anymore”. She was upset at first but glad i came clean....
Lastly i told my wife that she could be my medical consultant. She agreed that some of these old doctors don’t know what they are talking about. I asked her to view my lab results, and help me do things safely.
In the end i feel like a huge weight has lifted off my shoulder.
It is up to you to choose to tell your significant other. Don’t be like me and screw up your hormone levels. Do things the right way.
I'm curious to hear feed back about this, and what the ladies have to say.???
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Know the post is not new but I just wanted to say thank you for telling your story bcuz before I started AAs I thinking my wife might think of me different but I knew she would back me and support whatever decision I made as long as I was safe and researched and kept her in the loop but she was still a little concerned when I was telling her the downsides made her nervous but she trusted me and my judgment she even pins me also when I have those tuff to reach spots lol but thanks for post just wanted to share:)
That sounds good brotha, glad I could share my experience and help!! Best wishes!
Just came clean to my wife about a month ago, I posted about it on here. She was more pissed that I didn't tell her then the fact I had used before. I told her that I was going about it safely and when she asks questions about it I have answers, so I think she is at ease with it now. Couldn't have done it without the help of this community.
That's awesome brotha!!
This is good stuff man.
Thanks!
I agree 100%. If it's a long time companion/wife then you need to man up and be honest. Lying never ends well for either of you so it's time to come clean.
I went through this battle myself. I was hell bent on not telling my wife out of fear of her reaction, especially because I hid my opiate use/addiction from her until one I was ready to get help. She was livid and took her a while to trust me again. That was my lesson that gave me the courage to tell her my plans.
I sat her down and told her I've been doing a lot of research and thinking and that I wanted to run a steroid cycle. I explained everything, side effects, pro's and con's and that I was going to be smart and I wanted her to know and be part of the journey. I wasn't asking for her approval, I was asking for her understanding in what I wanted for ME. She was very happy I told her, she was nervous but she accepted it. I kept her updated with anything I was feeling on cycle and I couldn't have been happier with my choice to tell her.
People fear what they don't understand. If we can provide them with enough knowledge to get rid of the steroid stigma then chances are high that the women will accept your desires and be there along the way. A real women will not make you chose one or the other. A true partner will realize you need space to be you. You're life cannot be ruled by her and everything around her. We all need to be individuals. Hopefully you have chosen a partner that will nourish that and respect/trust you enough to accept it. Without Trust and respect, the relationship is pointless.
+1 for doing what was right!
Thanks Brotha!!! Awesome story You are right people fear what they don't understand!!
My story is , 2006 wife and I had fertility issues and only she was tested at the time . After 10k in fert work, we had our first child. Then 2 years later, not as expensive, #2 child . In 2008 I had full bloodwork done for a prostate issue I had and have a history of prostate cancer in my family. Urologist says, you know your test is 130 or something like that. I said well is that high? I had no idea. 2 more test because of insurance and highest was 205. I said so I'm not as lazy as my wife says when I cant get off the couch. Also explains why I was 340 and couldnt lose weight for shit. After trying Testim and Androgel (insurance required trying gel's first) and couldnt get test past 300, I started with injections. Wife freaked at first only cause she has heard the horror stories. Eventually she saw me losing the weight, and transforming in the gym over the next 2 years and was fine. In 2011 I started with a Test C 500mg wk cycle and she really noticed and liked it. In Summer 2012 when I started with Tren and Var also, I told her i was doing more and she was fine as long as I did the research and stayed on top of everything. I think losing over 100 lbs and losing over 20% BF helped convince her also. I keep everything in a safe. I dont ever inject in front of her or the kids and she's cool.
Late 2012 early 2013 she saw one of my cousins prepping for a bikini fitness comp and a friend of mine on FB competing in Womens competition, she asked what they taking. I told her about Var. She was curious, after some help from some of the guys on here who's wives or GF's are on it, I put something together for her. This past summer she did a Var cycle and I have to say it was outstanding and she was estatic over the results. She had been depressed about her body after 2 kids and in her mid 30's was upset when the teens would hang around the pool on vacation. This year she was smokin hot and had no problem with the bikini. Best part, made her horny as shit and for the first time in years, I couldnt keep up! And that was with a decent diet and only cardio at gym. So now she is all about trying it again with a stricter diet and a good gym routine and will hook her up with a awesome female trainer I know. So , she is pretty much on board now. Even has her close friends wanting stuff.
Awesome Story!!
Pretty similar to how I went about it.. I couldn't hide doing it.. well I mean I have but she deserved to know and she really doesn't mind it now.. she knows I push myself hard and it's not like some lazy shit taking gear for no other reason but to look nice. Honestly I think sharing my gear use brought us closer.
Note - DO NOT TELL YOUR GF UNLESS YOU KNOOOOOOOW SHE WILL BE STICKING AROUND!!
If she is your wife you should obviously tell her =p
Right on!!!
Good read n good stuff +1
Thanks!!
I have to admit that I hid it from my S.O. for a short amount of time because I didn't think she would be around for the length of time she has been. So, after I couldn't hide it anymore, I told her that I used testosterone injections because they enhance strength, speed recovery and promote muscle growth. She didn't say much. We both were running and lifting, so I asked her if she was interested in running an Anavar cycle. She didn't say much. I told her the stuff was coming and I will show it to you when it comes in. She didn't say much. She started taking the var and I started doing the test, we dropped the PHs, now that's all she talks about is how great Anavar is...lol!! I asked her if she was going to do another cycle and she didn't say much. She just looked at me like I said something wrong, finished her last set of squats, turned around and said oh yea, and I can't wait, either. +1 Optimus Prime.... this was a good story.
AnonI always gotta wonder what kind of relationships people are in when I read the forum's and see these guys who have been married for 15 years hiding their gear like they don't want their mom and dad to find it and ground them. We're grown, and we can make our own decisions. Your partner should support you in whatever you do.. Whats worse, going out - drinking and smoking? or running a cycle. I still view steroids as something that can be done correctly and yield little to no sides with no long term health issues - granted they are done correctly, and reasonably I am lucky my wife is in the medical field and is actually smarter than me.. she would school 95% of the guys on this board.. I said this before on another thread, but she preps my shots, knows my cycle layouts, monitors my blood work, and will even pack my orals based on their half life if we're going places in her little pill container in her purse. She uses nitrile gloves, stainless steel medical tray, sanitizes the entire area of where anything will be set down prior to my shots (syringes, bottles etc) and to this date i've never had an infection or "bad pin." I think the best thing anyone can do is involve their significant other and push them to do research and learn.. you telling her "it isn't bad" won't make her conclude on that consensus. She has to do it on her own!
"and will even pack my orals based on their half life"
So I immediately got a visual image of you (spongbob) getting your orals packed in a paper baggy for your lunch.. this gave me a big chuckle
I had an old Indian friend once tell me to never judge a man until you've walked ten miles in his moccasins.
That's great that your wife has a proactive role in your life, even down to helping you pin. But how does your wife feel about your "business" being one of the biggest on the internet? I'm interested to hear you chime in on this aspect.
Real Talk Muta!!! I'm glad i broke down and told her. I'm glad she accepted and is helping me out now!! I feel more confident that i am doing things the right way now.Thanks for sharing your experience with us, it means a lot!!
a couple days after I ordered my first pack I rolled over in bed and told my wife i got a package of steroids on the way! She said "OK"...I do what I want! I dont understand how guys get so caught up on how to tell there wife, or that they cant.
Exactly!
+1, A lot of guys find it easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission, although permission should not be needed if you're a grown man.
AnonYou are a cool muth fukka! +1
Just like that RN!!! Thats awesome!! I don't know why i kept it a secret for so long. Just my big dark secret. You the man!! Grown ass man gotta do what he does!!